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Ten Things I’d Love to Tell My Younger Self

I’ve learned some valuable things about life, love, and being female over the past half-century. Here is the advice I try to pass on to younger women in my life (family and friends) in the hope that it will save them some precious time: 

1. You are at least ten times prettier than you think you are.

That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don’t believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She’ll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?

2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence.
If you don’t have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you’re not nervous, pretend you’re not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.

3. Want to try something new like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow ten different books on the subject.
Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number 2.

4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl.

Remember the feeling of freedom. If you’ve already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savior that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You’ll stay young until the day you die.

5. In the same vein, cut or potted flowers are never a waste of money.

Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.

6. Speaking of money, starting right this moment, whether you’re twenty or sixty, you can change your finances around.
Don’t leave someone else completely in charge, whether it’s your husband, partner, parents, or banker. Become financially savvy. Financial independence gives you the freedom to walk away from many bad situations. How do you know you’re in bad situation? See number seven.

7. If your stomach hurts and you haven’t got a virus, you’re in a bad situation.
Before you know what it is, your stomach always does. Give yourself some time to ponder what it might be that’s making your stomach hurt. Chances are you already do know, you just don’t want to believe it, for some reason. You can ignore advice from your friends, even your own brain, but you can’t ignore your stomach, because the stomach never lies. Oh, and by the way—drowning your stomach in alcohol won’t make it stop telling you the truth, either.

8. When meeting someone new and he or she seems to be behaving like an ass**le, show compassion first.

If after you display your sincere compassion, they are still acting like an assh*le, walk away. If they follow you, call the police.

9. Wear sunscreen on your face, neck, and hands every day, winter and summer.

I don’t care how dark your skin naturally is. Wear it. You’ll remember me when you look in the mirror at age fifty. Always keep in mind that Your body is directly connected to your spirit. Look after your body. Exercise, floss, and brush your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man.

10. And if you are in bed with a man and he’s the right man:
… meaning your stomach doesn’t hurt, he’s smiling at you, he knows your name, he’s not drunk, and neither are you—for godsakes—enjoy yourself. He is not at all thinking about how fat your thighs look.

By Patricia Volonakis Davis of Harlots’ Sauce

Originally published on VibrantNation

7 Ways to Look and Feel Younger

I find that feeling "old" is usually about feeling tired, unproductive, stressed or unhappy.  Alleviating these problems alleviates the bad feelings of aging.

1.  Exercise
When I exercise I feel younger and stronger.  It keeps the blood flowing and strengthens muscles, bones and your heart.  I have more energy and move around more easily.  Arthritis has a much harder time taking hold.  Many forms of exercise strengthen your bones and make them less susceptible to osteoporosis.  Exercise also lifts my mood.  I know I’ve accomplished at least one thing today when I exercise.  It’s doesn’t have to be grueling or competitive.  Just talking a walk at lunch makes me feel better.  But I have found the harder I work out the more I benefit in every way.  It lifts my spirits and strengthens my body.

2.  Drink
Water that is.  Being dehydrated causes your skin to be dry and itchy.  It makes you tired and lethargic.  Drinking enough water everyday keeps your body hydrated and protects the health of your kidneys. 

3.  Eat
Eating nothing but sugar, fat and caffeine all day makes me ricochet between sugar highs, caffeine jitters and the crashes when they wear off.  I’m either climbing the walls or slithering around like a slug.  Eating quality proteins, complex carbs and healthy fats provides my body with a smooth and steady stream of energy and keeps my mind sharp.

4.  Expose Yourself
When I was going to college there was a 70-something year old man attending at least one of my classes every semester.  He was a retired Lutheran minister who "audited" two courses every semester.  Auditing is provided by many college and community colleges.  It allows you to sit in on a course without getting credits.  You don’t take tests or complete homework, you merely sit in on the class.  All the good things of a college course without the stress!  He did this to expose himself to young people and new ideas.  It certainly kept him alert and alive and as one of those kids, I loved having him in class.  He brought a different perspective to things than the 50 other 20 year olds who were in class.  We would spend hours talking with him and learning from him.  And he said our the enthusiasm and joie de vivre of our youth kept him alive.

