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Deepak Chopra: Were We Born to Love and Be Loved?

Do you feel completely loved and completely lovable?

In this episode of “The Rabbit Hole” on The Chopra Well, Deepak Chopra discusses why we need to look past the limited views of ourselves to feel completely loved. When we look in the mirror, many of us see flaws and limitations that keep us from viewing ourselves as completely lovable. But the truth that endures despite all of life’s traumas and hurts is that we were born to love and be loved.

Underneath it all, there is a measure of innocence that is still in tact. The key is to understand yourself as more than the sum of your experiences. In spirit, you are unbounded by time and space and untouched by experience. In spirit, you are pure love.

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What We Can Learn From Being Judged

Dave Wants YouWe’ve all experienced the deflating feeling when someone judges us. Whether to our face or through a friend, the words carry the same weight.

Someone else is saying we are less than, we aren’t good enough, we have failed, we are on the wrong path, or we are a disappointment.

Even the strongest of us have a human reaction to judgement. We all long for acceptance, connection, and unconditional love.

Perhaps the most common topics we experience feeling judged about are our views on religion or politics. The palpable sense that, If you’re not doing it my way, you’re doing it the wrong way.

I recently experienced the weight of judgement from someone very close to me. My initial reaction was to feel hurt and hopeless. I could foresee this same judgement continuing to be leveled at me for years to come. It felt like a heavy weight that would not budge.

In an effort to walk my talk, I didn’t try to run away from the feeling. I tried to observe the feelings I had and why I had them. The more I sat with this dynamic feeling, the more it began to shift. While it was true the person judging me will probably continue to do so, when I turned the mirror on myself, I started to see places I could clean up my own attitudes and judgements.

As much as we’d like to think people will change, the reality is the only person we can change is ourselves. My experience of being judged inspired me to get soft and sensitive to other people whose decisions, beliefs, or lifestyles I might not subscribe to myself. As open-minded as I like to think I am, I saw places I was being inflexible, whether through my words or my actions.

I literally felt a softening happen in my heart as I owned up to this chink in my own character.

I once went to a yoga class where, for the last five minutes before savasana the teacher instructed the class to practice whatever poses they chose. As bodies began to move freely and uniquely, the instructor commented, “Notice how it’s possible for us to all move differently in the same space.”

Her words sunk in deep as I moved honoring my own pace, needs, and breath. The entire room seemed to be a moving metaphor for our world.

We all inhabit the same space of this earth. It is entirely possible for us to honor our own truth and the truth of others. We can’t change other people, but we can choose to “be the change we wish to see” by opening our hearts a little wider and softening our insistence that our way is the only way. When we judge others we slap a label on them that blocks us from seeing their deeper beauty, our universal connection, and our common humanity.

May we all march to the beat of our own drum, but sing the same song of love.

The God Of Unconditional Love

 Sunday, July 10th

The God of Unconditional Love

 

“God is the essence of inner peace. 

 

But not the God about whom you have been taught. Not the God of anger and of war, not the God of death and destruction, and not the God of guilt and retribution. 

 

Not the make-believe God in whom you have had to make yourself believe, but the God of Unconditional Love, in whom you have your very being.”

 

The New Revelations

Neale Donald Walsch

As posted on: www.newspirituality.org

 

Steve Farrell

Humanity’s Team World Wide Coordinating Director

 

Ol’ Boogeyman Still Comin’ To Getcha?

BoogeymanIn my line of work there is often an unhealthy obsession with the concept of evil. It appears we are simply not able to rid ourselves of this ‘thing’ we seem to have for the boogeyman (here in my country known as the tokoloshe).

Just the other day I was listening to a radio psychic scaring the living daylights out of his unsuspecting caller. She just wanted some career advice, but instead he was hell-bent on convincing her that her home was infested with evil entities. His charming co-host also jumped in to offer some old-wives’ cures for getting rid of all the demonic forces. Truth be told, the only disturbance I was picking up on was the fact that the poor, freaked out woman would not be getting much sleep for weeks!

Now, don’t get me wrong. The struggle between good and evil is very, very real. It is a fundamental component of the human condition. It is also the basis of all Creation. It stems from the duality found in every important aspect of our expanding Universe: dark versus light, life versus death, night versus day. Light needs the presence of darkness to be truly visible and meaningful.

 

A belief in a supernatural source of evil is not necessary; men alone are quite capable of every wickedness –  Joseph Conrad

 

The co-existence of good and evil is also the basis for an inner conflict that each of us have to resolve in this lifetime. It is part of the reason why we are here. Both good and evil therefore do serve a purpose in the greater scheme of things. No doubt about that. But blaming the spiritual realm for the darkness of men is my idea of heresy and blasphemy.

Our morbid fascination with all things dark is as old as the hills, but it is still very much de rigueur. Just the fact that psychics and mediums are today still being accused of doing the devil’s work is sufficient proof in itself. In many religious circles ‘fire and brimstone’ remains the height of fashion. Not to mention the latest 2012 doomsday prophecies, conspiracy theories and apocalyptic visions of evil forces, undercover aliens and secret societies; all hype eagerly spread by fear-mongers, spin doctors and social entrepreneurs.

