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3 Steps to Find Your Perfect Partner

day 55Have you ever stopped to think about how rarely we think about the traits we want in a partner in more than a passing way? Do you find that you seek a physical type and then hope that they have the character traits that you desire? Or, do you find yourself imagining that you can wish the traits into their character once you get the relationship started?

In fact there is a way to ensure that you bring just the right person into your life. Now this isn’t just magical or wishful thinking. Rather, it’s about focusing your thoughts about yourself and your ideal mate in a way that makes you open to the  person you want to meet.

There is a progression of activities to help you get to this point. It does take a bit of thinking and being honest with yourself, but it will be effective in attracting the right type of people into your life. The following tips will help you get started in organizing and focusing in on your relationship thoughts.

Step 1: What do I deserve in a partner?

This is a critical first step. If you don’t see yourself as deserving of that perfect partner, then you cannot expect him or her to walk into your life. You have to believe that you are worthy and deserving of a partner to fulfill your dreams and desires. Good self-esteem is one major factor in meeting the right person, since you have to feel good about yourself to attract someone that will feel good about you too.

Step 2: What do you really want?

Start by making a list of the traits or characteristics that you really desire. Is it a sense of humor, an intellect or a person that is understanding and empathetic? Think on these behaviors and see yourself with the person. What does the relationships look like and feel like? What are your feelings about the relationship? By imaging the relationship as it is, you will be more clear with potential partners about your vision of a relationship.

Step 3: Bring love into your life

Love is the greatest of human emotion, and it is a powerful tool for attracting the type of relationship that you are looking for. Surround yourself with people you love, including your pets, and also share your feelings of love with others. The more love you put out, the more that will be returned.


Originally published September 2012

How to Discover and Honor an Authentic “Bottom Line”

Bottom line be clear

When we think of the phrase “the bottom line” some people think of profits and money. But there’s much more to the bottom line than dollar signs. The bottom line you lead with will make a huge impact in your life and others.

Sometimes our bottom line is to get what we want in an argument instead of figuring out a solution to enhance the relationship (I just made this mistake). Other times, our bottom line is to get the job done but in the process we alienate people in the workplace instead of looking at the situation from all perspectives to gain support. Or the bottom line can be to make work or health our priority but in the process we completely neglect the loved ones in our life.

As we honor our bottom line we need to be aware of the impact on others and adjust our actions if necessary.

Does your Bottom Line resonate on a heartfelt level?

Whether you’re a manager, mom, CEO, college student, musician, artist, friend, lover, athlete or entrepreneur, it’s important to be clear on your bottom line and how it impacts others.

What’s fueling your decisions? Is it the drive to create, connect, listen, make the world better, teach your children, honor your values, feel loved, serve your customer, create a better product or to feel connected?

Consider these questions in the different areas of your life?

  • What’s the bottom line with your family?
  • What’s the bottom line in your relationships?
  • What’s the bottom line in your business?
  • What’s the bottom line with your team at work?
  • What’s the bottom line with your personal health?
  • What impact does your bottom line have on others?
  • What changes if any need to be made?

Depending on your bottom line, you may take very different actions. Focusing purely on being right will lead to one set of actions, whereas focusing on collaboration will lead to another. And each will lead to a different set of results. Often we don’t consider our bottom line until it’s too late and then we wonder why the situation veered off course.

The Bottom Line can also include knowledge, experience, inspiration, fun, respect, love, connecting and much more. When we steer away from an authentic, heartfelt and collaborative bottom line the results shift dramatically, often not for the best.

Being clear on our bottom line and understanding how it will be heard by others is a game changer.

Consider one specific challenging situation in an important area of your life such as career, relationships, finance, or health. Ask if your bottom line comes from the heart and how will it be received?

I’d love to hear your responses.

You Are Who You Are When No One Is Looking

By Betsy Brown Braun

The mother unwrapped the straw, poked it into the little box, and handed the drink to her toddler as they walked out of the grocery store. The sliver of straw paper slipped from the mother’s hand. I doubt that she even noticed it.

