Why are you here? What is the message you are trying to put out into the world? I’ve talked a lot about spreading your personal message in the past but now I want to go more in-depth. In this latest vlog I share my practical and spiritual tools for manifesting media for your message. I believe that it is our responsibility to share our great work with the world. Learn how to release your fears, be unapologetic about your message and share it with pride.
In today’s economy is there a way to make a decent living but have autonomy over our time? My friend Kate Northrup grew up always knowing she wanted to be a mom – but one that was financially free and had the ability to be present and there for her kids. So she began writing about her journey, and developing tips to share with you.
I’m so proud to share my Kate’s first book, MONEY, A Love Story. In this video, Kate shares how you can untangle your financial woes and create the life you really want. Check out the book here and feel free to leave questions for Kate in the comments below. She will reply!
My favorite passage from A Course in Miracles is:
There is a way of living in the world that is not here, although it seems to be. You do not change appearance, though you smile more frequently. Your forehead is serene; your eyes are quiet.
For more on this topic join me in NYC or via Livestream video for my Live in the Know Lecture this Friday!
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Recently, as I found myself sitting in front of my laptop, tapping away at the final touches of my book proposal, I’ve drifted away from my usual writer’s bliss and instead have been, oh you know, totally freaking out! You see, the deadline to submit the proposal to my dream publisher, Hay House, as part of the contest they’re holding for participants of last April’s ‘Writing from Your Soul’ conference is quickly approaching. And, wouldn’t you know, all of a sudden, my ego is totally tripping out on me! “Who would even want to read my book” “What are the odds of getting picked with over 500 others in attendance?” “I bet there are some pretty amazing book ideas out there.” As I’ve allowed these thoughts to creep into my brain, they have literally taken over, sucking the creativity and joy out of what is usually one of my most favorite activities, writing!! I even started creeping into the “why bother?” territory. Yikes!
With just a little over a month away to finish up, fine-tune, and put my best step forward, I didn’t have time for this self-sabotage crapola and needed to snap out of it, stat! Through all of my spiritual work, deep down, I know that this is just the fearful illusion of my ego, trying to keep me “safe.” In reality, I don’t truly believe this crazy-talk deep inside. At first I thought it was fear of failure or fear of rejection. Then, I realized that it was a much deeper fear. All of a sudden, I had an a-ha moment as I heard Marianne Willamson’s voice in my head with her world famous quote:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Yes, this absolutely rings true! I was on the brink of psyching myself out into playing small. We all do this. It really is our own light that frightens us the most.
You see, all I’ve ever wanted to do is be a writer. When deciding what to major in college, I shied away from pursuing writing as a career because I didn’t see how I could make a living at it. I chose a different path to pay my bills. But, in more recent years, I have been strongly guided towards it again. It truly feel it is my calling. I’ve amassed a lot of experiences and wisdom through the years in my entrepreneurial and life adventures and through my spiritual studies, which has all helped me tremendously with my own personal growth and transformation. I feel that it is my duty to share this information as I know it can help so many others as well. And, through my blogging, I’ve made so many beautiful connections with readers and affirmed this truth. So, I had to give myself a little Marianne Williamson-esque, “who are you not to be a writer?”
I share this story with you because I want you to be aware of your own potential greatness! But, also to be aware of your own negative self-talk that will try so hard to snuff out your fire. You are meant to shine, baby!! We all are. And by shining your light, you are helping others to do the same.
Try these 4 steps that I used to put a muzzle on my own negative chatter:
Be the observer. Instead of owning these thoughts as if they came from you, “I won’t win” “I can’t do it” — take on the role of observer, as if somebody else is saying them to you. This is called separating yourself from your ego. While the ego may have good intentions of keeping us safe, instead it keeps us living in fear and not taking chances or reaching our full potential. That voice is not who we really are!
Notice how silly it can be. As I listened to my ego voice as an observer, I actually giggled out loud. “Where do you come up with this stuff? You aren’t very nice!,” I thought to myself. Then, I said, “thank you for trying to protect me, but I’ve got this.”
Channel your Marianne Williamson. ”Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” Remember this line always. Seriously, who are you not to be?! Print it out and put it somewhere you can always see it. You are not alone. We all go through this, but you can rise above. You are meant for greatness!
