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Healthy Thinking: 5 Steps to Forgiveness

How Heavy is Your Dead Weight?

How heavy is your dead weight a.k.a. anger and upset?  I’d read about a teacher who asked her students to bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes to class.

For every person the student refused to forgive, they were to write the person’s name and date of upset on a potato and put it in their plastic bag. As you may imagine, their respective bags filled up quickly and proved heavy.

The moral of the story: We are lugging around some pretty hefty amounts of anger that is weighing us down and keeping us stuck. I call it “dead weight.”

How many barrels full of upset and anger are you carrying around with regard to others? How many platters full of upset and anger are you carrying around with regard to yourself?

For your:

– Dietary transgressions?
– Lack of exercise?
– Imperfections?
– Whatever else is on your personal list of upsets and failures?

How heavy is your “dead weight?” How much energy, focus and determination is it robbing from your core self? Are you ready to give it up?

5 Steps: from Anger to Forgiveness

Step 1. Write It Out:
Take a moment, a minute, an hour – the entire day! – depending on how long your ‘self-upset’ list is to write out each upset on one of a potatoes.

You can either draw your own potato, or use mine.  Dead Weight : Potatoes pdf

Step 2. Bag the Anger:
Put the potatoes into your bag of choice. A paper bag will do.

Step 3. Carry the Anger:
Carry the ‘anger’ around with you all day long. I realize that your bag of paper potatoes won’t have the same physical effect as a heavy bag of real potatoes, but it will provide an opportunity for a mental light bulb or two to flash.

Step 4. Shred the Anger:
At the end of the day, read through your paper potatoes and then ceremoniously rip or shred each potato.

Step 5. Transform the Anger Into Art:
Put shredded potatoes into a clear container. Voila! You have created a kick tush paperweight for your desk. A reminder to forgive others and yourself.

 

Spread the word … not the icing!

Janice

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Healthy Thinking: Using Your Mind To Help Heal Body, Heart & Soul

Healthy ThinkingYou probably know what it takes to live a healthy life, right?  Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables, exercise regularly, take vitamins – maybe add in some fish oil for cardiovascular health.  Make sure you get enough protein, carbohydrates, and lean fats.  Fortunately for many, healthy eating and exercise have become more and more a way of life.  You know the list of do’s and don’ts to keep your body strong and fit.

What is less well known is how your thoughts influence your physical, emotional, and even spiritual health.  Your mind is an extremely powerful instrument that can be either a friend or foe.  For most, left to its own devices, the mind is a foe, and can lead to pain, difficulty, and suffering.  With a little bit of effort and awareness, however, the mind can become a friend.  As a friend, your mind can be used as a powerful asset to help promote your health and well-being on all levels.

Understanding Your Mind – Friend or Foe

Is your mind your friend or your foe?  If you are like most, your mind bombards you with concerns, worry, anxiety, negative self-talk and a barrage of other nonsense.

Your mind may harass you about being good enough or healthy enough.  It might critique you for making “poor” decisions.  Are you being a good enough mother to your children?  Are you a loving enough partner?  Are you taking good enough care of your physical body?

And then let’s not forget gnawing concerns about physical appearance.  The mind may lament: “I have too many wrinkles.”  “How did my butt get so big?”  “What should I do about these sun spots?”

Does this list sound at all familiar?  You can probably write your own – your unique “flavor” of negative mental messages.  These messages range from annoying to downright tyrannical.  They are tyrannical because they control your life.

What kind of life can you live when your mind harasses you constantly with these types of concerns and worries?

It is my contention that true health is impossible when you live with a tyrannical mind.  And most people do.  You can eat all the right foods, do all the right exercises, take all the best supplements, and have a wonderful mix of alternative and conventional medical care.  Yet if you are a slave to your thoughts, believing every mental message that the mind produces, how can you be truly healthy?

The mind-body connection is by now well-known and documented throughout the scientific literature.  If your mind is producing stress, anxiety, and insecurity, whether that is through making you believe that you are not quite good enough the way you are, or that something is wrong with you, or making you worry and stress about situations over which you have no control, this mental turbulence has a very real impact on your physical health and well-being.

The tragedy is that most people live enslaved by their minds – their thoughts, beliefs, mental patterns and emotions.  The triumph is that with a little awareness and effort, you can begin to free yourself from the tyranny of your mind and move toward true health and well-being.

Freeing the Mind – Breaking Free from the Thoughts and Beliefs that Confine You

So, how do you break free from this ceaseless and controlling mind-chatter?

Fortunately, there are some steps you can take that will help you find freedom from a controlling, and even debilitating mind.

Step #1: Become aware of the thoughts that you think

Before you can break free from your negative thoughts, ideas, and beliefs about yourself, your body, and your life, you must first become aware of the thoughts that you think on a regular basis.

