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Daily Opportunities to Live My Gratitude

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By Ryan Skinner

I had the wonderful opportunity this week to travel to Aruba for a vacation with my fiancée and future stepchildren. One evening, while sitting alone on the balcony of our room, gazing out in awe at the beautiful landscape and feeling warmed the balmy breezes, I was overwhelmed with a feeling of gratitude. I’m blessed with so many things – family and friends who love me, opportunities to meet and work with amazing people and the daily opportunity to express how grateful I am to God for giving this recovering addict a second chance at life. I’ve been in very dark places and know that my story could have ended differently. But this night in Aruba, like all of the days since I made the commitment to be clean and sober, offered another moment to reflect on the reality that if you do the right things, hang in there and choose to live God’s way, all of those blessings are possible.

Since I renewed my commitment to God and a life of meaning and purpose dedicated to helping others both professionally and personally, I’ve developed daily prayer, meditation and journaling rituals that help me get into the right spiritual mindset. I’ve been doing this ever since I got sober. I wake up by 6 a.m. at the latest and spend 30 minutes on a combination of praying (sometimes on my knees on a clean floor, but sometimes even at my kitchen counter having my morning coffee) and doing affirmation readings from books of positive quotes and writings that inspire me to live that day and be present. I spend a lot of time on gratitude. Whether it’s dark or light, I always light a candle. It’s just my way of bringing spirituality into the moment and connecting with God. My morning journaling is simple, just writing thank you to God for another day He has granted me. Continue reading

From Intent.com: Battling A Scarcity Mentality with Gratitude

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One day this week I was sitting on an LA subway (translate: no internet) without emails or text messages to distract me from the growing anxiety and worry over to-do lists and conquering of constantly looming life questions.

“Am I making enough money?”
“Am I wasting time/my life?”
“Should I go home for Christmas or would it be wiser to stay in town?”
“Did I email so-and-so about the time change for the coffee meeting in two weeks?”
“Is marriage in the cards for me?”
“Do I already have a padded envelope to do that mailing or do I need to pick one up?”

Questions were coming at me like I was sitting at the base of a waterfall.
All mixed together. No theme or particular problem to unite them.
My whole life was starting to suffocate me at the Pershing Square station and that part that felt most suffocating was that it was so easy to answer every question with negativity.

“No, there’s not enough time/money/energy/happiness in my day.” Continue reading

From Intent.com: Staying Grateful

 

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Thanksgiving is usually when we’re reminded about thankfulness and to consider the things we can often times take for granted in our lives. But gratitude and thankfulness are not only cute for crocheting sweet messages on pillows. Studies show that the importance of gratitude is such that it affects stress levels, depression and an increased quality of life. Gratitude is good for you. Continue reading

A Little Gratitude – Please and Thank-You

As our world continues to go through dramatic changes and shifts as we approach the end of 2012, we are all being called to serve. Every one of us has unique and individual ways we can serve others and the planet every day. I believe it is more important than ever to recognize this and to consciously act from a heart-centered place of sincere caring and concern.

My wonderfully spirited daughter Lani, who shines her light out into the world and serves others through her performing talents, also literally “serves” people every day at a family-oriented restaurant in midtown Toronto. From what others have told me, she shines particularly brightly at this, as well.

One particular incident that happened to her could have, and probably does, happen all the time to servers in towns and cities around the globe. At the time, her restaurant was offering a “buy one, get one free” entrée promotion to try to restore patrons’ confidence after a health scare that had been publicly blown out of proportion.

It was a busy Thursday night, and after serving what to her appeared to be a trustworthy family of four, she cheerfully left the billfold and check for them to pay when they were ready. No pressure and no sign of anything that in any way showed that they weren’t 100-percent happy. She went off, and in her efficient and enthusiastic way, she continued serving her other customers, making sure everyone was equally happy and enjoying their dining experience. Not too long after this, she returned to this family’s table and found that they had left the building, taking the billfold and check with them. Not only did they not leave a tip, but they didn’t even pay the bill! When she told me, I was shocked.

This family had already received two free entrees, and the bill was not high. In short, their actions showed a total lack of respect and gratitude for the restaurant, the food and their server. Because of restaurant policy, the server is responsible for the bill. Ouch! Her fellow servers rallied to support her; however, as we are all human, this understandably scarred her otherwise great day and night. It left both of us questioning how anyone could consciously behave in a premeditated way that so lacks integrity and illustrates an unflattering side of human nature: acting without gratitude.

Being who I am, I looked for a lesson in it, believing that there is always something to be learned in every situation by the people involved. Maybe the family was hungry and actually couldn’t afford to pay for the meal. Maybe the husband thought the wife paid or vice versa. Maybe there was a misunderstanding, because English was not the family’s first language. Maybe the actual reason doesn’t in fact even matter.

Trying to see the positive in it, I still find it challenging to understand why people forget to act from a place of gratitude and aren’t able to express it openly and freely to others, especially those who serve us, all the time. Have we lost the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and see what the view looks like from there? Is it really that difficult to consciously stay aware and display gratitude for service?

