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Gratitude: The Secret to an Abundant Life


Around this time of year, when our country takes a day to offer thanks, the word gratitude gets tossed around quite a bit. But did you know that gratitude is one of your most precious super powers, that if practiced daily, will assist you in creating an incredibly abundant and deeply fulfilling life?

The thing that we must first understand is that like everything else in the universe, we each have a vibrational resonance that serves as a magnet drawing people, experiences, and inspirations of matching frequency directly to us. With gratitude being the root of all abundance, by practicing gratitude, we raise our vibrational frequency, resulting in increased energy, creativity, optimism, patience, connectivity, and even increased immune function. Continue reading

7 Quotes to Help You Find Hope After the Storm

April showers bring May flowers – so the idiom goes, but who talks about how hard those April showers can be to get through? There are weeks during the year when it feels like the flood tides are rising and all you can do is let go into the current. Sometimes those weeks turn into months or longer, and that kind of depression takes different shapes in every person. However, there’s hope. There is a crazy idea that no matter what storms we whether there will be sunshine on the other side, and if we can make it there we’ll be better people for it. There’s hope and optimism that hard times lead to better things. Hope that our trials and tribulations will pay out in positive dividends. We have to believe that to keep going. At Intent we encourage that hope because we believe it to be absolutely true. It turns out we aren’t the only ones – check out these hopeful quotes below and spread them to anyone that could use a little joy.














6 Quotes to Inspire a Weekend of Positivity



It’s all about starting the day with the right attitude. Let go of what happened yesterday and tell yourself that today will be a good day. Half the battle is believing that a good day is possible, which opens you up to see the great things that happen all around us we sometimes neglect to see through the haze of our own drama.



A lot of the time the thing standing in the way of what we desire most is ourselves. Tell that voice in the back of your head to be quiet and step out of your own way. You’ve got this – go for it.



Keep going! The road to all things worth it is obviously rough and full of obstacles. Don’t let them thwart your progress. Just go one step at a time, and it all adds up. We have faith in you.



Doesn’t just reading that make you feel better? Don’t sweat the small stuff. When you find yourself stuck in the weeds take a deep breath and a step back. Give yourself a minute to look at the bigger picture and reassess the current snag you’re stuck in. 99% of the time you’ll find it’s nowhere near as bad as you thought it was.



Carpe diem Intent! Don’t get stuck in your head to the point you can’t see the opportunities that are unfolding right in front of you.



Okay, we admit it. This made the list in most part for the picture, but it’s still true! The best way to create a positive atmosphere around yourself is to spread it to other people. Smile to the rude lady at the bank, don’t engage the family member that always starts the fight. You have the power to pay the positive energy forward, so do it!

Stop Talking Yourself Out of Your Own Greatness

Priska climbing the classic Star CheckRecently, as I found myself sitting in front of my laptop, tapping away at the final touches of my book  proposal, I’ve drifted away from my usual writer’s bliss and instead have been, oh you know, totally freaking out! You see, the deadline to submit the proposal to my dream publisher, Hay House, as part of the contest they’re holding for participants of last April’s ‘Writing from Your Soul’ conference is quickly approaching. And, wouldn’t you know, all of a sudden, my ego is totally tripping out on me! “Who would even want to read my book” “What are the odds of getting picked with over 500 others in attendance?” “I bet there are some pretty amazing book ideas out there.” As I’ve allowed these thoughts to creep into my brain, they have literally taken over, sucking the creativity and joy out of what is usually one of my most favorite activities, writing!!  I even started creeping into the “why bother?” territory. Yikes!

With just a little over a month away to finish up, fine-tune, and put my best step forward, I didn’t have time for this self-sabotage crapola and needed to snap out of it, stat! Through all of my spiritual work, deep down, I know that this is just the fearful illusion of my ego, trying to keep me “safe.” In reality, I don’t truly believe this crazy-talk deep inside. At first I thought it was fear of failure or fear of rejection. Then, I realized that it was a much deeper fear. All of a sudden, I had an a-ha moment as I heard Marianne Willamson’s voice in my head with her world famous quote:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Yes, this absolutely rings true! I was on the brink of psyching myself out into playing small. We all do this. It really is our own light that frightens us the most.