Remember who you really are. For me, I had to remind myself of my deep passion for writing. Also, I am not doing this for me, but I feel a calling to share information to help others. I’m not doing myself or the world any justice by copping out. Same applies to you! The world needs what you have to offer. Don’t hold back!
Finally, after doing all of the above, I sat down with more focus and clarity then I have had in a long time. The words just flowed out of me. I reconnected with my purpose. I might not be good at a lot of things, but writing is definitely my calling..
And, of course, this does not mean I am a shoe-in for the Hay House prize by any means. But, winning or losing this contest is not what matters most. It’s about pushing through personal boundaries. And, at the end of next month, I will have a completed book proposal. That is a big deal for me, regardless of the outcome. I will continue to push towards my dreams, silencing my own negative chatter along the way.
What about you? Can you think of a time when you were talking yourself out of your own greatness? How did you get back on track? Have you ever missed out on an opportunity because of your own inner-critic? We can all learn from each other and would love to hear from you in the comments below!
Most of the time when we complain a lot, we’re avoiding what we really need to feel. When we find ourselves griping about something outside of us, it’s a good sign that we haven’t addressed something inside. Watch this vlog to learn more.
Are you ready to stop complaining? What have you been avoiding by focusing all the attention outward?
Throughout the day we have different stress triggers. We can be triggered by all kinds of circumstances, people, noises, even the weather. Yogi Bhajan said that 85% of our behavior is automatic and determined by our environment. If we let our environment dictate our mood then our life will feel like an emotional roller-coaster. The only way off the roller-coaster is through our breath.
In today’s vlog I share a powerful and practical meditation that you can use to reduce stress anywhere, anytime. This Kundalini practice is often referred to as the “backpack meditation” because you can bust it out of your spiritual backpack whenever you’re in need of some serenity. We can’t control the stress in our life but we can control how we handle it. Use this practice to change your reaction to stress.
Test-drive this meditation and share your experience with me in the comments below. If you need future guidance check out the breakdown underneath the video.
Meditation to Alleviate Your Stress (AKA Backpack Meditation) – as taught by Yogi Bhajan:
The posture: Sit cross-legged in easy pose.
The hands: Place your hands in Giyan mudra with your thumb pressing against your pointer finger. The pointer finger, otherwise known as Jupiter. When you press your thumb against this finger you ignite your knowledge.
The breathe: This Kundalini meditation suggests that you breathe in eight strokes through your nose and out for one stroke through your nose. If yogic breathe is new to you and it’s hard to breathe in that much air then breathe in for four strokes instead of eight. Breathe in four strokes through the nose and one breath out.
Time: You can do this meditation for one minute and experience miraculous results. Put this meditation in your back pocket and use it whenever stress arises. The Kundalini yogis suggest that you do this meditation for eleven minutes for 40 days.
Pay close attention to how your environment triggers your stress patterns. Whenever possible turn to this meditation to release you from stress and restore your vitality.
For months I’d been praying for a book that would keep me up at night. You know what I mean: the kind of book you just can’t bear to put down. One afternoon I opened my mailbox to find a package—it was an advance copy of my dear friend Nick Ortner’s new book, The Tapping Solution.
For several years Nick has led a tapping revolution. Tapping, otherwise known as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), is a psychological acupressure technique that supports your emotional health. By tapping on specific energy meridians on your body, you can unblock ancient fears, limiting beliefs and negative patterns. When stimulated, your body’s energy meridians can trigger the amygdala (a.k.a. the “fight or flight” part of brain) and signal it to calm down. When the amygdala gets the memo that it’s safe to relax, stress is immediately reduced. I’ve found tapping to be one of the best ways to bust through blocks in an instant.
Now I’m taking my tapping to the next level! In reading Nick’s new book, I’ve taught myself how to lead a tapping session. In this vlog I will lead you through a tapping session that will lessen your stress and help you feel physically and mentally calmer. As you tap on the specific meridians I will guide you to address certain emotions that come up around your stress. Simply follow my lead and let the tapping begin!
In this video I teach a Kundalini meditation called Purify the Subtle Body. The subtle body, is the part of us which attracts opportunities, brings us good news and attracts positivity towards us. This meditation strengthens your subtle body so that you become a magnet for miracles. Practicing this meditation will make you shine bright and deepen your connection to the Universe.
