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A Lesson in Resilience

cherry tree resilienceOne of my brothers still lives on Cape Cod, the place where my 5 siblings and I grew up. This is noteworthy for two reasons – first, he is a scenic photographer – he captures amazing shots of nature; second, Cape Cod and New England has had snowstorm after snowstorm this winter. This has created one of his latest works – the amazing flowering cherry tree in his front yard in each of the four seasons. Amazing flowers in spring, great dense green leaves in summer, amazing fiery reds and orange foliage in fall and the bare brown trunk blanketed under epic snow in winter. This bold tree is resilient; it shows up powerfully in each season. It inspires my intention to be more resilient.

The lesson from the cherry tree is that we too are capable of shining no matter what happens. We are resilient to handle the seasons – and by seasons I mean the constant changes in our lives. We meet sunny days where things are going our way – we flower, we shine. We meet stormy days that seem unfair, unrelenting and scary. When we are intentional and determined about connecting to our inner greatness and strength – to the power deep in us – we find we have access to amazing resilience. This helps us show up strong and committed to life, regardless what comes our way.

It still amazes me that this tree can survive in temperatures from minus 10 to nearly 100 degrees. It stands there and faces what comes, doing what it does best – living its truest self. It doesn’t lament the rains or wind. It doesn’t give up when it snows. It doesn’t wish that its leaves would remain all year – it allows them to change color and sends them off to make room for new ones. It partners with life; it allows life.

We however, like to plan and control everything in life. And when things don’t go according to plan, we find fault. We get angry. We blame. We quit. We feel at the affect of our world – at odds with it.

Or, we could learn from this cherry tree. We could see that we have the strength and resilience to see the blessing in every event, and not to fight with life but live it as it is delivered. “Anyone can be cooperative, patient and understanding when things are going well and life is good. But it is the noble man or woman who can behave with grace and compassion, and even kindness, when times are bad,” shares Garr Reynolds, blogger of Presentation Zen. My intention is to be noble and act with grace, compassion and kindness regardless of what happens in life.

Resilience, or grit, is what enables us to show up committed to life when life sends snowstorm after snowstorm. Resilience is what enables us to show up big to life when our idea didn’t work, the relationship failed, or the job was lost. As the great Japanese proverb says, “Fall down seven times, get up eight.” We can choose to bounce back – we can choose to see what was, understand it, learn from it and get back into life’s driver’s seat. We, like the flowering cherry in my brother’s front yard, can just keep on keepin’ on. Resilient. Strong. Committed. Determined. Intentional. Living our greatness and ready for the next moment of life – whatever that might look like.

Find your resilience role model – nature, a pet or even a person. Mine is this amazing cherry tree. Let it share its wisdom with you; learn from it and let it inspire you to be intentional and purposeful about living powerfully, positively and resiliently no matter what comes your way.

Building Healthier, Happier Communities Through Functional Medicine

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We live in an era in which individualism is rewarded, and collectivism is seen as weak. We raise our children to be independent and self-reliant. It’s so hard for us to ask for help. Interestingly, we also practice medicine this way. We teach our future medical leaders to separate the body into individual disconnected parts. We allow patients to believe that their distinct symptoms are totally isolated and unrelated. If this kind of medical system supported better outcomes, creating healthier and happier communities, then it would be acceptable, and we wouldn’t even need to discuss this. But the simple fact is it isn’t working, and we are now at the brink of a health revolution through which medical visionaries are now working together to bring in a new era of living well and feeling great.

In my work as a functional medicine doctor, I see the patient as a whole person instead of merely as an assortment of disconnected parts. The body is an extraordinary system; every part is connected via an intricate web of body, mind, and spirit. In functional medicine, we seek the root causes of illness so that we can address the underlying triggers that have thrown the patient off balance. In order to heal properly, the whole patient requires attention; that includes the emotions, thoughts, and spirit of a human being—not just the physical body.

Throughout the many years I’ve worked with my patients using this model of medicine, I’ve been astounded by the resilience of the human body. It’s humbling to realize that, even though I was taught in medical school to believe that a patient’s recovery is completely in my hands, in fact, it is the patient who has the most power. My job is to be a facilitator who gently assists the body back to its natural state of health. I do this by encouraging a paradigm shift in the hearts and minds of patients. We discuss the role of whole foods, water, air, light, rest, movement, sleep, rhythm, connection, love, meaning, and purpose. (For more information on the seven fundamental systems in your body that can bring back balance, see my book The Blood Sugar Solution).

