Tag Archives: Focus

Intent of the Day: Focus on the Task At Hand

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With the holidays upon us, you might be feeling a lot like us… SUPER DISTRACTED. Unmotivated? Unfocused? Unable to get going? We get it. With all the we have on our plates and everything we’re looking forward to, it can be extra difficult making it through our final obligations. So today our intent is to focus on the task at hand.

You too? We get it. We’ll keep it quick: Continue reading

Intent of the Day: Focus

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What were we just doing?

We recently read that an office worker is distracted every 3 minutes and will require 23 minutes to get back on task after being distracted. With a notification for everything, the very things that meant to help us get and stay connected can also keep us distracted. Distraction is also a great way to avoid dealing with the tough stuff. We don’t want to talk about a troubled relationship or a struggle at work so we find any way to get distracted. In the end, all of these things result in us spending more and more time away from the people and things we love. This is why today our intent is to focus.

Trying to get focused too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading

Real Simple: How to singletask your way to success and sanity

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Despite the fact that today we pride ourselves on being a culture of multi-taskers, I myself am anything but. For me, multitasking is the art of messing up several things at once. But we all know – and perhaps secretly despise – the woman who can seemingly do it all. And seamlessly, at that! Yes, she’s the one who gets up at 5 a.m., sprints to the gym, then showers, answers all her e-mails, fixes her family a breakfast of steel cut oatmeal with flaxseeds and warm organic maple syrup and is ready to go to the office as soon as she drives her two equally perfect children to school. Her male counterpart is just as Type A and accomplished. Not only does he hold down a high-powered day job, but he is a nationally ranked squash player and on weekends writes poetry when not competing in an Ironman Triathlon. In a pinch, he can re-shingle his roof.

One morning, many moons ago, I decided that I, too, could do it all. On that particular day, I also made my family oatmeal for breakfast and carefully chose my husband’s suit and tie. And as soon as I rushed my older sons off to the bus and took my little girl to nursery school, I hopped in the car and gave him door-to-door service to his office.

An hour later, all missions accomplished, I returned to my office and started to write my column with still plenty of time left to meet my deadline. I sat back in the chair and let out a large self-satisfied sigh, thinking to myself, Who said you can’t do it all? Just then the phone rang. Continue reading

From Intent.com: Grow Where You’re Planted

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The term “FOMO” has become a real thing for my generation.
It’s been defined as the “fear of missing out”. I think it’s safe to say we can always assume there’s something we’re missing out on, we can’t be everywhere all the time, but never before have we had such a visual reminder of all those things. Social media makes it really easy to see just how green the grass is on the other side. Continue reading

Living with Intent: A Meditation for Asking

As Living with Intent has been making it’s way home with friends and family everywhere, your own stories of living with intent have started to make their way to our team. Stories of families and individuals who make great sacrifices for the sake of seeing great changes are the kind that inspire us all!

Today we are excited to present a simple meditation that Mallika Chopra shares at many of her Living with Intent lectures about focusing on what we want and inviting those things into our lives: Continue reading

The Secret to Creating Loving Close Ties

By Linda Newlin

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Most of us need and want more connection and closeness with those in our lives.  However, we have many things that keep us separate and distant from them.

What creates closeness and loving connections with those we love?

There are many theories and methods people have touted as keys to creating loving and close relationships, but I am reminded today by my own 10 year old wise one about what is the #1 thing that creates closeness for him.  Continue reading

Think You Shouldn’t Meditate?

By Daisy Swan

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There is increasing credible science and recent press extolling the personal and professional benefits of regular, short sessions of simple breathing meditation. Yet it’s not uncommon for very intelligent people to believe this just isn’t for them. You might be one of them. Does this resonate?

