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Understanding What The Universe Has To Offer

It is amazing how we, as humans, take the world around us for granted. We anticipate that the sun will rise and set and that life will go on around us. We never stop to take the time to be grateful for all the things that the Universe has put in place for our happiness and comfort.

In today’s hustle and bustle this is certainly truer than ever. How many times do stop and marvel and appreciate the sunset or sunrise? How many times do you actually think about all the blessings or gifts that are in your life? How often do you feel like you are entitled or deserve something just because?

In reality, the Universe around us is prepared to give back just as much as we need. However, we have a bit of work to do to earn that for ourselves. This isn’t tough work or hard work; it is simply to be able to appreciate the gifts that the Universe provides to us.

If we start appreciating the world around us, we will find that those things that we appreciate multiply and abound. This isn’t magic or coincidence; it is how life works. When we open our hearts and minds to positives and beauty, that is what we will see because we are attuned to it.

To get started in understanding and appreciating the gifts in your life you need take just a few minutes a day. Before long you will find this is a wonderful, relaxing experience that sets the tone for the rest of your hectic day.

Make A List – Just keep a notebook beside your bed or at your desk and, each day, add one thing that you want to give thanks for. This could be a lovely sunny day, your child saying a first word or just waking up feeling rested and refreshed.

Read And Reflect – before you go to bed or first thing in the morning reflect on all the gifts you have identified in your life. If you are stressed or feeling negative do this as you feel the need throughout the day.

Give Thanks – simply mentally give thanks for the gifts in your life. Send that positive energy out so you can be open to receive it back in return.

Making this simple mental exercise a habit every day will increase your appreciation and understanding of the positives the Universe is offering to you. This, in turn, will increase your ability to weather any storm knowing that the gifts you need are always with you and always available through your reflections.

The Hidden Benefits To Meditation

Meditation, despite being one of the oldest recognized practices in the world, is still part of ongoing research and understanding. New brain research has actually been able to show conclusively that using “mindful meditation” can actually help your brain in developing different levels of awareness.

The exact spot of the brain that is most impacted by meditation is the left prefrontal cortex. It is located just behind your forehead above your left eye area. There are several distinctive parts of the prefrontal cortex but together they work to complete what are known as the brain’s “executive functions”. This is the ability to think through very different thoughts about the same subject; decide what is good or bad, similar and different and even what option is best from a potential pool of pretty good ideas. It is also the part of the brain that handles the “if this happens then that will happen” thinking so it determines consequences for behaviour as well as helps make predictions and set expectations. As if that wasn’t enough it also is the part of our brain that allows us to think about the social implications of specific decisions or actions.

Meditation changes the brain waves in the left prefrontal cortex in very dramatic ways. When Buddhist monks are tested researchers find that brain intensity in the left prefrontal cortex is off the charts, which translates into increasing nerve cell activity in the brain, even in adults.  It is literally changing the circuitry in the brain through a process known as neuroplasticity.

The improved brain circuitry has been demonstrated to increase the movement of the gamma brain waves throughout the entire brain. This means that information is more organized moving through the brain. In the neurological tests, more active circuits were noted in the monks than in typical students that were the control group in the study. This type of organized movement of brain waves is linked to higher mental activity, heightened awareness, increased focus, better memory and faster learning as well as more positive thoughts and emotions.

The great news is that even very small amounts of mindful meditation produce positive changes in the brain’s connections. In addition, researchers now believe that these changes are permanent and can enhance the brain functioning even when not meditating. This is something that will definitely help with learning, recall and focus throughout life.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at  www.sherrygaba.com  Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio. Are you a Love Addict? Take Sherry’s quiz for a free eBook Filling the Empty Heart:  5 Keys to Transforming Love Addiction.

 

3 Tips to Get Over a Bad Break-Up

Being in a relationship is a wonderful experience. Unfortunately, not all wonderful experiences are meant to last. In fact, more often than not when a relationship ends it is typically over faster for one person than the other. The worst relationship breakups occur when one person just wants out and the other person desperately wants to stay in.

