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5 Tips to Deepen Intimacy in Your Relationships

innersexyDeep connections, quality relationships – the experience of feeling seen, heard and understood brings us the greatest joy in life. Here are 5 tips to deepen intimacy in any relationship – a friendship, family or love relationship.

1. Ask for Help (sooner than you want)

Our attachments and intimacy with others are bred through our vulnerabilities.

The meeting of our vulnerabilities is the sweet spot. This is where we have the ability to truly see one another. The experience of being seen and seeing is called mirroring. Psychologically, it is the bridge of intimacy and forges a strong bond (attachment) – knowing someone else will accept and be there for you, even (especially) in your weakest moments.

Take a risk of to be vulnerable and open yourself up to share from the heart. What is happening under the surface of your life and the veneer of your persona? Tell your partner if you’re sad, afraid, hurt or emotional. Practice staying authentic and articulate about your emotional state and ask for understanding, tenderness or help.

2. Let Your Partner Take the Lead

In relationships we tend focus on ourselves and assume that our needs are more important than our partners.

Flip it. Just for this month, practice allowing your partner’s needs to take priority. What if their needs are just as (or more) important than your own?

Self-abandonment is not what I am suggesting. Assuming you have healthy boundaries, attune to what your partner wants or needs. Ask them. Let your partner take the lead. Where do they want to go to dinner? Where do they want to go on vacation? What do they want to do this weekend?

This is a Buddhist/yogic concept of expanding the definition of who you are to include the ‘other’. Widening our perception of Self to include another breeds understanding and union. Instead of using a relationship or looking at our partners as a means to meet our needs – we elevate into a selfless, giving, generous approach. Much like building a successful business or any join venture, ask:

  • “How can I help you?” 
  • “How can I give more?” 
  • “What do you need and how can I serve?”

3. Set a Daily Check in with Your Partner

Set aside 10-20 min. a day to tune in to each other in full presence (no cell phones or TV, please). A great time to do this is at night. Take 10 minutes each to reflect on the day. Listen athletically to each other and offer support or feedback. When you can manage, try to go to bed at the same time, cuddle and reflect out loud – What went well? What was disappointing or frustrating? What do you intend to create for the next day?

Practice gratitude together. Get in the habit of reflecting the positive and holding each other in positive regard so you mirror back to your partner their positive attributes. Encouragement and support changes our biochemistry. Consistency in authentic connection is the glue that keeps a relationship together. Commit to a daily check in.

4. Show Up with Fresh Eyes

See your partner anew. We evolve and change constantly. Our hopes, dreams and skills shift. When we’re in relationship, it’s tempting to view our partner through an old, outdated perspective – who they were, how they acted or what they wanted before. Give your man (or woman) the space, just like a child, to shape shift, change, learn and grow. Tune into them – ask them “Where are you at today?”  “What are you feeling/wanting/dreaming of?”

Try silently observing and allowing them to show you who they are. Open your eyes and your mind. This creates more spaciousness to feel held and supported in who we are authentically – today. Let yourself be surprised. Seek to learn something NEW about your partner everyday.

5. Breed Affection

Bring more affection into your relationship. After years of listening to couples in therapy, I can tell you – it’s often (if not, usually) the smallest things that end up fracturing and eroding a relationship. Know the little things that your partner needs, wants or delights in.

  • How can you show random acts of kindness?
  • How can you be more affectionate?
  • How can you sweetly surprise them and bring a smile to their face?

Gentle touches, thinking what they might want from the grocery store or reaching out sending them a text or a note at work in support go a long way in building a foundation and reservoir of love.

Leave a comment and share – how do you deepen intimacy in relationships with those around you?

Are You Desperate for Stability?

When will we ever see a return to stability? If stability is what you are looking for, well, good luck!

Stability is just as much a myth as the control myth I wrote about last month. There are a whole lot of people stuck between the reality of change and the myth of stability right about now.

Problematically, stability is so attractive and yet it just doesn’t exist. Stability seems so real when you look at things like the sun rising every morning, the tides rolling in, and the Rock of Gibraltar enduring for centuries.

