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Big stuff going on at the mo~

Lots going on this week, in one fashion or another.  My youngest daughter is going into the hospital tonight at midnight, to have her labor induced.  Now, to be quite frank she’s not completely due yet, but as doctors will they want this scheduled on their terms, no surprises.  We know it’s a little girl, and this will be granddaughter number 2…the other 4 are little testosterone bundles, lol.

I’m excited, and if anyone knew Lacie the way I do and how much change she’s incorporated into her life, well it’s nothing short of miraculous.  I’m just praying that the changes she’s made are the reasons imprinted on her soul~that they aren’t temporary.  She now has a good husband, her children are just blooming, and I support her in every way I can…without bringing up the past out of fear.  We talk about it, but there is no blame, and she knows that.  She knows there is pain, scarring, and some longterm damage…but sometimes you get that, and you just have to keep moving forward.  That’s what she and I have done~and she now understands that anything I did where the kids were concerned before, was not against her, but for them

So, I’m tired, awaiting the birth of my 6th grandchild, and am terribly afraid I’m coming down with something.  I’m willing myself with everything in my soul to remain healthy.

Just riding it out, lol.

Parent As Mentor




Here is a very simple exercise that creates extraordinary results. I use it with parents to help them have a better relationship with their children. It has also been used healed wounded love relationships when each partner or spouse writes a BEST list for the other. /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400; Here is a simple exercise that produces extraordinary results. To get started, read the following story, then take out a piece of paper and create a BEST list for yourself. Then, write a list for each of your children. Write a BEST list for your spouse or partner as well.


EXERCISE: What do you like BEST about yourself? Take only THREE minutes to write down a list of 10 things you like about yourself. You can go beyond 10, if you like, but make it at least to 10. 

I also teach this technique to school teachers. When I have asked teachers and counselors to think of a student (usually the one who is giving them the most trouble) and then make a BEST list. I am shocked that some of them cannot think of even one likable thing.

I push them to think of 10 things. When they read their list out loud, they are astounded at the truth of what they have written. Yes, he does have nice eyes. Yes, she does show leadership skills (though usually into mischief)…. And so on. This change of thinking, changes the relationship for the better.

Parents can do the same with children who are rebellious or acting out, or to simply reaffirm what is good about the child. Then take the list and post it where they can see it every day. You can also use it to strengthen a relationship with a partner or spouse.

The parent of an 11-year-old girl told me that her daughter was embarassed when she tried to read the list to her. So she posted it on the refrigerator. "Suddenly, my daughter found a dozen reasons to go to the kitchen. She wanted a glass of water. She wanted to return a dish to the sink. She wanted something to eat. Each time I noticed that she was reading what I had written on the list. She was smiling as she read it."

The BEST list is a simple action with life long impact.

 

The Process of Creation of Starshine’s Book, “Liam Somers’ Night Dream”

Here is the process of Liam’s Little Golden Book.
I hope you enjoy the process and that it stimulates your creativity. Love, Starshine


Intentions are to publish this book, but not under the "Little Golden Book" umbrella

Liam’s Little Golden Book
Liam Siomers’ Night Dream
(Grampa Johnny Bird)

It was the middle of the summer
In the middle of the night
When Liam had a dream
It was a Midsummer Night’s Dream
  
A fairy sprinkled stars on Liam

Before the words came ……..

The stars sprinkled down upon an oddly dressed man who held a feather pen, called a quill in his right hand.

"Young Liam," said the man "your name is much like my own. I am called ‘William,’ William Shakespeare is my name."

Shakespeare told Liam that he had written many stories with that feather quill pen.’

Liam was fascinated as he listened to every word that Shakespeare had to say.

Grampa Johnny Bird listened attentively with Liam.

"Grampa Johnny Bird," said Liam excitedly, "I want to hear ALL the stories Shakespeare has written."

Liam Loves Learning


Suddenly, the books were flying this way and that in the night ssky.

One of the books came flying right at Liam.

Liam was startled!

The book that came flying at Liam, was the play, "A Midsummer Night’s Dream."

Liam and Grampa Johnny Bird hid behind the trunk, uncertain about the flying books.

"Young Liam," said Shakespeare, "Too many books for you to learn, take one at a time in their turn."

As Shakespeare read to Liam from "A Midsummer Night’s Dream," Liam told Shakespeare that he would like to meet Puck, ‘King of the Elves.’ And then . . .