Rolling my grocery cart back to its stable, I looked around to see how many carts were randomly parked, willy-nilly throughout the lot, nowhere near the stable. Who leaves her cart to roll into the next parked car?

Since my greatest interest and life’s work centers on parents and kids, the world is my lab. I notice random acts, relationships, and interactions wherever I go. Observing, noticing, gathering data, storing information, wondering: that’s me. Today at the grocery store, I couldn’t help but think about where and how children learn to do the right thing, to make the right choices. Of course, “right” means different things to different people, but I’m thinking of generally accepted right. The answer is kind of complicated, but not really.

To do the right thing, children have to do the wrong thing. Sounds crazy, but it’s true. Much of growing up is trial and error, testing limits and boundaries. Do it wrong, experience the consequence, then do it right the next time. At least, you hope it works that way. That’s certainly one of the ways kids figure out what is the right thing to do.

However, even without actively teaching your children, they learn from you because they copy you. Think about the things that you automatically do because that’s the way you’ve always done it. There is the great old tale of the mother who is preparing her Thanksgiving turkey with her adult daughter. The daughter asks, “Mom, why do you always cut off the end of turkey before you put it in the roaster?” The mother, who has no answer, knowing only that she cut it because her mother had always done so, calls her own mother. “Mom,” she asks, “Why do we always cut off the end of the turkey before putting it in the roaster?” The grandmother replies, “So it will fit in my roaster.”

Over and over, I remind parents that your kids are watching you all the time. It’s about how you live your life every day. If you ALWAYS hang up the clothes you tried on before you leave the store dressing room, the habit will become your child’s too. If you ALWAYS put your trash in the wastebasket, your child will do the same. If grocery shopping ALWAYS ends by returning your cart to the stable, not doing so won’t be a choice. Behaviors, right and wrong, become automatic when they are habitual. And so it will be for your absorbent child. Doing the right thing has a good chance of becoming ingrained in him, whether or not you are there watching.

Are you a person who does the right thing when no one is looking? If your answer is yes, then it’s likely you’re teaching your child to do the same.

Betsy Brown Braun is the bestselling author of the award-winning Just Tell Me What to Say (HarperCollins 2008), and You’re Not the Boss of Me (HarperCollins, 2010), a bestseller in its fourth printing. A renowned child development and behavior specialist, popular parent educator, and mother of adult triplets, she is a frequent speaker at educational and business conferences, has been a guest expert on Today, the Early Show, Good Morning America, Fox News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Phil, Entertainment Tonight, Rachel Ray, and NPR and has been cited in USA Today, the New York Times, Family Circle, Parents, Parenting, Woman’s Day, Real Simple, and Good Housekeeping, among countless other publications and websites. For more on Betsy, please visit her website or follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

*Photo by neonzu1.

What Is The Value Of Marriage?

There is a lot of attention in the media and in the political discourse about the definition of marriage. Should it be reserved for one particular union, that of a man and women, or should it be open to people that are lovingly committed to forming a union regardless of their gender?

It seems in reality that the answer to this question is based on what you see as the value of marriage. Values are typically one of the most difficult issues to change, negotiate or compromise on because they are our essence, our foundation and our belief in the working of the world around us. Our values are often hard to specifically define and are often part of our family background, world experience and our relationship with others.

Let’s take a closer look at what values the word or the concept of marriage entails. By clarifying your perceptions around the values and beliefs that you have about marriage you can then understand common ground with others as well as areas where you have differences.

Commitment – people of all backgrounds and beliefs value the concept of commitment between marriage partners. This goes beyond a spiritual and emotional commitment and extends to staying monogamous throughout the relationship.

Structure – through the structure of marriage support for children, extended family members and the family unit is maintained. This allows for long term planning, growth and financial security. Non-traditional types of relationships, including same sex couples, still have the same structure as well as the same sense of the other two values.