You see, all I’ve ever wanted to do is be a writer. When deciding what to major in college, I shied away from pursuing writing as a career because I didn’t see how I could make a living at it. I chose a different path to pay my bills. But, in more recent years, I have been strongly guided towards it again. It truly feel it is my calling. I’ve amassed a lot of experiences and wisdom through the years in my entrepreneurial and life adventures and through my spiritual studies, which has all helped me tremendously with my own personal growth and transformation. I feel that it is my duty to share this information as I know it can help so many others as well.  And, through my blogging, I’ve made so many beautiful connections with readers and affirmed this truth. So, I had to give myself a little Marianne Williamson-esque, “who are you not to be a writer?”

I share this story with you because I want you to be aware of your own potential greatness! But, also to be aware of your own negative self-talk that will try so hard to snuff out your fire. You are meant to shine, baby!! We all are. And by shining your light, you are helping others to do the same.

Try these 4 steps that I used to put a muzzle on my own negative chatter:

  1. Be the observer. Instead of owning these thoughts as if they came from you, “I won’t win” “I can’t do it” — take on the role of observer, as if somebody else is saying them to you. This is called separating yourself from your ego. While the ego may have good intentions of keeping us safe, instead it keeps us living in fear and not taking chances or reaching our full potential. That voice is not who we really are!

  2. Notice how silly it can be. As I listened to my ego voice as an observer, I actually giggled out loud. “Where do you come up with this stuff? You aren’t very nice!,” I thought to myself. Then, I said, “thank you for trying to protect me, but I’ve got this.”

  3. Channel your Marianne Williamson. ”Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” Remember this line always. Seriously, who are you not to be?! Print it out and put it somewhere you can always see it. You are not alone. We all go through this, but you can rise above. You are meant for greatness!

  4. Remember who you really are. For me, I had to remind myself of my deep passion for writing. Also, I am not doing this for me, but I feel a calling to share information to help others. I’m not doing myself or the world any justice by copping out. Same applies to you! The world needs what you have to offer. Don’t hold back!

Finally, after doing all of the above, I sat down with more focus and clarity then I have had in a long time. The words just flowed out of me. I reconnected with my purpose. I might not be good at a lot of things, but writing is definitely my calling..

And, of course, this does not mean I am a shoe-in for the Hay House prize by any means. But, winning or losing this contest is not what matters most. It’s about pushing through personal boundaries. And, at the end of next month, I will have a completed book proposal. That is a big deal for me, regardless of the outcome. I will continue to push towards my dreams, silencing my own negative chatter along the way.

What about you? Can you think of a time when you were talking yourself out of your own greatness? How did you get back on track? Have you ever missed out on an opportunity because of your own inner-critic? We can all learn from each other and would love to hear from you in the comments below!

For more from Dawn, check out www.dawngluskin.com and join her inspiring Facebook community

“Affirmations Are B.S.” and Other Things You Shouldn’t Believe

UpwardBy Orion Talmay

“Affirmations? Yeah, whatever… I don’t do that new age B.S.! That’s only good for weak people with no self-confidence! The people I train don’t need that crap!”

I actually heard these words from one of my fitness mentors I look up to. His huge resistance to the idea of affirmations was kind of shocking to me. I, for one, believe in “that stuff”. Does that mean I am weak? Is it all a scam to make us feel better about life? Am I just a hippie dreamer?

In my free-spirited late teens, I read two books that really shaped me. One of them was The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy. Murphy spoke about the power of our thoughts and how they influence what we manifest in our lives:

There is a miraculous curative force in your subconscious that can heal the troubled mind and the broken heart. It can open the prison door of the mind and liberate you. It can free you from all kind of physical and material bondage.

