If there is a persisting pain in our back, we see a chiropractor. For a chronic cough, we call our family doctor. So why is it so difficult for us to turn to help when there is a persistent, nagging problem in our marriages?
There are many couples that could do with seeking out a marriage or family therapist.
Couples therapy has a track record of 70%-80% of the marriages that participate successfully staying together and moving past their problems. That number is nothing to sneeze at considering the divorce rate hovers around 50% year in and year out.
Marriage counseling is a big help because we can’t look at our own relationship problems objectively. We tend to wear blinders when it comes to our own behavior, which places the blame squarely on our spouse’s shoulders; but in a relationship it takes two to make and two to break. Continue reading
by Deepak Chopra, MD
There are many ways in modern life to feel powerless, as the world seems increasingly dangerous. None of us can change the evening news, but we can regain the personal power that is undermined by stress, a sense of threat, and loss of control. In fact, without being in control, a person is more susceptible to depression and anxiety, two disorders that exist in epidemic numbers in this society. Unfortunately, the social trends that drain away personal power only grow stronger. Therefore, it’s crucial to find a way to limit that feeling in your day-to-day life.
As a start, let’s clarify what power isn’t. It isn’t a force that you use like a weapon to get your own way. It isn’t suppressing what you don’t like about yourself and achieving a perfect ideal that doesn’t exist in the first place. It isn’t money, status, possessions, or any other material surrogate. There are countless people sitting in the lap of luxury who feel even more powerless than the average person. This is so because the issues of power are all “in here,” where you relate to yourself.
Now we can address the five things that do limit—or even undo—that feeling of powerlessness. Continue reading
Most people believe that only those people who marry their soul mate have marriages that last. A myth is that long marriages are the result of two people falling deeply in love and never losing that feeling. Romance novels and romantic movies both show the same myth – that only those passionately in love have strong marriages. The truth is far different.
The best advice you will ever hear is that the best marriages are created when two people fall in love and then work hard to stay that way. Marriage is not easy and both spouses need to work to be happy and in love every day. You may not believe this, especially if you are new in the relationship and still see stars when you and your special someone kiss. This is an amazing feeling and one you never want to end.
In reality, the stars will fade if you depend on emotions to fuel the feelings. You need to make a conscious effort every day to let your spouse know how much you love and respect him/her. This can be really tough when life gets busy with jobs, children and a house to take care of, but if you don’t want to do all of this alone, you need to make your spouse your first priority. Continue reading
What’s the key to finding long-lasting love? How many of you know the difference between a fling and real love? Is there an actual recipe to pure, genuine emotional intimacy? Believe it or not, the secret to building a strong romantic relationship is made of a blend of feelings – lust, respect, adoration, trust and many more. Love is artistic and not necessarily scientific. There are times when we fall in love for all the wrong reasons, and even though we know it might damage our soul, we do it anyway. Are you willing to take a leap of faith in the name of love? Here are 10 tips to help you find real love.
Whether you refer to it as an old wives’ tale, household hints, life trick, or novelty—basically it’s all the same thing. These days, they are called Life Hacks. Sometimes they’re a bit unconventional or silly, but in the end, they totally work.
In this case we’re talking about relationship hacks. Here are 8 funny things happy couples use to stay, well, happy. Enjoy! Continue reading
Sure we’d say, “I love you,” and some things were just understood, but we didn’t necessarily communicate on a certain level – that level where you just sit around clearly communicating and talking about feelings. Our actions spoke louder than words, so it was clearly shown how everyone felt, and I felt loved, but I wish I could verbalize some things – to further convey that love. Below are seven things I’d want my dad to know before it was too late: Continue reading
“I won’t run when it looks like love.”
Those are lyrics to a beautiful song by Needtobreathe and it speaks not to the puppy love feelings or the feelings of heartbreak as much as it speaks to the fear that comes with the potential of love. If you’ve ever felt the anxiety of seeing a good thing and being afraid that the rug will be pulled out from under you, you are certainly not alone.
So why do we run? Why do we make barricades to love? Continue reading
February 14th is a day we hold synonymous with love and romance. We plan dates, write love letters, and celebrate our other half, but when was the last time you checked in with yourself? Would you even know if you were not treating yourself well?
When it comes to checking in on your own love and well being, here are some honest questions to ask yourself to hone in on whether or not you are giving yourself the time and attention needed: Continue reading
By Petra Kreatschman
Are you that girl nobody can believe is still single… to the point it’s getting really annoying to hear that again and again?
You have a great career, wonderful friends, cool hobbies and a full life. You are fun, smart, hot, independent and accomplished, yet – no serious takers in the romantic department.
You can’t help but wonder: where here are all the great men? Taken? Busy exploring some remote wilderness or saving hungry children? Do they even exist?
You are a great catch, yet men either don’t stick around or simply can’t keep up with you. Most can’t get enough of you at first, but that quickly wears out and they disappear without a trace.
One day they’re crazy about you, the next they’re ignoring your messages.
You got used to rejection, but it still stings. It’s hard not to take it personally. Maybe you need to tone it down, hide your qualities and accomplishments, talk less?
What if men don’t want to date a woman who has it all sorted out? Are they just looking for damsels in distress? No matter how confident you are, doubt creeps in. What if there is something wrong with you? What if nobody will love you just the way you are? Continue reading
By Nancy Nichols
Be honest, do you go out with a man a couple of times and you imagine (or hope) that he is your next boyfriend or husband?
You’re daydreaming about a meaningful, long-term relationship with your new guy. He wants to date around, hang out with his buddies and drink beer. When a man senses a woman is eager for a committed relationship, he will pull away to protect his freedom.
Women, who are hard-wired to get married, look at every man they date as possibly “The One.” When they are smitten on a guy, they fantasize and romanticize of a possible relationship. They’re too nice, too accommodating and too available. They over-analyze and obsess over his intentions and when a romantic connection doesn’t happen, they feel disheartened and rejected.
Men, on the other hand, take dating in stride. They assume little about a woman, the outcome of the evening or the future of a relationship. They continue to date other women and they focus on their friends, work and hobbies.
While women irrationally fixate on one man (typically the wrong man) and they get their hearts broken, men (who are dating casually) put their needs first, they think things through and they are slow to commit.
Want to date like a man and gain a man’s respect and serious pursuit? Here’s how: Continue reading