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A Story of Fatherless Daughters and God’s Grace

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I haven’t seen my Pop in 20 years or so. I’ve forgiven him for skipping out on his fatherly duties and have accepted that he walks a path that leads him far away from home. His dreams were always much bigger than the reality his small suburban family could provide him. He wanted to change the world. And he did so through education.

He taught English through a bilingual program he developed at Boston English High School. He lectured passionately and positively about the growing Latino movement in Boston. He was even invited by Harvard University to do a lecture series about his work. I remember attending one of his lectures and was completely shocked when a swarm of undergrads rushed the lectern after his presentation, praising him for his work and his passion. His students loved him, his teacher community praised him, and his family thought he was nuts.

Pop walked down the street pinching a joint in one hand and flashing a peace sign in the other. His signature look was a “No Nukes” sweatshirt, overalls and long curly hair wrapped up in a red bandanna. No apologies. Crazy genius, I like to call him. I respect him for achieving some pretty amazing things as a teacher and advocate for the Latin community in Boston, though as a father he pretty much sucked.

Today’s story…

In 2001, my husband MG introduced me to Dorchester’s Mother Caroline Academy and Education Center, a tuition-free inner city middle school for bright girls of limited financial means. He’d been involved with the school’s fund-raising mission for some time and brought me to their annual spring event in Jamaica Plain. I remember being greeted by a bunch of smiling girls in plaid kilts, knee socks and over-sized red blazers with shoulder pads – all singing, chattering, laughing and doing double dutch. Suddenly an nun came out of nowhere and jumped between the ropes. She was really good. A couple of other nuns ran in and did the same. It was absolutely adorable. I laughed out loud. And so the love affair with MCAEC began.

After a few years of attending MCAEC’s Spring Gala, their annual fundraiser, I joined the planning committee, eventually co-chairing the event for 3 years. As my family grew, I’d take my babies along with me to the school for meetings. I would sit and breastfeed at the conference table and hand off my full-bellied baby to a friend when it was my turn to speak. I enjoyed the experiences, but longed for a real connection with the girls for whom I spent so much time raising money. Plus I was knee-deep in diapers and nap schedules. So in 2009, I took off my co-chair hat and signed up to mentor a student.

My girlfriends KF and CP also decided the time was right to reach out to one of these amazing Mother Caroline girls. So the three of us attended a meet and greet with the entire 8th grade class at a swank football party in a private box at Foxboro Stadium overlooking the 50 yard line (provided by a generous donor, of course). After a few awkward conversations, I came upon a charming girl, LR – well, “came upon” might be an unfair way to put it. Honestly, I practically gave CP the Heisman to get to her, interrupting their conversation and shoving myself between them. The reason for my boldness, though unknown to me at the time, would be revealed later.  ;-)

LR and I chatted easily for a long while, sharing some pretty personal things about each other and discovering lots of commonalities between us. She’s an old soul. Thoughtful, inquisitive, interesting, genuine, beautiful. I cornered the head of the mentoring program at the end of the game and gushed to her that I had a great conversation with LR and would love to have her as my mentee. As it turned out, LR liked me, too. So we were matched and spent the next few months getting to know each other.

The program head shared with us that typically mentor/mentee relationships start off slow. And I think that’s true for LR and me. Friendship and trust grows over time and as LR has told me, “We have a lot of years to do that.” So we’ve been sporadically setting up outings and getting to know each other. A couple of weeks ago LR and I were in the car together, talking about high schools. I mentioned that my Pop taught English to bilingual students at Boston English. She said, “My Mom went to Boston English.” Some quick math led us to realize that our parents were there at the same time. And LR’s Mom being Puerto Rican, the likelihood of her knowing my Pop was good. Really good. Really really good.

About 8:30 that night LR called and told me that her Mom had class with my Pop, “Mr. Cronin”, and remembered times staying after school with him when he’d tell her about my family and his days living in Honduras with the Peace Corps. Not only that, but she also spent a couple of years as a counselor at Pop’s summer camp “Campamento Hispano Internacional” in Waltham. I had also spent a fair amount of time at that summer camp as a kid, visiting with Pop. Weeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrd.

I’d just spent the last couple of days blogging about coincidences so I was certainly conscious of the ones happening in my life and was well-studied on synchronicities. And right there, on my family room couch, I was living through a pretty major one. I hung up the phone with LR and chewed on the idea for a minute. Then I proceeded to burst into tears. Fat ones. A full-on contorted-face-heaving-chest ugly cry.

