For decades now, people have admired the rapport between my husband and I. Whether we’re presenting on stage together, or chatting with friends in our living room, the chemistry is obvious and apparently enviable. A curiosity. Where, I’ve been asked, does it come from?
If only I could take my inquirers to Paris. Because my answer is there, in the Louvre Art Museum, specifically in the “Salle des Etats”, where Mona Lisa sits composed in the midst of constant chaos: hundreds of photographers clamoring for their shot at any given moment. And why not? She is the most famous face in history. What most people don’t know about Mona Lisa though, is the fact that it took forty-plus years to create her––at least it took that long for Renaissance man, Leonardo da Vinci, to become expert enough, to craft his masterpiece.
And therein lies the answer to our question, “Where does a charmed marriage come from?” Continue reading
Do you remember the episode in Friends where Ross met the girl of his dreams? She was gorgeous, had a great personality, a perfect body AND she was totally into him? This episode is called, The Dirty Girl. It starts as they are coming back from a lovely evening out and she invites him into her apartment. Ross is excited to go in until she opens the door and he sees the mess she lives in.
What if you’ve met Mr. Wonderful and had an incredible evening together? You spent hours getting ready, picking out your clothes, doing your make up. You’ve thought through all the wonderful subjects you talked about at dinner. And if all goes well, you’ll want to take him back to your place. But first, ask yourself – are you a “Dirty Girl”?
We never consider that a man may be interested in more than our looks. Women spend thousands of dollars on beauty products and weight loss scams. But what if I told you one of the best investments you could make would be to spend time learning how to keep house. Yes, a man is looking for an attractive woman, but he is also looking for someone that can make a house a home. And that means keeping your home clean and neat. Continue reading
One of the most common challenges that parents face is connecting with their children and maintaining a relationship with one another. As kids grow and develop, it can be challenging to remain close due to outside influences and changes that take place. When you want to strengthen your relationship and form a close bond, there are a few important tips to follow that will prove to be effective. Continue reading
It’s been said that “a good marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short”. Perhaps it’s because of this companionship that getting hitched boasts such a bevy of health benefits. Recent research shows that married couples report higher level of happiness, better cancer survival rates, more sex, less loneliness, and longer lifespans than their single counterparts.
But, if these aforementioned long conversations are more likely to happen over an indulgent meal than a shared workout, beware. A 2016 study of nearly 2,000 married couples indicated one hefty downside to marriage: a larger waistline. Men in the study were nearly twice as likely to be obese, while both women and men that were married worked out less (approximately 47 minutes less per week) than their married counterparts.
So, what’s a health conscious but happily betrothed couple to do? As it turns out, there is a silver lining in all this. A study presented by Johns Hopkins researchers that analyzed the data of questionnaires completed by 3,261 middle aged couples 6 years apart. It showed that while married couples typically have overall lower exercise rates, it only takes one person to in the relationship to sway the trend in a positive direction. For example, if you (but not your spouse) breaks a sweat on a regular basis, your better half is up to 70% more likely to meet minimum exercise recommendations in the future–so long as you keep up the good work. This effect was maintained, regardless of whether the husband or the wife was the original fitness buff. Conversely, if either spouse gave up their exercise regimen, the other was more likely to follow suit. The implication is that your exercise behavior has an outsized impact on that of your spouse.
My partner still won’t exercise!
Sometimes, it seems that despite best intentions, it’s impossible to get your partner off the couch. Here are 5 ways to get moving together! Continue reading
What happens when you turn your light on? No, not the light switch in your bedroom, living room or kitchen, but the light within. Are you aware that you have a light to turn on? Well, you do and it is time to wake up to your luminescent self!
Perhaps the most shared characteristic among all of us walking on the planet is fear. Imagine for a moment, 7 billion human beings walking around, heads down, eyes averting the direct stare of those we encounter, hiding behind our insecurities and past pain points, staying under the radar and just trying to blend. And you may actually believe that you are the only one, the exclusive human being caught up in the fear of being seen. Well, think again, for most people live their lives with their lights dimmed or in so many cases, turned off completely. Why do we live this way?
Fear with it’s ugly tentacles of resentment, anger, jealousy, self-righteousness, greed, vengeance, and pride prevents us from realizing our illuminated and loving selves. On the continuum of life our choices come in two distinct flavors: fear and love. It is said that fear and love cannot live in the same space. This fact is true. So why do we choose fear over love? The answer leads us to the realization that we are simply living our lives unconscious to the reality that we can shift our focus to become awake and conscious to the power we each possess.
Here are the steps to follow in turning on your love light: Continue reading
Happy Valentines Day!
May you find that you have so much love to give.
May you find that you are showered in all the love you hope to find.
May you find that there is never a shortage on love in your life, only that it is multiplied over and over.
In case you’re needing any help getting the declarations of love going, here is some inspiration from some of our favorite stories to help you: Continue reading
On the eve of Valentines Day, it’s entirely possible that you’re sweating the big day tomorrow. There’s a lot of pressure to prove just how MUCH you love someone one day a year which means you’re having to do a check-in on where you’re at, where you should be at, how you compare to other couples in your same place… oh look at that. More sweat.
We here at Intent.com are of the camp that believes that proving your love isn’t a once-a-year kind of thing. Instead we hope to communicate love and commitment all year. Truthfully, a grand gesture can do wonders, but they will never measure up if they aren’t met with consistently showing up. The little things add up and it doesn’t mean you have to be a well of little things. Perhaps finding your few little things that you do on a regular basis is the difference between needing one all-out extravaganza in early spring.
How to do that? Here are 3 small ways you can consistently say ‘I love you’ all year long: Continue reading
Stuck in a cycle of unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships? You’re not alone. As you seek to express the feelings and ideas in your mind, an important next step will be connecting with people who help you feel heard and empowered. When we feel safe and loved, we are so much more likely to be active and impactful in our intentions. So we’re starting with step one. Our intent is to seek healthy relationships. These are people who are patient and listening, people who are kind and honest, people who are encouraging and also ready to share their hopes and inspiration. Do you know the names of those people? If so, maybe this is a good time to invest in those relationships. If not, maybe this is an important time to find people who are ready to rise to the occasion along side you!
On the hunt? Here are 3 things to help you find and develop healthy relationships:
I stare with awe at the Brooklyn Bridge every time I visit New York because I know that it wouldn’t be there if it Emily and Washington Roebling hadn’t faced down every conceivable challenge during its fourteen-year construction.
Whenever I visit Boston, I wonder at the life of John and Abigail Adams, who of necessity, lived apart more than together during the tumultuous birthing of America.
And when I enter the hospital room of a loved one, I thank God for Pierre and Marie Curie, who worked side by side nearly every waking minute of their entire marriage to produce the miracle of radium.
The fact is, if we dug into the back-story of most of the world’s grand accomplishments, we would undoubtedly be impressed with how many of those accomplishments are the product of grand marriages. Continue reading
According to CNBC, finances are the leading cause of stress in a relationship. 35% of people surveyed said that money was the primary cause of friction in their relationship. Managing your finances as a couple can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. Here are 5 tips to help you prevent money arguments with your spouse. Continue reading