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The Importance of Following Your Inner Voice

inner voiceBy Kristin A. Meekhof

When a well- known author gave me the opportunity to guest blog on her website, I did a happy dance. I had to reread the email several times to take it all in.  At the same time, I was a ball of nerves. I actually felt a knot in my stomach. I worked countless hours on this blog entry, and even confided in a friend, who is an editor, that I was filled with angst.  As a professional editor, this dear friend offered to review my work. I didn’t hesitate to accept this generous gesture.  I felt that a second set of professional editorial eyes was just what I needed.

After exchanging a few emails with my friend, I felt confident that I had the polished and perfect article ready for submission.  My friend’s editorial remarks and insights were nothing short of genius.  Now, my sentences were crisp and alive. Moreover, I felt that I captured the true essence of this blog assignment. I submitted my work, and waited, and waited. No word. Finally, I got a generic email back stating that I was rejected. The words stood out like a black eye. My ego was bruised and my self- esteem tanked.  I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I’ve been published numerous times by a national well- respected publication and now, this- rejection!  In a panic, I contacted my friend. She reassured me that revisions and edits are part of the game.  She kept repeating “No worries”, in a calm tone.  Honestly, I was worried.  I asked the author’s assistant for feedback as to why I received the rejection. No response.  I resubmitted a revised version, and I was rejected- again.

I set aside the article for a day, and went back to reread what I wrote.  I realized that the writing did not sound like me. I had lost my voice. I was intimidated by this “big” author. Wanting to impress others, I tried to write for them instead of myself. In the past, my writing voice has served me well.  After all, it is what earned me this author’s blog invitation. After some hours of rumination, I called my trusted aunt and explained the situation. With a very maternal voice, she said, “Listen very carefully to the (writing) voice inside you.”

I had compromised my writing voice in exchange for something that I thought guaranteed sophistication. When I set aside my own style in favor of a voice that I assumed was fancy and fabulous, I rejected my own voice.  A voice that is strong, that I’ve relied on, not only to obtain other writing assignments, but a voice that has guided me through some very difficult decisions.

I think we all have our own inner voice that guides and teaches us. For some of us, that voice is strong and courageous. For others, the voice is hesitant and passive.  I’m not suggesting that we have all the answers. Of course, there are times when we can’t be afraid to ask for help. In fact, there are times when obtaining outside professional help is necessary. What I am speaking to is listening to that voice within you.  Some call this voice, “a gut feeling” or “intuition”. Whatever you may call it, listen. Listen to its whispers, to its laughter, and to its tears. These are the sounds and songs of the heart. This is what will connect you with the goodness in others, and what will bring out your own truth.  Be brave. Listen.

My intent is to listen to my own voice and to the songs and whispers of my heart.

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Brief Bio- Kristin Meekhof is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post. Her writing has appeared in Author online magazine,  Ecclesio, and the University of Michigan Cancer Website blog. She is currently working on her upcoming book– Just Widowed,  and can be reached at www.kristinmeekhof.com

Listen to What Your Body is Telling You

asa_yoga_meditatingAs I progressed with my morning yoga and stretching routine this morning, ribs and clavicle sore from a fall nearly two weeks ago, it occurred to me how often the decisions our brain makes directly impact the well-being of our body. My sweet body had no say in my decision to step from one countertop across to the other as I cleaned the cabinet tops of my daughter’s “new” vintage apartment. Mom wanted to be sure the kitchen was pristine for Natalie and her roommate.  Natalie had no time to stop me as I said, “Spot me.” Misjudging the spread between counters, I went straight to the floor. Crash!

While VERY fortunate to not have had worse consequences, my brain’s poor decision put my body in jeopardy. My sweet body had no say in the matter until its voice spoke up in resulting discomfort and the process of healing over time.

How often do our brains put our bodies in predicaments, decisions resulting in compromised well-being? Be it a movement that results in injury or a poor food choice that leaves our stomach churning in misery, a decision that came from the brain leaves our body to bear the consequences.

These can be snap decisions or ongoing decisions (think excessive eating, smoking, over exercising).  How do we give our body a voice? How do we let our body speak up BEFORE it gets jolted, pained or harmed? Remember, we get one body to experience this lifetime. It deserves respect and honor. And whether you see your body as a temple or not, it is THE primary home in which we live.  So, how do we give it a voice in the decisions our brain subjects it to? Repeated discomfort from its decisions often don’t do the trick. Think eating the same food over and over that leaves us miserable, but we can’t resist because it’s so yummy.