Companionship And Love – humans are social animals and not designed to live solitary lives away from others. Through marriage strong emotional bonds are formed that allow for love, companionship and friendship to develop. These are different feelings that companionship with individuals that are not partners, although sometimes friendships may be lifelong and incredibly meaningful.

There may be other values including religious and moral issues that are a big factor for some individuals. However, there are at least these three values in any group of people that consider marriage as an important institution in their lives.

In essence there are always values in marriage, regardless of the gender of the couple, and they are important ones for all people. Although times may have changed and society may be reflecting those changes the values inherent in marriage are consistent and lasting regardless of what the partnership looks like.

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Word Medicine

The RSA, the Royal Society for the encouragement of Arts, Manufactures and Commercehas a series of short videos on Youtube where they have a guest lecturer accompanied by a whiteboard animator. The series is poignant, enlightening and does a lot to inform the way we as people in the 21st century are living. The below video is one of my favorites. Check out www.thersa.org for more amazing info…



Double Exposure

As the flash bulb illuminates and exposes our hidden natures to the film

We peer through a lens of our choosing hoping to catch a slice of humanity that would shake our world awake.

We would frame, in immortality, some global cultural philosophy that would show us in the best light,

show off our best side.

With the camera to our eye we speak of ideals and what your thousand words should look like.

But we still get caught off-guard by the flash bulbs illumination with a crooked grin and half-closed blinking eyes that make us look like we’re the ones who really need to wake up.

The Buddha smiles serenely, laughing at how we thought the path would proceed according to our reason when we don’t even know who we are. 

We are still huddled in the dark room bathing in chemicals, filtering and cropping, obsessing over shutter speeds and believing that we need to think to be.

But as long as our image remains in that frame we can never be free.

Historically there is a science to this revolution: a panoramic sweep, a depth of field and focus

because somewhere a cosmic photographer has already calculated all of the right angles and made us in this image.

And which zoom shot could ultimately reflect that vista?

In competition we have become so polarized against ourselves that we can’t let ourselves become exposed to the common good.

Somehow the collective autofocus never seems to settle on a score.

Buddha’s glowing face seems to say how can you be free of this trade if you always want more.

When religion remains a human authority,

the compasssionate remain in the minority,

profiles than claim to be at war for me,

seem to be collecting all of the royalties.

And it is through the wealth of these nations that somehow I am supposed to develop the constitution to declare my independence, again.

No wonder I keep hiding behind the lens.

These postcard mementos have colonized our lives,

invaded our indigenous sense of self

and left us with only forgotten reservations.

The photos left behind identify that most don’t fit the PC version of history that was taught to me

but take a close up on the mythology

and it speaks of common good without solidarity.

The truth that is self-evident is that there are big men posing with big fishes like Progress, Justice and Freedom

and which one was the one that got away?

The Buddha giggles a question: is bathing in your own brilliance really enlightenment?

When no matter the telephoto lens, no matter the panoramic shot you still can’t fit everyone in the picture.

No, you’re just another shutterbug tourist.

It’s hard to find the range when something is missing from the shot.

Where is the beauty, the movement?

Telling a story in marvellous composition

A flow of color and mystery that reveals something more.

Where is the connection?

The empathic capacity that connects photographer to it’s subjects

The care to look without the filter and find meaning hovering in a moment

At peace with itself and everything around us

I mean isn’t that the goal?

The Buddha snickers from Satori that there is at least one eye that remains unobscured by the lens.

That is if you are truly seeking an image that, in and of itself, sheds light.

We are both observer and observed

We are at once celebrity and paparazzi

We are integral with this nature that we are magnifying

And when we realize that this wholeness is what we are truly trying to compose.

We can advance the frame,

spread the aperture as wide as we can

and hold the view finder to our third eye.

Then maybe,

just maybe,

we’ll get the picture.

Is This The Next Right Thing For You?

I was recently given a book by Wayne Muller called A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough. This book is well-done and has really simple principles in it that seem so intuitive it’s amazing that we sometimes overlook these things in our daily lives.

