“Women are programmed for monogamy” goes the conventional understanding we’ve clung to since Victorian times. After all, they have a finite number of eggs, which means the pressure to secure a viable mate and reproduce is more pressing for them than for men, who produce limitless sperm over the course of a lifetime. It’s a [...]
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Thursday Morning Melody: A New Life
The soft, lilting voice of Jim James might throw you off when you see his mass of ginger-blonde hair and big bushy beard. Within a few seconds, though, there will be no doubt as to his skill or earnest heart. Known primarily as the lead vocalist and guitarist of the band My Morning Jacket, James [...]
What the Sleepy Dog Taught Me About Compassion
This is one of my favorite little stories: One afternoon, a tired-looking dog wandered into my yard and followed me through the door into the house. He went down the hall, laid down on the couch and slept there for an hour. Since my dogs didn’t seem to mind his presence, and he seemed like [...]
Why Complaining May Be Keeping You From Living Life to the Fullest
By Pamela Johnston Humans are literally born complaining. The very first thing we do upon being dragged unceremoniously out of a nice, warm, dark, cozy place into the loud, bright, cold, and uncertain world is to register a noisy complaint. It makes perfect sense; the newborn has no other way to change the state of [...]
“30 Is Not the New 20″: 3 Things Every 20-Something Needs to Hear
We’ve been hearing it for some time now: 30 is the new 20. The 20′s are a throwaway decade. They don’t count. Well, erase everything you’ve heard about being a 20-something because this TED talk is going to rock your world. Clinical psychologist Meg Jay discusses her experience working with 20-somethings over the years and [...]
The “F” Word: 5 Steps to Practice Forgiveness
By Dawn Gluskin No, not that “f” word. The other “f” word: forgiveness! The Buddha compared holding onto anger to grasping hot coals with the intent of throwing them at someone else. You, of course, are the one that gets burnt. So, why is it that we often walk around holding onto resentment, grudges, and [...]
Elephant in the Room: The Guilt of Leaving Home
Dear Cora, I moved in with my grandma after my freshman year of college because the other adults in my life were unreliable – my parents aren’t around and my step-mother all but kicked me out. So my grandma has been there for me when I felt like I had no one else and we [...]
4 Ways to Know When A Relationship Is Over
How do you know when a relationship is over? A reader/friend of mine recently asked for my advice, as she has been struggling in her long-term marriage for several years. She and her husband have two small children, a flourishing life together, but have grown apart. Neither feel their core needs are being met. They [...]
8 Reasons To Be More Present In Your Life
Have you ever lost your car keys? Or arrived at the grocery store and realized you’ve left your wallet at home? I have, and I’ll bet many of you have too. You know how much stress and anxiety these situations create, and all because we were not present when we put our keys down (somewhere!) [...]
Your Refuge – A Heart That Is Ready for Anything
When the Buddha was dying, he gave a final message to his beloved attendant Ananda, and to generations to come: “Be a lamp unto yourself, be a refuge to yourself. Take yourself to no external refuge.” In his last words, the Buddha was urging us to see this truth: although you may search the world [...]