The other book was You Can Heal Your Life by the remarkable Louise Hay. Hay’s philosophy is similar to Murphy’s. In the book she described using positive affirmations to eliminate self-defeating thoughts: “What you choose to think about yourself and about life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think.” According to Hay, an affirmation is anything we say or think, therefore all of our self-talk is a stream of affirmations. In order to change your life, you must pay attention to your thoughts and choose empowering ones. By choosing thoughts that make you feel good and stating a desirable intention as a daily practice, you are retraining your brain how to think and speak and you are reprogramming your beautiful subconscious mind.

Affirmations are the seeds of your dreams that you plant for later harvesting. By writing your dreams down and affirming them in ink, or vocalizing them out loud, you bring them into the physical realm and one step closer to manifesting. If you say a lie over and over again, won’t you start believing it? If telling a lie can affect you like that, why not tell a good “lie” – one that has the potential to change your life for the better?

Many times when I’ve gone back to read what seemed originally to be “impossible” affirmations, I actually found they had manifested in my life. Who cares if it seems weird and too “outside the norm”? Who wants to be normal anyways? Popular thinking usually turns out to be average thinking. Galileo Galilei was sentenced to spend rest of his life in prison for his ideas. He vocally supported the Copernican hypothesis that the earth is not the center of the solar system, but one of many planets revolving around the sun. Three centuries later he was called the “father of modern science” by Einstein.

When researching this subject, you will find that in this day and age, science is backing “new age” thinking more than ever before.

At the dawn of the twentieth century, the tidy, objective, mechanistic view of the world began to fall apart…scientists began looking into the world within the atomic nucleus, and they were shocked to discover that on the subatomic level, the physical world did not behave at all the way Newton said it should. In fact, the “atom” itself turned out to be a sort of illusion: The closer scientists looked, the less it really appeared to be there…And when our vision of the atom fractured, the foundation of classical physics fractured along with it. Our view of how the world works was in for a radical transformation. – John Assaraf & Murray Smith (The Answer)

Quantum physics nowadays include theories like parallel universes. It’s no longer science fiction that the power of our thoughts affect physical objects and create new realities. No longer are we in an age where meditation sounds “funny.” Today’s science backs up the positive sweeping impact of quieting one’s brain waves into lower frequencies. People are opening up to possibilities in the realm of the unknown.

The ancients knew that space is not empty; it is the origin and memory of all things that exist and have ever existed…[This insight] is now being rediscovered at the cutting edge of the sciences [and is emerging] as a main pillar of the scientific world’s picture of the twenty-first century. This will profoundly change our concept of ourselves and of the world. – Dr. Ervin Laszlo (as quoted in The Answer)

When I train my clients, my rule is: no negative self-talk. “It’s too hard”, “no way can I do it” are being thrown out the window in the first session. I know for a fact that the body reacts to what you tell it. What you affirm feeds your future blueprint. One of my favorite clients once said “OMG, I am so bad at lunges”. So I told her: “Let’s change your self-talk about lunges. I think it would serve you better to instead say that I am getting better and better”. She looked at me frazzled and really forced it out uncomfortably, saying: “I am getting better and better.” Guess what? She did get better and better, AS SHE WAS SAYING IT! She started listening to – and modifying – her self-talk outside of our training sessions and consequently improved on achieving other personal goals.

But affirmations are not enough! If you look at your dirty laundry and say all day long “My laundry is getting cleaner and smells great” nothing will happen… You have to take action. Say you can do it, then do it! Just like saying I am getting better and better, while lunging. Affirmations will put you in the mindset to take action. They will keep you focused on your goals and desires. They will keep your unconscious mind open to all great opportunities around you. Previously you may not have noticed your self-talk if you were not attuned to it; but now that you are aware of its power, you will know to leverage it for positive action.

Please comment below and share your questions, stories, and experiences with affirmations. I would love to hear your thoughts; I greatly appreciate the feedback!

