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Getting started, again

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We started off the year with high hopes.

We were going to find love!
Start new jobs!
Let go of old hurts!

Now that it’s March, it’s time to do an evaluation.
Are you any closer? Are you have the sort of realistic conversations with yourself that are going to stop you from repeating the same old, same old? Or are you still back in 2013?

I hope as you’re reading this that you are thinking back on the short time since the turning of the year and you’re already proud of how far you’ve come, but in case you aren’t, here are some ideas to help you get back on track.

1. Time to affirm your intent. Remember the feeling and place you were in to make you set a big intent in the first place? Maybe you were worn out. Maybe you were on fire with the passion of a new idea. Even if you’re not in the same place you were when you originally made you’re intent, affirming it means you’re still saying “yes!” to that idea. Regardless of where you are today, you are just as committed to your dream.

2. Set visual reminders. I’m not above taking a page out of a teen girl’s book and leaving decorating my walls with reminders. Whether that’s notes on the bathroom mirror or refrigerator to remind myself of a new mindset or empty boxes in my bedroom to remind me to finally purge my closet of all the things I don’t need, a visual reminder is a tangible shift from seeing things the way they’ve always been.

3. Make an appointment with yourself. A boss I had taught me how invaluable it can be to make appointments with yourself, especially living in our fast-paced culture. You have someone asking you to get coffee (not necessarily a bad thing) and so you look down at your calendar and find an open place. If you’re like me, this might happen half a dozen times in a week and so you keep filling up the open places in your calendar with meaningful conversations and meetings. But then you arrive at the end of the week and realize you’ve left no time for your own plans or progress. Before you make it to Monday, sit down and find a block of time that can be added to your calendar that is reserved for the tasks that are hanging over your head. Writing? Organizing? Going to the gym? Sometimes it feels selfish to save time for you, but you would never tell a friend that making their own positive progress was selfish, so why is it for you?

So where are you getting started?
It’s possible you don’t feel progress being made because you never set an intention to begin with.
Check out this Year of Intent intention made my Mallika Chopra:

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Since originally posting about her new book, Mallika has been updating, affirming and responding to the comments left by other users. It keeps her motivated and, most importantly, focused on accomplishing a satisfying task- her newest book.

If it’s March and you lasted a good week on your resolutions and intentions, that’s fine. We’re here to get you started again.
So, again, I’ll ask where are you getting started?
What’s it going to take to get going?

Interested in checking out other Year of Intent goals? Check them out here.
Then set your own at Intent.com!

Why Wait: Create Your Intentional Collage to Reach Your Goals

By Linda Lauren

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I define a dream as a wish that is powered by a positive intention until it becomes a reality.  We make our own reality each day and that is through our thoughts and convictions.

People who know me know that I take it upon myself to gather my friends together to create personal collages of what we intend to achieve in our lives in the coming year.  These collages help us to define our present so that we can create our future. They keep us focused on our goals and they dare us to fulfill our dreams. The reality is that each year, with each collage is a step closer to making your life positively unfold.

This collage does not have to be about obtaining material things, but can help foster a message of hope, love, and help you out of depression through healing. I once made a personal collage for a surgical procedure and hung it in my hospital room. Each time I looked at it I was spurred on to heal and that was my collage’s intention: healing.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the angst of the world and not realize how deeply global events can affect us in the negative. The signs are: depression, anger, jealousy, impatience, and the growing threat of intolerance. Everything from social media to social connections is threatened simply because it is easier to ride the wave of a bad vibe then it is to work at a positive one.  I remind myself of how important it is for me to be positive if I want to live a long and happy life, and that my every single thought has a profound affect on my entire life.  So, I reprogram my personal intentions through my collage, adding to it as the year progresses.

Though you can also do this on a computer, I have found that it’s more fun in a group to do it the following way.  You will need a few essentials and suggestions to get you started:

Get a piece of cardboard or poster board, scissors, glue and a lot of different and/favorite magazines, newspapers, and photos. Make sure you have a photo of yourself, and the year.  The size of the collage is up to you. If you are doing this as a project with family, friends or business partners, you might want a larger board so everyone can participate.

