February 14th is a day we hold synonymous with love and romance. We plan dates, write love letters, and celebrate our other half, but when was the last time you checked in with yourself? Would you even know if you were not treating yourself well?
When it comes to checking in on your own love and well being, here are some honest questions to ask yourself to hone in on whether or not you are giving yourself the time and attention needed: Continue reading →
Are you that girl nobody can believe is still single… to the point it’s getting really annoying to hear that again and again?
You have a great career, wonderful friends, cool hobbies and a full life. You are fun, smart, hot, independent and accomplished, yet – no serious takers in the romantic department.
You can’t help but wonder: where here are all the great men? Taken? Busy exploring some remote wilderness or saving hungry children? Do they even exist?
You are a great catch, yet men either don’t stick around or simply can’t keep up with you. Most can’t get enough of you at first, but that quickly wears out and they disappear without a trace.
One day they’re crazy about you, the next they’re ignoring your messages.
You got used to rejection, but it still stings. It’s hard not to take it personally. Maybe you need to tone it down, hide your qualities and accomplishments, talk less?
What if men don’t want to date a woman who has it all sorted out? Are they just looking for damsels in distress? No matter how confident you are, doubt creeps in. What if there is something wrong with you? What if nobody will love you just the way you are?Continue reading →
Be honest, do you go out with a man a couple of times and you imagine (or hope) that he is your next boyfriend or husband?
You’re daydreaming about a meaningful, long-term relationship with your new guy. He wants to date around, hang out with his buddies and drink beer. When a man senses a woman is eager for a committed relationship, he will pull away to protect his freedom.
Women, who are hard-wired to get married, look at every man they date as possibly “The One.” When they are smitten on a guy, they fantasize and romanticize of a possible relationship. They’re too nice, too accommodating and too available. They over-analyze and obsess over his intentions and when a romantic connection doesn’t happen, they feel disheartened and rejected.
Men, on the other hand, take dating in stride. They assume little about a woman, the outcome of the evening or the future of a relationship. They continue to date other women and they focus on their friends, work and hobbies.
While women irrationally fixate on one man (typically the wrong man) and they get their hearts broken, men (who are dating casually) put their needs first, they think things through and they are slow to commit.
Want to date like a man and gain a man’s respect and serious pursuit? Here’s how:Continue reading →
Oftentimes, there’s a common misconception that introverts are painfully shy, awkward or simply unsocial. However, this is not the case. Many introverts will surprise you with their witty repertoire. It is worth the wait.
Maybe, as an introvert, you don’t feel comfortable around large groups of people, but are the social planner for your small network of friends. Maybe you simply need “me” time to recharge cuddling up with a book, watching Netflix, or coloring that painfully detailed adult coloring book, in lieu of hanging out with others. Or maybe you are one of the shy introverts who prefers to remain to herself.
We are all uniquely ourselves, even if we may have tendencies on one side of the spectrum.
Fear has prevented me from living true to myself and from taking prudent risks. But fear is a broad catchall for other negative emotions.Fear is based on future outcomes that, in most cases, do not occur. We tend to separate emotions of anger, hate, jealousy, betrayal, resentment, sadness, hurt, and discontent from fear. Yet, all are tentacles of the same root cause: fear.
This pattern has pulled me away from honest self-expression, meaningful exchanges of love and compassion while also limiting my leadership ability and catalyzing a life governed more by the incessant false ego than the universal gift of love in all its magnificent possibilities. The outcome is living well below my full capacity as a friend, partner, professional, father, husband, lover, and contributing member of my community.
I recall my shyness as a young boy, feeling insecure that I would be left behind. It was not until well into my adulthood that I understood that this fear was attached to my being given up for adoption. The fear manifested in my creating a life of falsehood.Creating a safe haven where the real Michael was hidden became a primary objective, for to open that door would show me as unlovable and someone to be cast aside.After failed marriages, less than desirable professional outcomes and lethal addiction, I realized the fallacy of my life’s journey. The change came as a result of slowly tearing away the fearful foundation upon which I had constructed my reality. Continue reading →
What do we do with it all? How do we navigate it all? An even bigger question- where do we look for wisdom when it comes to answering the big questions of life?
“Inspired by the idea that one of the greatest gifts one generation can give to another is the wisdom gained from experience, filmmaker and photographer Andrew Zuckerman traveled the globe to interview more than fifty of the world’s most prominent writers, artists, designers, actors, politicians, and religious and business leaders – all over the age of sixty-five. WISDOM captures their voices, physical presences, words and ideas, to provide a legacy for the generations that follow and a timeless portrait of the universalities that connect us all.”
I could always tell when my mom was there to pick me up from school.
I knew the sound of her keys and the sound of her car.
I knew the sound of her heels on the sidewalk.
At no point had we ever done any training on the jingling of keys or car engines. I just knew from the time I spent with her. I knew what she sounded like when she walked because of the amount of times I’d walked with her.
It can be easy for parental duties to be just that- duties.
You are responsible for every meal, the plan for every minute, all entertainment, all boogeymen, all of it. It is a big job. But don’t doubt that your children are taking in more than that. Continue reading →
“You’re short on ears and long on mouth.”
We all know how possible it is to be completely surrounded by people and still feel alone.
Physical proximity counts for a lot less if that presence isn’t felt through knowing and being known. At the same time, our brains are receiving and processing information lightning fast. Out attentions dart from a person to our phone to the car driving by to the sound we heard behind us. Listening takes focus. And because of that, listening can be one of the best and easiest ways to convey that you care. Continue reading →
I’ve heard it said that everyone’s favorite word is their name. I haven’t polled anyone to find out whether or not it’s a fact, but it makes sense. To be listened to and heard is a gift. To have someone’s undivided focus in a busy world is something special. Continue reading →