No matter how hard you to fight to keep the relationship going if the other person is out they are out. There is no amount of pleading, begging, crying, chasing, bargaining or threatening that will make them come back. But, for some reason, you are not willing to let go. Have you ever thought about why you can’t let go? Why are some people unable or unwilling to accept the end of a relationship, even if it wasn’t that good for them in the first place?

Often the reason that people cling to a bad relationship or a dead romance is because they have a real internal fear that they can never achieve another interpersonal relationship connection. Sometimes this thought has evolved over time and with influence from the other person in the relationship. If this is the case the last thing you need is another relationship at this time. You are already a prime candidate for finding a partner that is at best likely to be very controlling and at worst abusive.

The best way to get over a bad breakup or a relationship that you desperately wanted to save is to get out of the dating game and focus in on yourself. To do this try at least one of the following tips to controlling your own destination and getting your life back on course.

Tip 1: Set A Personal Goal

This needs to be a non-romantic or dating goal. Pick one area of your life that you want to improve and set a “do-able” goal in that area. Maybe you want to learn how to skydive or you want to take a ballroom dancing class. Maybe you want to run a 10k or take a photography course. Whatever it is make it something you want to accomplish for yourself.

Tip 2: Determine What Makes YOU Happy

Stop and think about all the things in your world that make you happy. What do you enjoy doing, what is important in your life and what makes you smile? Then, start to think about how your want your next partner to represent those things that make you happy. Make a list of what the new partner needs to have as their personality traits and characteristics.

Tip 3: Think Positively About The Future

Stop focusing on what didn’t work and what you wished had happened; that is all in the past. Instead, focus on a positive future with the right partner that is as in love with you as you are with them. See this relationship as a truth in your world. See your future as positive, happy and, when you are ready, full of the love that you desire.

Only by making these personal changes will you be in the right emotional and spiritual space to make the most of a new relationship. You will have dealt with the past and moved into a new era of making choices based on your own positive future.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at  www.sherrygaba.com  Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio. Are you a Love Addict? Take Sherry’s quiz for a free eBook Filling the Empty Heart:  5 Keys to Transforming Love Addiction.

 

Breathing, Mindfulness and Addiction Recovery

Sometimes when people are walking their pathway toward recovery from an addiction they tend to look only towards the big picture. This means that they miss out on the small details that can help in the day to day issues that everyone faces when making life changes. One of the most overlooked aspects of personal care in recovery is managing the stress, anxiety and inner tension that can be triggered by any number of given events and situations.

Let’s look at this in a step by step fashion. Understanding your options to relax using controlled breathing is a major breakthrough for most people and it all starts with being mindful of changes that occur in your body when you are put in a stressful or anxiety provoking situation.

Step 1 Understanding Relaxed Breathing

The first step in being able to know when you are reaching a level of stress or anxiety that is problematic is to first know how your body acts in a relaxed and stress free state. To do this take a few minutes when you are not frustrated, worried or tense and close your eyes. Feel the way that your breathing pattern naturally occurs. Visualize the air moving into your nose, through your airways and into your lungs. Notice how your lungs expand in inhalation and contract when you exhale. Your breathing is deep and long and very soothing.

Step 2 Learn How To Take A Complete Breath

In “The Law of Sobriety” I provide a detailed explanation of taking a complete breath, also known as Pranayama. Start by lying down with your eyes and mouth closed one hand on your chest and one on your stomach. Breathe in through your nose and feel your lungs and chest expand. Hold the breath for a moment and breathe out feeling the lungs empty. Hold this for a second and then breathe in again. By increasing the duration of inhalation with relation to holding and exhaling you can increase your energy levels. Exhaling slowly and longer will increase your feelings of relaxation.