But those are the most obvious kinds of evil mania. What truly amazes me about our obsession with all things evil is that it is not something you only find in traditional churches or conservative circles. No, some truly gifted, spiritually aware and highly intuitive people, with whom I share many beliefs and blessings, are also fanatic about finding evil spirits, curses and dark entities under their beds, inside their closets …and deep-down in the purses and wallets of their clients.

 

The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance – Socrates

 

Yesterday a wonderful client called me, devastated and in tears. She had been persuaded by a well-meaning friend to “try out” another psychic she knows of… just for fun. The self-proclaimed ’spiritual advisor’ had a field day predicting doom and gloom for her current relationship and warned her that another woman was doing magick to steal her man away. She also offered to do spell work for her to fix the problem, to the tune of $400! Meanwhile my client’s love life is perfectly on track and they are in fact a very happy couple. How dare someone mess with the lives of others out of sheer greed? It truly disgusts me. May God have mercy on her soul.

It is deeply disappointing that many who share in the collective consciousness appear to be obsessing about evil entities and dark forces all of the time. In fact, they are so busy doing this that they hardly have any time or energy left to be co-creators in our spiritual evolution. They seem to miss the point that evil is about regression, destruction and reversing into the past. Evil is the antithesis of creation and expansion, and they seem to forget that what they focus on, sadly, does become their reality.

The good versus evil ‘battle’ has been waged one way or another since the dawn of civilization. It is an ancient archetype that is one of the most recognizable themes in literature and the arts. Let’s face it; ‘good guys versus bad guys’ is the stuff that bestsellers and box office hits are made of.

 

Eternal good is eternal becoming or eternally moving forward to greater life. Eternal evil is to cease becoming and “to be” that which was in the past – JJ Dewey

 

I guess it therefore comes as no surprise that some spiritual seekers are forever obsessing about the evil they fear may be creeping up on them. One only has to tune in to a few podcasts, or watch the latest online videos, to witness the spiritual community’s fixation on everything evil. Indeed, fundamentalism is not only found among the religious and the dogmatic. Some of the ‘spiritually enlightened’ and ‘intuitively evolved’ seem to insist on clinging to medieval concepts and out-dated superstitions.

Instead of being fully devoted to unconditional love, kindness, generosity, selflessness and the greater good, much energy, time and money is being spent every day fighting evil entities and keeping the ‘darkness’ and its ‘extremely powerful forces’ at bay. Potions, spells and candles are actually the very products that keep scam psychics and fake mediums in business. All this while the true battle of Armageddon is being fought right here under our noses, in the streets in front of our houses.

There is no dominating source of evil, because if there was, we would not exist, nature would not exist and neither would the Universe. It is counter-productive to assign so much influence and power to something that is in fact just vast emptiness, non-entity and anti-matter.

 

To rid ourselves of our shadows – who we are – we must step into either total light or total darkness. Goodness and evil – Jeremy P. Johnson

 

I have often said, and will say it again, if you want to know true evil just switch on the evening news. If you are curious to see the real face of Satan, you will find him lurking on the cover of celebrity magazines, in newspapers and on political campaign posters. The battle between good and evil is not being fought in the spiritual realm. Spirit knows no anger, envy, fear, violence or hatred. The real war is happening in mundane places, like the television set in your parlor or at your child’s school.

If you want to find demons, shadow people or anti-Christs, look for them in our educational institutions, communities, churches and governments. If you truly want to find evil incarnate, seek it among the school bullies in our midst, those who drive their peers to suicide or post vile online jokes about their deaths.

Stop hunting ghosts, witches, psychic vampires and energy thieves, and rather expose the narcissists among us who dominate, dictate and destroy so many relationships, families, careers and lives – devoid of empathy and compassion. Search also the boardrooms, public offices and parliaments. There you will find among our leaders and kings many ego-maniacs who abuse their power, corrupt their economy and violate the basic human rights of their people, while they wage senseless wars on their critics and each other.

 

It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways – Buddha

 

Evil, darkness, threat and fear are not spiritual forces… they are the evil creations of man. JJ Dewey writes that “all forces, powers, and energies are neither good nor evil in themselves. They are completely neutral, but only become good or evil when they are intelligently directed.” He also states that “all energies and creations vibrating in their pure state are good.” And that is the whole point. Focusing so much of our thoughts, feelings and intentions on evil, instead of that which is good, is counter-productive and contrary to our Divine Purpose. We are here to serve each other and grow, expand and become, not to cast an exaggerated, ominous shadow over all that is potentially good in the world.

The spiritual realm is much like the natural world. It is in essence breathtakingly perfect, completely harmonious and utterly flawless. I have yet to meet an evil animal or discover a satanic plant. The only evil I have ever witnessed among plants and animals are the scars left on them by the inhumane, dark deeds of men. It is certainly not the devil who is trashing the environment, abusing the animal kingdom or trampling the hearts of loving women and breaking the spirits of brave men.

The Divine Light that you and I come from, and will return to one day, knows no evil and does not recognize the power of these shadows that some so willingly fear and follow. Believing in the supremacy of evil entities and dark beings implies that we all come from a spiritual place of imperfection. It suggests that the Divine Source is somehow diseased, that Creation is riddled with flaws and falsehoods that dwell among us. And, worst of all, that we are so far superior in our human state that we alone are capable of fixing this broken, dysfunctional or chaotic spiritual mess.