We need doctors who understand how well the body reacts when the whole system is treated, not just the symptoms. One doctor in particular, Lissa Rankin, has made a career out of a calling she felt to serve her patients on the most authentic level possible. She inspires me along with the thousands following her online health and wellness community, Owning Pink. She began this site as her own way of revolutionizing healthcare, encouraging people in need of healing to own all the many facets that make them whole: their relationships, their professional lives, their creative lives, their spiritual lives, their sex lives, their environment, their physical and mental health, and more.

Lissa’s work is functional medicine at its best, addressing the truth that we all need each other to lean on, to help heal, to connect, and to flourish. Lissa and I share the belief that there is nothing more productive and exciting than a collective of people united together to combat feelings of loneliness and powerlessness in the face of illness. Because she and I feel a special calling to do this work, I wanted to invite her to share with us some insight into her unique approach to healing. Here are some questions I asked her followed by her comments.

Dr. Mark: On your blog site LissaRankin.com and on your community site, Owning Pink, I see a lot of importance placed on finding one’s truth and authentic nature. I, too, encourage my patients to reflect on how to live with more purpose. How can synchronizing this authentic energy with another person help heal a broken mind, body, and spirit?

Dr. Lissa: In my first TEDx talk, I introduced a radical new wellness model, which I also discuss in my upcoming book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself . The wellness model is based on a “cairn,” those stacks of balanced stones you tend to see marking trails and sacred landmarks. In the “Whole Health Cairn” wellness model, the foundation is not the body, as it is in so many wellness models that suggest that a healthy body is a prerequisite for a healthy life. Instead, I think the foundation is the part of you I call your “Inner Pilot Light.” Call it your intuition, your inner doctor, or your highest self, this part of you always knows what’s true for you, even if the rest of you may not want to face your personal truth because it often commands change, and change scares us.

Your Inner Pilot Light is always radiant, never extinguished, 100% authentic, and will never lead you astray. I help people tap in to their Inner Pilot Light here, but as healers, I believe that’s one of the most essential parts of our jobs, not to dictate what our patients should do or prescribe the one and only way to optimal health, but to help our patients tap in to their own unique Inner Pilot Light, so they can make treatment and life decisions that are in alignment with the core of who they are. When you make decisions from this place of truth, the body tends to naturally come back in to alignment with its natural state of health.

Read the rest of the interview on my website, DrHyman.com!

8 Amazing Photos of Athletes Who Rose to the Top In Spite of Missing Limbs

In the spirit of today’s Google+ Hangout on The Chopra Well – a conversation about “The Science of Survival” with Deepak Chopra, Sanjiv Chopra, Amy Purdy, and Bethany Hamilton – we are celebrating the remarkable resilience of the human body and spirit.

Mastering a sport is no easy business, even with fully functioning limbs and organs. Yet some athletes reach this level of physical prowess even in spite of tremendous obstacles, such as paralysis, cancer, or losing a limb. The difficulty associated with lost limbs, especially, is on the minds of many in the aftermath of the Boston Marathon bombing, which makes it all the more inspiring to see what athletes like snowboarder Amy Purdy, surfer Bethany Hamilton, and others have been able to accomplish.

Sarah Reinersten – Ironman Triathlete and Paralympian

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Zach Gowen – Professional wrestler

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Kyle Maynard – Mixed martial arts athlete

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Bethany Hamilton – Professional surfer

Bethany Hamilton driving through a barrel in Indonesia Fall 2009.

Amy Purdy – Snowboarder and Paralympic athlete

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Melissa Stockwell – Paratriathlete and U.S. Army Officer

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David Weir – Paralympic wheelchair athlete

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Jessica Long – Paralympic Swimmer

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“The Science of Survival” Live Google+ Hangout with Deepak Chopra, Sanjiv Chopra, Amy Purdy, and more!

Welcome to the first Google+ hangout in our “Aspire to Inspire” series! The discussion begins LIVE, right here and on The Chopra Well at 12pm PST – so if you’ve come here early then be sure to refresh the page right at noon.

