Where are you with the intents that matter most? This is the quickest of encouragements to remind you that in the midst of the madness, don’t forget to: Continue reading
Where are you with the intents that matter most? This is the quickest of encouragements to remind you that in the midst of the madness, don’t forget to: Continue reading
Today our intent is inspired by our desire NOT to switch into autopilot when we walk in the doors of our offices. We want to be present for every meeting, memo and email that comes in so that we can prioritize and vision be infused in all we do. If we’re going to move with intention, it is going to be because we allow purpose to be part of our working hours.
You too? Here are 3 resources to help: Continue reading
Nobody ever said life was fair……..
Nobody ever said life was just……..
Okay, maybe they did, but they were pretty stupid.
And they never got anywhere in life.
Truth is, life is not very fair at all. That’s why we are having revolutions in different parts of the world right now.
That’s why we have always had revolts ….. throughout the history of mankind.
Fact is: Continue reading
One of the greatest puzzles facing each of us is whether the events in our lives form a pattern, and if so, what does the pattern mean. We’ve all heard the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason.” Some people say it in passing, others take it more seriously. But officially, if we accept the basic scientific principle that the physical world operates essentially through random chance, it’s not credible to believe that we live in a universe that has purpose and meaning. We can ask when the big bang occurred but not why. We can investigate how sodium and chlorine combine to form salt, but it makes no sense, scientifically, to ask the purpose of salt. Salt and the big bang just are.
Since the question of meaning and purpose are deeply embedded in religion, let’s set those claims aside. If God or the gods control human life, this is a matter of faith, not science. Humans have constructed faith-based systems for many centuries, of course. Placing an invisible higher power at the center of reality, a power who judges right from wrong, who punishes and rewards according to divine morality, is simply outside the rules developed by science and secular society. There are enough glitches in those rules without hauling God into the argument.
Those glitches center around a simple observation. Human life has meaning and purpose. The physical world, absent humans, doesn’t. When we are motivated by love or fear, when we make moral choices or create a vision of a better life, there is no doubt that human beings not only value meaning and purpose, we have evolved, along with the higher brain, to support meaning and purpose. Since Darwinian evolution allows for only genetic mutations, how did DNA, which is built from completely ordinary atoms and molecules, acquire any more meaning than salt? Or if DNA isn’t linked to the meaning of life, how can there be meaning and purpose outside our genes? Continue reading
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“HELP DESK” with
*** A NEW SHOW TO AIR ON THE OWN NETWORK ***
WHEN: February 16, 2014
LOCATION: Grand Park (fountain between Grand Ave and Hill St.)
1:30PM-3:30 – Help Desk open to public
3:30PM-4:00PM – Group Activity
Description: Help Desk is a television show on OWN that features renowned teachers, authors, and experts making themselves available in public spaces to provide advice to anyone who needs it. Help Desk is a deeply substantive series that grounds some of the great wisdom provided by today’s top experts and helps people live better and more fulfilling lives.
As a global leader and pioneer in the field of mind-body medicine, Deepak Chopra transforms the way the world views physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social wellness. Known as a prolific author of more than seventy-five books with twenty-one New York Times best sellers in both fiction and non-fiction, Time magazine has described Dr. Chopra as one of the top 100 heroes and icons of the century and credits him as “the poet-prophet of alternative medicine.”
1. Remove any hats with logos
1. Sit down, introduce yourself!
2. Give some basic background (age and profession).
3. Explain your issue/problem and ask your question!
4. After you’re question is answered get up and allow the next person to step forward
5. Share any final thoughts and reactions in our “testimonial area”
What we are looking for: Deepak Chopra is looking for people seeking advice to help them with a specific life issue or circumstance. Below are a few examples, but we are open to hearing about any particular issues you would like to discuss:
-Dissatisfaction with career/feeling trapped
-Questioning faith or belief in higher power
-Difficulties with weight loss
-Overcoming specific anxieties or fears
-Divorce or breakup
-Coping with job-loss
-Issues revolving around sexual identity
-Sex and relationship issues
-Loss of a family member or friend
Stumped? Here are some sample questions: (Keep in mind you must briefly describe a life story or circumstance that relates to the question).
I have a deep fear of “…..” . How do I overcome this fear?
How do I deal with a family who doesn’t approve of me leaving the faith I was raised with?
How do I get over my breakup with my boyfriend/girlfriend?
How do find balance between my family life and my work life?
How do I cope with loss in my life (divorce, financial loss, job loss)?
Can I be truly happy – and what does it mean to be truly happy?
What steps can I take to discover my purpose and find meaning in life?
How do I forgive someone who hurt me?
I keep repeating the same mistakes – how do I get out of an unhealthy pattern?
How do I find passion for life?
How do I reduce my stress level at work?