Step 3 Breathe With Mindfulness

Once you have practiced complete breaths in a quiet location you can start to use the technique anywhere. When you notice your breathing patterns change to become quicker and shallower you will recognize that is a sign that you are starting to feel anxious, nervous or stressed.  When this happens you can immediately practice complete breathing to provide natural stress relief. This, in turn, allows you time to stop, think and relax, assisting you to continue on the positive path to recovery from any type of addiction.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at  www.sherrygaba.com  Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

3 Questions to Clarify Your Relationship with Food

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When people think of the damage that an eating disorder causes, they usually focus in on health concerns as a result of dramatic changes in body weight. Depending on the type of eating disorder, a gradual and continual increase in weight may be a key symptom or people may become unhealthy after rapid and dramatic weight loss. Additionally there are those that tend to go through periods of weight gain followed by rapid and very unhealthy weight loss.

While these physical issues are the visible symptoms of an eating disorder, there are profound ripples throughout an individual’s social, emotional and relationship areas of their life. Individuals that have eating disorders, which may include binge eating, anorexia, bulimia or other condition, have a higher risk of depression and related mental health disorders. In a study at the University Of Pittsburgh Medical Center ,it was found that 24% of people with bipolar disorder were also dealing with an eating disorder. Other research shows that individuals with anorexia nervosa are 50 times more likely to commit suicide than non-eating disordered individuals.

In fact, eating disorders, like any type of addiction, can have profound impact on your ability to interact with others. In my book, “The Law of Sobriety” I dedicate several chapters to the devastation that low self-esteem and ability to see the good in yourself can cause in your emotional life. This feeling of dissatisfaction with self can also be a major factor driving the addictive behavior of the eating disorder. To understand how an eating disorder, a food addiction, may be impacting your life consider the following:

  1. Have your thoughts about your body changed your feelings about yourself for the negative?
  2. When is the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and felt satisfied with your weight and body image?
  3. Are you uncomfortable, embarrassed or even afraid to meet people because of what you perceive as their impression of you based on your weight?

Talking with a counselor that is familiar with food addictions and eating disorders is the first step in understanding how this issue is creating difficulties in many areas of your life. It is also the start of making meaningful changes and bringing positive energy back into your world.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at  www.sherrygaba.com  Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

Volunteer Your Way To Abundance

The summer is finally here! As we welcome the warm weather, the sunny sky and the thought of vacations and exciting times with our friends and family, we need to take a small step back. Even though your mind may be racing with positive thoughts and energy because the sun is shining, not everyone is abundantly blessed. For most of us, the summer time gives us a few more hours per month to kick back and relax. Have you thought about investing that time and energy into something that will reap benefits far beyond what you would normally expect? When you invest a few hours of time into a charitable activity you are volunteering your way towards personal abundance.

We know that The Law of Attraction tells us that the energy we release to the universe comes back to use many times over. When we volunteer for a cause that is near and dear to us, without the thought of personal gain, you will experience that energy in return. How does this work? It works because giving generously and without thought of self is one of our obligations to the planet and our fellow people.

When we experience great hardships such as being homeless or not being able to eat healthy because groceries are too expensive, people quickly lose hope. The loss of hopes fosters negative energy. Individuals become jaded, upset and extremely angry that they are living hand to mouth. What bigger gift can you give to a human being that is suffering than a renewed belief that people do care?

Our volunteer efforts not only give material resources to those in need, they also give them the spiritual and emotional resources they may not know they need. In my case, I support treatment centers that provide services to those that do not have the financial resources to enter addiction recovery treatment.

I work one-on-one with many clients who need help but simply don’t have the money or insurance that cover addiction recovery treatment. Many are not aware that there are a large percentage of individuals struggling with addiction that want help, but they are turned away. Many treatment centers won’t take insurance, even if the insurance covers the treatment services. These struggling individuals are turned away right when they need help the most.

I’ve spoken and worked with many people in recovery whose drug and alcohol use escalated because they couldn’t receive the help they needed. By investing my time and energy towards helping these individuals, without the thought of self-promotion, I have gained an abundance of positive aftereffects. This is a prime example of how giving positive energy, along with material resources to those in need is rewarded. The reward of abundance by volunteering is the way the world says thank you.

Simply put, the summer often allots extra time. Use those hours to give back and experience an abundance of positive energy.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at http://thelawofsobriety.com/store/   Contact Sherry at for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

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Advocating for Lost Souls

Recently I have come to the conclusion that in my work I act as an advocate for lost souls. Sixteen years ago, as I was coming out of an intense period of competitive bodybuilding, I never would have imagined that this would be my future. Yet maybe it was my imagination that guided me to this path.