I surveyed my mind to figure out why I was having a fit and realized that I was feeling the loving presence of my Pop for the first time in 20 years. I felt our intangible connection through the Universe. I saw the parallels between us, our mutual desire to make the world a better place, and the genetic gifts he gave me that have allowed me to be where I am today. I understood in that moment that God’s power is great. That there are no coincidences. That LR is my karmic gift, one that I am so happy to accept.

The things that had to happen and the timing of which those things had to occur was perfect. Divine. How on earth could something like this happen without God? God is perfection, organizing events in just the right way, even though to us it looks like total chaos. But it’s not total chaos, it’s divine chaos.

For me there has been a paradigm shift. LR fell away from my Mother Caroline family and neatly settled into my soul family. We are part of each others’ weaving labyrinth of life and always have been. And now we know. Now there’s no question, no surprise that I practically gave my dear friend a black eye to get to her at that football game over a year ago. Everything is written.

I thought about the series of events that had occurred over my lifetime and decided this…

Change (in some cases loss) is inevitable. Embrace it. Everything will be okay. And sometimes, what you think is lost forever is really not lost at all. God will bring it back to you in one form… or another.

Law of Karma

Few months ago we developed an interactive online program based on Deepak Chopra’s Best seller – Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Our aim was to help people implement the method in their lives.

karmaI think that it is very important to start your day with 15 to 30 minutes practice of the Seven Laws. I have been doing it every day for the last few month, feeling that it is helping me to balance my life and achieve my deepest desires.

The laws offer anyone who wants to create a meaningful and happier reality, the practical tools and clear knowledge of what success is and how to reach it.
Designed to connect you to the mystery of existence, the seven laws will guide you to fulfill your true potential, and live a balanced and inspired life.
Seven simple daily laws contain all the information you need in order to begin your personal journey.

While connecting to Tuesday’s law, The Law of Karma, I realized that Every moment is a moment of choice and therefore every moment is a moment of infinite possibilities.

In order to understand and implement the law into your life, you can ask yourself to recognize that you are a choice maker, to anticipate the consequences of your choice and to listen to your body to sense the affect of your choice.

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You can Explore Dr. Deepak Chopra’s and Dr. David Simon’s online program, based on their worldwide bestselling books: “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” and “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga”. This inspirational online program offers the tools and guidelines you need in order to create a meaningful and happier reality, as well as practical tools and clear knowledge of what success is and how to reach it
To start practicing please click here

Doron Libshtein
CEO, Coaching Interactive Limited
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Personal growth should be common property.
www.mentorschannel.com

Daily Inspiration: You Have The Power To Improve Your Life

Two weeks ago Robin Sharma arrived to Israel as our guest and speaker in three events, we had an amazing time where Robin gave inspiration to so many people in the events, in meetings and to every person he met.
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It was also the launch to our new program called ” Leadership For Everyone” and Robin’s new book called “Daily Inspiration“. I believe that we all need inspiration every day and by reading books, seeing movies, going to seminars or listening to podcasts, it can be part of our life. I have decided that when a daily inspiration will touch my heart I will write about it and today it did. I felt that so many people are survivals in this world and forget that they have many choices and that they can take action now!

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“We always have choices as human beings. Each of us has far more choices that we are aware of. We think we are so Limited in life that we have to live and do what we currently do. That’s just more of the language that victims are prone to use. It’s always up to you – how far along the path home from social self to your authentic self you want to go. And when you assume personal responsibility for what’s not working in your life and then bravely start taking action to improve what needs to improve, doors you didn’t even know existed will begin to open up.” Robin Sharma

Doron Libshtein
CEO, Coaching Interactive Limited
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Personal growth should be common property.
www.mentorschannel.com

Accept Uncertainty

Unemployment occurs when a person is available to work but is without work. The unemployment figures are growing worldwide, in US it is 8.1% ( Feb 09) Vs 4.8% ( Feb 08) and many articles describe this phenomena as the biggest threat to the world, bigger then war.

Yesterday I spoke to friend that was on his way for job interview searching for inspiration to be on his best. I suggested to him that by being passionate about the work he is going to do, he will have better chances to get the job. Be agile, Accept uncertainty and Enjoy life are the kings of inspiration that will help anyone get the right job even today.