In the video I breakdown the meditation and guide you along with the music. If you need further clarification please see the instructions below. Feel free to leave questions or remarks in the comments below.
Mudra: Sitting in easy pose (cross legged) with a straight spine, place the arms down by the sides, backs of the palms on the ground next to the sides of the body.
Movement: As you inhale, raise the arms over the head, until the two palms overlap a few inches above the your head (known as the tenth gate). The right hand will be a few inches above the head. The left palm will lie flat on top of the back of the right hand. The thumbs do NOT touch. (Note: Yogi Bhajan very specifically keeps the thumbs separated when the hands overlap over the top of the head.)
Breath: Make your mouth into an “O.” Inhale through the “O” as you raise the arms over the head, and exhale through the “O” as you lower the hands back down to the ground.
Chant: The “Tantric Har” music which is played in the video. On the first “Har” raise your arms up. On the second “Har” your arms go down. Continue in this rhythmic movement. Pull in on the navel and the diaphragm as you do the movement.
Time: If you’re new to Kundalini meditation begin with 3 minutes. If you want to go big then practice this meditation for 11 minutes a day.
End: Inhale deeply. Immediately interlace the hands over the head, elbows straight, and begin to deeply stretch the body right to left, and left to right, without letting go of the hands.
Continue as you hold the breath for 15 seconds. Exhale. Repeat 3 times total. Relax.
I speak and write often about my love for Marianne Williamson, who has been offering up incredible wisdom and guidance for decades. One of the qualities I most respect and admire in Marianne is her passionate commitment to spiritual activism. Not only is she changing the world, she’s awakening us to the power of service, too.
I was fortunate to speak with Marianne recently about her activist work, and it’s my hope that her words inspire you to explore how you can be of service. Check out our conversation.
At what point in your career as a spiritual leader did you commit to speaking up about social and political change? What prompted you to do it?
In my first book, A Return to Love, I wrote about things in the outer world that need to change – how we need to ameliorate deep poverty, heal the earth, end war. For me it isn’t about politics per se: it’s about our willingness to address human suffering. Starting Project Angel Food, a meals-on-wheels program for homebound people with AIDS in Los Angeles, was action within the non-profit sector. Starting the Department of Peace campaign was action within the political sector. But what’s the difference, really? Such categories are just human constructs. The point is to act compassionately and address suffering, wherever and however we can. I’ve never seen service as separate from my spiritual practice or my spiritual teaching.
In your book The Healing of America you write about “holistic politics.” Can you explain what this means to our readers?
When we began to embrace the holistic paradigm in healing, an entire world of integrative medicine opened up. We no longer looked to Western allopathic medicine as the be all and end all of medical healing. Trying to suppress or eradicate symptoms on the physical level can be extremely important, but there’s more to healing than that; dealing with psychological, emotional and spiritual issues involved in treating sickness is equally important. Those issues are causal elements in what creates a sickness to begin with, and dealing with them has a proven beneficial affect on the immune system. Is your doctor important, if you’re sick? Yes; but so is your therapist, your spiritual counselor and so forth. That’s why we call it an “integrative” approach to healing.
What is happening in politics today is a similar process to what happened in the medical world a few decades ago: we’re realizing that there’s more to healing than just addressing symptoms. Our primary paradigm when it comes to dealing with political and social dis-ease is allopathic: pass a law, lock someone up, engage in warfare. And the state of the world today makes it clear that such allopathic measures have not exactly brought peace to all.
The US incarcerates more of its people than any nation in the world, or any nation in history. Our military budget is almost twice that of all other nations of the world combined. At 23.1 per cent, our child poverty rate is second among the 35 developed nations of the world only to Romania! And 17,000 children on earth die of starvation every single day. There’s a lot more to those statistics than a simple “To Do” list can fix. We need to understand and dismantle the psychological, emotional and spiritual dysfunctions that led to such things. I was at a conference where someone mentioned a psychological study being done on those living in deep poverty (remember: a billion people in this world live on $1.25 and less a day). I think the psychological study that needs to be done is on the psyche of a relatively prosperous Western civilization that allows such conditions to exist! Make no mistake: such horrors didn’t just come out of nowhere, and the fact that they still exist is the product of pathological complacency and fear.
Why do you feel it’s so important for spiritually minded women to run for office?