Say it again, “I AM a powerful creator!!!” Yes, you are. The super cool thing about this new year, is that we are also starting off with a new moon on January 1t! The last time this happened was 19 years ago. New moons bring powerful energy for change and fresh starts. Combine that with the energy of a new calendar year turning over, and you have super manifesting powers!
With that in mind, here are 10 tips to help you make 2014 your most amazing year yet!
Ditch the resolutions and create real change that lasts by writing goals with soul! Instead of the typical, boring goal list that you feel obligated to write because everybody else is, dig really deep and listen to the calling of your soul. What is your big intention for the new year? How do you want to feel? What impact do you want to have in the world? By aligning with the feelings you desire, your deep-rooted intentions, and the impact you want to have in the world, there is a much greater likelihood of you staying interested, motivated, and totally engaged. For example, instead of saying, “I want to lose 10 pounds (and this year I’m really going to do it), a goal with soul would sound more like this: “I want to feel more alive and more energized! I want to feel divinely feminine and sexy in my own skin. I want the sense of accomplishment and rush of self-confidence knowing I finally did it. I want tons of energy to enjoy chasing after my kids and still have enough left over to start that really amazing project.” See the difference? Which do you think has more staying power?
Follow your bliss. Whatever you have going on in your life, make sure you are doing something that makes you happy every single day! Passion is the internal fire that lights us up and keep us going through the tough times. Don’t put yours on the back burner. Instead, make sure your flame is kept healthy and strong by spending time nourishing it each day.
Show up! Often, the most difficult part of creating a new habit or practice is having the discipline to show up each day. But, on the flip side of that, if you can just commit to showing up for it, the rest will happen naturally. In other words, get your booty to the gym, the classroom, the meeting, in front of the computer typing feverishly, or wherever else it needs to be to make good things happen in your life! In doing so, you’ve already covered the tough part. Next, make sure you are showing up mindfully and without distractions so that you can be fully engaged in the activity. Stay committed and you are pretty much guaranteed to see progress and success over time. So, no excuses or compromise. Show up!
Make self-care a priority. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anybody else very well either. And, the world needs you! So, make sure you are loving and nurturing yourself regularly. This includes your physical fitness, health, mental well-being, spirituality, relationships, finances, career, personal goals, and anything else that needs attention to ensure you are healthy, happy, peaceful and fulfilled in your life.
Say “no” to anything that doesn’t totally excite your soul. Our most valuable resource is our time. We only have so many hours in each day and we can never go backwards to get it back. Spend yours wisely! Often, this means saying no, and possibly even disappointing others along this way. But, this is your life and these are your dreams. If your time is filled up doing stuff that you don’t absolutely love, than there isn’t going to be enough space for your true love and calling to seep in. So, before saying ‘yes’ to something, ask yourself if it lines up with your vision and your goals with soul. Sit on it for at least 24 hours. If the answer is not an excited “Hell yes!!” than consider taking a pass on it.
Help others. When your goals and dreams include more than just helping yourself, they seem to come alive that much quicker and more vibrantly. It’s just one of those unexplained laws of the Universe. Bonus: it feels good. Whether it’s sharing knowledge and wisdom, your time, or allocating a percentage of sales or income to giving back, consider some ways you can help impact the world with your gifts in a positive way. It all comes back around.
Practice humility and grace. When you achieve some amount of success in your life, always remember where you came from and how hard you worked to get there. Also, be mindful that there is an ebb and flow to these sorts of things. Be grateful and enjoy your achievements in the moment, but be ready and willing to continue to work hard to keep them up. Success also has a way of sometimes bringing up adversity. Make it your policy to embrace the positive, disregard the negative (with the exception of any valuable lessons you can extract), and handle any difficult situations or people with dignity and grace. You will go far if you can master the art of this!
Savor and celebrate. Sometimes in our day-to-day routines, we don’t realize how far we’ve come. Any progress is good progress! Check in with your goals often and be sure to celebrate all of the big and small accomplishments along the way. You deserve it! It feels good to treat yourself and also serves as a reminder of the hard work you’ve put in to make steps in the direction of your dreams. Life is about the journey more so than the destination. So, enjoy the ride!
Don’t give up! When the going gets tough, so many people want to throw in the towel. This is when you’re passion and devotion is put to the test as you will need to dig even deeper to keep pushing along. You wouldn’t train for a marathon and give up a mile before the finish line because you are tired. No way! You push through it. A spectator sign that I’ve seen in a couple marathons that I’ve ran is “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” So true! Change out a couple of words and apply it to chasing your dreams, and keep trying.