Upon reading this book I began to realize that I needed to create a set of "guiding principles" for my midlife. It’s a list of only two but after careful deliberation and contemplation these are the only two I need.

  1. Stillness – This is the practice of ceasing the stream of thoughts that run through my head. Thoughts that usually contain images, feelings, and judgments about the past, or thoughts about future desires, worries, and inadequacies. I’ve found thru this daily practice that I can, for brief moments throughout my day, halt this current of thoughts. I begin this practice by just consciously becoming aware of the thoughts and then I shut them off and simply notice whatever it is that I’m doing, hearing, seeing, touching, tasting, or smelling. No thinking about it or labeling it but just becoming fully aware of that exact moment. After doing this even just for a few seconds I get a wave of peace that comes thru me. During those moments of awareness it feels like I am directly connected to God, the Universe, Source Energy, Allah, or whatever name we want to give it. It feels like I am That; if only for a moment. It’s real clarity.
  2. The Next Right Thing – This is a beautiful and simple idea from Wayne’s book. It’s about letting go of the past and the future and gently focusing your daily activities on doing the next right thing. This is a big idea for me because I’ve been, for many years, overly focused on big giant goals and the achievement of them. It’s great to have goals and plans but remembering that "life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans"  is quite a freeing and peaceful concept. This principle helps me by just deciding what’s the next right thing to do.

Let me give you an example of how these two simple principles work for me. Last Sunday was my daughter’s birthday. She was turning 7 years old. For months she had been attending a running club for kids through her school. She really enjoys being athletic and loves to run, ride her bike, do yoga, and generally just be an active kiddo. At the end of the school year the run club hosts a kid’s fun run consisting of a half-mile and full-mile course. Awards are given out, kids get t-shirts, and it’s really a fun thing for everyone. I was surprised on Sunday when Lily woke up and rigorously insisted that she didn’t want to do the fun run. This insistence went on for a couple of hours that morning while I did my best to convince her that she would love it. Afterall, she had done it for the past couple of years and had a blast. However, I soon realized that she was serious. She did not want to go. Honestly, I wanted her to go because I know how fast she is and I wanted everyone else to see what an amazing athlete my little gal is. This was the source of my insistence that she do it.

After a quiet Sunday morning of remembering to practice moments of Stillness I began to realize that my ego was involved in trying to force Lily into running the kid’s race. I also realized it was her birthday and she should get to steer the day’s activities in some fashion, right? Was insisting that she attend this race "the next right thing?" After sliding my personal ego out of the way through Stillness it dawned on me that it wasn’t. The next right thing was to let her decide what she wanted to do on that special day. So, that’s what we did.

My learning: by briefly slowing the stream of thoughts and just becoming aware of the things around me I feel I can truly know what is actually The Next Right Thing instead of letting my ego make that call. It’s a beautiful cause and effect process. Accessing the present moment helps me to find true clarity which then leads me to the next right thing.

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Happy Mothers Day – Mothers Proudly Represent the Credentials of Incredible Legacies – Respectfully

Happy Mothers Day – Mothers Proudly Represent the Credentials of Incredible Legacies – Respectfully

Happy Mothers Day – A Sincere Tribute to Mothers – The Architect of Life – Respectfully

Mothers Are the Architect, Inspiring Foundation and The Very Greatest Legends – Respectfully

A Humble & Admirable Tribute to Mothers- Mothers are The Very Most Admirable- Adorable- Beautiful – Cherished – Creative- Honourable – Intelligent- Loving & Respected oF Persons – Respectfully

Mothers are the Symbol of Peace, Faith, Hope, Love, Courage, Vision,Wisdom, Noble Principles & Values and the very Finest Characteristics and Virtues of Life – Respectfully

Mothers- The Meaningful Pioneer of our Life- Mothers are the Epitome of Divinity – Respectfully