 

The reason our definition of good and evil changes over the ages is because our capacity to understand and experience freedom changes – JJ Dewey

 

I realize that for some it must be fun to indulge in this paranormal soap opera, but most of us simply don’t have the time, or the inclination. We know we have much work to do, gifts to offer, blessings to share. We are the Wounded Healers, the Empaths, the Shamans, the Indigo Children, the Starseeds, and the Lightworkers. We speak to the Angels, listen to our Spirit Guides and trust in the guidance of our Ancestors, Ascended Masters and Loved Ones. We fight true evil by saving the planet and healing humanity, by drying one tear at a time.

We have no need for spells, talismans or obsessive-compulsive psychic defenses, for we are surrounded by the everlasting and indestructible shields of Love, Peace and Harmony. The phenomenal power of our Spiritual Heritage surges through our being every moment of every day. We are illuminated by the Divine; there is much Light around us.

The spiritual evolution of mankind is our ultimate aim, our Divine duty. As we continue to expand the Universe, this dazzling, bright Light we carry will continue to emanate from us with much Glory. And we know that there shall come a time when there will be no more evil among men. And we shall know that all is Good.

© 2010 Anthon St Maarten

Teaching Others How To Treat You

Do you also believe that we teach others how to treat us? It is a motto I have religiously adhered to for most of my adult life. However, I must add that I have made some radical changes to my ‘teaching strategy’ over the years, and this change in my approach has brought me much inner peace and harmony with others. I have learned that we can ‘teach others’ with much less fuss and drama.

In my early adulthood I used to take a firm stand on just about everything and everyone who I felt were out of line. I am someone who often feels compelled to stand up for others, as well as for myself and my beliefs.

I also have this annoying habit of constantly wanting to side with the ‘underdog’ in any given situation. Like most empaths, I just cannot come to grips with any form of injustice or underhanded behavior. Circumstances that are unfair, dishonest or cruel really trouble me, and people who are unreasonable, inconsiderate or simply mean have always been one of my ‘pet peeves’.

 

Love is misunderstood to be an emotion; actually, it is a state of awareness, a way of being in the world, a way of seeing oneself and others ~ David R. Hawkins

 

Apart from being an empath, the desire for justice and fairness also stems from my youth. The trouble started long before I was born. Not only did I enter this lifetime blessed with the psychic abilities of my ancestors, I was also one of the many ‘first wave’ Indigo children who arrived on our planet in the 60’s and 70’s. I was a gifted and very unusual child, growing up in an extremely conservative and conformist society. I carried a target on my forehead from my very first day in kindergarten.

I was bullied and ridiculed for most of my childhood and teenage years. South Africa under apartheid was not the most friendly place for anyone who dared to be different in any way. Bigotry, prejudice and intolerance was to be found around every corner and in all walks of life. If you were discovered to be out of the ordinary, or if you did not conform to the norm, you were not very welcome in the politically controlled and socially engineered world which I grew up in.

Thankfully all of this changed when I was coming of age. By the time they released Nelson Mandela from prison, I had also been personally liberated by means of a tertiary education and the inner strength that comes from surviving several traumatic life events, as well as a growing personal acceptance of my psychic legacy. I was now a young adult and along the way I had also discovered that I am more than able to take a stand and defend myself, and others, whenever I felt it necessary.

 

There’s much more in any given moment than we usually perceive, and we ourselves are much more than we usually perceive. When you know that, part of you can stand outside the drama of your life ~ Ram Dass

 

I certainly wasted no time exercising my new found personal freedom. I was very much inspired by the newly achieved democracy in my country and those who had fought for it. In my own way, I also had a voice now and I wanted to use it. It was important to me to put the ‘bad guys’ in their place. Mean, nasty behavior had to have consequences. Keeping my mouth shut or backing down was no longer an option. I was never going to return willingly to that psychological prison created by others’ small-mindedness. I was, after all, busy teaching the world how to treat me and I had a lot of catching up to do. I certainly was not going to take any prisoners.

Fortunately, we never stop learning and over the years I have come to realize that this ‘fight for your right’ approach offers very little spiritual fulfillment or lasting inner peace. I have in time discovered that it is mostly the weak who react in anger or frustration. It is the weak who constantly seeks justice or revenge. It is the weak who feels compelled to be tough and defiant.

Standing your ground is trivial and has very little to do with your inner strength. The truly enlightened and wise find their power in unconditional love. Who is right and who is wrong is spiritually insignificant. Truly powerful people seldom have any need for excessive self-defense or forcing their views upon others. It simply does not matter. Do you want to be right… or do you want to make a difference in the world?

 

To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad ~ Eckhart Tolle

 

Instead of focusing on what others say or do or believe, turn your attention to your inner being. Focus on your own vibration. Work on feeling better about yourself and your life. Other people are not responsible for how you feel. If the words and actions of someone or something are currently determining your state of mind, or your self-esteem, it means that you have been giving away your power, and it is time for you to take it back.

