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Intent of the Day: Beauty in the Struggle

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Tough time? Sometimes our tough times feel like they go on for years and years. When do we get a break from the tough? There may be no rhyme or reason to the circumstances that fall in our lap but we do have control over our response. We have control over the opportunities we see in them. Today we intend to see the beauty in the struggle because in the struggle, we learn what matters, we learn how strong we are and we learn what it takes to keep going. Those are lessons that can’t always happen in the peaceful, easy times. There are different lessons for those seasons. Today we’re going to embrace the struggle.

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Do You Fall Prey to These 4 Types of Impulse Purchases?

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When we’re trying to change our buying  habits, one challenge is that marketers are so clever at enticing us into making impulse purchases.

In David Lewis’s book Impulse: Why We Do What We Do Without Knowing Why We Do It, he provides a list of the four main types of impulse buys, developed by industrial economist Hawkins Stern in 1962.

Do you recognize any of these categories in your own purchasing patterns?

1. Pure impulse buying — you make a true novelty purchase, or escape purchase, that’s very different from your typical purchasing pattern

2. Reminder impulse buying — you see an item or remember something that reminds you that you need an item

3. Suggestion impulse buying– you see a product for the first time and imagine a need for it

4. Planned impulse buying — (isn’t this label an oxymoron? oh well) you make a purchase based on price specials, coupons, etc.

Now, I know that some folks out there are my fellow under-buyers, and we have to force ourselves to make impulse purchases of the #2 sort. Even when I know I need something, I hate to buy it!

Interestingly, Lewis notes that people generally don’t consider it a mistake to make impulse purchases. Research suggests that only about 1 in 5 people regret it, and 2 out of 5 say they feel good about it. (If you don’t feel good about it, here are 5 tips to resist impulse shopping.)

If you battle impulse purchasing, what category gives you the most trouble? How do you combat it? Of course, we’re always told to shop with a list–and seeing these four categories makes it clear why that’s helpful in fighting impulsive spending.

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Letting Go of Struggle

Question:
I had a pretty dysfunction childhood that seems to be haunting me in the present ..I continuously seemed to be "going up" stream in my life, against the current and it’s exhausting plus I have not gotten really anything that I’ve wanted ie family, husband, children, career that I am passionate about ..I think what I am is filled with apathy because its been such a struggle (I made it hard)
my question is how do you surrender and how to you lets go "apathy"??? You talk about the dog that just stays put receiving the shocks over and over again ..thinking somehow I deserve all this pain
Answer:
What you are describing is a kind of defeatism, and you don’t deal with defeatism with a conventional approach to surrendering. You need to look at the presumptions or beliefs underlying your defeatist assessment of your life as a struggle without the comforts of loving relationships or meaningful work. First of all, it assumes that your happiness is something to be won by getting what you want by overcoming the adversarial forces of life. When you don’t get them, you feel exhausted and tell yourself you don’t care anymore (apathy). This view might well have formed from early childhood, but that doesn’t mean you need to keep it any longer, since it is not helping you in any way.
Adopt a different perspective; instead of seeing yourself fighting against the stream of life, see the stream of life as your life force. What you are currently experiencing and living is what you need to be right now, and the sooner you can accept and live in the present, the sooner it can change into the next phase of your growth and fulfillment. Your expectations and idealizations keep you from fully embracing and living the rightness of your current life, and that is the struggle you are experience. If you drop the ego expectations of what your life should be, then you allow present reality to transform into what you truly need.
Love,
Deepak

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….to love again…

It’s been almost 2 months since I last logged on the website…

Those were very hectic and challenging months, and I did good at every challenge I faced. I am ever so grateful.

Something strange happened though, might not be as strange as I think it is, but I was surprised. I did lose my balance!

After winning each challenge I was left with so much sadness and loneliness… I had to be in contact with lot of people during those months, unlike my daily routine where I spend most of the day at home… I was not sure at the end of those months.. if I was just feeling lonely because I wanted to share my success with someone, and that sucess was somehow meaningless without a partner to share with me my happiness… or was it just me, being really tired and stressed, and in need for a break, a holiday, a treat!?

I only know that I lost so much of my mental strength and focus, I was left with lots of emotions that it made me lose my balance once again. I was waking up to the bitterness I used to feel when I was an emotional constantly in love teenager. I had the grieves that I had when I lost  father. I was feeling the bruises I had when I knew about my ex’s affairs, I was back to my childhood… crying my mom for leaving her on my first school days..