May 9 2010 – Happy Mothers Day Happiness Always – God Bless – Respectfully

Sunday, May 9 2010 proudly marks amongst the greatest of celebrations observed annually with profound admiration, love, honour and respect, Happy Mothers Day, God Bless

Gift Respectfully

A Mother gives us the most precious Gift of Life and then nurtures us thoughtfully, with love, care and utmost affection, standing by us at each and every step of Life

Reciprocate – Respectfully

We should seek to always be there for our Mothers likewise- standing by and very most lovingly supporting our Mothers at each and every step of Life- always with Admiration- Appreciation- Immense Gratitude- Love and Respect for our Mothers always- God Bless Mothers always with the Very Best in Life

Foundation – Respectfully

A Mother is the very Pillar- The very meaningful foundation upon which our Life is so very meaningfully constructed

Good Natured Principles & Values – Respectfully

A Mother is the stable and meaningful foundation of good natured principles and values that our Mother’s teach us

The Very Greatest Inspiration – Respectfully

Mothers are the very greatest inspiration of our Life that molds- shapes- designs- sculpts our Life very most affectionately- thoughtfully, inspiringly, characteristically, meaningfully- cherishingly and motivatingly

Humanity – Respectfully

A Mother is the Greatest Gift of Nature to Humanity

Treasure – Respectfully

The above is an attestation of the fact that, “The Greatest Treasure of our Life are our Mothers”

Reciprocate – Respectfully

When we respect our Mother first always- When we first reciprocate the love and affection showered on us by our Loving Mothers and always support our Mothers when they need us- we are truly living the very finest moments of our life

Society – Respectfully

It is very true and has been repeatedly mentioned that a society is essentially identified and recognized by the way in which it treats its Women in the Society– especially our Mothers- Mothers are the Pillars of our Society

Pillars – Foundation – Respectfully

So much so that the pillars and the foundation of the society are depending upon each and every Mother always

Teacher – Respectfully

A Mother is the very greatest teacher

Friend – Respectfully

A Mother is the very greatest friend

Trust – Integrity – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children the values and principles amongst which trust is the very most salient

Noble Values & Principles – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children the finest – noblest of principles and values of life

Power – Empowering – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children to recognize our abilities – the power within and to utilize it meaningfully for universal welfare and development consistently

Legend – Respectfully

A Mother is the greatest legend

Balance – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children to identify and establish a meaningful balance in each and every aspect of our life meaningfully

Intuitive – Insightful – Respectfully

A Mother is the very most intuitive- being able to perceive and comprehend so many aspects of life effortlessly and then seeking to explain the importance of each aspect  meaningfully

Walk – Talk – Smile – Aspects – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children how to walk, talk, smile, understand and so many more wonderful aspect about ourselves

Source of Strength – Respectfully

A Mother is the source of strength always

A Mother – The Very Essence of Life – Respectfully

A Mother is not only a person who is full of affection, love, understanding, compassion, inspiration and the very finest virtues but a Mother is the very essence of our life and so very much more that words cannot express her greatness in these humble few words alone

Admirable Dependency – Respectfully

There is an admirable dependency when we speak of a Mother- even one word or millions of words cannot express the immense gratitude we experience when we reflect upon and recall the virtues of a Mother-

Outstanding – Respectfully

A Mother is always truly very most outstanding, incredible and incomparable

Thoughts – Respectfully

Whenever any reference is made or spoken about a Mother- it is only thoughts of sheer admiration and continual admiration for a Mother’s Love and Wisdom that come to mind- the gracefulness and eloquence in speech

Encompassing – Respectfully

The meaningfulness that a Mother is able to convey is encompassing the very finest of values and noble principles

Honours – Synopsis – Respectfully

A Mother is a pioneer, a Mother is an astronaut, a Mother is a doctor and surgeon, a Mother is an engineer, a Mother is a scientist- a Mother is an industrialist, a Mother is an inspiration and motivator- a Mother is a meaningful leader- a Mother is the symbol of all that is pure, noble and sincere- a Mother is so much more greater that a Mother’s greatness simply cannot be expressed or described in these few humble words alone-