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picOrion Talmay is a fitness expert and life coach who helps her clients transform their bodies and their lives. Her fitness skills include yoga, weight training, kick boxing, Aikido, MMA (mixed martial arts) and Krav Maga. Orion completed the Tough Mudder, a 12-mile extreme obstacle course with an ice pool, electric wires, buttered monkey bars, and more. She’s not all hard-core though; she is also a woman of the arts — loves to dance and sing, went to acting school, and speaks three languages. She is a graduate of the American Academy of Personal Training and is AAFA, AAPT, KBA, and Zumba certified. She is currently working on an online coaching program for weight loss and self development, designed to empower people across all aspects of their lives: physical, mental, social and spiritual. Orion is also working on her first book, about transformational change. Originally from Israel, she currently lives in sunny Santa Monica, California.

6 Positive Affirmations to Change Your Life

You Deserve All Good Things... it's true!

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The following are C. James Jensen’s six key affirmations from Beyond the Power of Your Subconscious Mind. These affirmations can bring about substantial improvements in your life. He says to use them every day for the first 30 days before adding your own affirmations:

1.) I like (love) myself unconditionally: This is a link to all other goals. It is an affirmation you should fully expect to use for the rest of your life, one that will continue to build high self-esteem. Start with, ‘I like myself.’ Over time this transforms to, ‘I love myself,’ which then turns into, ‘Now that I love myself, I find that I love everyone.’”

2.) I never devalue myself through destructive self-criticism: Some people with low self-esteem simply find it easier to accept a criticism than a compliment. You must immediately cease any and all destructive self-criticism. Never devalue yourself — or others.

3.) I have unconditional warm regards for all people at all times: This affirmation creates superior human relations. People who embrace this tenet focus on the essence (goodness) of the individual, which sometimes may be in conflict with that person’s behavior. People who have warm regards also have great empathy. They realize that everyone has had a different life journey and the variance of such journeys can cause people to act (re-act) radically different, often to the same situation.

4.) I am easily able to relax at any time and every day through every affirmation, I become healthier in both mind and body: Scientific evidence confirms that many health problems are related to tension, stress, and our inability to relax. You must proactively manage the stress in your life.

5.) I am completely self-determined and allow others the same right: Most of us don’t have a problem with the first half of this affirmation, but may put up a little resistance when our business partner, spouse, or others exert their right to do the same.

6.) I am completely responsible for all of my responses to all other persons and to all events: You must choose to control yourself. You are in command. You are responsible for your ship. You are accountable for your actions. You must take responsibility for what you do to the people around you and how you respond to the situations you encounter.

Rather than yearning for what we don’t have, by beginning with the above affirmations you will eventually learn to love, appreciate and see the value in what you do have. Health and happiness will be right there with you. And everything will be okay. I promise!

3 Ways To Find Your Inner Child and Add the WOW! Back to Life

flying kidKids don’t like being bored. So, when the world becomes boring to them, they find things to make it interesting. They invent, create, imagine – or at least they do this until much of our schooling pulls this desire and ability out of them.

Here are some alarming statistics: Kids laugh and smile more than 400 times a day. Adults – only 15. The ability to see the greatness, awesomeness, and wonder about life is such an incredible trait in kids, and one that we, as adults, have either forgotten how to do or have been trained out of. Though we are each born great, we often trade our greatness in order to fit in. We accept what others do as what “is done” and in the process, we become more and more disconnected from our true talents, strengths and passions. We loose our sense of wonder – we stop being kids.

So what if, just for a moment, we could get back into our “kid thinking” – the thinking that allowed us to see possibilities everywhere, that prevented us from being afraid of standing out, failing or doing anything but loving life? What if we were more focused on all that could happen instead of constantly seeing what can’t happen? Image how our lives would change.

Consider these three ways to reconnect to your inner child to find ways to add more WOW! and wonder back into your life:

1. Reconnect to your memories. Think back to when you were a kid. What did you love to do? What did you dream about? Who were your heroes? Where did you spend your time? When we were younger, we did things that made
us happy, mostly because we were less concerned with what others thought. We tried things and chose to do things we knew were right – or fun – for us. Kids are remarkably authentic and true. So thinking back to when you were
younger and identify what was right and fun for you. Without others telling you who to be, how things are or what to do, you filled your time with the things you loved; you did what mattered to you. Many of these things still matter to you. List them, think about them, reconnect to them. You need this information to do what comes next: action.

