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Worried You’re Missing Out? 3 Steps to Battle FOMO

Do you ever have a fear of missing out? I’ll admit that from time to time I get a bad case of FOMO. In this video I share my spiritual tips for working through the fear of missing out. First you need to accept that if the timing isn’t right at the current moment that the opportunity or a greater one will come around again. Next you have to settle into the idea that if you’re meant to be somewhere, even if you say no, that you will inevitably get there. The last step is to stop obsessing about it. Once you have turned something down you have to let it go to truly be at peace with the decision. I’ll also help you accept that when something doesn’t work out as planned it’s because something far greater is coming.

Gabrielle Bernstein: Are You Overspiritualizing?

I often witness friends and clients overspiritualize their issues without dealing with them in an honest way. Some folks throw affirmations over their problems without getting to the root cause of their discomfort, while others spend hours talking about forgiveness with no real desire to let go. In this video I’ll help you get honest about how you handle your feelings and give you a concrete tool for truly moving through your issues.

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Feeling inspired? Check out my other recent videos:

How to Release Pain

Mind Over Medicine – How to De-Stress

How to Handle Negative Comments

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Experience Your Good Now!

Louise Hay is one of the grande dames of metaphysics.

I first encountered her work in the early 80s when she was one of the few spiritual teachers who walked toward the AIDS crisis. Her message then was simple: self-hatred will never do; self-love is the answer. She was right then, and she is right now.

The 84 year old doyenne has a new book out–Experience Your Good Now! Always a good reminder. She has written a power-packed small book on the wonders and privileges of the use of affirmations.

According to Ms. Hay, "an affirmation is anything you say or think." She teaches that we have the power to choose our thoughts and our words. An affirmation "will either help eliminate something from your life or help create something new in your life." I got my start as a spiritual teacher doing workshops about how to do affirmations. They’ve worked for me for decades.

Affirmations help you "change the way you think and talk." And some of us really need to do just that. Let’s pause for a moment. Consider these questions:

  • Do you hear yourself when you speak to others?
  • What tone of voice do you use?
  • What’s your intention?
  • How’s your delivery?
  • Now, how do you speak to yourself?

Consistent, feeling use of affirmations creates an atmosphere in which growth can flourish. The key is to use them consistently and with feeling. There is a CD which comes with this small book. She recommends that readers listen to it for 30 days.

The best part of this book is that Ms. Hay tackles areas of life that affect us all and creates template affirmations for each one: Health, Fearful Emotions, Critical Thinking, Addictions, Forgiveness, Work, Money and Prosperity, Friends, Love and Intimacy, and Aging. Her affirmations are wonderfully phrased and effective.

Here’s one that spoke to me because I live with a chronic disease. "I release the need in me that has created this situation." I must confess that I’ve done an awful lot of work on the disease. I understand where it came from, and why I carry it, and although I’ve been able to make a real difference in my experience of the illness through spiritual work, I haven’t been able to get rid of it. (The doctors say it’s impossible! I don’t believe that.) So her affirmation grabbed me where I live! I have some idea of what the need in me is that created this situation, but I don’t really need to know that to release it. Believe me, I’m affirming all over the place. Consistently and with feeling.

Another affirmation at the end of her chapter on Healing spoke to me as well. "I give myself permission to be well." Period. No qualifications. Interestingly, this idea gives me permission to be well — whether I get rid of the disease or not!

At the end of each chapter, she gives a "treatment" for that area of life. In some scientific traditions, a treatment is what they call prayer. Her treatment for Money and Prosperity ends: "All is well in my prosperous world." It’s so nice to claim prosperity both for myself and for the world.

In 28 years as a spiritual director and counselor, people often ask me where they can study "Advanced Metaphysics". I usually laugh. "There is no such thing," I say. "In metaphysics, we’re all beginners all the time."