However, it you are trying to create stability in your life, you are going to find yourself stuck sooner or later between that proverbial rock and a hard place.

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The Art of Blessings

The Art of Blessings
 
The Art of Blessings
Always praying to God for Universal Welfare; Happiness; Development, Stability & Wisdom
 
Seeking; Praying
Praying humbly to God; seeking Wisdom; Happiness; Love; Compassion; Peace; Respect; Prosperity and Progress for the Universe
 
Start of Each Day
Bless this day Dear God with your Blessings
 
Universal Happiness
Time and Again; Always praying to God for Universal Welfare and Happiness
 

Start of Each Day

Bless this day Dear God with your Blessings
 
Health & Wellness
Bless the Universe with Health and Wellness
 
Inspiration & Wisdom
Bless the Universe with Inspiration and Wisdom
 
Peace, Love & Light; Hope & Courage
Bless the Universe with Peace, Love and Light; Hope and Courage
 
Universal Happiness & Development
Bless the Universe with Economic Development; Stability; Happiness, Prosperity & Progress
 
Natural Resources; Ecological Balance
Bless the Universe with an abundance of Natural Resources and a perspective of awareness that appreciates and conservatively utilizes the respective resources meaningfully, purposefully and responsibly
 
 
Faith; Fortitude; Prudence; Temperance
Bless the Universe with
 
Faith; The Trust; The Belief
 
Fortitude; The purposeful and meaningful persistence
 
Prudence; The meaningful moderation
 
Temperance; The abstinence from certain aspects meaningfully
 
Wisdom ; The power of knowledge; being aware; being insightful meaningfully; being aware of the various aspects of Humanity, Life, Morality, Nature & Spirituality
 
Best
Bless the Universe with what you know Dear God; O Lord is best for the Universe
 
Enlighten the Universe with Knowledge & Wisdom
Bless the Universe and enlighten it with an abundance of Knowledge and Wisdom
 
Seek Blessings for The Universe
Global Appreciation; Balance; Compassion; Peace, Love, Welfare, Happiness,Health & Wellness; Economic Development, Stability; Prosperity and Progress
 
May One and All be Appreciative; Grateful and Thankful
 
May Happiness be showered on One and All; May One and All be Healthy;
 
May One and All be Loved & Respected; May One and All have Well-being
 
May One and All realize that their Happiness is linked to others Happiness;
 
May One and All recognize that when the World is Happy, they are Happier;
 
May One and All discover the true meaning of Life is that Life is Precious
 
May One and All be Resourceful & Talented; May One and All Be Blessed with
Wisdom;
 
May One and All Achieve and Accomplish their Goals in alignment with the Universe
 
May One and All be Considerate; Creative; Meaningful; Purposeful and Responsible;
 
May One and All Love Nature; The Environment & Humanity;
 
May One and All Respect One Another; May One and All Inspire One Another;
 
May One and All realize that they each have a very meaningful and special purpose in Life;
 
May One and All believe that they are the precious Gems of this Universe;
 
May One and All realize that Life is Beautiful; Precious, Meaningful and Purposeful;
 
May One and All be a Symbol of God’s Loving Love and Light; Radiating Joy for others;
 
May One and All understand that this One Minute they invest for the Universe; for the World; is immensely appreciated;
 
Time and Again, please kindly accept our humble prayers and Bless The Universe with a Vision of Health & Wellness; Wisdom,
 
Happiness, Peace, Love, Respect, Goodness, Unity, Welfare, Economic Development, Prosperity & Progress always; Thank You
 
May One and All be Happy; May One and All have well-being
 
May Happiness be showered on all; May One and All be Healthy
 
Dear God; O Lord Protect us; O Lord Guide us; O Lord Grant us Wisdom
 
Dear God; O Lord Lead us from darkness to Light (From ignorance to
Knowledge)
 
Dear God; O Lord May there always be Universal Welfare, Happiness, Health & Wellness; Economic Development; Stability; Wisdom; Knowledge;  Prosperity & Progress
 
Love & Light;
 
God Bless,
 
Vashi
 
©2009 Vashi Ram Chandi
 

Nature is Speaking to all of Us; Are we Hearing or

Nature is Speaking to all of Us;
 
Are we Hearing or “Listening”
 
and Then
 
What are we “Understanding”?
 