Maybe some perspective is a pathway to bodily comfort and health. We have our body, mind, emotions and Spirit, a “quadrinity” of sorts that represents our wholeness. Does your quadrinity work as a team? Does your brain often step back and let your body, emotions and Spirit speak? How do we train our brain to give the others a voice that is heard?

For starters, being more CONSCIOUS of our body, habituating our brain to listen to the body is one substantive step. What did I feel when I was about to cross the kitchen in the air? I recall thinking, “It will be less work than getting down to the floor and climbing back up on the other side.” Did I hesitate? Not beyond the thought. But that very thought was a cue that that their was a consideration to heed, and a possible risk in following through. Otherwise, I would not have had that thought of an alternative.

Listening to our INNER voice, instead of the brain’s overpowering “just do it” is a skill that takes dedication to cultivate, be it through mindfulness or meditation training or another method that works for you.

An article I recently read about Ayurveda gave me profound perspective, a catalyst to listening more to my body, albeit I have a ways to go or I would not have attempted my kitchen counter leap. Our BODY is always in the PRESENT. It never lies. It speaks truth. Yet, our BRAIN is often in the PAST or the FUTURE.  Putting our body first, giving it the opportunity to alert us to what it needs, or not, brings us present to the decisions we make can serve us better for the future and help us learn from the past.  It is here that I come full circle to yoga, which in essence is about connecting the body and the mind through your breath.

So, when making that decision, when that soft voice yearns to be heard, take a DEEP breath. LISTEN. What is that voice saying? Whose voice beckons to be heard? Was my body’s voice trying to speak to say, “DON’T DO IT! I WILL GET HURT!”  I need to be more conscious when my body’s voice is trying to keep my brain’s powerful voice at bay, protecting my body from yet another consequence that might leave me injured, sore, or wondering how to cure my upset stomach.

We have the tools. We just need to give our body its voice. As for our emotions and spirit, let’s take one smart step at a time. The segments of our quadrinity can all learn from one another.

photo by: tokyosucks

How to Make Friends With the Li’l Inner Demon Voice Inside Your Head

positiveinchallengingBy Lindsey O’Connor

You know that voice that pops up during your low and vulnerable moments and makes you feel even less? The one telling you you’re not good enough, that says your thighs are too big, or your pimple looks like Mount Everest? Or that convinces you not to wear that cute, sexy top because it will show your stomach sticking out way too much in it?

Yeah, that guy. I call it the Li’l Demon.

It’s incredible how convincing and persuasive the Li’l Demon can be and how easy it is to believe it when you’re feeling a little sad, vulnerable or anxious! When something causes me stress, then BOOM! I’m all ears.

Most of the time I am fully conscious that what this voice is saying is far from the logical and rational truth. But that little demon can be deceptively comforting, because it’s my comfortable “go-to” in a stressful situation. It just peeks over my shoulder and says, “Oh, you’re feeling anxious? Let me help you.” ..NOT.

I keep getting this image in my head:

herculues Too bad he’s not some cute, cuddly, fuzzy baby slothy thing saying this to you:

sloth

Here are some ways I deal with this  little inner bully.

1. Don’t force that voice away, don’t try and push that demon out of your mind. The more you want that voice to go away and the more you try to forcefully separate it from your being, the stronger it becomes.

Don’t give it more power and energy by doing that, because that’s what it wants. I say things like,

“Oh hey li’l demon, what’s up? So you’re here today. That’s cool. Do you want some crayons and a coloring book? Cause I’m busy today doing my own thing and enjoying my life, so I don’t have time to listen to you. You can totes chill here for a while, but I choose to focus on things that make me happy and make me feel good about myself.”

Ok, so I don’t go through that extensive of a conversation all the time, but something along those lines. Just greet it, shake hands with it metaphorically, accept that it is a part of you today. But then go about your normal business and don’t feed it any more energy. If you need distractions from it, have a good book on hand. Call a friend to catch up. Go get coffee. Turn on your favorite music and dance or sing.  Get a hug from a co-worker or friend or loved one. Don’t let that li’l demon take over your day. Accept that it is there, give yourself a big hug and go about your business.