It could be argued that Ms. Hay’s book is for beginners. Affirmations are often a way that people begin to approach their own minds as mutable. Louise Hay has been teaching affirmations for at least 30 years. In her book, they are as fresh as when I first learned of them. No matter if you’re an old consciousness cutie or a baby-stepper, this book is a precious reminder that what we think about we bring about — and we need that more than ever now.

 

For spiritual nourishment, visit Dr. Susan Corso’s website and blog, Seeds for Sanctuary. Follow her on Twitter @PeaceCorso and Friend her on Facebook. And discover your own Inner Peace at, To Me Peace Is … What is Peace to You?

Do You Believe in Guidance?

I’m not just talking about intuitive guidance. I’m talking about angels and spirit guides. Yes, I’m going there.

In getting ready to attend the I Can Do It! conference in San Diego in a couple of weeks, I spoke with Sonia Choquette, Ph.D, one of the conference presenters. Sonia is world-renowned author, healer, intuitive guide and spiritual teacher. She is best known for her workshops and books on connecting people with their guidance systems, including angels and spirit guides. She defines angels as “light beings that meet you at the first breath, assist you and walk with you throughout life, and walk you back to heaven at your last breath.”

Sonia told me that 30 years ago most people perceived her as a nut, a kook, a weirdo, and a deviant. Now, she says, she is being invited to speak at business conferences, at universities, in hospital groups, and church groups.

 

Could angel guidance be moving from marginalization to mainstream?

In my own case, I feel confident now to admit that I have dabbled in spirit and angel guidance over the years. This is something that I have kept mostly to myself because of not wanting to be marginalized. As a non-religious person, but a very spiritually-oriented one, I have relied upon my intuition and occasional assistance from my “helpers” to guide the way. I have noticed that the more I tune into and acknowledge my guides, the more assistance they provide.

“We are now beginning to recognize and even hear from people that we have great respect for – scientists and doctors and philosophers — that say that there really is actually more consciousness to be accessed and to tune into than just our strict intellectual dialogue,”  says Sonia.

 

So how do you open up to guidance if you’ve never done it before? (Or if you already have, how do you open up more?)

Sonia suggests a four-step plan.

Step one. Be open to it. This is the most important step. Most people who aren’t receiving guidance aren’t open to the idea that it’s available. Being open to it is like turning on the radio. Being open to it accesses a part of your consciousness that is receptive … your right brain.

Step two. Expect guidance. Take a little more definitive and risky choice and actually expect that guidance will come.

Step three. Invite guidance in. Guidance will come through your heart. When you want guidance, take a deep breath and let out the sound “HA” because it opens the heart. You can literally feel the opening.  It also opens the throat, and it relaxes the mind. Put your hand right on your heart. Pose the question that you are seeking guidance on. Then, without hesitation, answer out loud: “My heart says …”  Just be curious about what pops out. There’s your guidance.

Step four. Act on it. Then your life will transform.

Tip: When you receive guidance or synchronicity in your life, instead of treating it as something peculiar or bizarre, talk about it positively. Try saying: “The most beautiful thing came through today. I can’t explain it, but I’ll take it.”

While angel and spirit guidance may still sound marginal to some, you can think of it this way: “We have our national guards, our policemen, our volunteer crew, our army, and our navy. We have many levels of support in the human experience, and we have that same pantheon of support in the Divine realm as well,” says Sonia.

It may be fun to give the four-step guidance plan a try. Why not see what happens?

Sonia Choquette will be teaching at the I Can Do It! 2010 conference in San Diego, May 14 – 16. Click here for more information.

Tabby Biddle, M.S. Ed., is a writer and editor dedicated to amplifying the voices of women changemakers. She works with women on their books, businesses, and other inspired projects — helping them use their authentic voice to heal, transform, and empower others. She lives in Santa Monica, CA.

Fearless Women

For many women, what holds us back boils down to this: Will I be loved if I become everything that I am meant to be? Maybe it’s the fear that we can’t be strong and taken care of at the same time. Maybe it’s simply the fear of looking stupid from making a mistake as we come into our power. Or maybe it’s the collective memory of witches being burned at the stake for owning their power. I know in my case, all have applied.