Cut out the images and words that best represent what you wish to manifest. Arrange them on the board, glue down when you’re satisfied with your work, and take a photo of the final results. Put the original collage in a room at home where you will always see it and use the photo as a screen saver or wallpaper on your computer, tablet and/or phone.

I have seen these collages become a source of motivation, comfort and peace. A collage with intention empowers us and helps us to go with the flow by directing the current so that we arrive at our destination!  The New Year is around the corner and there’s no better time to start!

Does Announcing a Resolution Make You More or Less Likely To Keep It?

NewYearsResolutions-300x199My recent post, “Beware of “decoy habits,” spurred a lot of conversation, and it’s clear to me that the subject is much more complex, and interesting, than I initially realized.

Readers made many thought-provoking comments. One pointed to research that suggests that talking about a goal can lead to the false feeling of already having achieved that goal. I’ve seen that research–and I’ve also seen research suggesting that talking about a goal can help you stick to it, by making you feel more committed, and also more accountable to the people you’ve told. So it seems to go both ways.

From my own experience–a statistically insignificant yet often helpful data point–this is a point on which people differ. Some do better if they don’t talk it up too much; some do better if they tell others what they want to do.

Exhibit A is my former roommate, who told people that she did yoga, and telling them seemed to convince her that she did, in fact, do yoga. Perhaps discussing it undermined her determination actually to do it.

Exhibit B is my friend who is trying to drink less, who says it’s very helpful to her to announce, “I’m cutting back on my drinking, so I’m only having one glass of wine tonight.” For her, telling people adds an important layer of external accountability.

I’m curious… In your personal experience: Does announcing a resolution make you more likely to keep it, or less likely, or neither?

I don’t think it matters much to me whether I announce it or not–I suspect that’s a result of my “Upholder” nature.  How about you?

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I had a great time doing this interview with Eric Barker, for his site Barking Up the Wrong Tree. We covered a lot of happiness territory. Also, it’s almost time for the May recommendations for my book club! Every month, I suggest one book about happiness, one work of children’s literature, and one eccentric pick. Sign up to make sure you don’t miss them. Because few things give more happiness than a good book.

5 Ways to Stick to Your Resolution

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Every New Year, it never fails: the gym is PACKED at every hour of every day, for the first three weeks of the year. When January 1st hits, people get a new spark of enthusiasm for being healthy. Gym memberships soar, health oriented websites surge in traffic and personal trainers don’t have enough hours in the day to see the new clients who’ve signed up for sessions.

Unfortunately, the enthusiasm rampant in the beginning of January wanes after a few weeks and before you know it, gyms have membership cancellations, websites see drops in traffic and personal trainers have a more manageable number of clients. This trend is as predictable as the ball dropping in Times Square New Year’s Eve.

Just because this happens to the majority of resolution makers, however, doesn’t mean that you, too, have to be a resolution dropout. Here are a few ways to ensure that you don’t fall off the wagon:

  1. Don’t Bite Off More than You can Chew: It is easy to want to do it all at once, but taking one day at a time is important. Don’t try to over commit yourself too early. Ease into your resolution so that you don’t get overwhelmed or discouraged.
  2. Do What You Love: Pretending to love running when you don’t, is not going to encourage you to exercise. Instead, find activities, classes and exercises that you really enjoy.
  3. Play with Your Food: Similar to exercise, force-feeding yourself rice-cakes when you think they taste like cardboard isn’t going to make you love health food. Instead, make a game of it. Experiment with different types of health foods to find the ones you like.
  4. The Buddy System: Finding a friend or family member to help motivate you will help you to be more committed to your resolution. Not only do you have to motivate yourself, but by buddying up, you will be committing to someone else that you will help them to stay on the wagon as well.
  5. Be True to Yourself: If you choose to buy a membership at a gym or to purchase personal training sessions, be sure the gym and/or personal trainer ‘is a match’ for you. Working out in an environment that you don’t like or with a person you don’t respect is not going to keep you coming back for more.