2. Send loving energy to where the voice is sending negativity. If the voice (in my case) is telling me that my stomach is huge, bloated and heavy, I accept the fact that those are the thoughts floating through my mind at this point and they shall pass. Then I close my eyes, breathe and hold my stomach and say how much I love it. I send it loving energy. I connect my belly with the rest of my body, which makes me stronger and more whole against that little demon. I focus on how it fills with air each time I breathe deeply. Be stronger than your demon and overcome its negativity with some self love and care.

I know that this guy can pop up at any moment – at work, at school, before an interview, with a significant other, when you’re all alone – so be prepared. Arm your sexy self with tricks and tools that you’re ready with whenever it rears its ugly head. In your car? Pop in your favorite CD and sing like you’ve never sung before. If you’re at work take 5 deep breaths and focus on a task to do.

Be cognizant of when this demon pops up. Is it with the same people? Certain situations? Specific times during the day? See if there is a pattern to it. If there is, you may want to try relieving yourself of those people and situations. Or find trick of how to handle them and the stress in a positive way.

So, all in all, the less attention and energy you give to that demon (aka the less you try and force it away and the less you focus on it) the smaller and smaller it will become.

Do you ever do battle with your “Li’l Demon? How do you make peace with it or get it to shut up? 

Change Your Inner Voice with Positive Affirmation

peace

By Simona Rich

I was staying in a guesthouse room in the ancient city of Bhaktapur, Nepal. I was preparing for the night’s sleep – I switched off my laptop and was about to go to the bathroom to remove my makeup and brush teeth.

A thought came as a response to my intention to go to the bathroom – “Wait a minute, I already removed my make-up and brushed teeth! I’m so lucky!”

The last thought caught my attention. Was it really lucky to have brushed my teeth and removed make-up? It wasn’t, but the most important thing here is that my mind is so used to positive affirmations that they come out naturally, even in situations they shouldn’t.

I completely changed my self-talk. I used to put myself down a lot when I was a child and a teenager. Children always thought of me as different and thus I was alone most of the time. It was easy for me to make up imaginary reasons why I had so few friends.

When, after finishing school, I moved out of the family home and out of my country (Lithuania) to study in England, I felt more empowered to change my behavior and my life. It was as though I gifted myself a blank page of life to write whatever I wanted on it.

I started using positive affirmations to heal my mind and self-image. Although it sounded silly to tell something about myself to myself that I didn’t believe in, I continued with the practice because something in me felt it was the right thing to do.

It worked. I’m a living affirmation now. I am lucky. I’m one of those bloggers who succeeded to make a living of this art and I only need to work a few hours a week.  I live wherever I want – now in Nepal; soon I will be going back to India where I usually stay. Early next year I’ll be settling in London to organize sound therapy sessions.

I feel so blessed and happy. Yet the being that blessed me was my own self. Affirmations made me into who I am today, so my own life experience tells me not to underestimate the power of simple words said regularly and with complete focus on them.

What’s the mantra you’re going to use to empower yourself with? What is it that you really want to manifest? A change in behavior? Material riches? A loving relationship? This you can surely do if you dedicate a few minutes a day, every day, to repeating words that already embody the change you want to experience.

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Simona Rich lives in tropical South India, rides scooter, meditates, does yoga and helps people create fulfilling and unique lives. Read her story to find out how she changed her life. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter and Google+.

photo by: lednichenkoolga

Understanding you inner voice

If you are new to the experience of becoming in tune with your inner voice and you find it difficult to trust your instincts the following information can give you some peace of mind and direction, and I have personally found that they work quite well.

• If you have the space clear out a room and use it solely for spiritual development this room should be considered your spiritual sanctuary. If you do not have the space for a full room a corner area that is free of clutter will do just fine. In this space you will meditate, read, and journal your spiritual growth.

• Before you retire for the night clear your thoughts of any of the days troubles. Understand that nothing can be done minutes before rest and that your body will be more prepared for better results if you rest fully. You may find that using a CD of inspirational music, mediations, or positive feedback will result in good rest and a sharper mind.

• Researching to find a mentor in person or online can help you stay on course.

• Daily affirmations regarding spiritual development, motivation, and peace of mind are recommended to feed both your mind and your spirit. Keep in mind that what you take in with your senses will produce either negative or positive results. If you truly want purposeful change you must change your habits.

• Listen and be aware spiritual messages can come in many forms. Spirit can speak to you directly if you feel an intuitive pressing that says pay attention then you need to take note. Write down what you feel, sense. If you keep getting this message at least 3 times it means that you are definitely receiving a message from spirit. Pay Attention!!