In talks with numerous women, I have found that there are many of us whose inner wisdom tells us that we are so much more than we are allowing ourselves to be, but we are still holding back. Even though we want to change the world for the better, we shrink when all eyes turn on us.

Christiane Northrup, MD, writes in her bestselling book, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, “We can’t create a new world if we believe that we must remain small and ineffective on any level in order for others to love us or for them to feel safe around us.” Although this book was originally published in 1994, Christiane’s words still certainly apply.

What I have come to discover is that each time a woman shares her truth about her insecurities, questions, doubts, addictions, abuse, etc. — and as well shares the truth about her joys, ecstasies, discoveries, mystical experiences, spiritual beliefs, and feelings of power – it heals another woman.

Haven’t you ever wondered why almost every year at the New York Marathon a new runner sets a record, or at each Olympics the athletes seem to be breaking records left and right?

Rupert Sheldrake, an innovative British biologist and author, has an answer for this. He posits that when an athlete breaks a record, it opens the door for other athletes to break the record. He explains this in terms what he calls morphogenic fields. These are electromagnetic fields that are said to contain knowledge of all the earth’s past. Sheldrake explains that the morphogenic around the world record is changed by the first person who breaks it, thus making it easier for others to equal that performance by tapping into the new morphogenic field.

Pretty cool stuff.

So in the same way, as Dr. Northrup suggests in her book, when a woman finds the courage to come out of silence on an issue — be it food, sex, money, relationships, health, spirituality, etc., — she too is breaking the collective morphogenic field of shame, fear and pain. In other words, each time a woman speaks her truth, it makes other women stronger.

“Breaking the silence takes courage. I know of no woman who has tapped her inner source of power without going through an almost palpable veil of fear, often feeling as though her very life would be threatened by telling the truth,” says Dr. Northrup in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.

I know for myself I have been silent on issues ranging from money (not asking for help when I needed it because I was embarrassed about not being ‘perfect’), to silent rage about being treated as second fiddle to the male gender, to owning my own power as an intuitive healer and modern day medicine woman.

Step by step, my voice is opening and my power is expanding. It has taken the courage of other women to speak their truth such as Christiane Northrup, Louise Hay, Debbie Ford, Caroline Myss, Barbara Stanny, Christiane Amanpour, Clarisssa Pinkola Estes, my dear friend Lotta Alsen, and other incredible women to help me break through my own silence and own who I am.

What it is that you have been silent on in your life?

Write about it. Talk about it. Create art based on it.

The point is that whether it’s sharing your truth with a friend at coffee, blogging about it on the Internet, talking with your family, writing a poem, writing a book, making a film, or starting up a business or organization with a cause-based mission – each time you share your truth (and by this I mean your deepest inner knowing), you help another woman to heal. And it’s this one by one healing that takes it global.

“We believe women are the healers of the planet. In order to heal, we must embrace the powerful women that we are,” says Mary Ann Halpin, photographer for the groundbreaking photo essay book, Fearless Women.

Who’s ready?!

Fearless Women

For many women, what holds us back boils down to this: Will I be loved if I become everything that I am meant to be? Maybe it’s the fear that we can’t be strong and taken care of at the same time. Maybe it’s simply the fear of looking stupid from making a mistake as we come into our power. Or maybe it’s the collective memory of witches being burned at the stake for owning their power. I know in my case, all have applied.

In talks with numerous women, I have found that there are many of us whose inner wisdom tells us that we are so much more than we are allowing ourselves to be, but we are still holding back. Even though we want to change the world for the better, we shrink when all eyes turn on us.

Christiane Northrup, MD, writes in her bestselling book, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, “We can’t create a new world if we believe that we must remain small and ineffective on any level in order for others to love us or for them to feel safe around us.” Although this book was originally published in 1994, Christiane’s words still certainly apply.

What I have come to discover is that each time a woman shares her truth about her insecurities, questions, doubts, addictions, abuse, etc. — and as well shares the truth about her joys, ecstasies, discoveries, mystical experiences, spiritual beliefs, and feelings of power – it heals another woman.