2. Act on what mattered to you. From that list of possibilities, select one or two. If you loved to dance, go dance. Take lessons or put the music on when you are home. If you loved to write, use numbers, solve puzzles, cook, build
things, dream, run, play sports, lead others, act or anything else, start it again. These things mattered to us. And for the most part, we were good at them. We have both the interest and the ability to bring it back into our lives in some form. Keep a running list of things you want to add back into your life. Then go do it.

3. Tell the judging committee in your head to sit down and shut up. The greatest reason why we live small (why we seemingly don’t love life like kids do) is that we have a committee in our head that likes to tell us what and how to do things. So if you reconsider doing things you did as a kid, the adult, responsible and serious committee in your head is going to give you a tough time. As an adult, these “voices” tell you that acting like a kid is foolish. Life is serious, dangerous and hard. Though all that is true, life is also ours to invent. A life that is built around play – where play means doing what we love in both work and life – is better, happier, and more successful than a life that is serious, dangerous, and hard. We choose how we see life – thrilled like a kid or stressed like an adult. And the cause of much of our “can’t do” attitude is the inner critic, expert and curmudgeon that wants us to play it safe, stay small and follow someone else’s rules. So in the moment when you feel pulled to put the kids dreams away, practice telling your inner critic and committee to sit down, go get a book and shut up.

We could have a life of WOW – in fact, I personally think that is how it is intended. Life is full of great moments that should appreciated and celebrated. But we have been taught that fun is not responsible. We are taught that hard work is the only route to a good life. We are taught that we are supposed to grow up and act like adults, often defined as serious, compliant and disciplined. But why? Why give up the perspective that life is fun, filled with possibilities that are new, exciting and awesome?

So here’s my challenge for you. When you find yourself in a situation where you feel stressed or manic, ask yourself: what would a kid do (WWAKD)? Because maybe, that answer might be exactly what you need to do in that moment. And in the process, we could add more fun, adventure, and WOW to our lives, allowing us to add more good times, joy and excitement. If we remember what we loved as kids and brought some of it back, we could rekindle our love of life and be impressed with all that it can be.

Now, tell your ‘committee’ to be quiet and go out and act like a kid…

photo by: Victor Bezrukov

A Metaphor for Healing: The Vulture and the Honeybee

landing...By Gloria Loring

I love when I am gifted with a metaphor that helps me toward a more peaceful mind. I have three books that offer uplifting ideas each morning, and the other day Sri Swami Satchidananda’s book got my attention with his words about the vulture and the honeybee.

He noted that the vulture flies higher than many birds, soars beautifully, but only casts its eyes on dead and decaying matter. A honeybee “will fly past many other things to look for even a little bit of nectar on a flower.”

This resonated with me immediately because my mind still flits to the dead and decaying memory of an event that occurred more than a year ago. It was one of the saddest and most humiliating of evenings, and I have been working to let go of it ever since. Yet the experience of it comes at me every few days. I know the person was not in their right mind, not in their true self, and I have practiced forgiveness for all of us concerned, yet there it still is, poking at me.

When I read Swmaiji’s words about the vulture, my mind flashed back to my mother admonishing this scabby-kneed daughter, “If you pick at that, it will never heal.” Just so, if I keep picking at my emotional wound of a year ago, it will never heal either. And I do want it to heal.

So I have a new tool in my healing arsenal. When my mind goes to what is dead (over and done) and should be buried, I think of myself as a vulture looking for decaying matter, (yuck) which immediately prompts me to shift to the honeybee POV, seeking the nectar that is always somewhere close by. Bzzzzzzzzzzz!

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The former “Liz Chandler” on Days of Our Lives, Gloria Loring is a singer, songwriter,
actress and author. Her most recent book is Coincidence Is God’s Way of
Remaining Anonymous, noted as a “compelling journey of show business,
mystery and miracles.” Follow Gloria on Facebook and Twitter.

The List — December 2012: Featuring Kyle Maynard (No arms, No legs, NO EXCUSES)

Every once in awhile, I come across an individual that truly blows me away. Kyle Maynard is one of those individuals.