Have fun!!! Don’t take life so serious. Nobody gets out alive, anyway. Laugh. Be silly. Dance. Forgive. Let go. Embrace. Smile. Enjoy. With two businesses, two young children, and a beautifully chaotic life of my own, embracing an abundance of unbridled joy is one of my biggest intentions for next year. I hope you will join me, let loose a little, and let the corners of your mouth turn up more too! Let’s change the world with smiles on our faces.
I hope these 10 tips will leave you feeling inspired at the start of this new year! Revisit them any time you need a little extra boost.
If you are looking for a little more help, visit the Dawnsense.com page and sign up for the email list to learn about the upcoming group coaching programs that will help you dig in and make 2014 your best year yet. And, please also join us on the inspiring Dawnsense Facebook page. I’ll be cheering for you!
What is my purpose?
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say this, to me or other people recently.
People often come to see me when they are in their 30s or 40s and say, I have done what was expected of me and had a career doing the right thing, now I want to do something else. Something that makes me feel whole/complete. Something that brings me joy and fulfilment and helps me fulfil a personal quest. But, I’m not sure what my purpose is.
Is there a shift in the energy of the universe that is making people question this more than before? Is there a shift in me that I am hearing it more that I did? These are questions I have been pondering for a while.
My question is why is there such a quest now for understanding this age old adage? When I ask people to tell me more about what they mean, they explain that they want more out of their lives. They seem to want to dig deeper, feel more intensely, taste more flavorfully, see and really observe more clearly. Maybe we are listening with more intention?
Surely then our purpose is to do just that, be in the moment and experience the moment for what it is? Eckhart Tolle says, “Listen to people’s stories, and you’ll find that they could all be entitled “Why I Cannot Be at Peace Now” The ego doesn’t know that your only opportunity for being at peace is now.” Is my purpose to be right here, right now? I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have goals or ambitions in place. I am simply saying that if I just concentrate on this moment I might find that it is full of opportunities that I might miss if I focus on the tomorrows.
I have come to understand that there are some “action steps” that help us make light of that question, “what is my purpose?” Action step one, I have to acknowledge that I am a creative being. We all have creativity within us no matter what we do or how. The second action step is to recognize it and develop it further. The third action step is to follow what feels right in your heart. To stop pleasing other people or doing what is expected of you. Now it is time for you to do what it is that you want. The fourth action step is to enjoy who you have chosen to be.
Paulo Coelho sums it up beautifully when he says:
People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of
– The Alchemist.
By Jay Forte
At the grocery store yesterday, while buying some great ingredients for a dinner with friends, I watched a dad walk down one of the food aisles with his daughter and son (probably about 7 and 9 years old). They picked up box after box and can after can and read the nutritional ingredients together. I overheard him say, “You have to know what you are eating and only eat the great things – this will help you be strong to live life like it matters.” Wonderful lesson for his kids. Wonderful lesson for me. Live life like it matters.
Most days we get out of bed unaware of the gift of getting out of bed and having access to an entirely new day. We have a blank day just waiting for us to fill it in with the things that matter to us – our families, our work, our hobbies, our passions, our beliefs. We can choose what goes in the day. We can make the moments of our days matter.
Many of us, however, take life for granted – that it will always be. That one day is like any other – nothing special. But talk to those whose lives are affected by loss, illness, age and fear and we quickly see how fragile, important, fleeting and precious life is.
Jon Kabat-Zinn, author many great books on mindfulness and consciousness, talks about being present to our lives. When we take the time to be present to and in our lives, we start to really connect with all that life is (and can be). But we don’t get this awareness if we don’t pay attention – if we don’t actually show up to the moments of our lives. These moments have everything for us; they have excitement, adventure, passion and opportunities to help us celebrate. They have pain, struggle, challenge and loss to help us learn. Both come to those who connect with life – paying attention and living life like it matters.
I routinely coach retiring Baby Boomers – people born between 1946 and 1964. More than 12,500 boomers are turning 50 every day; that’s about one every 7 seconds. By 2030, the 65-and-over population will be around 71.5 million; by 2050 that same group will grow to 86.7 million. Retirees are being confronted with relearning how to make life matter after so many years of work and routine; they are finding it is not easy, without some help, to reinvent ways to feel relevant, vibrant and valuable in retirement. Living life like it matters is about purpose – about having something important to do, contribute and be part of at every age.
We all go through this. As we move from high school to college to employee to married to parent to grandparent to retiree, we are the same people; we have the same talents and passions. What changes, however, is our world and our place in that world. At each stage in life we have to relearn how to show up to our lives and make them valuable and important. That is just how it works. But with the commitment to wake up each day focused on making life matter, we have the ability to find our way each day to be happy, engaged and living our potential.