Haven’t you ever wondered why almost every year at the New York Marathon a new runner sets a record, or at each Olympics the athletes seem to be breaking records left and right?

Rupert Sheldrake, an innovative British biologist and author, has an answer for this. He posits that when an athlete breaks a record, it opens the door for other athletes to break the record. He explains this in terms what he calls morphogenic fields. These are electromagnetic fields that are said to contain knowledge of all the earth’s past. Sheldrake explains that the morphogenic around the world record is changed by the first person who breaks it, thus making it easier for others to equal that performance by tapping into the new morphogenic field.

Pretty cool stuff.

So in the same way, as Dr. Northrup suggests in her book, when a woman finds the courage to come out of silence on an issue — be it food, sex, money, relationships, health, spirituality, etc., — she too is breaking the collective morphogenic field of shame, fear and pain. In other words, each time a woman speaks her truth, it makes other women stronger.

“Breaking the silence takes courage. I know of no woman who has tapped her inner source of power without going through an almost palpable veil of fear, often feeling as though her very life would be threatened by telling the truth,” says Dr. Northrup in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.

I know for myself I have been silent on issues ranging from money (not asking for help when I needed it because I was embarrassed about not being ‘perfect’), to silent rage about being treated as second fiddle to the male gender, to owning my own power as an intuitive healer and modern day medicine woman.

Step by step, my voice is opening and my power is expanding. It has taken the courage of other women to speak their truth such as Christiane Northrup, Louise Hay, Debbie Ford, Caroline Myss, Barbara Stanny, Christiane Amanpour, Clarisssa Pinkola Estes, my dear friend Lotta Alsen, and other incredible women to help me break through my own silence and own who I am.

What it is that you have been silent on in your life?

Write about it. Talk about it. Create art based on it.

The point is that whether it’s sharing your truth with a friend at coffee, blogging about it on the Internet, talking with your family, writing a poem, writing a book, making a film, or starting up a business or organization with a cause-based mission – each time you share your truth (and by this I mean your deepest inner knowing), you help another woman to heal. And it’s this one by one healing that takes it global.

“We believe women are the healers of the planet. In order to heal, we must embrace the powerful women that we are,” says Mary Ann Halpin, photographer for the groundbreaking photo essay book, Fearless Women.

Who’s ready?!

Your Most Trusted Advisor

I consider my body my most trusted advisor. I think it assimilates information from the Universe that I can’t understand fully at first. You see, I know the Universe wants my best life, but sometimes I don’t heed its advice – sometimes I’m convinced I don’t even hear it.

It’s like Oprah says: Life sends you messages – first it will put a pebble in your path, then a rock, and then a brick wall. If I don’t hear the plink of the pebble, the rock shows up – usually as a bodily symptom. I pay attention because I really want to avoid hitting that brick wall.

If I ignore my body’s messages, it’s capable of great drama. In fact, I’ve seen my body produce some Oscar-worthy performances.

I work as a nurse-midwife in a hospital. I consult with physicians when I am caring for a woman who is considered high-risk and occasionally I don’t agree with the physician’s plan for managing a particular case.

One night I told a doctor that I was disinclined to follow his plan and he responded by saying, “That’s why I’m here, to tell you what to do.” Those weren’t his exact words, but you get the point.

I knew the doctor’s plan was not going to cause harm and I didn’t want further conflict, so I followed his orders. Within a few hours I lost my voice. My throat hurt and I couldn’t speak above a whisper.

As soon as I got home I looked up laryngitis in my well-worn copy of Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. I believe the book provides clues to understanding the messages underlying an illness or imbalance in your body. If you decipher these messages and, more importantly, act on them by changing your thinking, you will improve your life.

For laryngitis she writes that the probable cause is “So mad you can’t speak. Fear of speaking up. Resentment of authority.” I was struck by the truth of this: I was mad. I had been afraid to speak up to the doctor. And I resented that he didn’t seem to value my expertise.