In this conversation, the Chopra brothers – Deepak and Sanjiv – will discuss the physical, mental and emotional process of surviving a trauma or deep loss. Paralympic snowboarder and activist Amy Purdy will also be joining to share her story of losing both her legs to meningitis and what it took to come back stronger than ever.

Survival is more than just staying alive. It entails maintaining or rebuilding a sense of strength, purpose, and optimism in spite – or perhaps as a result – of facing tremendous odds. We hope this conversation will inspire you to find the greatness and resilience present in your own being.

 

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Is There An Upside To The Downside?

Nobody wants bad stuff to happen to them, yet sooner or later, if you’re human, it probably will.

But the good news is that despite the difficulty of some events–like illness, job loss or financial troubles–many people come out the other side not only surviving, but thriving. There’s even a name for it: Post-Traumatic Growth.

That was the case for Harry Potter best-selling author JK Rowlings as she looks back at the hardships she endured as a struggling, depressed single mother determined to write a book.
 
Although you probably won’t feel the upside of your suffering when you’re in the thick of it, given some time, many people, including JK, say they’re stronger, wiser and more deeply connected to people because of it.
 
How To Grow From Tough Situations

If you’re dealing with a hardship, here are 3 suggestions to help you ultimately thrive:
 
1. Accept It. When you’re in a crisis, wishing things were different only makes it worse. Start by accepting where you are. JK Rowlings says doing that gave her a sense of freedom that allowed her to pursue her path.
 
2. Discover Your Strengths. Sometimes you don’t realize the depth of your courage, your tenacity or your talents until they’ve been tested. The famous author found that she had a strong will and an ability to survive that she never knew.
 
3. Connect with Caring People. Accepting help from people who care about you will make you stronger. JK says adversity helped her realize the gift of her true friendships.

 

 

You Have More Than This Requires


I had a powerful conversation recently with my good friend Theo.  I was telling him about some of the intense challenges I’ve been facing and my underlying fear that I simply can’t handle all that is going on (and what I fear may unfold in the coming days, weeks, and months).  Theo listened to me with empathy and compassion, and then said something simple, but profound. He said, "Mike, it’s important to remember that you have more than all of this requires."

As I took a step back and allowed what he said to resonate with me, I was touched by a few specific things.  First of all, I appreciated his acknowledgment and reminder.  Second of all, it allowed me to take inventory of some of the adversity I’ve overcome in my life, and, in doing so, it reminded me that I am quite resilient.  And, finally, over the next few hours and days after Theo and I had this conversation, I got to thinking more and more about the power of the human spirit.

In just about every situation and circumstance in life, we really do have more than is required to not only "deal" with what’s happening, but to thrive in the face of it. As the saying goes, "if it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger." And while I don’t believe that we have to necessarily suffer and struggle in order to grow and evolve in life, one of the best things we can do when dealing with adversity or challenge is to look for the gifts and find the gold in the situation as much as possible.

Think about how this plays out in your own life and how it has played out in your past.  Often we have things happen that initially we don’t think we can handle – sometimes these are things we consider "bad" and sometimes they’re things we consider to be "good."   Feeling overwhelmed is feeling overwhelmed, regardless of what it is we’re feeling overwhelmed about.

However, as we look back over the course of our lives, we can probably find many, many examples of times we were able to overcome challenges, deal with fear, rise above limiting beliefs, and deal with things we didn’t initially think we were capable of.  Another great saying that I love is, "circumstances don’t define you, they reveal you."  Ain’t that the truth?

Here are a few things to think about and do so that you can remind yourself, especially when things get particularly difficult or scary in your life, that you do, in fact, have more than the circumstances or situations of your life require.

1) Remind yourself of all you’ve done, experienced, and overcome.  Take some inventory of your life from the perspective of resilience.  Think about all the times you’ve dealt with change, loss, newness, fear, pain, disappointment, failure, etc. – and been able to work through it.  You’ve also probably had many experiences in life where wonderful things and exciting opportunities showed up for you and you were able to step up and take your experience of life to a whole new level. Even though we’re all unique, our stories are different, and we have varying personalities and life experiences, most of us have done, experienced, and overcome a lot in our lives up to this point, and by remembering this and acknowledging ourselves for it, we can create an even deeper and more authentic sense of self confidence.