Back then I was attending a screen writing class under the tutelage of Alfred Brenner, who passed away last summer at 95 years old. I had just submitted some pages of dialogue for our class, and  the following week when I received Al’s notes, I was surprised to find him scolding me!

“Clearly,” he said, “based on your writing, you have not read my book!”

Wanting to be a good student, I humbly took Al’s advice; studying his book and learning his format. From my imagination came forth a story about an Irish nun called Mary. In the story, Mary wakes up from a dream filled with babies falling into a fluffy cyclonic wind tunnel and declares she is leaving for Sin City to save the babies. There, to her detriment, she falls in love with a gigolo and with his help manages to infiltrate a baby-selling racket operated by the local priest.

Currently one of the services we provide at Silver Horse Healing Ranch is Family Constellations, performed outdoors and with a horse. Bert Hellinger, originator of Family Constellation work claims that ‘everyone in the family has a right to belong’, including missing babies.

In many of the Constellations, the horses and I facilitate concern missing babies; aborted, miscarried or given up for adoption. The family members are represented by other people, horses or objects. In my experience, when the ‘mother’ is able to look into the eyes of her lost ‘baby’ and the ‘baby’ can see the ‘mother’, the baby is reintegrated into the family and the mother is freed of any inhibiting emotions.

Horses, with their empathic nature, easily relate to the archetypal pain of exclusion. This makes them excellent representatives for this type of work. They offer their support to the Constellation simply by being present and engaging.

Consequently, when the baby is welcomed into the family, balance is restored within the family system and everyone is able to move forward onto their own individual and evolutionary paths.

Needless to say it was an epiphany to acknowledge that, metaphorically, I am actualizing the mission of my fictionalized character, Mary, in order to ‘Save the babies’. To have recognition of the intricate pathways woven into the fabric of my destiny gives me an immense appreciation of my life and what lies ahead.

Sara Fancy is one of the experts who will be featured on the upcoming Intent Show on the Chopra Well. Be sure to subscribe to the Chopra Well to keep up with the latest videos and updates!

A Gift of Inspiration

To me spirituality is about more than simply ‘self realization’.  It also involves ‘self expression’.  The art of awakening is to both ‘know yourself and show yourself’. When we wake up to the wonder of life, there is a deep ‘love of being’ that demands to be expressed by bringing love into the world … by contributing to the collective through being creative.

I have worked all my life in the arts and as a spiritual philosopher, so I have always been keen to combine the two.  I love conveying deep ideas through books, music, performance and so on. So I was delighted to have the opportunity this year to create a short film with director Nick Ralph exploring the experience of awakening in a simple, vivid and experiential way.

My hope is that we have created a poignant little film that will touch both those who have an interest in ‘spirituality’, and those who don’t see themselves as ‘spiritual’ at all. I feel this is important if we are to share the possibility of awakening with as many people as possible in mainstream culture.

So in this blog I want to do more than give you just words. I want to offer you a feast of ideas and images by sharing our short film … as a gift of inspiration. Let me know your reactions. If you enjoy it please share the film with your friends and social media. Love is only truly love when it is shared.

Deep love

T!M

3 Tips to De-Clutter Your Life

As we approach the summer season, we all should take the time to de-clutter our lives. Think of your life as your would your home. Consistent housecleaning and organization is necessary to keep your household running smoothly. How often do we get caught up in our outside environment while where we live becomes disheveled? We lose time trying to find objects that have been put in the wrong place. We barely notice the rooms of our abode when we return from a long and tiring day of work. When we dedicate an hour or so to cleaning our home, we regain our sense of calm and balance. In a similar fashion, we need to de-clutter our mind, our body and our soul as well. Consider these tips for de-cluttering your life.