You were born with the basic spiritual right to feel good and be happy. In fact, you have inherited a divine right to feel really great about yourself and your life. It is vital that we feel this way, because it empowers us to love others unconditionally. Once you feel happy and centered in your own being, it is so much easier to be kind and tolerant towards others.

Claiming your place in the sun and staying true to yourself does not have to involve any form of violent conviction, dogged persistence, foolish bravery or brute force. There is nothing that you have to prove to anyone. There is nobody that must be resisted or refuted or convinced by you at all cost. Not everything needs to be changed by you; everyone and everybody does not require your supervision or control. Your opinion is not always required. When you are in alignment with your higher self and your true life purpose, others can behave as they wish; you won’t even notice.

 

You are killing one another as you argue over whose way of life is the right way, when there is not one right way of life. There is just life…and you all get to choose the way. No one can threaten your way of life ~ Abraham-Hicks

 

When you are in that ‘zone ‘ it simply does not matter what other people say or do or think. What matters is how you respond to them. There are never any winners if there also has to be losers, no matter what the circumstance. Jesus referred to it as “turning the other cheek” and “doing unto others”; the Buddha talked of cultivating “a limitless heart” and the Prophet Muhammad encouraged the “conquest of self” and loving our “fellow-beings first”. It does not matter how one describes it. What matters is how ‘the zone’ makes you feel, and what it enables you to do in order to make the world a better place.

With this approach it becomes so much easier to ‘teach others’. You no longer have to deal with all the stress, drama and negative, destructive emotions. There is no longer any desire to be constantly affirmed or acknowledged by others. Gone are the regrets and the grudges. Conflict and arguments all but disappear from your life. It really does take two to tango and nobody enjoys dancing solo, especially if there is no music to dance to.

The results are amazing. When you respond to the mean, petty moments of others from within your ‘zone’, you will find that the guilty parties tend to apologize more often and more readily. When you’re true to yourself and aligned with the rest of the Universe, people actually become willing to listen and calmly consider your point of view. Even the really tough and deluded folks become a non-issue, because they will eventually give up and move on.

 

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich ~ Tao Te Ching

 

All of this may seem like a lot of hard work, but it does not have to be. Getting into the ‘zone’ is much easier than you may think. Deepak Chopra describes it as following the ‘Law of Least Effort’.  There are three components to this law, namely acceptance, responsibility and defenselessness, which he outlines in his book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.

Chopra explains that “acceptance simply means that you make a commitment: ‘Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances and events as they occur.’ This means you will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be”.

Responsibility means “not blaming anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself. This allows you the ability to have a creative response to the situation as it is now. All problems contain the seeds of opportunity, and this awareness allows you to take the moment and transform it to a better situation or thing.”

Finally, he describes the most important component of getting into the ‘zone’, namely becoming defenseless. He defines this process as “relinquishing the need to convince or persuade others of your point of view. If you relinquish this need you will in that relinquishment gain access to enormous amounts of energy that have been previously wasted”.

 

If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality – Abraham-Hicks

 

I also recommend three simple rules of thumb that I try to follow to help me stay in my ‘zone’. The first is to always pick your battles carefully and to let the Law of Karma take care of the rest. The second is to not buy into other people’s drama. The third is to recognize that you were never supposed to be anybody’s doormat, so don’t allow yourself to go down that slippery slope in the first place.

Does this mean that we should always remain silent when we are made victims, or look the other way when we see atrocities committed? Not at all. Nelson Mandela did not remain silent. Neither did Mahatma Ghandi. But they also came to the realization during the course of their lives that using force to convince others was not the best way to change the world. “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”, said Ghandi. “If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner”, said Mandela.

It is not about remaining silent or avoiding reality. It is about remaining faithful to your feelings, beliefs and values, without having to force it upon others. Your life and the rest of the world can be changed without violence or drama or force. We don’t have to shout our personal slogans from rooftops. Mandela and Ghandi are two excellent examples of how to achieve personal peace, spiritual wisdom and harmony with others… and yet, they both managed to completely change the history of the world!

 

When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall – think of it, always ~ Mahatma Gandhi

 

Now, I must admit, this alternative approach to ‘teaching others how to treat us’ remains a work in progress for me. I don’t always get it right in my moments of weakness. Some bullies just have the uncanny ability to drag you away from your ‘path of least resistance’ and, before you know it, you are completely out of your ‘zone’. On those occasions one tends to forget all your best intentions and give in to anger, hurt or frustration.

But it gets easier with practice and one does become stronger. And while I learn to let go more and more each day, I find comfort in the words of Jack Kornfield who once said that “a genuine spiritual path is not to avoid difficulties but to learn the art of making mistakes wakefully, to bring them to the transformative power of our heart”.

© 2011 Anthon St Maarten

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Ol’ Boogeyman Still Comin’ To Getcha?

In my line of work there is often an unhealthy obsession with the concept of evil. It appears we are simply not able to rid ourselves of this ‘thing’ we seem to have for the boogeyman (here in my country known as the tokoloshe).

Just the other day I was listening to a radio psychic scaring the living daylights out of his unsuspecting caller. She just wanted some career advice, but instead he was hell-bent on convincing her that her home was infested with evil entities. His charming co-host also jumped in to offer some old-wives’ cures for getting rid of all the demonic forces. Truth be told, the only disturbance I was picking up on was the fact that the poor, freaked out woman would not be getting much sleep for weeks!