5.  Learn
The other benefit of auditing college courses is that you are challenging your brain, which many researchers believe helps fight off diseases like Alzheimer’s.  The secret is to challenge your brain to learn something completely new or different.  If you never played a musical instrument, learn.  If you never played a sport, learn.  If you’re very weak in math, learn.  If you never learned a second language, learn.  A research study of nuns who specialized in mastering and teaching calculus well into their later years showed that they had a much lower level of Alzheimer’s in their population.  A well developed language ability also seems to correlate with lowered levels of Alzheimer’s.  The research suggests that any intellectually demanding work is the secret.  We used to believe that the brain was static and did not respond to outside stimulation.  We now know this is completely false.  Our brains are very plastic and malleable and respond to what we expose them to.  So sign up for a class and workout that brain.  It will respond to exercise just like your heart, your muscles and your bones.

6.  Love
Humans are social creatures and we need to socialize.  We need to connect with each other.  How much each one of us needs to socialize is unique.  Introverts need more quiet time. Extroverts need more time socializing.  But we all need to be connected.  Call an old friend you haven’t talked to in a long time.  Take time to have a meal with your family.  Meet someone for lunch.  If it’s warm in your area, go to the park with friends or family and just enjoy being outside.  If it’s cold, invite someone over for a home cooked meal and a sit by the fireplace.  Turn off the TV, the cell phone, the computer or the headphones and engage with another human being – without interruption. 

7.  Listen
We are constantly bombarded with phones, computers, traffic, music and other noises.  Schedule quiet time just to listen to the thoughts in your own head.  Meditate.  Sit at a corner cafe and watch the people go by.  Read a book.  Take a bubble bath.  Stroll through the woods.  Whatever you like to do to quiet your mind and make space for contemplation.  It’s really nice to let your mind just wander around wherever it wants.  It makes space for us to contemplate problems which are plaguing us, puzzle over things which perplex us, develop original ideas or generate unique solutions for old problems.  Contemplation gives your brain the opportunity to see things from another perspective, to redefine old problems in new ways.  Americans can be very goal oriented and may perceive this as "doing nothing".  And that’s exactly right.  That’s the point.  Do nothing.  Leave a big empty space for your mind to wander around it.  You might be surprised with what it comes up with!

This Week’s Call for Content: How to Look and Feel Younger

This week on Intent, we want to hear your tips on looking, feeling and living younger. What can we do on the level of mind, body and spirit to be and feel young at heart? More than make-up tricks to hide baggy eyes, we want to know on a holistic level how we can embody the positive qualities associated with being young: great physical health, passionate energy, an eagerness to learn and experience new adventures, joyful spontaneity, taking time for your personal beauty self-care and so on.

Of course, if you happen to have some great make-up or beauty tips up your sleeve for fabulous-looking skin, we want to hear those, too.

How can we look and feel younger through the choices we make in our everyday lifestyle? We can start drinking more water, eating more vegetables and exercise regularly for more energy, more radiant skin and a fit-looking body.

How can we look and feel younger through the habits we practice in terms of mental health and relationships? First things first, we can smile and laugh more. As leadership author Robin Sharma observes in his book Who Will Cry When You Die? the average 4-year-old laughs 500 times a day, and the average adult is lucky to laugh at least 15 times a day. Just turning those daily work-commute grimaces upside down on a more regular basis will already make you more aligned with your inner kid who seriously know how to keep life priorities straight.

How can we look and feel younger in spirit? Maybe it is a matter of remembering that in the grand scheme of things, a human lifetime is a mere blink of an eye in the lifetime of a universe. Consider that the next time you ragging on yourself for having a few extra wrinkles than you did a decade before.

As we all have so many personal definitions and interpretations of what it means to look and feel young, I am sure all of you have wonderful insights on this week’s theme. Don’t be shy! 

Join Intent’s mission this week to inspire others to look and feel younger. We will be featuring the best weekly content at the end of the week. If you simply want to share a quick idea in the comments below, we want to hear that as well. We can’t wait to read your contributions!

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