As I walked today, grateful for a glorious, sunny fall day, I found myself wondering when and if we as a people will be able to demonstrate genuine compassion and gratitude to others. Although it often happens in times of crisis, when we are called to rally together in community, why can’t we do it all the time?

What someone does for a living is not who they are as a person, but how someone treats another person does indicate the kind of person they are. What kind of lessons are adults like this teaching their children? I don’t have the definitive answers, but I believe we can all start by taking personal responsibility for how we choose to interact in the world. The law of karma tells us that what goes around always comes around, making it important to make gratitude a daily practice, both personally and by showing it to others. Conscious intention is one place to start.

I know my rose-coloured glass optimism keeps me somewhat naive, but I honestly do believe that people are good, trustworthy and honourable, and I see expressions of gratitude all the time, everywhere I look, more often than not.  During this time of Thanksgiving, I encourage us all to keep gratitude alive and well; it is really such a simple thing to practice. I’d love to hear stories from others, servers or not, of how grateful or ungrateful behavior has impacted their lives.

“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”
–John F. Kennedy

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A Little Gratitude for Servers, Please and Thank-You

 As our world continues to go through dramatic changes and shifts, we are all being called to serve.  Every one of us have unique and individual ways we can serve others and the planet every day.  I believe it is more important than ever to recognize this and to consciously act from a heart centered place of sincere caring and concern.

My wonderfully spirited daughter Lani, who shines her light out into the world and serves others through her performing talents, also literally “serves” people every day at a family oriented, midtown restaurant in Toronto.  From what others have told me, she shines particularly brightly at this as well. 

 

What happened to her recently could have, and probably does, happen all the time to servers in towns and cities around the globe.  Her restaurant was offering a “buy one, get one free” entrée promotion to try to restore confidence, after a health scare that had been publicly blown out of proportion.  It was a busy Thursday night and after serving what to her, appeared to be a trustworthy family of four, she cheerfully left the billfold and check for them to pay, when they were ready.  No pressure and no sign of anything that in any way showed they weren’t 100% happy.  She went off, and in her efficient and enthusiastic way, continued serving her other customers, making sure everyone was equally happy and enjoying their dining experience.  Not too long after this, she returned to this family’s table and found they had left the building, taking the billfold and check with them.  Not only did they not leave a tip, they did not even pay the bill!  When she told me, I was shocked.

 

This family had already received two free entrées and although the bill was not a lot, their actions showed a total lack of respect and gratitude for the restaurant, the food and their server.  Because of restaurant policy, the server is responsible for the bill.  Ouch!  Her fellow servers rallied to support her, however, understandably as we are all human, this scarred her otherwise great day and night.  It left both of us  questioning how anyone could consciously and pre-meditatively behave in a way that so lacks integrity, illustrating an unflattering side of human nature; acting without  gratitude.

 

Being who I am, I looked for a lesson in it, believing there is always something to be learned in every situation, by the people involved.  Maybe the family was hungry and actually couldn’t afford to pay for the meal.  Maybe the husband thought the wife paid or vice versa.  Maybe there was a misunderstanding because English was not the family’s first language.  Trying to see the positive in it, I still find it difficult to understand why people forget to act from a place of gratitude and aren’t able to express it openly and freely to others, especially those who serve us, all the time.  Have we lost the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes and see what the view looks like from there?  Is it really that difficult to stay aware and display gratitude for service?  

 

As I walked today, grateful for a glorious almost spring-like day, I found myself wondering when and if we as a people will be able to demonstrate genuine compassion and gratitude to others, not just in times of crisis when we are called to rally together, but all the time.  What someone does for a living is not who they are as a person, but what someone does to another person, does indicate the kind of person they are.  What kind of lessons are adults like this teaching their children?  I don’t have the definitive answers, but I believe we can all start by taking personal responsibility for how we choose to interact in the world.  The law of karma tells us that what goes around always comes around, making it important to make gratitude a daily practice, both personally and by showing it to others. Conscious intention is one place to start.

 

I’d love to hear stories from other servers of how either grateful or ungrateful behavior has impacted their lives.  If the family who left without paying, by some chance reads this, it is never too late to show up and make it right.  I know my rose coloured glass optimism keeps me somewhat naive, but I honestly do believe that people are  good and trustworthy and honourable and I see expressions of gratitude all the time, everywhere I look, more often than not.  Keep gratitude alive and well; it is really such a simple thing to practice.

 

Gratitude is the best attitude.  ~Author Unknown

Toad on the Road

Toad on the Road

Last night I was returning from a glorious day and evening with friends in Guelph. I was travelling on a dark rural road with the full, orange, powerful moon in my rearview.

As I approached the stop sign I noticed a large grey-brown toad sitting in the middle of my side of the road. I hit the brakes even though there was a part of me that knew I would not hit him with my tires. I sat there looking at him as cars were approaching the stop sign from behind me. Instead of giving in to the pressure from the folks behind me to get out of the way and driving over him, I put my flashers on and waved the other two cars through the stop sign.