The Very Greatest Gift of our Life – Respectfully

A Mother is truly the very Most Greatest Gift of of our Life- the Very Most Precious Life of our Life

The Above – Respectfully

The above are only a few of the diversified portfolios held and capably managed with meaningful efficiency by a Mother

Able – Respectfully

A Mother creates Hope where none prevailed

Genius – Respectfully

A Mother is a genius

Architect – Respectfully

A Mother is the architect of our life- guiding us wisely at each and every stage of our life

Meaningfully – Respectfully

A Mother listens, understands and then responds meaningfully-

Listening & Understanding – Responding – Respectfully

The key factors are listening and understanding with so much care, affection, attention and wisdom that one is overwhelmed with the immense love and sincerity

Knowledge & Wisdom – Respectfully

A Mother is the pioneer of inspiring intelligence

First Word – Woman – Mother Affectionately – Respectfully

The first word that we utter in our life very most affectionately and effortlessly is Maa, Mother, Mamma, Mummy and so many more melodiously precious words where each word truly seeks to humbly express the greatness and gracefulness of the very greatest admiration and inspiration of our precious lives; our loving Mothers, God Bless

First Step – Truly – Respectfully

Right from the very first step that we take in our life and always, we first and foremost seek the blessings of our Mother with sincere adoration, admiration and sincere respect

What a Mother can Accomplish, No Man can ever Accomplish – Respectfully

It is true, history is testament that a Mother can sustain a life- give the very most precious gift to a family- the wonderful Children and then meaningfully guide them and nurture them to become admirable and responsible persons

Home – Respectfully

A home is not a home without a Mother

Vision – Respectfully

A Mother guides us to meaningfully recognize the vision of our life

Honour – Respectfully

Mothers are truly amongst the very most Admirable and Honourable of Persons; A sincere Salute to each and every Mother always; God Bless

Society – Respectfully

A society is not a society without our Mothers

Champion – Respectfully

A Mother is a champion of champions, pioneering and achieving and yet not seeking the lime light or acclaim, a Person who selflessly provides and keeps providing us with the very most meaningfulness to each and every moment

Champion of our Life – Respectfully

A Mother is the champion of our life- she provides so much meaningfulness to each and every aspect of life

Yet – Respectfully

Yet she humbly overlooks at all the achievements and keeps on persevering to ensure that her family- the family at home and the world are always happy

Marathon – Respectfully

A Mother virtually accomplishes so many events with gracefulness that only a Mother can ever accomplish truly

Patience – Resilience – Respectfully

A Mother is the symbol of patience and resilience

Challenges – Respectfully

Everyone is aware of how a Mother has – is and will always met the challenges of life with courage (a humble salute to each and every Mother- to all Mothers all across the world)

Vision – Respectfully

Time and Again- A Mother perseveres and creates hope where there was none that ever prevailed before

Miracles – Respectfully

A Mother brings about miracles upon miracles in our daily life- every moment of our life with our Mothers is amongst the greatest of Miracles

First – Respectfully

A Mother always very most truly comes first

True Self – True Nature – Respectfully

A Mother inspires us to recognize our True Self- our True Nature

Attributes – Respectfully

Whatever attributes relating to a Mother are specified are but a very humble expression of a few of the very most finest virtues of life

Personification – Respectfully

A Mother personifies everything that is meaningful and purposeful- everything that is the very finest in life

Gracefulness – Respectfully

A Mother is the symbol of gracefulness- gratefulness- admiration- appreciation- happiness- love- peace- and all the very finest virtues of life-

Faith – Hope – Love – Wisdom – Respectfully

A Mother is the symbol of faith, hope, love, wisdom and the very finest of characteristics and virtues in life

A Mother is a Mother- Like no Other- She is always Amazing- Incomparable – Respectfully

A Mother is a Mother- there is no comparison to a woman since she is unique and amazing- intelligent and meaningful- magnificent, wise and thoughtful- humble and encouragingly inspirational- graceful and beautiful- constructive and creative

