Setting goals for ourselves is what keeps us moving forward. It’s what creates innovation, growth, and is the reason we pursue anything new. We set a goal and work to reach it. In and of itself, goal-setting is positive. But if we don’t fully understand all that is involved in creating and achieving our goals we can easily sabotage the process.
Fortunately, this is a mindset that we can change, and here are 3 key points to remember: Continue reading
I am never five minutes into stripping the clutter from my life before I start running into
the clutter that is my life.
It’s funny how our home space says so much about our brain space. For some, the clutter in their brain is the opposite of their spotless home. For others, the exact opposite. For still others, the clutter they feel is exactly the picture you discover when you enter their living space. Sometimes the overwhelming feeling can feel very debilitating. Sometimes it’s the weight that keeps you from feeling like you can dive into something new. There is something important about the practice of deciding what needs to move forward with you and what needs to be let go that extends beyond just getting rid of stuff. Either way, cleaning house figuratively and literally is a great task to take on as you prepare for a new year!
Our intent of the day is to clean house! Thinking about it? Here’s why it’s good for you! Continue reading
“You always look happy.” One of my neighbors said this to me once while out walking my dogs. Guess I was caught smiling again.
A smile can make a positive impact in any situation. It’s contagious. This is something we need to remember now that the holidays are here. You can enjoy those holiday parties and meals more by simply smiling.
The holidays are an opportunity to help reinforce the values and beliefs that are important to us. Yet many people feel overwhelmed and complain that they just want to survive the holidays. That’s a red-flag that values are taken for granted and you should adjust the traditions that have been set.
Even if you don’t feel “it” or aren’t in the moment, the simple act of smiling can change that perspective. Who cares if your Aunt Betty brings a casserole dish over for Christmas dinner that you won’t eat and find kind of gross? Focus on the good things happening. It’s best to just smile and be thankful for the moment to be there together. Continue reading
Feeling anxious? It’s no surprise. According to Anxiety and Depression Association of America, 40 million adults in the US suffer from anxiety disorders, making it the most common mental illness. The likelihood that you or someone you know is battling with some form of it, especially as the holidays approach, is tremendous. If it is part of your life, perhaps the holidays have become a mixed blessing of happy memories and a struggle to keep your feelings at bay. Knowing that so much can contribute to anxiety, we want to start by developing a practice of combating it with the simple and beautiful act of gratitude.
You too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading
Happy Halloween! Today is a day full of fun and whimsy and maybe a little too much chocolate. You’ll find out which coworkers are clever and which ones think “office worker” is a cool costume. You’ll hopefully get to see babies dressed as all varieties of zoo animals and Stranger Things characters. And maybe crowds stress you out or Halloween is not our favorite, but we hope that today, you take a moment to enjoy a little reprieve from your everyday routine for even the smallest silliness. Our intent is to find the fun in the moment.
You too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading
If you want to be happy, be.
Our intent today involves retraining our mind and refocusing our eyes.
If we want to be happy, then it is our job to look for that and find it within ourselves.
So our intent today is to do just that. We want to find happiness in the unexpected.
In the last minute coffee date with a friend.
In the surprisingly good parking spot.
In the upcoming appointment with a really great specialist.
In the unexpected 5 minutes of quiet.
Let yourself be surprised with happiness and look for it in the things you’re flying past.
Find it where you’re least expecting.
Looking for happiness too? We have 3 resources to help: Continue reading
My need for external reassurance as a woman came home to me many birthdays ago. I decided to test everyone (especially Honey) by making no reference to my personal holiday during the entire month of January. The results were devastating. Not a single soul—parent, child, sister, friend, husband (gasp)—remembered. The red-letter day came and went without a whimper. Now, before you scream “Revolution!” (which I came close to doing at the time) let me add this: Honey was under huge pressure at work, serving tirelessly at church, and acutely worried over finances. He comforted, cuddled, and counseled with tenderness. It’s just that his calendar was off.
When I realized that accusation would never produce a bottle of perfume, the truth hit me like a whiff of cheap cologne: I had been thinking for too long that it was my guy’s primary job in life to make me feel good, to heal all my wounds, to spend every possible minute with me, to be emotionally available and responsive 24/7, to always want what I want. I had set myself up for disillusionment.
Thankfully, I wised up and made a course correction that stuck. My birthday is now advertised far and wide and way in advance. I am responsible to ask for and inspire special attention on January 27. Healthy, balanced doses of giving and receiving from family, friends, God, and myself, keeps my tank full. His three little words (“I love you”) then top me off and overflow into a puddle at our feet.
And that’s the secret. Fill your own tank by taking responsibility for your own happiness.
There is a simple way to get started, or continue, in the habit of filling your own tank so that you can give from abundance while receiving with confidence. I don’t mean to make it sound easy—we are talking about the greatest challenge of a woman’s life, the seesaw between nurturing herself and nurturing others—but I know you can do it.
Here’s how: Continue reading
Hello all! Today I want to talk about the topic of perfection. As codependents and love addicts, we have striven for perfection constantly, only to be disappointed when our expectations were not met. Whether it was someone else we were trying to impress or just ourselves, we were hard on ourselves for not executing it perfectly.
We don’t have to be hard on ourselves. Nobody in this world is perfect! We seem to hear that from people all the time, but the struggle is in understanding and really believing it.
We look at other peoples’ lives, especially with social media, and they seem to have it all – jobs, families, houses, vacations, and happiness. But there is so much of peoples’ lives that we do not see, and each person has their struggles. Truly, nobody is perfect. Continue reading
Do you know an emotionally fit person? Emotionally fit people are often viewed as the “go to” person, a leader, someone others can depend upon. They can handle challenging situations with inner strength, wisdom and insight. They are well respected by others and can appropriately handle conflict. Are you emotionally fit?
15 Things The Emotionally Fit Person Practices: Continue reading
When it comes to figuring out happiness and good habits, I don’t think it matters much if you’re a man or a woman.
It’s easy to assume that certain aspects of ourselves matter more than they do. For instance, birth order. People believe that birth order has a big influence on personality — but research has disproved this. Birth order just doesn’t matter for personality.
Now, whether you’re a man or a woman matters in some situations, sure.
But in general, in my observation, for any particular person, individual differences swamp gender differences. Continue reading