Meaningful Messages are being Communicated Nature is continually speaking to us, through various channels of communication.
 
Modes of Communication
It might be possible that we are able to interact with this communication whilst perceiving; hearing;listening; reading; discussing; viewing; reminiscing; thinking; contemplating; visualizing; imagining; admiring;  aspiring; reflecting; innovating; articulating; walking, jogging; trekking, adventuring, camping, exploring, navigating, driving; commuting; standing; sitting; sleeping; dreaming
 
– basically Nature is speaking to us; seeking our privileged attention regarding Universal Welfare and Development.
 
Consistently and with Meticulous Precious & Consistency
Nature is seeking to convey a meaningful message/vision to us constantly and with meticulous precision and consistency
 
Crossroads
We are standing at the crossroads of so many expectations, expecting the very Best for The Universe in each thought and endeavor.
 
Exceptional Meaningful Value
Each day that is invested in Universal Welfare and Development is a day of exceptional meaningful value.
 
Understanding
The point comes to what are we understanding and then what are we doing to create greater understanding amongst People all across the World? For Peace, Love, Hope, Faith and Wisdom to prevail.
 
Naturally
There are various other aspects which are of vital concern and importance however the pivotal and paramount of aspect that is accorded predominant precedence is Universal Peace, Welfare, Happiness, Stability, Wisdom, Prosperity, Economic Development and Sustained Progress meaningfully.
 
Communicated
Since the agenda of this topic is comprehensive and meaningful, it will need to be communicated all across The World to participate together and inspire as well as encourage one another
 
– to invest their efforts consistently with meaningful consistency relating to Universal Peace, Welfare, Happiness, Stability, Wisdom, Prosperity, Economic Development and Sustained Progress meaningfully; since without the joint effort of People all across the World, this is not possible.  
 
People all across The World are Wishing Together for Universal Welfare & Development People all across the World are wishing together for Universal Peace, Welfare, Happiness, Stability, Wisdom, Prosperity, Economic Development and Sustained Progress, is part of what Nature is speaking.
 
Summarizing
It would be interesting to hear more opinions regarding the captioned from People all across the World
 
– Nature is Speaking to all of Us;
 
– Are we Hearing or “Listening”
 
and Then
 
What are we “Understanding”?
 
Repeat / Perspective
Nature is encouraging each and every Person to invest their efforts consistently with meaningful consistency relating to Universal Peace, Welfare, Happiness, Stability, Wisdom, Prosperity, Economic Development and Sustained Progress meaningfully.
 
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina; Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina
 
May One and All be Happy and Peaceful;
 
May One and All have well-being and live peacefully together
 
May Happiness be showered on all;
 
May One and All be Healthy
 
O Lord Protect us
 
O Lord Guide us
 
O Lord Grant us Wisdom
 
O Lord Lead us from darkness to Light (From ignorance to Knowledge)
 
O Lord May there be Universal Peace, Happiness, Prosperity and Progress
 
Best Wishes,
Vashi Ram Chandi
 

The World is Wishing

The World is Wishing –
 
Meaningful Manifestation –
 
World Happiness, Welfare, Development, Stability, Wisdom, Prosperity & Progress
 
World Happiness, Welfare, Development, Stability, Prosperity & Progress
People all across the World are consistently hoping, wishing and praying for Universal Peace, Love, Happiness, Welfare, Development, Stability, Wisdom Prosperity and Progress for one and all.
 
It is Everyone’s Wish
When everyone wishes for one another, the wishes do come true.
 
Mutual Admiration
All the People of the World are wishing well for one another consistently.
 
Meaningful Actions
Every Person contributing their meaningful efforts to compliment this endeavor; with mutual victorious goals for one and all consistently.
 
Infrastructure / Phase I of the Manifestation
Health Care; Education; Sports / Recreation Facilities objective are being prioritized as amongst the salient investments / developments on a full fledged priority scale on the development agenda all across The World.
 