The new thought pattern she offers is “I am free to ask for what I want. It is safe to express myself. I am at peace.” I applied this new thought to my mind like a healing balm and got my voice back quickly after that.

The affirmation also helped me gain insight into the fact that I don’t need to compel the doctors to agree with me or even to see my side. All I can do is use my best judgment and present a plan of care. And trust that all is well.

For me, being at peace means that my worth is not predicated on others valuing me. I value me.

Since that epiphany I’ve had other differences of opinion with my physician colleagues but I haven’t had that sense that my value as a practitioner was diminished. And I’ve never lost my voice again.

Many of my coaching clients are women in their middle years and a common issue is insomnia. We all know that there are lots of suggestions for how to improve your sleep through better habits – like eliminating caffeine, increasing magnesium, exercise, routine bedtimes and getting acupuncture. All of these strategies address the hormonal changes that come with menopause.

But insomnia is often a way our body clues us into a deeper truth about ourselves. Christiane Northrup, M.D., in her excellent The Wisdom of Menopause, writes that insomnia and fatigue are frequently “the result of unprocessed and unresolved emotions such as anger, sadness, or anxiety,” which accompany the enormous changes of midlife.

She encourages her readers to identify the emotions that challenge them and look for their underlying meanings. Are you anxious about a daughter getting into her preferred college? Do you feel guilty about the things that haven’t gotten done in a day? Do you feel resentful that everything seems to depend on you?

Louise Hay’s affirmation for insomnia is “I lovingly release the day and slip into peaceful sleep, knowing tomorrow will take care of itself.” When you have good sleep “hygiene,” when you address the probable causes – and when you release the negative emotions that occupy your waking life – you will, most likely, find yourself able to sleep like a baby.

You don’t need a copy of Louise Hay’s or Christiane Northrup’s books (although I highly recommend them!) because all you really need to know is that if you ignore the wisdom available to you, your body can create a painful drama.

On the other hand, the Universe wants you to know that you are worthy of love and respect and you can have a life filled with health, happiness, connection and joy – you just have to listen.

Do you think your body – your most trusted advisor – may be trying to tell you something right now?

How to Fall in Love with Your Child… Or Anyone Else

As a lifelong (so far) single person, I may seem an unlikely person to write about the joys of falling in love. The whole process of becoming – and remaining – part of a happily married couple is still a bit of a mystery to me. 

However, as the frequently doting (my mother says besotted) and always devoted parent of two children, I can attest that the beautiful experience of “falling in love” is not limited to intimate, adult relationships.  

I fall in love with my children regularly. 

When they were babies, this happened automatically. They were cute, they appreciated me and their natural inclination was to snuggle. Now that they are pre-teens in the early throes of puberty, it takes a little conscious effort. 

It’s still worth it.
   
My methods may not bring Prince Charming to your doorstep, but if you would like to fall in love (again?) with someone who is already a special part of your life, here is my prescription:
       
1. Love Yourself First
    
It has been said in a thousand different ways, but bears repeating: How can you possibly hope to love someone else, if you cannot access the love inside you?
    
You can’t.
    
So, check your own love bucket. Is it full? Take some quiet moments and honestly assess how you feel about yourself – your body, your personality, your talents and accomplishments, successes and failures. Your quirks. Your eternal spirit.
    
Are you in love?
    
If not, I ask you to trust me when I say that you can be. Please, please get yourself a copy of Louise Hays’ classic, You Can Heal Your Life. This is truly the gift that keeps on giving. With it, you can learn how to finally appreciate the marvelous, perfectly imperfect creation that is you.
    
Take good care of yourself – fall in love – and you will attract and spread love endlessly.
      
2. Open Your Heart and Put Out the Welcome Mat
   
Okay, now it’s time to make room for someone else in your heart. Whether it is your child, your spouse or that extremely annoying co-worker in the office down the hall, it can be done.   

– First, breathe deeply… in through your nose, out through your mouth. Repeat.