New Year’s resolutions are a great way to make change in your life.You owe it to yourself to stick with it! And you can! What helps you to stay motivated?

Originally published in 2009

The One Ingredient to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Work

 Happy 2011! 

 Do you have a sense of excitement about the year ahead – a clean slate, new possibilities and positive change? Do you feel inspired thinking of how you’ll take action to make a better life for yourself. 
 
If you’re like most people, you’re making your New Year’s resolutions and you’re gung-ho to begin following them with gusto.
 
My guess is that your resolutions involve at least a couple of these issues…relationships, health, career, and money. So how do you plan to improve all of these areas? Will you set the intention to spend an hour or two a week (or day) on each of these areas of your life to improve them? That sounds like a good plan—but will it work? Has it worked in the past? (If it were that simple, your resolutions from the past wouldn’t have made it to this year’s list again!)
 
There is a better way. Rather than try to create an elaborate strategy to construct a better life, wouldn’t it be easier to work on one underlying thing that could affect all of your resolutions? Sounds easier to me. 
 
So what is that one thing?
 
That one thing that can change everything is LOVE—unconditional love, or what I call “love for no reason.” It’s the subject of my new book, Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love. When you experience this inner state of love you automatically become a more powerful, peaceful and open-hearted person, which affects every area of your life.
 
While this may sound a little airy-fairy, there’s actually scientific evidence showing that if you experience more unconditional love, you’ll enjoy these fringe benefits:
 
  1. You’ll have more fulfilling relationships
  2. You’ll be healthier
  3. You’ll recover more quickly from stress
  4. You’ll be more creative and effective
  5. You’ll be a better parent, friend and colleague
 
When you love for no reason you bring love to your outer experiences, rather than try to extract love from them. 
 
In Love for No Reason, I show you how to access that inner state of love no matter what’s going on in your life. Here’s a quick way to get started by feeling unconditional love for yourself first and foremost.
 
The next time you are feeling judgmental toward yourself, try using the ABC of self-love:
 
A = Awareness. Become aware of any negative feelings you’re having toward yourself.
B = Be with the feeling. Allow the experience to be there without trying to change it.
C = Compassion. Bring the same kindness and compassion to yourself for having this feeling as you would bring to a dear friend.
 

Take a look at your list of resolutions. Would having an inner state of love help you stick to them? If you had self-compassion would you be less likely to give up on your resolutions? 

 
Try the ABC process right now. In what areas are you feeling judgmental towards yourself?    Is it your weight? Are you a procrastinator? Does your desk look as if a hurricane hit it? Direct your compassionate heart toward the person experiencing the challenges: you! And watch what unfolds.
 
So in 2011 power your New Year’s resolutions with love. Expanding your capacity to love yourself, others, and the world is the one element that WILL make the biggest difference in your life this year.  
 
Please share your thoughts/concerns/progress with our community by leaving a comment below. Your lessons may make the difference in someone’s day right now.
 
PHOTO (cc): Flickr / Pink Sherbet Photography

 

Resolved: A More Lucid State of Being

Have you been feeling on the verge of a breakthrough? This could be the year to do that. We’ve all heard think outside the box. This year, resolve to be outside the box.

 In our culture, the typical gifting period of the year shifts rapidly to this moment of fresh proclamations and reclamations, to a time of resolution and hope for an even better you, a happier you, a fuller and more enriched you. Bursting forth from the discarded wrappings and boxes were the surprises and the joys of those holiday gifts, representing something new, something you didn’t have before (in theory).  

For this New Year of 2011, here is something new, a gift to give yourself and your loved ones: that of you climbing outside box-like inner rigidities and becoming open to the surprise of new creative beliefs and ideas about how your life’s structure really could feel, look and act.

