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Intent of the Day: Practice Empathy


Empathy is defined by Merriam-Webster as “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.”

The action of understanding is an interesting sentence. It reminds us that it is an act, it is a choice. It’s not a thing you should consider yourself exempt from. It’s not that some people are empathetic and some people aren’t. It means that, for the most part, empathy is a trait you can choose to develop. Today our intent is to practice empathy.

And why does it matter at all?  Continue reading

Is Laughter Good Medicine Or Is It Toxic?

At the Golden Globes Ricky Gervais’ wit was uber sarcastic and as Robert Downey Jr. put it, a bit sinister. Slinging the barbs at other people’s expense can be quite hurtful. Poking fun at an institution, a movie or book, a political statement, or even self-deprecating humor pass muster. However, when we mock someone’s sexual orientation, race/religion, old age, impediment, or recovery from addiction, we wound them to the core, twisting the sword in someone’s weakness – like a bully. By now we all know where bullying can lead.

The anatomy of humor – the choice is yours:
* I make others laugh in order to be well liked and feel good myself
* I make others laugh to lighten their load and cheer them up
* I laugh to generate happiness inside myself when I need a good laugh
* I laugh nervously when I feel frustrated or anxious
* I need to take a jab at others when I laugh

Gender differences regarding laughter:

Essentially, wromen prefer humor that involves stories, narratives and personal information. Women are more analytical regarding what makes them laugh; they use both hemispheres of the brain to process and react to the ideas and information in the funny story. Women also tend to be self-mocking to promote cohesiveness in the group without offending anyone. This is how women cope with the little emergencies that come their way andthey are able to lower blood pressure and reduce tension. For example, instead of experiencing an emotional melt down because of work and taking care of the children forgetting about dinner in the oven,  a woman might say, “Silly me, I burned dinner.” Note: Announcing the reality in a comic tone will prevent any criticism!

The opposite is true for men. Generally, men enjoy slapstick humor and favor the rehearsed joke. Also, they don’t like to make fun of themselves since from an evolutionary perspective, status is very important. Self-mocking humor would reduce male dominance and making them feel stressed. When men and women are polled, the majority of men want someone who will laugh at their jokes and the majority of women want someone who makes them laugh.

Based on individual style, gender and motivation, humor can either promote physical healing, create empowerment and release stress, or it can spiral down to dark humor to injure and shame.  While I always say in stress management, “Don’t take yourself so seriously.” I should add that we must take others more seriously before we sling a barb at their expense. You might ask yourself: What would Lassie do?"

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Mallika Chopra: Which actors deserve a Golden Globe this year?

A few weeks ago, I asked our community to share their favorite movies over the last year.  The responses were fantastic, and I have a new list of movies to see now!

Today, the Golden Globe nominations were announced.  While I have not seen most of the movies – the reality of being a parent with two young kids – I was very happy to see that Slumdog Millionaire was nominated for Best Drama, Best Screenplay, Best Director and Best Original Score.  You can see the full list here.

For those of you who haven’t heard Gothams interview with Danny Boyle, the director of Slumdog Millionaire, I encourage you to listen.  His passion, intellect and commitment to good storytelling were very inspiring!  He captured part of the soul of India and the human need to survive and live in such a touching and powerful way.

(And, I have to add, we are so excited about AR Rahman being recognized for his incredible talent.)

I plan to take advantage of visiting my parents during the holidays to sneak out and watch some more movies. 

In the meantime, what performances do you think were amazing this year? 

I think Heath Ledger in Batman was amazing, and his nomination is well deserved… Seems both Kate Winslet and Meryl Streep gave great performances in films this year as well.  Would love your thoughts…

The Golden Globe Nominees!

The Golden Globe nominees have been announced!  Any surprises?  Yes.  Where was "Australia?"  I think Australia deserves some accolades.  And I was also surprised that "Gran Torino" didn’t get more nominations.  Clint Eastwood is brilliant in this new film, as both director and actor.  His original song and score did get recognition, though.  And no surprise that Heath Ledger for nominated for Best Supporting Actor for Batman.  The surprise is that this is the only nomination that the movie got.  See the entire list of nominees online:


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