– Close your eyes and imagine that you are breathing in through your heart… right into the middle of your chest. Feel it. Believe it.

– Picture something that makes you feel amazing… something really awe-inspiring, like your first view of the Grand Canyon. Or the birth of your child. Keep breathing into your heart.

– Now, think of your child (or any other person you choose to fall in love with today.) Picture them happy and joyful, carefree and open to all that life has to offer. See and feel the love radiating from them. If you can, reclaim a wonderful memory of the two of you together. If not, simply create a beautiful picture of a future loving moment between the two of you.

– Take some time to talk to this person in your heart. Tell them all the wonderful things you see in them, now that you are looking with a clear perspective. Enjoy this other wonderful, perfectly imperfect being, who was created in love – just like you.

– Go ahead, fall in love.      

3. Practice, Practice, Practice
    
Some people are very easy to fall in love with. Others… well they seem to fight you, don’t they?
   
Just keep in mind that the person who seems to be making it hardest to fall in love with them, might be the one having the most trouble loving themselves.
   
If one of these people is your child, or your spouse – or even that annoying co-worker – you just might be able to help them experience the abundant love that is already inside of them. Practice step #2 regularly.
   
And when you are with your loved one in person, practice seeing all their beauty, love, sorrow and pain. Appreciate the wonderful, unique, crazy, exasperating, growing, evolving creation that is your child.
   
Go ahead, fall in love.  
 
     
Recommended Reading:

Louise Hays’ You Can Heal Your Life is a perennial best-seller for good reason. If you haven’t already gifted yourself with this simple, wonderful book, maybe now’s the time. Enjoy!

   
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For more ways to get in touch with the love in your relationships, check out “7 Ways to Make Peace with Your Child.”

The Anti-Affirmation

 

NYTI have heard it said over and over in the personal growth world that in order to reach your potential, you must “embrace your dark side,” or “shadow.” What the heck does this mean? I thought for years. What dark side?

Little by little I would step a toe into what I thought was my “dark side,” but I was navigating through uncharted territory and I would inevitably turn back.

Instead, I found my way to positive affirmations through the wise women teachers Louise Hay, Anodea Judith and Caroline Myss. This seemed like a gentler approach to waking my potential. I liked the idea of overriding old programming that said, “You can’t do it,” “You’re not good enough,” and “You’re just a girl,” with “I can do it!” “I am good enough,” and “I am proud to be a girl!” This all seemed liked a worthy pursuit and revealed hints of working, but I have to admit never felt like I was getting down to the root of things.

Then more recently I heard someone say, “If you want to manifest your full potential you have to reclaim the parts of yourself that you’ve denied, hidden or given away to others.” Could they be referring to our “shadow” I wondered?

The person who said this was Debbie Ford, author, teacher and faculty at the Chopra Center in La Jolla,Debbie Ford California. “We might not like all of our disowned parts, but acknowledging them to ourselves (and maybe even others) is a huge step toward owning our potential,” she says.

But how do we figure out what are the disowned parts of ourselves?

One method, according to Debbie, is to first look at all the qualities that upset you in other people. The idea here is that what we dislike in others is actually a projection of the parts of ourselves that we have disowned.

I thought to myself…how many times have I called someone (in my mind) – lame, boring, phony, annoying, overbearing, stingy, greedy, manipulative, mean – and a whole host of other “undesirable” adjectives? Was I actually pointing a finger at myself?

Yikes!

“If we embrace it internally, we no longer have to create it externally.”
— Debbie Ford

Although skeptical at first about owning things for myself that I did not like about other people, I decided to consider Ms. Ford’s idea.

Here’s a method she uses in her seminars:

She asks participants to write down five words that they wouldn’t want used to describe them in the newspaper. Once they’ve got these words, she has them partner up for a mirroring exercise that looks like this: Say one of your charged words was “shameful,” you would look your partner in the eyes and say, “I am shameful.” Your partner would mirror back to you, “You are shameful.” Then you would repeat, “I am shameful,” and your partner would repeat, “You are shameful.” This continues until it no longer matters to you if you are shameful or if you are called shameful. You work with your partner until each one of you no longer has any emotional charge on any of your five “disowned” words. Wow, could this really work?