Now, don’t get me wrong. The struggle between good and evil is very, very real. It is a fundamental component of the human condition. It is also the basis of all Creation. It stems from the duality found in every important aspect of our expanding Universe: dark versus light, life versus death, night versus day. Light needs the presence of darkness to be truly visible and meaningful.

 

A belief in a supernatural source of evil is not necessary; men alone are quite capable of every wickedness –  Joseph Conrad

 

The co-existence of good and evil is also the basis for an inner conflict that each of us have to resolve in this lifetime. It is part of the reason why we are here. Both good and evil therefore do serve a purpose in the greater scheme of things. No doubt about that. But blaming the spiritual realm for the darkness of men is my idea of heresy and blasphemy.

Our morbid fascination with all things dark is as old as the hills, but it is still very much de rigueur. Just the fact that psychics and mediums are today still being accused of doing the devil’s work is sufficient proof in itself. In many religious circles ‘fire and brimstone’ remains the height of fashion. Not to mention the latest 2012 doomsday prophecies, conspiracy theories and apocalyptic visions of evil forces, undercover aliens and secret societies; all hype eagerly spread by fear-mongers, spin doctors and social entrepreneurs.

But those are the most obvious kinds of evil mania. What truly amazes me about our obsession with all things evil is that it is not something you only find in traditional churches or conservative circles. No, some truly gifted, spiritually aware and highly intuitive people, with whom I share many beliefs and blessings, are also fanatic about finding evil spirits, curses and dark entities under their beds, inside their closets …and deep-down in the purses and wallets of their clients.

 

The only good is knowledge and the only evil is ignorance – Socrates

 

Yesterday a wonderful client called me, devastated and in tears. She had been persuaded by a well-meaning friend to “try out” another psychic she knows of… just for fun. The self-proclaimed ’spiritual advisor’ had a field day predicting doom and gloom for her current relationship and warned her that another woman was doing magick to steal her man away. She also offered to do spell work for her to fix the problem, to the tune of $400! Meanwhile my client’s love life is perfectly on track and they are in fact a very happy couple. How dare someone mess with the lives of others out of sheer greed? It truly disgusts me. May God have mercy on her soul.

It is deeply disappointing that many who share in the collective consciousness appear to be obsessing about evil entities and dark forces all of the time. In fact, they are so busy doing this that they hardly have any time or energy left to be co-creators in our spiritual evolution. They seem to miss the point that evil is about regression, destruction and reversing into the past. Evil is the antithesis of creation and expansion, and they seem to forget that what they focus on, sadly, does become their reality.

The good versus evil ‘battle’ has been waged one way or another since the dawn of civilization. It is an ancient archetype that is one of the most recognizable themes in literature and the arts. Let’s face it; ‘good guys versus bad guys’ is the stuff that bestsellers and box office hits are made of.

 

Eternal good is eternal becoming or eternally moving forward to greater life. Eternal evil is to cease becoming and “to be” that which was in the past – JJ Dewey

 

I guess it therefore comes as no surprise that some spiritual seekers are forever obsessing about the evil they fear may be creeping up on them. One only has to tune in to a few podcasts, or watch the latest online videos, to witness the spiritual community’s fixation on everything evil. Indeed, fundamentalism is not only found among the religious and the dogmatic. Some of the ‘spiritually enlightened’ and ‘intuitively evolved’ seem to insist on clinging to medieval concepts and out-dated superstitions.

Instead of being fully devoted to unconditional love, kindness, generosity, selflessness and the greater good, much energy, time and money is being spent every day fighting evil entities and keeping the ‘darkness’ and its ‘extremely powerful forces’ at bay. Potions, spells and candles are actually the very products that keep scam psychics and fake mediums in business. All this while the true battle of Armageddon is being fought right here under our noses, in the streets in front of our houses.

There is no dominating source of evil, because if there was, we would not exist, nature would not exist and neither would the Universe. It is counter-productive to assign so much influence and power to something that is in fact just vast emptiness, non-entity and anti-matter.

 

To rid ourselves of our shadows – who we are – we must step into either total light or total darkness. Goodness and evil – Jeremy P. Johnson

 

I have often said, and will say it again, if you want to know true evil just switch on the evening news. If you are curious to see the real face of Satan, you will find him lurking on the cover of celebrity magazines, in newspapers and on political campaign posters. The battle between good and evil is not being fought in the spiritual realm. Spirit knows no anger, envy, fear, violence or hatred. The real war is happening in mundane places, like the television set in your parlor or at your child’s school.

If you want to find demons, shadow people or anti-Christs, look for them in our educational institutions, communities, churches and governments. If you truly want to find evil incarnate, seek it among the school bullies in our midst, those who drive their peers to suicide or post vile online jokes about their deaths.

Stop hunting ghosts, witches, psychic vampires and energy thieves, and rather expose the narcissists among us who dominate, dictate and destroy so many relationships, families, careers and lives – devoid of empathy and compassion. Search also the boardrooms, public offices and parliaments. There you will find among our leaders and kings many ego-maniacs who abuse their power, corrupt their economy and violate the basic human rights of their people, while they wage senseless wars on their critics and each other.