Meditate? Not for me. I’ll get lazy, lose my edge, fail to compete, and lose the game of success. Continue reading

Getting Past Feeling Overwhelmed and Finding Focus

focusLast week seemed to be Overwhelm Week with my clients. Several were excited for their coaching to work through work and life situations that made them feel completely overwhelmed. And with feeling overwhelmed comes paralysis – they become so aware of how overwhelmed they are, that their energy focuses on them, their problems, the volume and the helplessness, they then have no energy left to get things done (to eliminate the feeling of overwhelm). They are stuck. Nothing happens.

Though getting past overwhelm requires also getting organized and building priorities (what’s urgent, what’s important and what’s both), the key to its undoing is an understanding our personal energy. Here is what I share with my clients about energy and how energy is the gateway to staying organized and getting the important things in work and life done.

Energy is catabolic (diminishing and unproductive) or anabolic (growing and productive). Feeling overwhelmed naturally brings on our lowest level of energy (catabolic) – of feeling like a victim because the situation creating the feeling of being overwhelmed, owns us. We are at the effect of these events – it may be a demanding boss and work schedule; it may be a challenging home situation or a busy kids/household schedule; it may be worn out by caring for someone who is not well or trying to get yourself out of situation that needs changing (relationship, work, etc). The more we focus on how we feel in these events, the more we use our energy to focus on how bad our situation is. We are like a dog chasing its tail – the more we think about it, the worse we feel, so the more we think about it. This now uses up all of the energy needed to make changes – including getting organized, setting priorities and getting things done. We have to free ourselves from this catabolic energy in order to redirect our energy to being productive, or we will find our situation will never change.

People who are masters at getting things done, staying organized and moving things forward are this way because they change how they look at their world. Eckhard Tolle shares in his book, A New Earth, that we should be in only one of these three awakened modalities: acceptance, enjoyment or enthusiasm. Notice that all of these are positive energies. The reason for this is as energy moves from negative to positive (from victim to acceptance) we start to see how to move past where we are. We now have energy to consider how we might be able to organize our space, our work or our emotions. We have the energy to start to prioritize what is around us to get in it in an order that can make things happen. We become unstuck, unfrozen untrapped, and uncaught (I know I made up a few words, but I liked the rhythm…). We move out of victim and into conscious and powerful performer. All this can happen by seeing that we are stuck and choosing to focus on opportunities to get unstuck instead of staying in victim or helpless mode.

In helping my clients, I find our starting point is reviewing the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are present in victim energy, and the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are in opportunity energy. Many times by seeing that both of these are choices in the same circumstances, those who are stuck can start to visualize a way out. They are encouraged because they can see what success looks like and feel empowered enough to work through the situations that are creating their victim thinking.

We can’t be victim and optimist at the same moment. So the more we shift our thinking out of victim to optimist, the more energy we have available to focus on solutions, opportunities and possibilities. We stop making our discontentment and feeling overwhelmed the center of our energy. We can then find ways to make things happen.

Achieving means getting things done. Go for the fuel source – the energy. It creates the power to wake up like the person in the Lunesta commercials – ready and raring to go – to face the world – to make the to-do list – to organize their space – to create the priorities – and to get things done.

Use Meditation to Get Yourself Back on Track

It’s easy to fall off the band wagon when it comes to making positive changes in our lives. Whether we commit to a diet, an exercise plan, or a new way of thinking, we often start with the best of intentions and somewhere along the hours, days, and weeks in, we slip back to our old habits. It takes effort, and the desire to change to make an actual lasting change. Sometimes it doesn’t happen right away, and sometimes it’s hard to get back on the path, when we’ve wandered off so much.

For me, meditation has been the path I would love to be on the regular with. I practice yoga daily and have that as a moving meditation with usually some after a class for a few minutes, but I crave more. I imagine the space I could create with a daily mediation practice. I image myself waking up 20 minutes earlier, sitting with myself, and seeing what happens. I write and confess this to you as a reminder to myself of the positive change I’d like to create. I have a blanket on the floor waiting to be meditated on. I intend to make this change now.

Feeling Into You

 

My friend Vera at Strala meditating after class.
My friend Vera at Strala meditating after class.