Education
Education being accorded an special emphasis and attention to ensure that the education is available for one and all – all across the World
 
Awareness / Knowledge
Awareness;, Knowledge is being enhanced; friendly competitions amongst People are being conducted; it is a feeling of immense Happiness and Joy, there is Peace and Love, Meaningful Understanding all across the World
 
Hunger and Malnutrition
This is being well managed with sufficient food being made available.
 
Expenditure
Significant expenditure is being allocated to meaningful causes and objectives that are of tremendous benefit, development and value to one and all
 
Additional Plans Being Drafted for Further Global Development in Phase II with all aspects relating to Universal Welfare, Development, Prosperity and Progress consistently
Additional meaningful steps being embarked upon with a meaningful priority for the benefit of one and all.
 
Great Feeling
The manifestation of the above is an extremely wonderful feeling
 
Realization
And its virtual realization a wonderfully nice feeling and wish come true.
 
Stability, Prosperity & Progress
Prosperity and Progress for one and all
 
Meaningful Virtues – Faith, Hope & Wisdom
It is said, recognized and understood that
 
Faith
Faith creates Miracles
 
Hope
Hope creates Miracles
 
Wisdom
Wisdom creates the meaningful and sustainable balance for one and all
 
With Meaningful Intentions
So it is with:-
 
Good Wishes
Sincere Faith, Sincere Hopes; Prayers and Wishes for One and All; Wishes are extended for Peace, Love and Wisdom to prevail
 
Purpose
Our purpose is to sincerely Hope, Pray, Wish, Spread the Awareness of a stable and sustainable Global Welfare and Development that consistently progresses meaningfully for one and all.
 
Appreciation / Inspiration
There will come a time, when all the concerned issues will be resolved and People all across The World will be Happy, Appreciate and Inspire one another consistently.
 
Good Virtues
Faith, Peace, Love, Wisdom, Appreciation, Inspiration, Gratitude, Prosperity and
 
Summarization
It is a challenge to envisage the above manifestation; however there are good and meaningful intentions all across The World that are sincerely hoping, praying and wishing for the above.
 
And / Nature Knows Best
And when the People of the World wish and focus together on one wish, Universal Peace, Love, Happiness, Welfare, Development, Stability, Wisdom Prosperity and Progress for one and all; this is evolving in accordance with the respective hopes, prayers and wishes with methodical precision as Nature knows Best.
 
Distant Reality But A Concrete Reality For Sure
This is a distant reality manifesting itself in the process; but evolving / materializing since for sure.
 
When People all across The World Wish Together
When People all across the World wish together for meaningful intentions such as Universal Peace, Love, Happiness, Welfare, Development, Stability, Wisdom Prosperity and Progress for one and all, it is very much possible.
 
The Reality is Evolving Indeed
Yes indeed, the reality is evolving, part by part; step by step with meticulous precision and consistency.
 
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina; Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina
 
May One and All be Happy and Peaceful;
 
May One and All have well-being and live peacefully together
 
May Happiness be showered on all;
 
May One and All be Healthy
 
O Lord Protect us
 
O Lord Guide us
 
O Lord Grant us Wisdom
 
O Lord Lead us from darkness to Light (From ignorance to Knowledge)
 
O Lord May there be Universal Peace, Hope, Happiness, Wisdom, Prosperity and
Progress
 
Best Wishes
Vashi Ram Chandi

Global Peace & Stability / Global Prosperity & Progress

Global Peace & Stability
 
Global Prosperity & Progress
A sincere Wish for Global Peace and Stability
 
Global Prosperity and Progress
 
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina; Sarve Bhavantu Sukhina
 
May One and All be Happy
 
May One and All have well-being
 
May Happiness be showered on all
 
May One and All be Healthy
 
O Lord Protect us
 
O Lord Guide us
 
O Lord Grant us Wisdom
 
O Lord Lead us from darkness to Light
(From ignorance to Knowledge)
 
O Lord May there be Universal Peace, Wisdom, Welfare, Happiness, Prosperity and Progress
 
Best Wishes,
Vashi Ram Chandi
 
 

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