I am 33 years old, and have been in therapy for the past 10 years. Every time I get to a point where I can deal with the REAL issues that drive my bad decisions I fall apart. Lose a job, therapist etc. I am not sure that I will ever be able to change this pattern and I am feeling hopeless, as I have tried to work with several therapists at this point with minimal results. I am not happy, and I am not making good decisions, relationships or career choices. Should I just give up and accept the fact that my prior conditioning is stronger than the healthy part of me?
No, don’t give up. All old conditioning is finite. It took some time to get in place, and in time it will released. What you need is a different model for understanding therapeutic progress. It’s not that you spend long periods of time preparing for a change and then if it is interrupted at the last minute all is lost and you have to start all over.
Whatever insights and incremental growth you have during counseling become part of your new mature self. It doesn’t have to be a dramatic global change to be real. Therapists talk in terms of baby steps to help clients realize that important progress doesn’t need to happen all at once. Also, don’t get discouraged when it feels like you regress a little and it feels like you are back at square one. As we proceed through old conditioning, deeper layers of clearing presents itself to us as the exact same habits we thought we were past. The pattern feels exactly the same, so we think we haven’t accomplished anything, even though we are actually working on healing a more fundamental level of the problem.
Your therapist should be able to help you see what has really changed from your work and what still needs more attention and honesty. Stick with it and remind yourself of the importance of getting free from past conditioning. Finally, make sure you have a daily meditation practice to anchor your spiritual growth.
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When you hit a bump in the road and go flying, remember that once you land safely on the other side of that bump, the road stretches far in front of you. You may not hit another bump for miles and miles. Don’t get off the road, because of an occasional bump.
On the spiritual path, we also hit many so called "bumps." When we hit a bump, we become scattered and often feel like we are falling apart . It is important to know that often when one has survived a slight hiccup or bump, great progress is to be made. As you fall apart, you may be letting go of old habits and behaviors that you do not need any longer. Pray for Divine Guidance and you will find your way back to the spiritual path and keep moving forward.
Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne
It is so easy to understand what the other guy needs to do. What is really tough is looking ourselves straight in the eyes and taking in the truth about what we need to do to “clean up our act.”
Many of us have noticed that the massage therapist never gets a massage, the diet counselor is over weight, and the physical trainer is either doing too much exercise or not enough. Of course there are exceptions, and please do not take offence if you are a massage therapist, diet counselor or physical trainer. The point that is being made here, is that it is easy to advise others, and extremely hard to have the courage to look at ourselves honestly. It is even harder to develop the discipline needed to solve our personal challenges.
The path to spirituality is self improvement. If we can do what is good for ourselves, then we can lead better lives and have much more to offer our families, friends, communities and the world.
Psychic Medium and Inspirational Author Carole Lynne
Sometimes I feel full of peace, free of fear and grateful for all I have and I live…but without knowing why, I start to fall again in the old patterns, old fears and then the rest of my egoic attitudes come back. The thing is that when I’m "down" I hardly find the energy to apply the techniques and tools I’ve learned…as if a part of me wouldn’t want to be ok. I find a strong resistance inside when negativity arises and then I start to blame on external reasons.
I try to stay present, meditate, breath, but It seems to me that I don’t get to control my overall state. Like if when I’m down it happened as an accident, and when I feel good, as well.
Sometimes I feel my mind catches everything I learn to feel good and converts it into a mental object, and then it loses its power to me.
Any ideas or external view of what happens to me would be very helpful!
Why peace is so important for all, now?
Because, as the Indian mystic Sufi Inayat Khan said, "All things pertaining to spiritual progress in life depend upon peace". These wise words are particularly timely now, because we are experiencing a shift in universal consciousness as a prelude to a new era of higher vibrations for all. And promoting peace goes hand in hand with this shift. One feeds the other.
We are marching towards more cooperative models of interaction in our societies. This implies peace, since peace essentially means understanding, respect, and freedom for everyone to express their uniqueness, in a world of plenty and possibilities for all.
Peace is the ideal setting for humanity to evolve in a sustainable manner, in alignment with the laws of the universe and in respectful coexistence with the environment and mother Earth.
The human race tends to think always in terms of progress. But humanity cannot have real progress without peace. Peace entails sustainable development. Sustainable development is the one “that meets the needs of the present without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their own needs” (as defined by the Brundtland Report about Sustainability by the World Commission on Environment and Development in 1987).
So how can you live the way of peace?
As Dr. Deepak Chopra says, quoting the ancient Vedic texts: “You will know when you are living the way of peace when three things are present: Seva: Your actions harm no one and benefit everyone. Simran: You remember your true nature and your purpose for being here. Satsang: You belong in the community of peace and wisdom”.
We may have to figure out the best specific ways for each of us to carry out this peaceful way of living in our personal experiences. As an inspirational example, the famous quote by the American Indian leader Vine Deloria: “Only tribes will survive”, is being interpreted now as a reminder that more cooperative models of interaction in our societies may involve a new communitarian approach that also respects nature, the environment and spiritual wisdom.
As Gregory Bateson once said, "The major problems in the world are the result of the difference between how nature works and the way people think".
We owe peace to the world, to people, to nature and to future generations. But we also owe peace to ourselves. Your inner peace is of utmost importance for the global vibrations because, as numerologist Hans Decoz says, “in a universe of infinite dimensions, every point is the absolute center. You are such a point”.
This is why, as your inner peace grows, you will feel more in communion with the universe. And your natural positive attitudes and EXPERIENCES will flow. As humanity needs peace to develop in a sustainable manner, you too need peace for your personal development to take place. Do you understand why?
Because, as Ludwig van Beethoven said: “You have to listen to the voice speaking inside of you. Silence is the key…when that silence envelops you, then your soul can sing”.
In other words, you need peace, quietness and silence in order to hear your own soul. And you need to hear your own soul to know where you are going and how you are going to get there in unequivocal terms. Your soul would not lie to you. It is your own source and essence that is aligned with the universe.
This is why you own peace to yourself. Because it will allow you to get directions from your own divine source. This will have a positive impact in your experiences, in your relationships and, since you will be vibrating at a higher level, your energy will have a positive influence on the highest good of all, too.
Javier Ramon Brito
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