When they were gone, I got out of my vehicle and went over to him. Oh, he was so beautiful. Memories of my childhood of watching frogs, sitting with frogs, and playing sand castles with toads as a girl washed over me. I was in heaven on that rural road, just me, the toad, and Source. I then proceeded to say, in my Laura-May way, out loud to the toad, that he needed to be moved off the road. The toad understood.

He moved toward me as I moved toward him–it felt so natural to hold him in my hands as I had done so many times with frogs and toads. I walked him and talked to him over to the bushes–I let him know that he needed to hop the other way as I laid him back down facing the meadow. I told him that I understood why he would be confused as to which way to go as the nature signals on earth these days must be so hard to hear with all the noise.

How profound was the next moment: I had an intense feeling of longing as I walked back to my car, yelling over my shoulder, "NO more road, Mister Toad, Thank you!" I tuned into my body and found that my belly was full of longing–longing to feel that communion with Source, every single day for the rest of my days. There was such an intense knowing that I had experienced purpose–and the ALL–simply by being present with that toad.

It was ecstacy and heartache simultaneously.

I know that Ego would have had me drive over the toad, wishing him luck with getting across. Ego would have me worry more about getting home and justify that I had done the right thing by simply not hitting him with my tires.

I am full of gratefulness that with present moment awareness I was given the gift of conscious knowing, allowing me to commune with the toad on the road whilst the most powerful moon of 2009 shone down upon us all.

May I know, and be, a channel for grace.

Laura-May

 

 

 

 

How to Look Fab with Zero Cash (Part II)

Have a Swap Party
This is a fantastic way to get new additions to your wardrobe at no cost plus it is a fun night for the gals.If you have done the above exercise you will have enough clothes to start your own
and share the below tips on how to declutter their wardrobes so you can have a fabulous night! 

 
Ingredients
How to declutter your wardrobe instructions
3 different colour Post it notes
Pins 
Clothes
 
Pick a date. You can make this very simple by just having 3 tables marked as ‘cheap’ ,’midprice’ and
‘expensive’. Get everyone to mark their clothes with the corresponding post it note colour and their name. Drop the clothes in the corresponding table, play some music and let the swap begin. So simple and so effective!
 

La’qua Image are also putting together their own evening on Thursday June 18th. Come and join a group of ladies for some swapping and fun dressing.  Limited numbers register here.

Create new creations as easy as 1, 2, 3

At times it is difficult to see new combinations from our everyday clothes. We love to see the surprised faces when we show our clients the endless combinations they can create with their current clothes.

Ingredients
Objective mind 
Learn to count to 3

The rule of 3 is such a simple secret and so effective. Basically you need to have 3 items grouped together to complete your look. For example, grab a shirt, put a nice single or camy underneatch that
shows through the collar and a necklace. Bang that is 3 items. Grab a belt and you start creating even more complete outfits. The eye likes to be entertained so if you practice this you will look complete.
Before you go

And our last tip for this issue ..

Give thanks for 3 things
Since we are already counting why not start to fuel our souls and open a vacuum for
some greatness to come into our lives.
When times are tough it is very hard to remain positive and we can find ourselves talking & thinking about all the things we don’t want and forget to focus
on what it is that we really want from our situations.

This is such a simple exercise to shift our thinking from lack and start to welcome abundance, and moving closer to feeling fab. 

 
Ingredients 
Pen & Paper
Lungs 
 
It is great if you write these 3 things on the same piece of paper or notebook so
you can start stacking up your gratitude. Just take a deep breath and as your exhale let all of the negative thoughts blow out. Grab your pen and write your 3 things to give thanks for.
Again, it doesn’t have to be major.
 
e.g. I had a nice smooth run on my way to work, the kids helped me get ready in the morning, my computer is running smoothly today. You are welcome to get carried away and try for more.
It is from joyous happy states that we can create better opportunities and ideas in life. “You can never solve a problem with the same thinking that caused it”. 

If  you enjoyed our 6-tips on How to Look & Feel Fab with Zero Cash let
us know and we will aim to deliver some more! 
 

And remember to share your tips and tricks,to keep your moods uplifted and, to look
& feel fabulous too! Click here and have your say 

 

Gratefulness…

I am so grateful today for having a roof over my head. I paid my taxes today, and I am so happy that I did not have to arrange a payment plan. Though I owe money and am still paying off my credit cards, I am so much better off than a lot of people are right now.

Some people are hurting so much. They have had to move out of their homes, and don’t have hardly any money (if any at all). With limited resources, they are doing the best they can with what has happened to them.

I am realizing today how very lucky I am.

 

 

My First Intent Post

Hello Every"one",

I just want to say how grateful I am to continue to find places where I can be with and learn from like minded individuals.  I want you to also know that the lessons I learn from each and everyone of you will be paid forward and passed on other souls who need nourishment.  Thank you, and here to the start of some beautiful friendships.

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