2)  Remember that you have a great deal of support and you can reach out for it.  One of the things that can get in our way when life gets intense, is that we sometimes think we’re all alone. No one understands me.  No one really cares about me. No one has time to support me.  Regardless of our circumstances, relationship status, or family situation, just about everyone of us has some important and powerful people around us who we can lean on and who would be happy to help us – if we’re willing to ask for and, more importantly, receive their help.  This one can be tricky for many of us, myself included, but when we remember that other people love being of service and our request for help is not a sign of weakness, but a clear indication of self care as well as a beautiful opportunity for people to serve, it can empower us to reach out and tap into the incredible amount of resource we have around us.

3)  Focus on what you appreciate about yourself and your authentic power.  Self appreciation and self love, as I write and speak about often, are the cornerstones of self confidence and authentic power. Having a fundamental belief in our own goodness, power, and beauty are essential to us living an empowered and inspired life.  While it’s not always easy to do and can sometimes seem downright counter-intuitive, selfish, and arrogant, self appreciation is truly the "key to the kingdom" when it comes to personal empowerment and resiliency.  Remembering that we are good enough just as we are and have all that we need within us and around us to deal with the stress, challenge, and uncertainty that is somewhat inherent to being human in today’s world, is essential to our well-being and overall fulfillment in life.

Regardless of what you’re dealing with in your life right now – however hard, easy, challenging, or wonderful things are – you truly have more than is required by any of the circumstances and situations of your life.  And, the more we remember this and live from this perspective, the more freedom, power, and peace of mind we’ll experience.

What can you do to remind yourself that you have more than the circumstances of your life require? Share your ideas, commitments, thoughts, dreams, and more on my blog
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Why Japan Will Be Okay – A Reflection One Week Later

People often say that it isn’t until we distance ourselves from something that we truly learn to appreciate.

That is the case for me and Japan.

I am half Japanese. I grew up there for most of my life from age 3 until age 18. I remember being frusterated as a young adult trying to separate myself from other Japanese teenagers, trying to exert my "foreignness" while I spoke English with my blonde gaijin (Japanese word for "foreigner") friends loud enough for the train to hear. At the same time, I knew that I could never be truly foreign to the Japanese people as I knew too much of the nuanced cultural expectations of the verbal and physical language of Japan.

I went to a university in California after I graduated HS and immersed myself as much as I can in American culture. It wasn’t because I wanted to be more American… or maybe it was. But by the end of my freshmen year, I missed Japan. I missed the culture, the national pride, and, of course, its public transporation systems. I realized that there was a certain respect and camaraderie that exists in the Japanese people that I could not find in the US. This is not to say that the US doesn’t have respect and camaraderie, but it seems to be in the blood of the Japanese people.

When the earthquake hit Japan 1 week ago, I was struck to the core. It was the first time a natural disaster was personal. My dad and my mom’s side of my family were in Tokyo. They were okay, but Tokyo was running out of food, gas, and electricity. As the week went on, my mom and I constantly flipped the channel between CNN and NHK (Japanese news) comparing information and trying to make sense of what was going on.

What we saw was a certain organized chaos. Chaos – yes from fallen ceilings, villages lost by the tsunami, and power plants falling apart. But once the Japanese people understood what had happened, it was time to come together.

A friend I grew up with and is currently in Japan recently wrote this note on Facebook:

Dear Japan,

You make me proud.

No looting, violence, or outbreaks.
Discipline, thoughtfulness, and kindness–even during times of devastation.

Our ability to stay psychologically strong as a country and supportive of each other is a trait we all possess, which becomes more noticeable when tragedy strikes.

The amount of empathy and unity I’ve witnessed, both around me and in the media after this cataclysmic event, has given me so much hope and strength.

We have bounced back from numerous catastrophic events–natural and anthropogenic–in the past. The question is not if we’ll recover, but when we’ll recover.

We can witness Japan recover, and help rebuild this amazingly resilient country, and I can honestly say that I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else right now.

We can do it.

This is true. There is no looting. There is no violence. The Japanee people will stand in line in an orderly manner for hours at a time just to make a phone call or get on a taxi to go home.

Some people argue that the Japanese way doesn’t allow for "individualism." The goal instead is to blend in, to not stand out. Many believe it’s a bad thing. But perhaps there is method to this ‘madness.’ When disaster strikes, we come together as one. There is no sense of "individualism" not because we aren’t worried about ourselves, but the Japanese people have always operated together and know that our strength comes from cooperation toward a common goal.