• Who are you choosing to associate with? Are these people working towards making their personal lives better, or do they complain and constantly say their life is rotten because of someone else, or some circumstance? It is important to be around like minded people who share your desire to create peace and well-being. You may find that you have to let go of some people even some relatives. It will not be easy as we do not generally like change, but if you are at that point in your life where you desire positive change; then spirit will send you friends and those who will help you with that change.

• Do not try to make all of these changes over night. I have found that it generally takes 21 days to make or break any habit. If you force yourself to fit into a new mold to quickly you will shatter into many fragmented pieces. Take small steps be kind and compassionate to yourself.

• Make sure to pay attention to your body as a whole. Mind, body and spirit all have importance, and all require balance. Good food, good information, and quiet time for spiritual learning are what it takes to become spiritually aware. Things you can do to help yourself along in these areas are:

1. Expose your mind to get thoughts by visiting web pages that are empowering, speak with people who are positive and willing to listen and offer perspective. Find a book or site with daily affirmations that resound in your spirit.

2. Learn about healthy foods and what is best for your body type. Take time to exercise. Get regular check ups, and follow doctors advice.

3. Learn new spiritual techniques that inspire you to grow, and teach others how to also be spiritually aware. It’s in the teaching that you find yourself learning more and more.

• Where do you want your life to go? Think on these things dream your life into reality. Give your dreams life by daily reminding yourself of how you see your life in the next 5 years. You must make a plan to get to where you are going otherwise you will not go beyond where you are now. Just as a plant needs sunlight, soil and water you also need to cultivate your dreams.

• Visualize in your minds eye where you want to go. In the psychic realm many visions come through in pictures learning how to develop this technique will help you bring what you need to move forward. Think on this everything you see in your surrounding space was first seen in someone’s mind. The concept of visualizing is not a whimsy magical thinking concept. You need to first think it to achieve it. Once you have this picture in your mind’s eye write it down, or draw it the best you can.

• If you have the time and it is available in your area find a psychic group. Joining together with like minded people will help you grow and learn things in which you may not by yourself. Keep going for as long as you find it useful. As with all things you can outgrow a group as well.

• Learn how to use energy for protection as you are learning how to become more aware it will be necessary to learn how to protect yourself from energies you may find unwanted. This all may sound very woooo wooo to you, but I assure you it is very real. You may decide that you want to carry a stone, or crystal with you which deflects unwanted energies, I suggest you use smokey quartz.

Smokey Quartz Gemstone meaning

Smokey quartz is nature’s stone of endurance. If you need an extra boost, carry a smokey quartz gemstone with you. It promotes:

• Personal pride and joy in living

• Creativity in business

• Opens the path for perception and learning

Smokey Quartz is a protection stone that cleanses and clears negative energy.

Smokey Quartz is a grounding stone that transmutes negative energies and facilitates your ability to get things done in the practical world. It enhances organizational skills and is good to have around in the workplace or home office.

Healing properties of Smokey Quartz

Smokey Quartz is connected with the sounds of the universe. It makes you more aware of sounds including telepathic sounds. Smokey Quartz helps relieve depression.

Understanding you inner voice

If you are new to the experience of becoming in tune with your inner voice and you find it difficult to trust your instincts the following information can give you some peace of mind and direction, and I have personally found that they work quite well.

• If you have the space clear out a room and use it solely for spiritual development this room should be considered your spiritual sanctuary. If you do not have the space for a full room a corner area that is free of clutter will do just fine. In this space you will meditate, read, and journal your spiritual growth.

• Before you retire for the night clear your thoughts of any of the days troubles. Understand that nothing can be done minutes before rest and that your body will be more prepared for better results if you rest fully. You may find that using a CD of inspirational music, mediations, or positive feedback will result in good rest and a sharper mind.

• Researching to find a mentor in person or online can help you stay on course.

• Daily affirmations regarding spiritual development, motivation, and peace of mind are recommended to feed both your mind and your spirit. Keep in mind that what you take in with your senses will produce either negative or positive results. If you truly want purposeful change you must change your habits.

• Listen and be aware spiritual messages can come in many forms. Spirit can speak to you directly if you feel an intuitive pressing that says pay attention then you need to take note. Write down what you feel, sense. If you keep getting this message at least 3 times it means that you are definitely receiving a message from spirit. Pay Attention!!