 

It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways – Buddha

 

Evil, darkness, threat and fear are not spiritual forces… they are the evil creations of man. JJ Dewey writes that “all forces, powers, and energies are neither good nor evil in themselves. They are completely neutral, but only become good or evil when they are intelligently directed.” He also states that “all energies and creations vibrating in their pure state are good.” And that is the whole point. Focusing so much of our thoughts, feelings and intentions on evil, instead of that which is good, is counter-productive and contrary to our Divine Purpose. We are here to serve each other and grow, expand and become, not to cast an exaggerated, ominous shadow over all that is potentially good in the world.

The spiritual realm is much like the natural world. It is in essence breathtakingly perfect, completely harmonious and utterly flawless. I have yet to meet an evil animal or discover a satanic plant. The only evil I have ever witnessed among plants and animals are the scars left on them by the inhumane, dark deeds of men. It is certainly not the devil who is trashing the environment, abusing the animal kingdom or trampling the hearts of loving women and breaking the spirits of brave men.

The Divine Light that you and I come from, and will return to one day, knows no evil and does not recognize the power of these shadows that some so willingly fear and follow. Believing in the supremacy of evil entities and dark beings implies that we all come from a spiritual place of imperfection. It suggests that the Divine Source is somehow diseased, that Creation is riddled with flaws and falsehoods that dwell among us. And, worst of all, that we are so far superior in our human state that we alone are capable of fixing this broken, dysfunctional or chaotic spiritual mess.

 

The reason our definition of good and evil changes over the ages is because our capacity to understand and experience freedom changes – JJ Dewey

 

I realize that for some it must be fun to indulge in this paranormal soap opera, but most of us simply don’t have the time, or the inclination. We know we have much work to do, gifts to offer, blessings to share. We are the Wounded Healers, the Empaths, the Shamans, the Indigo Children, the Starseeds, and the Lightworkers. We speak to the Angels, listen to our Spirit Guides and trust in the guidance of our Ancestors, Ascended Masters and Loved Ones. We fight true evil by saving the planet and healing humanity, by drying one tear at a time.

We have no need for spells, talismans or obsessive-compulsive psychic defenses, for we are surrounded by the everlasting and indestructible shields of Love, Peace and Harmony. The phenomenal power of our Spiritual Heritage surges through our being every moment of every day. We are illuminated by the Divine; there is much Light around us.

The spiritual evolution of mankind is our ultimate aim, our Divine duty. As we continue to expand the Universe, this dazzling, bright Light we carry will continue to emanate from us with much Glory. And we know that there shall come a time when there will be no more evil among men. And we shall know that all is Good.

© 2010 Anthon St Maarten

Are the Snow Drifts Covering Up Your Love?

 “In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.”–Albert Camus

 

 

First of all, thank you for your wonderful entries in the Love for No Reason Valentine’s Contest.  There were many great tributes to the unconditional loving people in your lives. The winners are listed below.

 

I love that Valentine’s Day occurs in the middle of winter, bringing some reminder of love to help melt our hearts amidst the freeze outside. 

 

Whether you live in a snow-covered area or you have overcast skies hiding the sun, you are likely to experience a bit of the winter blues (yes those of you in the southern hemisphere aren’t experiencing this right now – but wait six months).  Your symptoms are common. They’re a result of a lot of factors such as: not enough sunlight, little time spent outside, less opportunity for exercise, or too many snow days keeping parents and children home together in the house.

 

When we’re feeling cooped up, craving carbs and having low energy levels, the idea of experiencing unconditional love may seem like a far-away concept.    But it’s closer than you think. 

 

One way to kick-start your experience of love for no reason is to feel your feelings, not avoid them. Sounds odd, right?  You may deal with stress, depression, boredom or anxiety by repressing your feelings (bottling them up) or highly expressing them (being a drama queen or constantly repeating your woes).  Both ends of this feeling spectrum stop the flow of energy and love in your life.  Feeling your feelings, simply and naturally, triggers their release, like melting the ice and snow outside your window.  When your heavy emotions lose their density, love streams in and out freely.

 

If you resist feeling your feelings, take your head out of it and focus on your body.   As soon as you catch yourself beginning to practice any of the avoidance techniques – reaching for the chocolate cake, glass of wine or credit cards for some retail therapy, try this simple process I learned from Love Luminary Raphael Cushnir for welcoming your feelings:

 

1.  Take a few deep breaths and pay attention to what you feel in your body.  Part of what makes negative emotions so painful is our tightening against them. 

 

2.  Imagine you’re in a hot shower or bath. Feel your body expand and relax.

 

3.  Bring that same state of physical relaxation and openness in your body to that negative feeling you resist.

 

4. Notice how your body relaxes and expands, and in that bigger space, the stuck feeling can now start to move. 

 

Once you’re willing to feel your feelings, no matter how painful they start out, those feelings hurt less as you open to them.  As Arjuna Ardagh said in our interview for Love for No Reason: Any feeling fully felt turns into love

 

And that love will lead you to finding the invincible summer within you.

 

With love for no reason and every reason,

 

Marci

 

Love for No Reason Valentine’s Contest Winners.