What happens when you begin to mediate is you begin to feel into yourself. You become sensitized to how you feel physically and emotionally. You start to gain insight into your life and your purpose. Intuition becomes more and more clear and when you consider your intention you become a super feeler.

Meditation practices focuses on the breath. There are so many techniques that involve different things to do with the breath. You can count the breath as it comes and goes, holding the breath at the top and at the bottom, breath short and fast, long and deep, and vary pace and timing to an infinite amount of possibilities. The idea behind all the breath work is to allow you to feel. When you take a big deep breath you can feel more than when your breaths are shallow.

Try it now. I’ll do it with you. Wherever you are close your eyes, take a big giant deep breath in through your nose. Hold it at the top for a few moments, and slowly release all the air out through your mouth. Repeat twice more and gently open your eyes.

What is a healthy habit that you’d like to have for your life? Let me know in the comments so we can support each other and live great lives!

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Help support Tara and the Intent community by joining the 21 Day Yoga Challenge sponsored by Sports Club LA! For 21 Days Tara is posting intents to encourage you to start or deepen your practice and to help you better connect your mind and body with the world around you. You can support or adopt Tara’s intent. Or you can set your own intent! Just add them to the yoga category and let’s support each other! 

4 Simple Tools To Change Your Life

Lucas muscle pose1. A Vital Body
You want to keep this vessel — your body — for many years to come. And the road to doing that starts today. This means doing all the things that keep your body healthy. Slacking off on keeping your body healthy makes no sense, because it takes away from the sustainability of the vessel that keeps you alive. To not take care of your body properly could mean years taken off of your life. So that involves drinking plenty of water, exercising, making an effort to eat healthy, quitting smoking — because this body is the only one you are ever going to have. This won’t just affect your longevity, but also the quality of your life as you live it.

2. Body Posture
What you achieve in life is absolutely dependent upon the way you carry yourself. Carry yourself well and people more readily accept you and respect you as a person. To do this, you’ll need open, inviting body language. Stand up tall and look people in the eyes. They will see you as confident and together, and treat you as such. A strong body posture affects not only how others see us, but also how we see ourselves. Not convinced? Watch Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk and give “power posing” a try.

3. Movement
Changing your physiology is an easy and effective way to change your overall state. Tony Robbins has been advocating this for years. When I’m in a lousy (unresourceful) state, I snap myself out of it by walking, singing, dancing, or exercising. Getting the blood pumping will do more than you’d expect and increase endorphin production in your system.

One day I was walking down the street in New York City, and I was mad. I was so upset; I felt that I couldn’t even look people in the eye. Just as a game, I decided to put a smile on my face. Now, this was a fake, terrible smile, it must have looked terrifying. But even after a minute of this, I felt so goofy with this fake smile that it made me laugh. With a smile on my face, people around me smiled back. Now remember that this is New York City, people don’t usually smile at each other as they pass by. Imagine how we could change the world simply by living our lives with a smile on our face and a good attitude. So go ahead, give it a try.

4. Focus
Combine your change in physiology with a change in focus to jumpstart major changes in your life. There’s a Hawaiian proverb: “Energy flows where attention goes.” Put another way, what you focus on manifests in your life. I invite you to step back and look at your life for a moment. You can evaluate it in two ways. You can focus on your fears and on the obstacles ahead. Or, you can appreciate what you have in your life and focus on and what you desire. Which of these two you choose will dramatically impact the quality of your experiences. The way you approach your problems impacts how well you are able to solve them. This will ultimately cause you to — or prevent you from — achieving your dreams. How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a winner or a loser? Because at the end of the day, the only one preventing you from becoming the person you want to be is you. Your identity may be influenced by your surroundings, peer group and upbringing, but ultimately it’s created by you.

Are you ready to improve the quality of your life? To feel happier, to feel better about yourself and about your relationships? It is all inside you: the ability to positively affect your state by changing your physiology and your focus. It is easy to make simple life changes that will lead to a lifetime of happiness. Now get out there and lead an OUTSTANDING life!

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