• Who are you choosing to associate with? Are these people working towards making their personal lives better, or do they complain and constantly say their life is rotten because of someone else, or some circumstance? It is important to be around like minded people who share your desire to create peace and well-being. You may find that you have to let go of some people even some relatives. It will not be easy as we do not generally like change, but if you are at that point in your life where you desire positive change; then spirit will send you friends and those who will help you with that change.

• Do not try to make all of these changes over night. I have found that it generally takes 21 days to make or break any habit. If you force yourself to fit into a new mold to quickly you will shatter into many fragmented pieces. Take small steps be kind and compassionate to yourself.

• Make sure to pay attention to your body as a whole. Mind, body and spirit all have importance, and all require balance. Good food, good information, and quiet time for spiritual learning are what it takes to become spiritually aware. Things you can do to help yourself along in these areas are:

1. Expose your mind to get thoughts by visiting web pages that are empowering, speak with people who are positive and willing to listen and offer perspective. Find a book or site with daily affirmations that resound in your spirit.

2. Learn about healthy foods and what is best for your body type. Take time to exercise. Get regular check ups, and follow doctors advice.

3. Learn new spiritual techniques that inspire you to grow, and teach others how to also be spiritually aware. It’s in the teaching that you find yourself learning more and more.

• Where do you want your life to go? Think on these things dream your life into reality. Give your dreams life by daily reminding yourself of how you see your life in the next 5 years. You must make a plan to get to where you are going otherwise you will not go beyond where you are now. Just as a plant needs sunlight, soil and water you also need to cultivate your dreams.

• Visualize in your minds eye where you want to go. In the psychic realm many visions come through in pictures learning how to develop this technique will help you bring what you need to move forward. Think on this everything you see in your surrounding space was first seen in someone’s mind. The concept of visualizing is not a whimsy magical thinking concept. You need to first think it to achieve it. Once you have this picture in your mind’s eye write it down, or draw it the best you can.

• If you have the time and it is available in your area find a psychic group. Joining together with like minded people will help you grow and learn things in which you may not by yourself. Keep going for as long as you find it useful. As with all things you can outgrow a group as well.

• Learn how to use energy for protection as you are learning how to become more aware it will be necessary to learn how to protect yourself from energies you may find unwanted. This all may sound very woooo wooo to you, but I assure you it is very real. You may decide that you want to carry a stone, or crystal with you which deflects unwanted energies, I suggest you use smokey quartz.

Smokey Quartz Gemstone meaning

Smokey quartz is nature’s stone of endurance. If you need an extra boost, carry a smokey quartz gemstone with you. It promotes:

• Personal pride and joy in living

• Creativity in business

• Opens the path for perception and learning

Smokey Quartz is a protection stone that cleanses and clears negative energy.

Smokey Quartz is a grounding stone that transmutes negative energies and facilitates your ability to get things done in the practical world. It enhances organizational skills and is good to have around in the workplace or home office.

Healing properties of Smokey Quartz

Smokey Quartz is connected with the sounds of the universe. It makes you more aware of sounds including telepathic sounds. Smokey Quartz helps relieve depression.

The Find Your Voice Process

It has taken me years to make this process simple, quick, and effective.

Here’s how to deal successfully with any physical or emotional challenge.  Spend just a few minutes a day, and as often as needed, taking yourself through the following three steps:

Step 1: Experience Your Challenge
First, stop trying to get rid of your challenge; that never works and is even counter-productive – – the harder you try to fix yourself, the stronger your challenge becomes. Instead, begin to focus deliberately on the experience of your pain, craving, fear, sadness, and so forth. Let yourself become fully aware of all your difficult thoughts, feelings, and sensations – – everything that’s part of your challenge. Then flow right into accepting your experience just as it is. And last, find some private way to express everything you’re thinking and feeling – – go ahead and say it all to yourself, write it down, act it out in your imagination. When you go deep inside and experience your challenge thoroughly and wholeheartedly, you learn what it feels like to be in touch with your true, authentic self, and this begins to empower the voice of your inner wisdom.