This is why Japan will be okay.

Out of this devestation, we will rise and be stronger.

And this is why I am proud to be Japanese and will continue to take pride in both my Japanese identity and my Western identity.

We can do it.

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / Akira Lai / Raincity blue design

Self-Definition is Self-Limitation

The question of “What am I?” may lead to self-objectification or to self-liberation.  Which path would you take?  How would you answer it?  By saying something along the lines of “I am this” or “I am that” or “I am such and such”?  I hope not.

Understand the self-limiting meaning of the verb “to define:”

to define, according to OED, means: “to specify; to end,” from O.Fr. defenir “to end, terminate, determine,” and directly from L. definire “to limit, determine, explain,” from de- “completely” (see de-) + finire “to bound, limit,” from finis “boundary.

Recognize:

Any self-definition is a self-limitation.  To define yourself is to limit your understanding of yourself.  To define yourself is to box yourself into this or that category.  To define yourself is to finish your understanding of yourself.  To define yourself is to end your curiosity about yourself.

A self-definition is not self-knowledge: it’s self-delusion. You are not limited to any “this” or “that,” certainly not until you are finished living.  You are un-limited (by words or thoughts).  Your suchness is beyond description or comparison.

A self-definition is self-objectification.  But you are not the object of your consciousness, you are not a thought “I am such and such.”  You are the Subject that inquires, the one asking the question – not the informational answer that passes through your mind.

Do ask yourself the question “What am I?” (to re-experience your ineffable essence) but ignore the answer.

Reference: Lotus Effect

Take Down the White Flag

The temptation to quit is strongest the day before you realize your heart’s desire. The enemy of your soul waits patiently and then whispers the words he knows will persuade you to give up:

You don’t deserve it. You can’t possibly achieve it. So, why bother?

You listen. Nod in agreement and then raise the white flag to signal defeat. This is when the disappointment strikes you. The sudden blow takes your breath away. You fall to your knees trying to recover. The enemy of your soul gloats for a moment and then leaves you in your frustration.

The noise of the white flag flapping in the wind is one of the loneliest sounds you will ever hear.

That was then. This is now.

 It doesn’t matter how many times you have given up; what matters is how you will respond the next time doubt surfaces. And what matters most is learning how to take down the white flag for good.

There have been plenty of times when I raised the white flag. The enemy of my soul has taken advantage of my fear and exposed my doubt more than once. I wish I didn’t quit the high school baseball team; I wish I didn’t give up on going to medical school and I wish I didn’t stop writing the book that I know is inside of me.

But that was then. This is now.

You do have the power to take down the white flag. The following are choices you can make whenever the enemy of your soul begins whispering its lie:

1. You are stronger than you think. Anything worth having is worth fighting for – no matter how long it takes. Know you do have the strength, the resolve, to confront any challenge and to learn from the setbacks you encounter along the way.

2. Anything is possible. Why not you and why not now? When an idea is placed in your mind, it is put there for good reason. Honor it. Pursue it. Recognize you have been charged with the responsibility of seeing the idea come to life. When you do, the impossible will be made possible.

3. Understand your limits. You can only do so much in a day, week, month or year. Realize there’s no stopwatch on you. Your time and attention will be diverted to other responsibilities. They do not go away simply because you are pursuing a new dream. Understand in your humanness you do have limits. Rather than being discouraged by these limits, celebrate them. These limits are reminders of the rich, full life you already have.

4. Ask for help. You are not alone. When doubt begins to takeover, turn to family, friends and other confidants to receive the support you need. I have never witnessed someone not receiving help when it is requested.

5. Make a difference. The achievement of your dream will make a difference. Use this fact as motivation when the whispering grows louder. Your purpose, your mission, is uniquely yours. You were created to make a difference like no else can.

6. You deserve happiness. If pursuing your dream, and then achieving it, brings you happiness, then know this: You deserve to be happy. No one is doling out happiness – it’s available for all.

7. Just a heartbeat away. Your arrival to the place you want to be is just a heartbeat away. You will know you are getting closer when the urge to quit becomes glaringly tempting. Push back with your newfound power. Claim what belongs to you and honor it by never turning away again.

8. One step everyday. Rather than measuring where you think you should be, measure where you once were compared to where you are today. Realize that getting to your dream is about taking one step each day. The steps don’t have to be measured in feet or yards; inches will do.