What thoughts and beliefs are being generated in your mind?  Everyone has thoughts, messages, “tapes” if you will, that run through the mind.  Without awareness, these thoughts control you and dictate your life.  Yet as you become aware of the thoughts you think on a regular basis, you can gradually begin to loosen the control they have over your life.

There is no practice more important or more impactful in breaking free from the thoughts that control you than the practice of meditation.  Over time, a regular meditation practice makes you more aware of the thoughts that are being generated by your mind.  With meditation, you discover that you are not the thoughts you think.  You are not the messages and voices inside your head.  Over time, meditation will gradually help lessen the grip and hold that your thoughts have over your life.  The amazing thing about meditation is that simply by practicing meditation, you will become more aware of the thoughts you think on a regular basis.

Step #2: Recognize that they are false

Before you become aware of your thoughts, they control you absolutely.  As you become aware of them, you can begin to notice that they control you.  You can begin to notice how they control you.  The next step in breaking free from them is recognizing that they are false.  You have to realize that they are simply messages, usually learned in early childhood, and they are false.  They are not about you and should not be allowed to control your life.

Step#3: Refuse to believe them

The next step is refusing to believe them.  As you begin to see more clearly that these false messages run through your mind, you can make a decision to not believe them.  You can recognize that they are false – false messages running through your mind.  As such, they should not be listened to and should be ignored.

It is like music running in the background.  You can carry about your business, go about your life, and ignore the negative thoughts and beliefs.  Disregard them, don’t listen to them – completely ignore them.  As you practice this, gradually over time they will lessen and recede more and more.    

In this way, you can use your awareness to free yourself from the negative thoughts that you think.

As the mind becomes free from these negative messages and beliefs, it can be used as an ally to promote health.  When you are listening to the negative thoughts and beliefs that run through your mind, it promotes dis-ease.  As you become free from these voices, the energy of your mind is elevated to help you move toward true wellbeing.

Sarah Maria, author of Love Your Body, Love Your Life, outlines her 5-step process for helping you feel great in and about your body.  Her work embraces the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, for true, lasting healing.  Visit BreakFreeBeauty.com to learn more.

Food Victim? You? Me? Yes? Maybe? No!

Definition of a victim:  a person to whom life happens.
~ Peter McWilliams

Are You a Food Victim??? I hesitate to use the word “VICTIM,” because it is such a strong word.  But I’ve just got to ask … are you?  a food victim?  no?  are you sure???

If you think that something or someone other than yourself is controlling your food choices and/or controlling your eating …
… Then, you are a food victim!

If you believe that certain foods are simply irresistible, as in impossible to resist, no way, can’t say ‘no’ to that or that or even that, or that the Universe is conspiring against you, sabotaging your healthy living attempts at every turn on the road to Sveltesville, and that external circumstances hold power over you …
… Then, you are a food victim!

In order for your permanent weight removal attempts to be fully, entirely and wholly (or holy) successful, then you must step away from and move out of ‘food victim mode.’

You may not realize that you have stepped into the victim role and have embraced it as fully as you have, but if you are not taking full responsibility, if you are not exercising your ability to create a healthy lifestyle; if you allowing life to lead you down the path to donuts and other ‘deadly delights,’ then you have taken on this ineffectual and hopeless identity.

Ask yourself … “Just how much of a ‘food victim’ am I?”

We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the problem. We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized.”
~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

No doubt fully embracing a healthy lifestyle takes time and effort. And true that you have a ridiculous amount of things to do, which you miraculously manage to squeeze into each and every day.  And true that there are only 24 hours in the day.  But, but … BIG BUTT … bottom line, if you want to lose those extra pounds (and not find them again); if you want to be healthy, then you need to take responsibility.

Make ADJUSTMENTS!
Adjust your expectations (in other words, get real – there are no quick fixes in life; no ‘diet fairy’ that is going to visit you in the middle of the night and scoop your pounds away).

The more you pay attention to and adjust your thoughts, your beliefs and your language, the more successful you will be.

Actions follow thoughts. The more negative your thoughts, the more belief systems that are in place that no longer work for you, the less likely you are to take the steps you need to move forward in weight loss or any other arena in life.  Pay attention to the words you speak as well as your inner language.  Make adjustments.

It’s UP to You!
The power is in your hands (literally), not in the food.  No one else determines your choices, your priorities, or your values.  You can make the ‘best choice.’ Perhaps, not the ideal or perfect choice sits in front of you, but a ‘best’ choice does.

Practice BEST Choice!
Imagine for a moment what it would be like if you always made the BEST choice.  Even if you have to pick the lesser of two evils, you have a better choice in front of you.

Watch the CHANGE!
Let go of your ‘food victim’ identity
, exercise your Best Choice Muscle and watch the change.

Our power lies in accepting responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.  We may not have control over what happens; we do have a choice in how to respond.
~ Janice Taylor

Spread the word … NOT the icing,

Janice Taylor
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