I started having dreams, the so alive detailed dreams, of my anonymous lover, of my baby boy who I never had, of green fields, of my mom’s… I was spending time imagining her, the sound of her foot steps around the house… I miss the smell of her cigarettes… I miss her I miss father I miss me…

I even wrote a poem, first one in almost 10 years.. it was a sad poem…

I was vulnerable… 

I cried…

a lot! 

 

Today I am here… I want to help myself, like I always do…

today I believe, like I always did, that I am meant to be, to do, to give and to live…

I want to shine, for myself, for my daughter, for my loved ones and for people who I am meant to touch their life.

Today I am feeling alive again, my emotions are replaced with feelings, all I want to do.. is love and love again and again..

I want to relax, let go, and live out the love I have always felt within, love for life, for nature, for people, for children, for the good in each and every one… for every smile that comes from a sad face… 

Today I am here, I am back to intent.com I intend to be my best me, plan, create, work hard, achieve, celebrate, move forward, and grow.

Today I intend to live, to love… and most of all to allow myself to be loved…

Today I am here

My Intent is… to love again.

Searching for a Solution? – Tap into Your Intuition

How do we know if we are listening and following our intuition? When goodness and abundance flows naturally into our lives.

When we find ourselves unhappy, desperate and full of despair struggling to get centred again and find happiness we likely are not listening to our intuition.

We stay too long in relationships or mourning old friendships that have taken their course; we may stay in unsatisfying jobs all because we don’t trust that inner voice that says "It is time to let go and move on."

Furthermore, if we are highly self-aware, we may even recognize that we ignored warning signs about getting into these relationships and jobs at the very beginning!

These warning signs can be a gnawing feeling in your stomach, a clear message, or just a general uneasiness about a situation or person.

Are you faced with a decision that is creating anxiety in your life right now? Maybe you are thinking of changing careers; or getting out of a relationship or planning a big move or even a little one? Use your intuition to help guide you.

The first thing we must do is quiet our mind and increase our self-awareness. Check out this great article on "4 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuition" 4 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuition"
 

Once we begin to get quiet, listen and then follow our intuition, we become aligned and attract new opportunities, people and situations that bring us closer to our dreams! All is possible!

Enjoy & Embrace your Life!

"The power of intuitive understanding will protect you from harm until the end of your days."– Lao-Tzu

"There is no instinct like that of the heart." –Lord Byron

"Instinct is the nose of the mind."-Madame de Girardin

Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.

Life/Career Coach
www.embraceyourlife.ca

 

Disorder to Order = Universal Order

Chaos precedes Clarity.

Don’t waste a good crisis – Rev. Michael Beckwith 

Leadership and the New Science – Margaret Wheatley – instructing corporations, years ago….to embrace Chaos…..

What is this all about? How can you have any balance in life and deal with all of these changes?  What is balance anyway?

When we made an agreement to come live on planet Earth, we made an agreement to live with the Universal Laws of this planet:  Movement, change and space.

Everything is Energy and encoded information.  Movement is life on this Earth, and that movement creates change and change generates space.

Chaos is change happening in what seems like random patterns.  If we register chaos just as energy in motion, regardless of the randomness, can you see the power of chaos for Change?

We must view life in another perspective right now, or we get caught in a polarized/split reality and value system which leads to stress and struggle on every level….this preempts disease while suppressing the immune system.

Chaos is registered as accelerated change that our mind cannot manage and therefore we feel – out of control.  If life is “out of control” according to the dictates of our mind, then Universal Order is the director and we cannot understand life at that level…Life becomes an experience then not a thought process that we are controlling for whatever reason.

Surrender to the power of transformation in the midst of chaos and thus use this powerful energy for your benefit to make the necessary changes in your life that ordinary living does not require.

Remember, Chaos is the jet fuel for transformation, taking us to new life, no matter what, because movement is LIFE.  FAITH must be your companion on this ride or you will be in FEAR.

 

Why Do You Pray?

Why Do You Pray?

Someone once asked me if I pray because it makes sense. And I said, “No, I don’t  pray because it makes sense. I pray because my life doesn’t make sense without prayer.”

I don’t pray to bring God down to earth but to raise myself up and to keep going when I can’t even seem to get going.