After we open our festive presents, we usually discard, or recycle, the container boxes. However, all too often, we don’t recycle our assumptions and inner rules we’ve been employing in our everyday life decisions – whether they have been handed to us or we have created for ourselves. There is no clearing the inner room of the detritus of coping mechanisms and thoughts generated in the past. We crazily cling to what seem to the be the rules of the game and then layer, upon layer, any new ground rules as we go.

I think of this particular inner operative structure as a box of rules and regulations,  the core beliefs and assumptions that create our hard drive programming and provide the underpinnings of how we build our day-to-day life. Here are some typical examples. Some people believe “no pain, no gain.” Some assume that “life is tough.” Others think “People should be nice to others and take care of them,” “There isn’t enough,” “I must work hard and/or achieve status to have value,” “I must work out everyday to be good.”  There are more like these and none of them are actually true. Often these core assumptions are quite unconscious, but usually, lurking in the cellar of the inner landscape are these old ideas and they do affect a person’s ability to be more creative, more free and more alive.

The good news is that realizing that we carry old thought and belief structures about the nature of reality, our personal reality, takes us halfway to the solution. After that, many rigidity-remedial practices exist if some part of your inner structure is stuck and needs some dismantling, even if you still don’t know exactly what and where it is. There might be two general approaches to softening unhelpful belief structures and sending them to the compost pile. One slant encompasses doing sort of methods and the other comprises those that concentrate on being.

Attaining a more lucid state of being can start with focusing on experiencing the now, or in other words, staying in the moment. We can do this by savoring the little things in daily life.  Focus on small amounts of time. Pay attention to the act of breathing. Find moments for meditation, contemplation or daydreaming. Practice deep indulgence of the five senses by intensely seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling what is around you.  Integrate daily chores with enhanced sensory awareness, such as listening to music while cleaning or sitting in a Jacuzzi while doing homework.  

Creative, active, doing, ways of breaking out of the old box are numerous. Think of coloring outside the lines as you consider more imaginative approaches to daily living.  Drive to work a different way for an entire week. Eat breakfast for dinner. Get out the paints and crayons and make a very messy drawing. Play with little children for hours and allow their imagination to spark your own.  In essence, use your imagination and humor to mix up the status quo.  Loosen structural ideas of right/wrong, good/bad, left brain/right brain, correct/incorrect to start mixing up the programming.
    
As you practice ways of decomposing old structural assumptions, you will find that more intuition and more insights can start to break through into your consciousness. Chipping away at solid beliefs eventually cause the cracking and breaking that can enable a more enlivened state. It will be worth the effort of this New Year resolution. Remember, the box was not the gift. It was a container, a structure to pass the surprises along. Keep the surprise. Keep the gift. Lose the box.

Margaret Ruth has been on radio, television, published in newspapers and magazines and major websites. She is the author of Superconscious Connections: The Simple Psychic Truths of Perfectly Satisfying Relationships (O Books Publishing). Contact Psychic Margaret Ruth on her Facebook page, or email mr@margaretruth.com. You can also get details on private readings, hear the weekly podcast on metaphysical topics, and enjoy the blog at www.margaretruth.com.

PHOTO (cc): Flickr / David Purser

Taking the I-Road: A Better Way to Solve Conflict?

Have you ever been in an argument with someone—a partner, a friend, a parent, a sibling, or a colleague—that seemed so intractable that no matter what you said, the conflict only festered? (I’d like to meet someone who hasn’t had one of these arguments, as they define most of my life between the ages of twelve and nineteen.) What you might not realize, especially in the heat of the moment, is that it may not be what you’re saying that keeps your dialogue unproductive, but how you’re saying it. 

I-Statements vs. You-Statements
If you’ve ever lain on a therapist’s couch, you’ve probably heard about I-statements and you-statements. In conflict, most people are inclined to begin with what the other person has done wrong. We start a confrontation with a you-statement: you didn’t call, you are late on your project, you let me down. 