Two things. First, I think that people on a spiritual path – personal growth, recovery, whatever – are the last people who should be sitting out the great social and political contests of our day. Why? Because they’re adepts at change; they know that the mechanics of the heart and mind are the drivers of true transformation. Now if you know what makes one person’s life change, then you know what makes a nation change – because a nation is simply a large group of individuals. We keep trying to change the world by simply moving around the furniture. We can see that this isn’t working, and people in the consciousness movement have some clues as to why.
Secondly, about women… On the federal level, 16.8 of our Congresspeople are women. On the State level, it’s 23.6 per cent. Do you think our legislative priorities would be what they are today, were those legislative bodies anywhere near gender equal? Would the “war on women” exist as it does now? Would child poverty – or poverty, period – be given so little attention? I like to think not. If more women wielded political power in America – real, electoral power – then we could seriously help turn this ship of state around before it hits the proverbial iceberg. But we can’t wield that power until we claim it internally. And that’s where we are now….working our way toward truly claiming our power.
In essence, we need a new bottom line. We need to shift from an economic organizing principle for human civilization, to a humanitarian organizing principle. Making money more important than your own children is a pathological way for an individual to run their affairs, and it’s a pathological way for a society to run its affairs. The children of today are the workers, creators and potential capitalists of tomorrow anyway; taking care of them today is the best way to take care of our economy long-term. Perhaps if more women joined the conversation, we would begin to speak real truth to power. Who else is going to mention that the economic emperor has no clothes?
Can you speak to the emotional and psychological issues that keep women from expressing our full power?
Often in life, our external circumstances change before we’re ready to truly embody the change. We often lag behind, emotionally and psychologically. While Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton just assumed that once women got the vote we would start participating on all levels of government, they didn’t foresee how difficult it would be for women to quite figure out how to do that.
And there are a lot of understandable reasons too, not the least of which – today more than ever – is that the entire political system is contrary to everything a feminine heart stands for. It lacks tenderness. It lacks poetry. It doesn’t nurture. It doesn’t love. And without those things, a woman’s soul is bereft.
Yet look where that leaves us, if we simply shudder and look away. Talk about being coopted by a patriarchal system; it means we will have gone from men telling us condescendingly to not bother our pretty little heads about these things, to not bothering our pretty little heads without even being told not to! What a travesty of everything that the suffragettes, who worked so hard and suffered so much on our behalf, stood for.
So our task is to transform the field; to create a new conversation, our own conversation, out of which we can speak our truth, our way. This will be an act of magnificent social artistry, and it’s possible now. I feel something in the air.
I had the privilege watching Leymah Gebowee speak live. Leymah shared her story of how she led a women’s peace movement, which ended the second Liberian civil war in 2003. After sharing her story she looked at the audience of American women and asked us what we were doing. With great concern for our country she called us out and empowered us to take action. I’ve heard you reference the women of Liberia. You’ve said, “If they can do it, what are we doing?” Can you speak to what we can learn from our Liberian sisters?
That we should be ashamed of ourselves? I mean that sincerely. Healthy shame, but shame nonetheless. We’ve really got to get going.
On November 10–12, 2012 in L.A., you’re hosting an incredible event called Sister
Giant. Tell us what your intention is for this event.
My hope and intention is that Sister Giant will be an incubator for the emergence of that new field of political possibility, entailing a new conversation about America and a serious sense of sisterhood. It will go over everything from psychological and emotional issues, to a spiritual perspective on politics, to actually training women how to run. I want to be a cheerleader for women who have never even considered running for office or being involved in a campaign, but who in the quietness of their hearts might think, “Why not me?”
Martin Luther King, Jr. said that the desegregation of the American South was the political externalization of the goal of the Civil Rights movement, but that the ultimate goal was the establishment of the beloved community. He said it was time to inject a new dimension of love into the veins of human civilization. He wasn’t called a New Age nutcase or considered an intellectual lightweight for saying such things, and neither should we. I don’t think making love the new bottom line is naïve; I believe that thinking we can survive the next hundred years doing anything less, is naïve. And I also believe that at this point, I’m not the only one willing say so.
When love is our guiding light, we can break through barriers to be of loving service to the world. Gaining the courage and confidence to stand up for what you believe in is not always easy, but it’s fully within your reach. How can you infuse your work with the spirit of service and activism?
Join the conversation at Sister Giant 2012