 

The winning nominators and nomineess each receive an autographed book.  Winners are not listed in any particular order (nominee is in parentheses):

 

1.      Sharla Vellek  (parents, Riley and Myra Sanders) First Place—received one dozen Valentine’s Day roses

 

2.      Marilyn Kier (friend Marcie Chesin)

 

3.      Stu Voeck (friend Sharon)

 

4.      Jeanne Marie Locklear (friend Amber)

 

5.      Michelle Gutierrez (children)

 

6.      Helen Breier (Aunt Lucy)

 

7.      Debra Bishal  (father)

 

8.      Jan Paquette (co-worker, Kathy)

 

9.      Deepa Desai  (mother, Saroj Desai)

 

10.  Deborah Dambra  (husband)

 

 

 

Switching on Your “Love Response”

Does all this talk about unconditional love and living with an inner state of love sound like it’s for someone else, but not you?  Is it hard to imagine living your life with an open heart because there are so many other things to worry about?

Between economic concerns, caring for aging parents, raising toddlers or teenagers, and losing that last 10 pounds, life can feel overwhelming. It can also feel like an uphill battle or constant challenge that you are taking on all by yourself. 

When you’re scared and anxious about things in your life, or feeling alone, it’s hard to welcome love in, isn’t it?  That’s often when love, in the form of romantic love, may seem like the answer to your problems. With a partner you might not feel so financially burdened  or struggle to raise your children by yourself.  But love for or from someone else is not the type of love I’m referring to – that’s Love for Good Reason.

What I wish for you and want to help you find is Love for No Reason. The good news is that it’s  possible to live a life of unconditional love even when life’s challenges seem ever-present.  This deep anchoring in well-being beyond worry is what we feel when the the body’s stress response is switched off and the “love response” is switched on..

What does it feel like when you hear (and say) the following words?

I am supported.  I trust I’ll be taken care of, even if I don’t always know how or by whom. 

What I learned from the Love Luminaries I interviewed was they all project an inner confidence of “being held” by life.  Their ability to love unconditionally comes from feeling supported unconditionally.  To live with a wide-open heart ourselves, we need to sense the three distinct circles of support in our lives – physical, emotional, and spiritual.

The first circle (physical) – relates to the feeling that you can sustain your basic needs and that you’re safe, no matter what’s going on outside.

The second circle (emotional) – involves the people (and sometimes pets) whose presence helps you feel safe and comforted.  Being aware that there are people you can count on for help and encouragement makes it easier to live with an open heart.  When you consciously register the trust you have for the people in your life, it activates the brain centers and hormones associated with trusting. 

The third circle (spiritual) – having a fundamental trust in a friendly universe – one that is always supporting you.  When we feel the universe is friendly, we develop the most profound and reassuring kind of support there is: unconditional trust. 

Getting grounded and feeling your support are the keys that activate the body’s love response.  You support the opening of your heart by slowing down and connecting to the calm core of security within in.  Try these exercises to increase the flow of love through you.

1.       When you’re facing a challenge, sense the support of a friendly universe by looking for the ways that the situation is ultimately serving you.  Ask yourself, Is this for my enjoyment, growth or both?

2.       Using the Circles of Support Process, take stock of the support – physical, emotional and spiritual – that is all around you.  Consciously registering feelings of safety and support creates neural pathways that allow you to relax.

Remember that Einstein said the most important decision you can make is whether to believe you live in a friendly universe – one that’s always supporting you.  What decision will you make today – start with just one day and then move on to one week, one month, etc.  What you’ll find is the universe will send you more of the same – more of what you’re focusing on.  We always find evidence to support our beliefs.  What beliefs will you hold with you today?

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Would You Like A Taste of Unconditional Love Right Now?

Woo-hoo!! We did it.  Thanks to your wonderful support, Love for No Reason debuted at…(drum–roll please) #3 on the New York Times Bestseller List!  Fabulous, fantastic, and phenomenal.  It will appear in the print version of the NY Times on January 30, but you can see the list now by clicking here: http://amzn.to/marcishimoff

 

 

Whether you bought a book, sent an email, posted on Facebook, or simply wished us well, I am grateful beyond words for your generous support and encouragement.

 

Now I want to give you a taste of what I call Love for No Reason.  Over the past few weeks, I’ve been on more than 50 radio interviews, and each time I’m asked what I mean by that phrase.

 

Maybe you’re wondering the same thing.

 

Well, this is one of those times when an explanation can only take you so far.  To really understand requires experience.  For example, how do really know chocolate ice cream?  You have to taste it. 

 

Here’s a simple process to give you a taste of the difference between Love for Good Reason and Love for No Reason.

 

This exercise only takes a few minutes, so sit comfortably, relax, and follow these steps:

 

1.   Close your eyes and think of someone or something you love.  It can be a person, a pet, a place, or an experience.

 

2.   What do you love about him, her or it?  Appreciate all the wonderful qualities you love about that person or thing.  Let yourself savor the object of your love.

 

3.   Ask yourself an unusual question, one that most people never consider:  Where does this love come from?  What’s causing me to have this wonderful experience?  The vast majority of people will answer that the love they feel is directly caused by the object of love they’re thinking about.  This is the experience of Love for Good Reason.