In the middle of life’s struggles there inevitably comes a time in each of our lives when we collapse on the trail, or in a office, and we turn to the heavens demanding to know why this is happening, swearing we can’t take another step. This experience is often accompanied by a good cry and a fair amount of self-pity. Nevertheless, like you, I have learned that when the pity party is over there is little to be done but to stand up, straighten our pack, and put one foot in front of the other. And prayer I have found is a path where there is none.

Tears falling long enough can scar rocks,
but tears falling on our cheeks can also cause us to bloom.
And the wind in your face just might be God blowing you kisses.

Your life is a gift; prayer is a thank you note… It’s just good manners to send out your thank you notes when you’ve been given a great gift? and all of us are gifted who have been given the gift of life. Someone once said that courage is fear that’s said its prayers. Remember to say yours. And put your faith and not your fears in charge.

And may you never forget that God is never so with you as when you feel alone.

Peace and blessings,

Noah

Noah benShea.com 2009

Why Do You Pray?

Why Do You Pray?

Someone once asked me if I pray because it makes sense. And I said, “No, I don’t  pray because it makes sense. I pray because my life doesn’t make sense without prayer.”

I don’t pray to bring God down to earth but to raise myself up and to keep going when I can’t even seem to get going.

In the middle of life’s struggles there inevitably comes a time in each of our lives when we collapse on the trail, or in a office, and we turn to the heavens demanding to know why this is happening, swearing we can’t take another step. This experience is often accompanied by a good cry and a fair amount of self-pity. Nevertheless, like you, I have learned that when the pity party is over there is little to be done but to stand up, straighten our pack, and put one foot in front of the other. And prayer I have found is a path where there is none.

Tears falling long enough can scar rocks,
but tears falling on our cheeks can also cause us to bloom.
And the wind in your face just might be God blowing you kisses.

Your life is a gift; prayer is a thank you note… It’s just good manners to send out your thank you notes when you’ve been given a great gift? and all of us are gifted who have been given the gift of life. Someone once said that courage is fear that’s said its prayers. Remember to say yours. And put your faith and not your fears in charge.

And may you never forget that God is never so with you as when you feel alone.

Peace and blessings,

Noah

Noah benShea.com 2009

Are you Living Your Ideal Life?

"The way to choose happiness is to follow what is right and real and the truth for you. You can never be happy living someone else’s dream. Live your own. And you will for sure know the meaning of happiness." ~ Oprah Winfrey (this quote is in the centre of my vision board and has been a pilar for me during the darkest times – I hope it resonates with you!)

 
Only a few years ago, I felt trapped by my circumstances. My life looked perfect but it wasn’t. I tried everything to create more of what I wanted but what I was searching for was always out of reach. I would have long baths every day to attempt to soothe myself but in fact I was hiding. All the while the voice inside of me kept getting stronger until the day came when the truth exploded from me and there was no turning back.

 
If you aren’t living your ideal life or find yourself struggling in your career, relationships or lacking any real plan for your life, I invite you to participate in my Embrace your Life & Follow Your Heart workshop beginning on April 14, 2009. Don’t worry if you miss a scheduled session – you can download it later! Your privacy will also be in confidential if you so choose.

What you get: a content rich 84-paged Follow Your Heart workbook, four one-hour telesessions, free private access to coaching forum and one private coaching session! Contact me directly or Register here!

Embrace Your Life!

Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.
kelly@embraceyourlife.ca

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Where I wanted to be,where am standing…
Does it tell me,where am going…
 
Certainly not,,,,,,
I perhaps don’t know …………………….
 
The stage….is set….
For this play..which is a big bet……………..
 
I fear not to loose….
But I don’t wana fight any more…
Its true…that’s what in my inner core…
 
Life is too tough,
U can’t survive,if u r a dud,,,,
 
Struggle begins with each dawn…
And onto ur failings u cant mourn….
 
Smtms the cycle is vicious,,,,
Whther u will come out,u r still suspicious…..
 
It is said to count thy blessings,,,
But how to put that tailormade smile on ur face,when the circumstances are so pressing…..
 
 
U lift ur brow up,n the next moment what u get,,,,,,,,,,
Questions u put,u have to wait fr an answr,when for that very question,the ansr to ur inner self u cant resist,,,,,,………………….
 
 
In this quest,
What u face,test after test……………………….
 
Just wish,wish from the bottom of heart……
That soon it will be over
Over soon…over for forever…………………
 
 
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