9. Ignore negative talk. Not everyone will be an encourager. When you come across these people, understand their negative comments define who they are; their comments don’t define who you are.

10. Be the inspiration. You touch people in ways you may never know. Your positive attitude, your relentless pursuit of a dream and your ability to ignore the malicious whispering and focus on the goal at hand is admirable. People are watching you. They are inspired by your extraordinary actions even if you consider them to be ordinary.

The next time the enemy of your soul whispers the lie, stay strong in your faith. Practice replacing the lie with the truth. The truth speaks the words to persuade you to never give up:

You are worthy to receive your heart’s desire. You can achieve it. Go be the person you were created to be. Take down the white flag. Raise hope for all to see. Listen to your new flag flapping in the wind and be nourished by its sound.

On Cultivating Resilience

 When I was 350 pounds I didn’t believe it was possible for me to maintain a normal weight. Now, having maintained a two hundred pound plus weight loss for nearly a decade, I am an example that it can be done. Transformation is not only possible, it happens. So whatever your age and whatever issues you are dealing with, I want you to know that change is not only possible, but also highly probable. By not giving up on yourself, by cultivating resilience and learning from experience, which makes resilience more likely, you can, indeed, teach an old dog, new tricks.

So what is resilience? What does not giving up on yourself look like and how do you go about it? Resilience is the ability the bounce back from an adverse event or situation. The dictionary uses the phrase to "recover readily" instead of bounce back. In either case, the emphasis is not on the negative thing or things that have happened, but rather what you do once they have occurred. After all, life is a roller coaster ride for most of us. Even Elvis and Frank Sinatra had comebacks which means they had setbacks. No one is exempt. The fact is it’s not the issue you are dealing with; it’s in how you deal with the issue that you will find your resilience.

We’ve all been through it. The only real questions are, "How deep is the hole?" "How long do we want to stay in it?" and "How do we dig ourselves out?" The answers to those three questions can be found in one of my favorite stories, "An Autobiography in Five Chapters." I hope it brings you as much pleasure and insight as it has to me.

Chapter One:

I walk down a familiar street. In the middle of the road is a giant hole. I see it clearly, yet I fall into it anyway. I work as hard as I can to climb out. It seems like it takes forever, but finally I get out. I continue to walk down the familiar street.

Chapter Two:

I walk down the same familiar street. Right there in the middle is the same hole. I see it even more clearly and yet I fall right back in. Now I’m pissed. I work as hard as I can to get out. Again, it seems like it takes forever, but eventually, I make it. I continue down the same old street.

Chapter Three:

I walk down the familiar street once more. (I know. I know). After seeing the hole, I try to maneuver around it. I get about halfway, but it’s slippery around the edges and I fall in. Boy, this looks familiar. Using my experience, I climb out pretty quickly this time. Dirty but not worse for wear, I continue down the road.

Chapter Four:

I walk down … well you know. Anyway this time I know what’s coming so I am very careful as I work my way around the hole and I make it with out falling in. I’m pretty proud of myself at this point and although I’m tempted to look back, I avoid the temptation. I continue down the road.

Chapter Five:

I walk down a new road.

Here’s an example that I recently experienced. I had a couple days of falling back into old eating patterns (the familiar road), but I didn’t fall back into my old negative thinking patterns (the big hole) of "Oh well I blew it … Now I am horrible … I may as well go indulge for the rest of the week, month, year, etc." Nor did I severely restrict myself with a fast the next day. Instead, I saw the overeating as something normal people do, and then they just eat a little less the next day so it all balances out (the new road).

Our distorted thinking can lead us to build a monument to how disgusting or awful we are (the big hole), rather than just observing that we overate, and noting "Oh well, that didn’t do anything but make me feel a little bloated and set me back a half a pound or so (the new road)." The overeating may just indicate we are tired or bored or didn’t eat enough the day before. I found out that in this case when I was very tired, I laid low and watched too many cooking shows on TV (trying to get around the hole), which triggered my see-food, eat-food Pavlovian response. Being resilient I turned off the tube and went for a walk (the new road).

I’d love to hear about the familiar roads you might have chosen, the holes you found right smack dab in the middle, how you got yourself out, and perhaps most importantly, the new roads you’ve discovered. I’m looking forward to reading about your adventures with resilience.

 
 
 

 

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