According to psychologists and conflict-resolution experts, however, we’re going about this all wrong. The far more productive statement begins not with “you” but with “I,” and is often followed by that word that makes some people squirm: “feel.” In the above examples, I-statements might include: I feel unloved when you don’t call, I am worried you might be falling behind on this project, I feel let down. 

Why I-Statements Are More Successful
The problem with even the most well-meaning you-statements is that the recipients may perceive them as accusing, criticizing, invalidating, or intrusive. Someone who feels he or she is being called out is likely to go on the defensive by denying, counterattacking, or withdrawing completely, all of which serve to escalate, rather than resolve, the conflict. The most destructive—and common—you-statements, says clinical psychologist Dr. Elaine Ducharme, are qualified by the words “never” and “always.” Seldom does someone always or never act in one way; spoken in anger or frustration, these statements may come across as irrational or extreme. “It just puts the walls right up,” says Ducharme.  

Now, if you’ve ever been in an argument with someone who’s lain on a therapist’s couch, you also know that I-statements are not foolproof. When you don’t practice them conscientiously, I-statements have an insidious way of boomeranging back to “you,” whereupon they cause double the resentment. Prefacing a statement with the words “I feel” does not make it an I-statement, only a you-statement in an I-statement’s clothing. “I feel that you’re being rude when you’re late for our appointments” does not focus on your reaction to your friend’s lateness, but still only on your friend’s lateness. An alternative, true I-statement might be “I feel unimportant when you’re late for our appointments.” When you-statements are disguised as I-statements, the other person feels not only judged or attacked by the “you” part of the assertion, but now manipulated by the “I” part as well. 

I-statements can also backfire when you put too much responsibility for your sense of well-being on the other person. They should be about owning and expressing emotion, not about making the other party responsible for your mental world. There’s a greater chance of this happening, explains author and guidance counselor Dr. Jane Bluestein, in situations where there is a power differential between the two parties in conflict. If a mother tells her child, “I feel sad when you throw a tantrum,” the child may see not the specific problem, but the broader implication: responsibility for her mother’s happiness—a heavy burden for anyone, especially a child. Likewise, a boyfriend who tells his girlfriend, “I feel like hurting myself when you talk to other guys” is not expressing emotion but trying to manipulate the situation with fear, figuratively putting his life in the other person’s hands. The child and the girlfriend, far from reaching a better understanding of the effects of their actions, can experience only fear, frustration, and ultimately resentment. 

Not everyone likes communicating in I-statements. Opponents may find the exercise “touchy-feely” or passive. “A lot of people who have difficulty with their emotions have a very hard time [using ‘I’ statements],” says Dr. Ducharme. “‘I’ opens you up to criticism, so very often we use the word ‘you’ as a way to avoid focusing on ourselves.” Certainly, though, there are some situations where confronting a conflict with the words “I feel” crosses the line between conciliatory and weak, or even unprofessional. If someone doesn’t feel some responsibility for your emotional well-being, the I-statement is likely to fall flat. Telling a stranger who butts in front of you in line, “I feel angry that you cut in front of me” is not likely to get the desired response. To be effective, I-statements must be made with the confidence that both parties’ opinions are valid.

 

Things to Remember When Using I-Statements


Don’t just precede a criticism with “I feel/think that you …” (There’s that “you” again.) 

Don’t assume you can know another person’s thoughts and feelings. This is called projecting. “I feel that you don’t love me” is different from “I feel unloved.” Remember, the focus is on what you feel. 

Do assume responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings. Use I-statements to explain what you experience, not to transfer responsibility for your well-being onto someone else.

Do ask the other person for his or her thoughts. Once you’ve stated how you feel, Dr. Ducharme advises, give the other person a chance to respond by asking how he or she views the situation. In this way, the “you” is constructive: How do you feel when your room is messy? What do you think we can do to get this project back on track? 

Do be prepared that some people will not be comfortable with I-statements. 