Step 2: Judge Your Challenge
Next, you need to deal constructively with your Inner Judge, that self-critical voice in your head that’s quick to blame you and punish you for your mistakes and imperfections- – even for being challenged at all. Poised in opposition to your true healing voice, your Inner Judge is the tireless voice of your social/family programming, and it’s been drilled into you for so long that there’s no getting rid of it. In fact, if you try to fight your Inner Judge, you only end up being more judgmental- – you are, in effect, judging  your Judge- – and this only gives it energy.  As in Step 1, the better way is to become aware of, to accept  and to express your Inner Judge. Only by embracing your Inner Judge and working with it can you relax this controlling, overanalyzing, never-satisfied, endlessly adversarial part of your mind.

Step 3: Resolve Your Challenge
Finally, as you experience and engage positively with all your pain and negativity- – as you embrace all the thoughts, feelings, and self-criticisms that are driving your challenge- – you find yourself spontaneously developing a new and more loving relationship with yourself. This new perspective on yourself naturally quiets the many strident voices of your challenge clashing in your mind, and almost immediately you begin to hear your true, authentic voice, your deep intuition, your TruSage. This voice is the real source of your healing power- – it’s where all your own best answers come from. And once you’re able to listen to your voice, you quickly and effortlessly imagine creative ways to resolving your challenge. It’s as if new ideas for health and happiness simply bubble up from your unconscious. And the more you listen, the more the craving, the pain, the fear- – whatever your challenge- – just dissolves away. It’s really quite a miracle. And I don’t use the world "miracle" very often.

That’s all there is to it: 1-2-3. In no time at all, you’ll be moving quickly through the process, feeling confident that you can manage your challenge, instead of having it manage you.   

The above is an excerpt from the book The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom by Dr. Brian Alman and Stephen Montgomery. The above excerpt is a digitally scanned reproduction of text from print. Although this excerpt has been proofread, occasional errors may appear due to the scanning process. Please refer to the finished book for accuracy.

 

Copyright © 2010 Dr. Brian Alman and Stephen Montgomery, author of The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom.


Author Bio

Dr. Brian Alman, author of The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom, is on of the world’s leading authorities on mental fitness and mind/body wellness. During his thirty years of private practice, he has coached and trained more than ten thousand people on quality-of-life issues such as weight loss, stress reduction, pain control, problem-solving, relief from addictions, and disease management. Through his company, TruSage International, Dr. Alman reaches many hundred thousand more. TruSage International i mind-body wellness company that helps clinics, hospitals, and specialists deliver high-quality, personalized follow-up through wireless technology.

Dr. Alman has worked with dozens of world-class organizations – – including Apple, Harvard Medical School, Kaiser Permanente, Kraft, Procter & Gamble, Sony Pictures, the University of California, and the University of Paris. He is the author of five books, including Six Steps to Freedom  and Keep it Off: Your Keys to Weight Loss for Life,  which was favorable reviewed by Deepak Chopra in the New York Times. Dr. Alman studied at Suffolk University in Boston and received a PhD in clinical psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology in San Diego. 

 

Stephen Montgomery, co-author of The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom,is the editor-in-chief of Prometheus Nemesis Book Company, the publishers of Dr. David Keirsey’s works on personality types and temperament styles. Montgomery has worked with Alman for twenty years and is the co-author of his most recent book, Keep It Off.

 

For more information please visit TruSage International or follow the author on Facebook and Twitter

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Repressing The Inner Voice: Giving Away Power

Giving away our power is something we have been taught since childhood by unaware adults in our lives.

In many ways, we are taught from the time we are children to give away our power to others. When we were told to kiss and hug relatives or friends of the family when we didn’t want to, for example, we were learning to override our inner sense of knowing and our right to determine for ourselves what we want to do. This repression continued, most likely, in many experiences at school and in situations at work. At this point, we may not even know how to hold on to our power, because giving it away is so automatic and ingrained.

To some degree, giving our energy to other people is simply part of the social contract, and we feel that we have to do it in order to survive. It is possible to exchange energy in a way that preserves our inner integrity and stability. This begins in a small way: by listening to the voice that continues to let us know what we want, no matter how many times we override its messages.

Other examples of how we give away our power are buying into trends, letting other people always make decisions for us, not voting, and not voicing an opinion when an inappropriate joke is made. But with not giving our power away we must also be aware of the opposite side, which is standing in our power but being aggressive. Being aggressive is a form of fear, and the remedy is to let our inner balance come back into play.

As we build a relationship with our power, and follow it, we begin to see that we don’t always have to do what we’re being asked to do by others, and we don’t have to jump on every trend. All we have to do is have the confidence to listen to our own voice and let it guide us as we make our own decisions in life and remember the necessity for balance.

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