Mind

How many of us have scripts that run full force and non-stop throughout the day? For many of us, this hamster wheel train of thought hits us when we are trying to fall asleep. One of the best ways to de-clutter your mind is to make sure you are unplugged at least an hour before you go to bed. This includes: reading emails, surfing Facebook, sending texts, talking on the phone and even watching television. These activities, while on the surface, may seem relaxing; in truth they are continuing to keep your brain heavily stimulated. Try unplugging a half hour before bedtime and increase the time as weeks pass. Soon, you will find your mind at ease. You will not only begin to sleep easier, your sleep will be more rejuvenating.

Body

If we aren’t careful, we keep our bodies continually active. From the time we get up until we try to fall asleep, we are pushing our bodies as far as they will take us. We clutter our bodies by pushing past the natural ‘walls’ that we encounter that would naturally allow us to relax. Taking time before you call it a night to meditate will give your body much needed rest. Limit your strenuous physical activities as the day progresses. Our bodies need ample amount of down time in order to function properly. Allowing your body to rest will help prevent getting burned out. You will also notice that you will have more success evading illness.

Soul

The biggest area that we neglect is our spiritual wellness. How do you relax your soul? Our soul  becomes cluttered when we continue to internalize massive amounts of stress and negative energy. Similar to a computer that needs to be reset, our soul also needs a control alt delete. The best way to de-clutter your soul is by doing something that you really enjoy. This could be a day at the Spa, spending time engaging in religious activities such as church or by giving your soul a time out to just ‘be’.

How you choose to de-clutter your mind, body and soul is entirely up to you. The key is to remember that life is about balance. If you don’t take time to de-clutter, the balance scale of your overall holistic health will tip against your favor.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at http://thelawofsobriety.com/store/   Contact Sherry at for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

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How To Maintain Spiritual Wellness

We have all heard about the benefits of relaxation. Online articles and magazines have headlines that tell us how to meditate, why we need to relax and how stress is bad for us. While we all know that stress can have negative physical manifestations, we often forget about how stress impacts us on a spiritual level. I am not discussing religion, but I am referring to the spiritual side of our nature. It is important to have a healthy spirit. When our spirit is heavily stressed, this can result in our physical bodies and our overall quality of life to suffer. So how can you maintain spiritual wellness while at home?

Have Your Own Space

Do you have a special area in your home where you can have quality alone time? I’ve discussed the importance of creating a sacred space in a prior post, and one of the things that I stated was that we all need our own little nook in our home to call our very own. Even if this is your bedroom or if you can transform your bathroom into a private oasis once a month, we all need our personal space. When we spend time with ourselves we can meditate, write in our journal, reflect on our day or just get lost in a great book.

However you choose to enjoy your personal time, the key is to give yourself the gift of at least an hour a week. If you feel that you just can’t squeeze in a full hour on one particular day, I suggest you buy an egg timer. Set the timer for ten minutes, close the door to the room you are relaxing in and don’t open the door till the timer goes off. This short amount of time will give you a boost of energy and a sense of grounding that your spirit desperately needs.

Healthy Spirit Equals Healthy Relationships

The relationships that we have with our partners, loved ones and even those we work with can become strained if we neglect our spiritual wellness. Stress ends up making us lose our temper quickly, saying things before thinking and becoming extremely impatient. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, regardless of who that relationship is with.

Those ten minutes that you take to quiet your mind will be a huge gift to those that are in your life. You will be able to not react immediately; you will have the time to breathe before interacting with your loved ones. This is especially important with work relationships. A great tip is to take your egg timer to work with you. If you have an office where you can shut the door or even escape into the bathroom for five to ten minutes, you will find your work environment much more enjoyable.

Spiritual wellness is a cornerstone of your overall health. You need to maintain and foster your spiritual health just as you would your mental or physical health. Take the time to buy an egg timer and experience how those 10 minutes will improve your spiritual wellness today.

Sherry Gaba LCSW, Psychotherapist, Life & Recovery Coach is featured Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recover from any addiction. Please download your  free E books at http://thelawofsobriety.com/store/   Contact Sherry at for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages and speaking engagements. Listen to Sherry on “A Moment of Change with Sherry Gaba”on CBS Radio

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