As a mother of two kids who travels for work, our family has experienced a variety of hotels, motels and resorts over the years. My girls are now young adults and it is a very different world when it comes to choosing a great hotel to enjoy during out travels.
We have gone through phases, starting with the classic small, affordable hotel where amenities were not the most important considerations. The kids were small and we didn’t need much.
As they grew older we needed more activities, restaurants and overall space. And finding a location that provided nearby events and things to do was paramount to keeping kids entertained.
However, a major change happened around the ages of 17. Suddenly the typical resort locations became the least attractive option. Hotels became less of a place to sleep, play and hang out to something totally different.
I noticed my kids had 3 primary requirements they had to have in our accommodations and I was surprised to find these factors actually were not difficult to find. We just had to know where to look.Continue reading →
Pajamies are put on, yawns are in abundance, teeth are brushed and your child is finally ready for bed.Every evening you take your child through this ritual, but are you truly ready to create sacred space with your child at bedtime?Are there steps that you go through so that you don’t bring your daily stresses along with you before you tuck them in or read that beautiful bedtime story?Children are very sensitive to our moods and emotions.Let them know this time is special!Here are some tools to use using sacred sound and visualization that you can create in a few minutes!Continue reading →
Productive, confident adults…that is what we all hope our kids will develop into. There are very specific strategies that increase the odds of making that hope all parents have a reality, so let’s dive in.
Communication with Confidence
Empowering children with the skills of effective listening, self-advocacy, standing up for themselves, and the ability to communicate their needs, are some of the critical communication tools they will need from the preschool classroom to the boardroom.
These are the foundation skills of leadership development and can even prevent your child from being the victim of bullying and abuse.You want your kids to be able to say “No” to other peers or adults who may attempt to harm them.Practice with them through role plays, and show them how to be assertive, ask for what they want, and listen carefully to what others are saying. Continue reading →
Yesterday, when my daughters and I came home after school, I put on the live stream of Hillary Clinton testifying before the Benghazi hearings.
I’m not sure if they were 6, 7 or 8 hours into grilling Hillary Clinton yet, but at that particular moment, a Republican congressman was shouting at her. My girls watched, first with horror and then laughing – who is that man? (Actually, my 11 year old daughter asked “Who is that crazy man?”) As he continued to give his own theory on Hillary Clinton’s actions around Benghazi, my 8th grader, who has done mock trials in Elementary and Middle School, asked if that is how a hearing is supposed to go – are you supposed to make up someone else’s story? Or, are you supposed to ask questions, listen, and gather information, facts?
But it was Hillary’s demeanor – calm, collected, in control – that made the most dramatic impression on my daughters and me.
She listened. She reviewed her notes. She didn’t attack.
She smiled as a panel in front of her berated her with nonsensical questions. She acted like a seasoned world leader.
Here are a few life lessons that my girls and I talked about after the debate:Continue reading →
Last night, my 13-year old daughter asked me what was the latest in Syria. In our family, we regularly talk about world events — whether it is the circus of the US pre-election cycle (during the first Republican debate, they gasped when Donald Trump reference Rosie O’donnell as a “fat pig, slob, dog”), the #BlackLivesMatter movement and the numerous incidents related to it, the situation in the Middle East, or the latest research on the importance of sleep (truly, I talk to my kids often about this as I want them to understand how important it is!)
I was telling the girls (Leela, my younger daughter is 11) about the refugee crisis in Europe, and how the image of the 3-year old little Syrian boy, Aylan Kurdi, who drowned while the boat his family was escaping on capsized, moved hearts in a way that shifted inaction, not just of governments, but of everyday people as well. The girls asked what image… So I pulled it up, warning them it was difficult to see. Tara hesitated a moment before looking, anticipating that perhaps indeed this was something she didn’t want to see. But, I watched as she looked with determination.Continue reading →
If you want to give your kids an edge in life, teach them to perform under pressure. Doing so will be more helpful than giving them an SAT tutor, tennis lessons, or sending them to Europe to broaden their cultural awareness.
The fact is, most kids crumble under pressure —they perform below their capabilities when they want to do their best.I learned this truth while researching my latest NY Times Best Seller, Performing Under Pressure.
Whether it’s taking the SATs, auditioning for a school play, trying out for the tennis team, or having to play their guitar at a family gathering, pressure is apt to worsen your kid’s performance.Memory, attention, judgment, decision making, psychomotor skills are all downgraded when they are in a pressure moment—a situation in which they have something at stake and the outcome is dependent on their performance.Continue reading →
Teens. Social media. Spirituality. Staying connected.
They are just some of the many things parents encounter when raising children and it can be overwhelming and messy.
Recently, Mallika Chopra had the opportunity to sit down with the Kids in the House team to share her experiences and wisdom gained from raising two young daughters. They filmed a short series of videos to encourage parents who are parenting teens through stress, spirituality and social media. Continue reading →
I could always tell when my mom was there to pick me up from school.
I knew the sound of her keys and the sound of her car.
I knew the sound of her heels on the sidewalk.
At no point had we ever done any training on the jingling of keys or car engines. I just knew from the time I spent with her. I knew what she sounded like when she walked because of the amount of times I’d walked with her.
It can be easy for parental duties to be just that- duties.
You are responsible for every meal, the plan for every minute, all entertainment, all boogeymen, all of it. It is a big job. But don’t doubt that your children are taking in more than that. Continue reading →
We are big fans of Dr. Shefali Tsabary and all she does to support parents and families to be the best they can. Recently Mallika Chopra sat down with her to speak about living with intent, Dr. Shefali’s book “The Conscious Parent” and issues facing parents today. That interview will be available soon, but we wanted to introduce our Intent family to resources that may be helpful in their journey to building happy families! Continue reading →
With the Olympics wrapping up it is time to look forward to the next worldwide television event – the 86th Academy Awards. The Oscars will be airing March 2. Don’t worry, that’s obviously ages away and we have plenty of time to catch up on all the nominated films before the ceremony airs…Wait. February is a short month. The Oscars are next Sunday! Crap! I haven’t seen anything in theaters since Her! (Which is a phenomenal movie, by the way. Joaquin Phoenix kills it and it brings all the feelings.)
There is obviously not enough time to get to the theater to see everything. Honestly, it’s a little unfair to nominate nine films for best picture and expect people to get to all of them anyway. But don’t worry. The fine folks at Cinefix have found the best way for you to be in the know for the ceremony in under five minutes – and cute kids are involved! They’ve compiled a medley of scenes from the nominated films and had them acted out by adorable primary schoolers. It is pretty ambitious considering one of the films, The Wolf of Wall Street has the Guiness World Record for most f-bombs in a movie – 506 times, averaging 2.81 times a minute. They also pick the only scene in 12 Years a Slave the producers felt comfortable re-enacting with kids (the very end spoiler alert).
It’s actually unfortunate that none of them had seen Philomena. The joke was great but it would have been even better to see one of those kids try to pull of a Dame Judy Dench. Oh well, we should be able to make it through one movie before next Sunday, right? If not we’ll just let there be a little bit of mystery to the proceedings.
What did you think of the video? Are you planning to watch the big show? Leave us your thoughts in the comments below!