My friend Lewis Howes (also a very inspiring guy) recently introduced me to Kyle Maynard, and, as I was sorting through content for December’s LIST, I realized that it was not necessary to list five things that inspired me this month. I just want to share Kyle’s story with you and give it the spotlight it so deserves.

Kyle Maynard is a motivational speaker, author, entrepreneur, and athlete. This kind of description might compel you to believe everything about Kyle’s life is pretty normal. In a sense, it is, but Kyle was born with a congenital amputation with arms that end at the elbows and legs near the knees.

Despite what others might consider to be a “limitation,” Kyle has beat the odds to be extraordinary. Absolutely extraordinary.

Kyle’s wrestled for one of the best teams in the Southeast, set records in weightlifting, fought in mixed martial arts, and, most recently, became the first man to crawl on his own to the summit of Mt. Kilimanjaro, the highest mountain in Africa!

One of the most awesome insights that I think Kyle offers is how his parents didn’t baby him, even through the trials. They watched him fail. They let him fail. They stood guard as safety nets to his pursuits, but they ultimately lay the choices of success into their son’s hands.

As a result, Kyle is constantly moving to new heights, pushing past what others deem “impossible,” and being a real teacher of adventure and pursuance of dreams to a global audience. He has been interviewed by many, including Oprah and Larry King. He just won the ESPY this past July for “Best Male Athlete with a Disability.”

“I had to go through failures in order to learn how to do it.” — Kyle Maynard

Kyle Maynard on the summit of the Continental Divide in Colorado at 12,000 ft.

What’s more amazing? I am not just introducing Kyle Maynard to all of you today as a new friend or inspiration but as our newest contributor to Positively Positive. I have no doubt that he is going to bring so much perspective, energy, and impact into our online community. I cannot wait for him to share his story to the world through the lens of Positively Positive.

“When we start anything, it’s hard, but…in order for the next generation to be a better version of ourselves, than we do have to learn how to fail. Failure is not fun, but I believe it is the only way to go outside our comfort zone and learn how to be not bound and to stand back up.”
Kyle Marnard

Please be sure to watch Kyle’s first (must watch) video below:

Wanting more of Kyle’s inspiration? Be sure to follow him on Facebook and Twitter.

New to THE LIST? THE LIST is a monthly post featuring the top inspiring finds that hit me at my core. Morsels so good that I cannot possibly think of keeping them to myself. Good works, good people, good books, and good movies—all rolled into one post. Missed the last LIST? Check it out here!

As usual, I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. I personally read them all.  And Kyle will be reading and responding to your comments as well!

Eric Handler is the publisher and co-founder of Positively Positive. Check out his TEDx talk. Follow Eric on TWITTER

* Video above shot by Takashi Doscher of INTELLECTUAL PROPAGANDA

Hey, Smarty Pants! 5 Articles to Nourish Your Brain.

As thoughtful, spiritual people, we tend to emphasize the heart and soul. The brain is the realm of reason, but the heart…This is the home of spirit and love and connection. Well, it’s time to give your brain some love. It helps you solve tough problems, formulate creative thoughts, and move your body around in all manner of ways. How wonderful to have a brain!

Why forget when you can remember? Everything. Here’s a super practical, fun action plan to boost your brain strength and keep those memories close.

How to Remember Everything (Greatist)

Blueberries and avocados are great – but here are some other ways to feed your brain. Try curiosity for breakfast, exercise for lunch, and positivity for dinner.

8 Ways to Feed Your Brain (MindBodyGreen)

Did you know negativity can impair brain function?! Protect yourself against party poopers.

3 Ways to Defend Your Brain Against Complainers (Care2)

Remember those piano and violin lessons you bemoaned as a child? Well you can thank them now for that strong, healthy brain of yours.

Music Boosts the Brain (HuffPost)

And finally, our brains aren’t all science. When you approach life with positivity and optimism, you feel happy, your brain is more agile, your body is healthy, and your soul is expanded. Pure magic.

The Magic of Pure Optimism (Positively Positive)

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