Fairy whispered in Puck’s elfin ear as from the pages of the book he did appear.

(quoted in the book, fairy says)
"Either I mistake your shape and making quite or else you are that shrewd and knavish sprite called Robin Goodfellow. Are not you he?"

(Quoted in the book, Puck responds)
"Thou speak’st aright. I am that merry wanderer of the night."

Liam learned that Puck’s other name is ‘Robin Goodfellow.’


This is what it said, but this has been changed (just showing you the process along the way)

Inside his dream, inside the book, Liam is watching the play on stage at the Globe Theater in London, England.

Theseus, Duke of Athens is telling Hermia that she must obey her father, Egeus and marry Demetrius. But Lysandra and Hermia love each other. Helena loves Demetriius, but he loves her not. And, that’s how the story begins….

Hermia and Lysandra tell Helena that they are running away. Helena tells Demetrius. Demetrius goes looking for Hermia and Helena follows into the forest after him.

Puck drops the nectar of a flower on the eyes of Demetrius and Lysandra and also on the eyes of Titania, Queen of the Fairies while they were sleeping.

From the magic of the nectar, now Demetrius loves Helena ~ and Lystandra loves her too.

Needless to say, I decided to erase this page (smiles)

I did, however, keep the scene on the stage and kept the names on the garments of each of the characters.

If we shadows have offended
Think but this and all is mended.

That you have but slumbered here
While these visions did appear.

And this weak and idle theme
No more yielding but a dream

Gentles do not reprehend
If you pardon we will mend

And, as I am an honest Puck
If we have unearned luck

Now, to ‘scape the serpent’s tongue
We will make amends ere long

Else the Puck a liar call
And so goodnight unto you all

This page will be redone because my daughter Angel says they look like they’re getting married and I decided that the posture doesn’t lend itself to Shakespearean conduct so it will be changed but it will still say the last lines of Puck’s Speech

"Give me your hands if we be friends
And, Robin shall restore amends.

(yes at 2 years old he recites the whole speech and seems to understand just what he is saying.)

A Love Creation for Liam Somers
Love, Grammy Starshine
Created "in June" 2009

 

Reflections: Top Ten Things We Can Learn From A Child








Recently I had the distinct joy of spending time with all my beautiful grandchildren and children. What a delight! What a great way to reflect on life through watching them. I have had many teachers in my lifetime, and surely will continue along that path, but the greatest have been my own children. Now that they are all grown with spouses and children of their own, I am witness to this cycle continuing through these energetic, inquisitive offspring. So what can we learn from a child? Top Ten:

 

1.       A child is energetic and inquisitive (as mentioned before).

2.       A child in want, or need, is incredibly focused.

3.       A child is full of trust and, in fact, knows nothing but trust in those surrounding him or her.

4.       A child is full of ideas; that little brain may even be on system overload – yet they live with joy.

5.       A child is happy with one step off a porch to remain fascinated, busy and smiling. ("KISS: Keep It Simple, Stupid!" is the message to the old-timers.)

6.       A child’s world happens in baby steps. Each is like birthing steps when first learning to walk.

7.       A child likes the security of a bigger, stronger entity like a parent close as he/she begins toddling or playing at all.

8.       A child doesn’t hold a grudge against a loved one who may admonish the youngster’s behavior – he/she is usually still full of love for the disciplinarian.

9.       A child is happy with each thing he or she learns – always proud of the accomplishments.

10.   A child is confident after learning something new, ready to take on the world – pregnant as the mother was before their birth -with the possibilities surrounding their unfolding being.

 

Maybe we older folks can take a few cues from the little tykes and connect again as a Child of God, reassessing our childlike attributes for a happy, healthy outlook on our own proactive and productive adulthood.

 

With love and blessings…Peggy

 

” Grandma, are you Old?”

We took two of my grand daughters to Friendly’s for supper and some ice cream. We asked them to choose from the Kids Menu, and my husband and I, both over 60, picked items on the Senior Menu. WHAT a bargain! However, I did not bargain for the conversation that followed with one of the girls.

“Grandma, why did you order from the Senior Menu? Are you OLD?”  As this darling child asked the question, I could see the fear spread across her face. I had a vision of her crying at my funeral.  Before I allowed my mind to go much further, I answered her. “Yes, I am older now. I am over 60 and so I can order from the Senior Menu, but I am not REAL old.”