In the end, we can only control our own feelings and actions. I-statements are about acknowledging this fact and living it, even in the midst of conflict. Next time you’re in one of those intractable arguments, with a partner, a child, or a colleague, consider taking the I-road.

 

 

 

Why I Didn’t Like the Movie “It’s Complicated”

The movie “It’s Complicated” opened Christmas Day.  Given the rave reviews plastered all over full-page newspaper ads, and the fun trailer that showed promise of an actual adult comedy, I was very much looking forward to seeing it.  Meryl Streep is an amazing actress, and I have loved every movie she has ever done – until this one.

 

The biggest problem with “It’s Complicated” is the premise.  A long-married couple, divorced for ten years, has moved on with their lives.  The woman, Jane, played by Meryl Streep, runs a successful business and has good friends.  The man, Jake, played by Alec Baldwin, has remarried and is raising a child.  Their shared children are now adults, navigating the world rather successfully themselves.

And yet, one night the two get drunk and have sex.  Hilarious?  I think not.  This isn’t complicated, it’s adultery, and it’s not funny.

To make matters worse, rather than chalking up the experience to poor judgment and a bad mistake, the two continue their dalliance.  This smart businesswoman confides in her friends, who egg her on.  She seeks the advice of her therapist, and in the movie’s one truly honest moment she wonders why she has chosen to have this affair.  Jane has a long list of reasons that she has considered including revenge and loneliness.  She begs the therapist to tell her what to do, and he basically gives her permission to continue the affair, saying: “What could it hurt?”

It seems a renewed sex life has turned this once-wise woman into somewhat of an adolescent as she sneaks around, lies to her children, and convinces herself that she needs to be stoned on marijuana to have a good time.

Meanwhile, Jake is facing a kind of second mid-life crisis.  He obviously hasn’t learned from his past experiences, because he is once again the cad, the philanderer.  The child he is raising with his new wife isn’t biologically his, and he uses this as an excuse to shirk any responsibility.  He lies to both his wife and his ex-wife to get what he wants.  This man is a narcissist, and toxic to both women, although he has them blinded by his charms. 

So what could it hurt?  The woman is humiliated and almost loses a chance at real love.  The man loses the respect of his children.  The children are confused and afraid of additional pain.  The future son-in-law is put in a position where he must lie to his fiancé.  The current wife realizes she has been lied to and cheated on by the same man she is planning a family with.  The woman’s potential boyfriend gets his hopes and dreams dashed just when he’s finally opened his heart to someone.  And a little boy, who is finally bonding with his stepfather, may lose the only adult male in his life.

There may be some jokes in this movie, but it is not a comedy – it is a tragedy, a commentary about values.

What the characters in “It’s Complicated” really need, and want, is closure.  And you can’t get that by having sex with the ex.  Even after ten years of divorce there may be feelings of regret, of grievances, of sorrow and pain.  But there is a formula to get through it, and to move on in a positive and powerful way.

At the end of the movie, Jane and Jake sit and talk, inches away from each other, but miles apart.  There is a reason they were divorced in the first place.  She says it wasn’t all his fault.  He apologizes.

What these two people are really searching for from the beginning is closure.  But do they have to go through all that they go through, and hurt other people and themselves to get it?  Well, there wouldn’t be a movie if these characters didn’t mess up.  It’s the slipping on the banana peel that gets the laugh.  But in real life, the answer is no. 

Closure is a process, one that we can move through maturely and deliberately.  We can’t get closure from any other person, only from ourselves.  And once we have it, we can move forward with our lives in a positive and powerful way – and not look back.

Here’s my new book: "Closure and the Law of Relationship: Endings as New Beginnings"

 

Have Trouble With Procrastinating? Maybe You Just Need A Little Help From Your Friends

A friend of mine says he makes resolutions on the Jewish New Year, which usually comes in early fall, then makes them again on January 1st because he never gets around to them. I’m not convinced that he does any better the second time around, since the average New Years resolution is about as good a bet as the Clippers winning the NBA championship.