 

4.   Now try something different.  Switch your focus from the beloved to the experience of love itself. Put your attention on your heart and feel your appreciation independent of your thoughts about the object of your love.  Instead of thinking of the qualities of the person or thing, let yourself really feel the love you have inside for whatever it is that you chose.  

 

5.   Be with that inner experience of love.  You may feel warmth in the center of your chest and/or find yourself smiling.

 

The difference between these two experiences of love is that the second one is generated from your heart and doesn’t depend on the object of your love.  This is Love for No Reason. 

 

We’ve been conditioned to think that “it takes two to tango,” that we love something, we don’t just love.  We consider love as something that happens between two people.

 

Embracing the idea of love as an independent state and learning how to experience it on a continuing basis is the key to living a life of unconditional love. 

 

When you fill your own love tank, instead of looking for love outside yourself, you bring that love to everything in your life. Which I guarantee is even better than chocolate ice cream!

 

With love for no reason and every reason,

 

Marci

 

Turning Off The Body’s Stress Response And Switching On The “Love Response”

The following is an excerpt adapted from Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love http://www.thelovebook.com/Landing  (Free Press, December 2010) by Marci Shimoff with Carol Kline.

Love and fear are mutually exclusive energies. If we’re running our fear programs—worry, anxiety, nervousness—love is essentially off-line.

Fear expresses itself physically and mentally as a tightening, limiting force. It sends us into survival mode, or fight or flight, which causes our brain to shut down its normal functioning and direct more energy toward self-protection. Our whole system gets depleted from constantly defending itself.

One of the experts I interviewed for Love for No Reason, Love Luminary Dr. John Douillard, is a brilliant practitioner of Ayurveda, India’s traditional, holistic system of medicine that has been practiced for more than 5,000 years. In our interview, Dr. Douillard told me that because modern-day stress levels trigger the fight-or-flight response so often, we’re actually building bodies of fear. Worries don’t just disappear into thin air after we think them; they leave a toxic trail of neurochemicals, like cortisol and norepinephrine, which get stored in our bodies. These emotional toxins are just as harmful as the chemical toxins from our air, water, and food that are stored in the fat cells right alongside them.

This residue not only hampers the functioning of your body, it hinders the functioning of your mind. “Emotional toxins make us think and do the same dumb stuff, again and again and again,” Dr. Douillard says. “What’s worse, we get used to this state of free-floating fear and start to think it’s normal.”

To take fear off-line, Dr. Douillard says we can begin by reversing this agitated physiology and creating a safe, relaxed state in our cells instead. “We have to convince the body the war’s over and life is not an emergency. When we feel safe, those toxins get released out of the fat cells and newer, better molecules of emotion—neurotransmitters of love and happiness like oxytocin and dopamine—can become available.”

Recent studies on compassion, trust, empathy, and altruism support this idea: the circuitry of love—the unique brain functioning underlying these states of love—activates only when the stress response is switched off. Researcher Esther M. Sternberg, MD of the National Institutes of Health explains that unselfish, benevolent love appears to activate “certain aspects of the relaxation response in addition to blocking aspects of the stress response.”

In my interview with Love Luminary Dr. Stephen G. Post, the author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People: How to Live a Longer, Healthier, Happier Life by the Simple Act of Giving, he told me, “It’s neurologically impossible to be engaged in outward acts of loving-kindness and also be experiencing a state of high stress or negativity inside. The higher action, loving, cancels out the lower one, fearing.”

I’ve personally experienced how love and fear are mutually exclusive. For most of my life, I’ve been one of those people who go into fight or flight at the drop of a hat. My brain simply has an oversensitive alarm switch. Or as a brain scientist once told me, I have a hot amygdala. (Unfortunately, that’s not the same as calling me hot!)

For years I tended to over-react, and my friends and family had become immune to my constant shrieks of panic over small upsets—“Eeeek! Where are my keys?” “Oh no, I closed the file without saving it!” As you can imagine, this wasn’t good for my body, and it was especially hard on my heart. Spending so much of my day being freaked out left me little time and energy to experience love.

About ten years ago, I went to see a therapist who suggested a simple exercise for taming my hair-trigger response to life. She told me to consciously relax my perineum, which is located at the base of the body, between the rectum and the sexual organs. I wondered how something so simple could really help, but I tried it anyway. For the next week, every time I’d feel tense, overwhelmed, insecure, or afraid, I’d put my attention on the perineum and find it was clenched. As soon as I relaxed it, I could breathe again. I’d immediately be able to think more clearly and things didn’t seem as scary or difficult.

This simple process has been one of the many tools I’ve used to help myself tame my stress response. Instead of hyperventilating over every little thing, I’m more centered and can be more loving—to myself and everyone else in my life.

Love for No Reason offers a breakthrough approach to experiencing a lasting state of unconditional love—the kind of love that doesn’t depend on another person, situation, or romantic partner, and that you can access at any time and in any circumstance. This is the key to lasting joy and fulfillment in life. Order Love for No Reason now and receive the Love for No Reason Bonus Gift Package free at www.TheLoveBook.com  Follow Marci on Twitter @Marci_Shimoff.

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