I just did the calculation – I have been on the planet 20,333 days (almost 56 years). Have I lived each day like it mattered? Not at all. There were many days that I just took for granted – that when this one finished, many more will follow – uninterrupted. I had no respect or regard for the preciousness of each day. But seeing the number 20,333, I now see that life is finite and that the more successful way to live is to choose how to show up to each moment in life. I have a choice in how I value and spend my days. I have a choice to align what I do best to meaningful places in my world to feel connected to life. Writer and theologian Frederick Buechner, says it best, “Our vocation in life is where our greatest joy meets our world’s greatest need.” Connect what gives us the greatest joy to things in our world that need what we do best. This is how to live life like it matters.
Discover what living life like it matters means for you, then promise yourself as you put your feet on the floor each morning, that today will count. Today will be amazing. Today will matter.
By Jay Forte
Most of us move through live in “vanilla” mode; things are fine – things are okay – not bad, not good – just okay. Vanilla.
What would life be like if it were soul-stirring instead? What if life were double mocha-chip fudge with caramel (sounds like a Starbucks drink) instead of vanilla?
Life is designed to be amazing. The purpose of life, according to the Dalai Lama is to be happy – to find and live what moves us, inspires us and stirs our souls.
But someplace in our histories we have been told that life is just about surviving – about just getting by. We are taught to fear danger, loss and lack, so we play it safe. We feel it is better not to live too large because that way we can minimize any large hurt or disappointment. We convince ourselves that good enough is the way to do life. We believe that adventure is for those who are not logical or responsible or for those who are brave and courageous – not us. So we perpetuate the view that we should minimize our impact and footprint – that we should live just under the radar.
Every day life delivers; the world meets us where we are. If we want small, sure, we can have small. But here is the great thing – if we want soul-stirring, we can have soul-stirring. It is nothing more than a choice. But if it is our choice, why do so many of us not choose soul-stirring?
It is the events, experiences, and stories that play in our heads that influence us to choose small. Whose voice do you hear telling you to pull back, don’t step out of line, do what others do and basically talk us out of our dreams? I wonder if it is truly your voice or the voices of parents, schools, friends, churches or colleagues. We seem to trust others who know little about the true us to influence how we see the world – our world. We defer to others to tell us how to do life. And for many, this forces us to miss out on what matters most to us.
There is a reason we call a great life soul-stirring; it activates the deepest part of us. We feel it down to our soul, our essence. At this level, everything about life is different – larger – more profound. The more we approach life this way, the more we see the opportunities it creates and more significant life becomes. We are moved just being part of life, instead of moving to get out of life’s way.
What if your work was soul-stirring – how much more significant would it be and what additional opportunities would it create?
What if your relationships were soul-stirring – how much more significant would it be and what additional opportunities would it create?
What if your life was soul-stirring – how much more significant would it be and what additional opportunities would it create?
What permission do you need to allow yourself to choose large over small? Get to it soon because each day we are not living a soul-stirring life is a day that is less remarkable than it could be.
Todd Henry, the founder of Accidental Creative and author of the new book titled Die Empty; Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, challenges us to show up big to life – to know ourselves and use up all of abilities – to “die empty.” Add to this the following perspective from the great Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw, “I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no ‘brief candle’ to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment; and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” Wise words. Soul-stirring words. How do they inspire you to show up more significantly to your life?
Have you ever stopped to think about how rarely we think about the traits we want in a partner in more than a passing way? Do you find that you seek a physical type and then hope that they have the character traits that you desire? Or, do you find yourself imagining that you can wish the traits into their character once you get the relationship started?
In fact there is a way to ensure that you bring just the right person into your life. Now this isn’t just magical or wishful thinking. Rather, it’s about focusing your thoughts about yourself and your ideal mate in a way that makes you open to the person you want to meet.
There is a progression of activities to help you get to this point. It does take a bit of thinking and being honest with yourself, but it will be effective in attracting the right type of people into your life. The following tips will help you get started in organizing and focusing in on your relationship thoughts.
Step 1: What do I deserve in a partner?
This is a critical first step. If you don’t see yourself as deserving of that perfect partner, then you cannot expect him or her to walk into your life. You have to believe that you are worthy and deserving of a partner to fulfill your dreams and desires. Good self-esteem is one major factor in meeting the right person, since you have to feel good about yourself to attract someone that will feel good about you too.
Step 2: What do you really want?
Start by making a list of the traits or characteristics that you really desire. Is it a sense of humor, an intellect or a person that is understanding and empathetic? Think on these behaviors and see yourself with the person. What does the relationships look like and feel like? What are your feelings about the relationship? By imaging the relationship as it is, you will be more clear with potential partners about your vision of a relationship.
Step 3: Bring love into your life
Love is the greatest of human emotion, and it is a powerful tool for attracting the type of relationship that you are looking for. Surround yourself with people you love, including your pets, and also share your feelings of love with others. The more love you put out, the more that will be returned.
Originally published September 2012