Procrastination. Someone called it “the art of keeping up with yesterday.” Most of the time, the price we pay for procrastinating is fairly small. But when it comes to important promises to ourselves—which is what New Years resolutions tend to be, or ought to be—the cost is greater.

What to do about the all-too-common tendency to put off till whenever what we should do right now? The best advice I ever heard on that issue came from a psychiatrist friend of mine named Mark Goulston (full disclosure: it’s in a book I wrote with Mark, called “Get Out of Your Own Way”). Mark’s key insight was that very often we procrastinate not because we’re lazy, afraid, unprepared, or lacking in confidence, but because we’re lonely. Think about it. Chances are, the tasks you get really mad at yourself for not following through on are things you have to do by yourself, whether it’s eating more healthy, meditating regularly, getting to bed earlier, taking the initiative to heal a tattered relationship, or … well, you can name it because you’ve been there, done that.

This leads to an important conclusion: the key to getting on with your New Years resolution—or any self-promise—might be to enlist support. Of course, not every undertaking can be turned into a team game. But you can take a cue from 12 Step Programs and line up the equivalent of a sponsor. That buddy system approach really works.

Get a trusted friend to agree to bolster your efforts, cheer you on, and talk you through your self-inflicted roadblocks. If he or she shares the same resolution and the two of you can fulfill it together, like jogging buddies and study partners, so much the better. I know someone who wanted to do volunteer work for a long time but never got around to it until her sister suggested they meet at a specified time and place.

But even if it’s a solitary endeavor, like eating a solid breakfast before going to work or phoning someone you’ve lost touch with, your buddy can play an important role. Just make a plan: call me at 8:00 ever morning and ask, “What are you eating for breakfast,” or, “I’m going to make that call on Sunday. Call me at ten a.m. and ask if I’ve done it yet.” You’ll be surprised how powerful even that little bit of accountability can be.

Even better if your buddy gives you permission to call whenever you find yourself floundering or making excuses not to follow through on your resolution. And even better than that is having a reciprocal arrangement where you serve that role for one another.

Of course, you could resolve to follow this advice and then procrastinate on finding a resolution buddy. You’re on your own with that, but at least you can declare you intent right here on this site. Get on with it, and Happy New Year.

Mystery of Past-Life Regression Group Journey

Mystery of Past-Life Regression
Healing Gathering
Date:     Saturday, November 14
Time :   1:00 pm to 5:00 pm              
Place:    Burbank, California. USA
 
Come and join our gathering for a unique experience!
 
Do you have any issues that you are unable to resolve?
Do you have a life-long fascination with a particular period in history?
Do you have a hunger for exploring past lives which is more than idle curiosity?
What is your Soul’s purpose in this life?
What did you do while in between lives?
What is your life mission in this incarnation?
Do you want to recall what you are here to fulfill?
What does your Divine Contract entail?
 
Past-Life Regression is a valuable, therapeutic tool.
 
Past-Life Regression work has the potential to allow healing and communication
to take place between our spiritual and logical self. Going back through time
assists people to remember past events that may have led to the symptom or
difficulties they are experiencing today.
 
Come and experience this four hour journey through time and space.
Uncover the possible root cause of some unresolved issues in this life time.
 
We invite you to come, learn and explore the mystery of a Past-Life Regression in a safe and secure environment, lead by Rosalba Fontanez, C. Ht.
 
This program is presented in three parts with time for journaling, questions and answers.
 
We will have an Indoor Fire Ceremony and will open Sacred Space to clear our energetic centers
Find out what your soul agreed to before incarnating
You are welcome to bring a favorite throw or afghan and a friend too! However, seating is limited.
 
Fee: $40.00 per person.
Register by Tuesday, November 3rd.  by email or by telephone to:
Rosalba Fontanez 818-823-8261   fontanezrosa@aol.com               www.rosalbafontanez.com
 
Address will be disclosed after you register.
 
Note: It is imperative that you eat a balanced meal before the retreat!
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