“Well” she said “Nina died when she was eighty.”   I responded ” Yes she did, and besides, I am not anywhere close to being eighty AND I know people who have lived into their nineties.”

The food was brought to the table and all conversation and speculation about the time of my death stopped.

As a psychic medium, I communicate with spirits every week.  Some of them passed into eternal life at the age of seven, some at seventy, and some before they were ever born.  I know that any one of us could make our transition at any time.

I value each day.  I love my grand children. I am glad I am around to be with them and glad they are around to be with me.

Psychic Medium Carole Lynne

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www.carolelynne.com

www.carolelynnecosmicconnection.com

 

 

Who is abandoned here?

This week I’ve been visiting members of my family: adult children & 3 grand-angels before I move out of the area.  It’s heart wrenching. 

"It is never any good dwelling on goodbyes. It is not the being together that it prolongs, it is the parting." ~  Elizabeth Charlotte Lucy Bibescu
 

Thank God for the internet & webcams. I had hoped to be able to be a ‘snowbird’ & fly back every three months for visits with them & doctors. Unfortunately that has become cost prohibitive since our income has been substantially diminished. Since I have a number of health issues that require specialists, it’s sometimes difficult to find a doctor who can listen to what I’m saying.  I’m a whole person, not just a series of symptoms & I’ve lived with these conditions for quite some time. 

I will readily admit that sometimes chronic pain does test my philosophy of "Joy is a Choice".  Nevertheless I continue to remain determinedly optimistic the largest percentage of the time. Stress exacerbates lupus & any other autoimmune disease. 

Condensing 30 years worth of ‘things’ into the size that will fit into a 22′ U-haul truck is a bit stressful.  I never want to allow that much accumulated papers & junk in my house again, so this move is really a blessing in disguise. 

I’ll move forward & upward & continue to pray & maintain a calm center within for retreat regardless of what is going on around me.

I had hoped to retire where I am, but that was no longer economically feasible.  It’s difficult for me to leave the green beauty of the Pacific Northwest. 

I keep telling myself: "Plants have roots, people have legs" & I know I will bloom where I’m planted. I hope not to dry into a shriveled prickly cactus. Big Smile!

I feel like I’m abandoning my family even though they are self-sufficient adults, except of course for the grandchildren, but, enough said of that. Anyone who has left behind loved ones knows this aching sensation of temporary loss.

Enough of speaking ‘whian-ese’, nobody really wants to hear a whiner. I will experience cyberspace withdrawal for a few weeks so please keep me in your prayers. 

I’ll be spending the Thanksgiving holiday alone for the 1st time in 30 years, but my first order of business when I arrive at my destination is to be completely THANKFUL! 

I hope each of you have a blessed weekend full of love, calm & peace.  Injoy:) Carolyn

"The human state is not about being perfect. We are in this life to learn to grow. We do so best by finding the Universe’s plan for us and following it. It is by no means easy.
Yet learning, growing overcoming, and then experiencing transformation, can be one of life’s greatest joys. It certainly makes life interesting." ~ Eileen Caddy

"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish." ~ John Quincy Adams

How to Give and Ask

Each family has a heritage of how we give to others and how we ask for what we need.

Below (building on my post from the other day) is another series of questions to help you and your daughter talk about this important topic.

Individually, write down your answers to these questions. When you’re both done, share you answers with each other and then ask (don’t preach) and talk to learn more.

What’s been your most surprising experience with giving?

What have been your most surprising and pleasant experiences with asking for help?

As a child, when did you first become aware of the idea and benefits of giving to others? What did you see? What were you curious about?

As a child, when did you first become aware of the idea and benefits of asking others for help? What did you see? What were you curious about?

How is your giving and asking for help similar to that of your parents and siblings, and how is it different? How much are you influenced by them?

BTW, this article is adapted from my book "The Dads & Daughters Togetherness Guide: 54 Fun Activities to Help Build a Great Relationship," which you can buy by clicking on the title.

The Not So Ugly Duckling

The
other day I was sitting on our back porch, enjoying the sun, when a bedraggled
little duck startled me with a big splash as he crash landed in the little pond
I had built in our backyard. As he settled down and tried to catch his breath I
noticed his feathers were pointing in all directions. I continued to watch as
our rabbit Smudge hopped over to the pond and struck up a conversation.

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