Having been a part of the affirmation generation, I wondered if by going around saying, “I am shameful,” — would actually be a wiring recipe for negative self-imaging and quite the opposite of helping someone expand into their potential.

Apparently not, according to Debbie, “Just saying the word out loud, over and over, breaks down our resistance to being called that word and to having that quality.” In other words, it loses its energy and grip on our life.

I haven’t taken one of her seminars yet, but I went ahead and tried another method she suggested. You can do it on your own. The old stand-by…go to the mirror and say the words to yourself out loud. I did just that and while unsure at the start, I was surprised to feel the words lose their charge and felt a sense of liberation!

What are five things you wouldn’t want to see written about you in the newspaper? Are you willing to own them? (Or at least look in the mirror and say them over and over?)

What Are Your Most Powerful Affirmations?

Attention Conscious Parents: Maybe it’s time to share the teachings of Louise Hay with your children. Affirmations can be a powerful tool for every member of the family!

So, we were running just a bit behind schedule this morning.

Mom: "Hurry up, you’re going to miss the bus!"

Son (brushing teeth at a snail’s pace): "I am hurrying."

Mom: "You need to move faster, if you don’t want to miss the bus."

Son (putting on jacket at the speed of pudding rolling uphill): "I’m coming."

As we drove(?) at top speed to the bus stop down the street, I suddenly heard the following, coming from the back seat of the minivan:

"I will make my bus. I will make my bus. I will make my bus."

And guess what? He made the bus.

My children have really embraced the use of affirmations. They would not recognize the term "Law of Attraction" – or even "affirmation" for that matter – but they are definitely grooving to the whole concept of conscious creation.

Ever since my younger son "manifested" an iPod Touch for Christmas, he is convinced that he can pretty much do anything. Thankfully, he is using his new-found powers wisely.

We’ll see how it goes.

In the meantime, affirmations have been a part of my daily life for years.

My introduction was via Shakti Gawain’s classic, Creative Visualization. Ever since reading it, I’ve always had some sort of personal prayer – stated in the positive, present tense – that described my vision for my life. I would repeat this prayer while driving to work each morning. Sometimes, I would write it down in my journal.

On tough days, I might copy it over two or three times.

Looking back over the years, I am still amazed at how often elements in my prayers have come to pass. For example, I struggled with weight gain from the time I hit the age of forty. For years, I would repeat,"I am exercising and eating wisely and my weight is stable at one hundred and thirty pounds."

Let’s just say that I was no where near my goal weight and nothing seemed to work.

Then, about eighteen months ago, I started having digestive problems. After much trial and error, I settled on the Body Ecology Diet as a means to heal myself. Guess what? The pounds melted away.

Now, no matter what I do or eat, my scale just won’t budge from one hundred and thirty pounds.

Anyhoo.

I like affirmations, despite the abuse they sometimes take from sketch comedy shows. They work for me.

When I discovered Louise Hay’s marvelous You Can Heal Your Life, it was like the missing piece to a puzzle. Linking physical illness, emotional injury and the healing power of affirmations, Louise truly helped me get on my personal path to wellness.

Now I repeat affirmations all the time – I copy some from Louise and write my own as well. And I have a personal favorite.

"I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now, doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing."

The past couple years of my life have been filled with change on every level. Some days I feel lost, discouraged or even desperate. On those days, when I am feeling especially low, I will suddenly remember to use my "power" affirmation.

"I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now, doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing."

I guess affirmations are a personal thing. On some days, you need to be able to believe that you have found your own particular path through the universe.

On others, you just need to make the bus.

 

Conscious Parenting Resources:

Louise Hay has developed a children’s book: I Think I Am! Teaching Affirmations to Children.   

We also like this CD, Positive Thoughts for Children.

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