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The world is changing and it is a time of uncertainty. Every day I receive an email or a call from people asking if I can help them find a job. To every person that wants to find a job, I usually advise to be proactive, write and talk every day to people they know and ask them to assist you, be creative and search for many different approaches to find a job (other than looking at the internet and newspapers) and don’t forget to use the time of unemployment to invest in your growth, read books, write about your dreams work and spend more quality time with their families.

Doron Libshtein
CEO, Coaching Interactive Limited
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Personal growth should be common property.
www.mentorschannel.com

Least Effort

Jeff, one of my closest friends, called me yesterday. He was very frustrated. He cannot understand why his team manager does not treat him accordingly to his great efforts. He shared with me the fact that lately, due to atmosphere efficiency, fairing and cutting costs he has decided to act. He made the decision to be more involved, to initiate, help, and stand out – or in other words, become a core part of the team and the organization. As a result his mangers will find out how difficult it would be if they were to lose him as an employee in the hopes that they wouldn’t let him go, even when harder times come.

Following the plan he created, he initiated new business directions in order to increase revenues. He shared his work and information with his team members. He worked a lot of hours from the office and even took work home with him, working late into the night to reach his goals. Jeff speaks at all meetings, respects other peoples ideas and thoughts and gives his boss tips regarding the work of the team as well as all the information needed to assist him as well.

He hoped that his strategy would produce results, gaining appreciation, but instead the opposite seemed to occur. Despite his efforts Jeff does not feel appreciated. He finds himself getting into a lot of arguments as it seems no one sees his efforts and his manager constantly trys to avoid him. Frustration sinks in and Jeff starts to resent everyone for not seeing his hard work. Each and every day the fear of getting fired fuels the fire to try harder, even if he is not being acknowledged.

While we discussed this situation, I used some information, knowledge and examples which I took from Deepak Chopra’s new interactive program: "The Seven Laws of Success Online Program"

One of Deepak’s laws is the forth law: "The Law of Least Effort". The path to fulfillment doesn’t need to be so difficult, and offers three liberating steps to a happier and more abundant life by taking the path of least effort.
1. Accept people, circumstances, and events as they are in this moment. When confronted with any challenge, remind yourself, "This moment is as it should be," because the entire universe is as it should be.

2. Take responsibility for your situation without blaming anything or anyone, including yourself. Every problem is an opportunity to take this moment and transform it into greater benefit.

3. Be un-defended. Relinquish the need to defend your point of view. In defenselessness, you remain open to all points of view, not rigidly attached to one of them.

As for Jeff, I told him that it seems that he is trying too hard, and that’s why things are not happening as he planned. I suggested that he might consider stop trying so hard and take a break. He should understand that the universe will send him a massage to hold back a little and not try so hard, for sometimes when we are trying too hard we reach the opposite end result.

One of the exercises in the online program deals with situations such as Jeff’s and I invite you to practice it. Please take a couple of moments, sit down in a quiet place and answer the following question in writing!

What can you do today to better accept things as they are? (For example: to focus on what there IS in every situation, taking your time to respond and not react automatically, seeing things from many perspectives, etc.)

The purpose of this exercise is to help you direct your thoughts toward excepting things as they are so you can grow through them, getting you closer to reaching self fulfillment. As you can see, it is not about not-doing things. It’s about doing things differently.

Jeff did some thinking, and after completing some exercises decided to stop fighting for things to go his way and accepted things as they are.. He made the decision to stop worrying about the feedback from his boss and colleagues and just be who he is, do his best and keep himself open minded – welcoming any changes to come.

I also would like to add one phrase which I learned from my manager when I worked for Microsoft: "Do Few Things Well." When we are doing a lot of things, we are not necessarily getting great results. Not when we do few things, but well…. It is always better, to us and to our surroundings.

I invite you to experience Deepak Chopra’s latest released project: The Seven Laws of Success online program and exercise your way towards success and a happier live.

The Seven Laws of Success online program is based on Dr. Deepak Chopra’s two best-selling books: "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success" and "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga." This new, interactive online program was created in order to help people realize their dreams and aspirations and fulfill their potential. Empowering them to live the life they always intended.

This amazingly easy and fulfilling program is rich and varied and includes hundreds of exclusive video and audio files, questionnaires, yoga exercises, explanations and meditation sessions all guided by Dr. Deepak Chopra & Dr. David Simon, who will help them to understand what success is, and inspire them to achieve it. I invite you to join the full program to practice all the seven laws and get yourself closer to outstanding success as well as a happier life.

Read more at Seven Laws Online

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