Creativity – Respectfully

Every aspect that relates to a Mother is phenomenal from the perspective of creativity

Confidence – Respectfully

A Mother instills the confidence in us and makes us see the value of each and every aspect of life meaningfully and purposefully

Mother of The World – Respectfully

It is well known that a Woman is the Mother of the World who showers her noble grace and divine Love for Humanity and to bless one and all with goodness and welfare always


A Mother constructs foundations that encompass virtues of the highest goodness for one and all meaningfully

Envisage- Vision- Wisdom – Respectfully

A Mother envisage their expectations manifesting with a vision of wisdom as only a Mother can

Family- Passions – Respectfully

A Mother empowers the Family- enabling them re discover their passions in life

Instrumental- Steps – Respectfully

A Mother perceives impediments as stepping stones to potential accomplishments

Hallmarks – Respectfully

A Mother sketches the hallmarks of time with heartprints of love that only a Mother can

Women- Mothers – Respectfully

A Mother is the epitome of divinity

Legends-Centuries – Respectfully

A Mother is amongst the very greatest of legends since time immemorial

Intuitive – Insightful – Respectfully

A Mother is intuitive and insightful- articulating her notions intuitively

Eminent Reminder – Respectfully

A Mother reminds her Children that the Soul characterizes the essence of life

Admiration – Respectfully

A Mother compliments each and every day of life, by defining the virtue of admiration eloquently- only as a Mother can

Sincere Admiration – Affection- Love & Respect – Respectfully

A Mother spends her lifetime selflessly showering immense love and affection to each and every aspect of life- only as a Mother can

Profound Appreciation & Immense Gratitude – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children to immensely appreciate and recognize of the phenomenal treasures of versatile abilities that we have been endowed with and to utilize these meaningfully

Beauty – Heart Perception – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children to understand and recognize that the true beauty of life is not relating to the physical appearance- but to the beauty of the Heart

Compassion – Respectfully

A Mother enables her Children to perceive the purity of our hearts filled with compassion- to recognize the gentleness- the compassionate nature that dwells within

Consideration – Respectfully

A Mother teaches that consideration and thoughtfulness for others around us creates an incredible difference and impact in our lives as well

Creativity – Respectfully

A Mother encourages her Children to become more creative and explore our greater potentialities meaningfully whilst managing the certainties that dwell alongside proficiently- meaningfully- purposefully and very most responsibly

Courage – Respectfully

A Mother truly brings out the moral courage that resides within each and every one of her Children very most magnificently as only a Mother can

Determination – Respectfully

A Mother with her resilient attitude and determination show her Children that the endurance- the strength within each and every one of us is inspired with an indomitable willpower

Encouragement- Meaningful Balance – Respectfully

A Mother encourages her Children to soar to reach the altitudes of meaningful objectives and accomplishments, whilst reminding us to simultaneously maintain our attention on the ascent to the pinnacle precariously- as well as ensuring our optimal balance is carefully maintained-sustained diligently

Faith – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children to believe in our trueselves with the purpose of accomplishing  greater good for others and ourselves as well

Gratitude – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children that gratitude is essentially a sign of nobility- the more grateful we are- the more meaningful we are- the more purposeful we are and the more responsible we are while gratefully acknowledging all that we have humbly- we are further equipped with more resourcefulness accordingly

Happiness – Respectfully

A Mother brings tremendous happiness to the family with her graceful and loving attitude always

Hope – Respectfully

A Mother inspires her Children to have hope- to trust and recognize its uniqueness

Inspiration – Respectfully

A Mother inspires her Children with her caring touch in every aspect of family upbringing- family evolution- nurturing each life preciously and adding meaningfulness to every aspect as only women can do

Intelligence – Respectfully

A Mother is the very most intelligent person and is able to understand various aspects of life more meaningfully

Motivation – Respectfully

A Mother motivates her Children to recognize the value of each moment for what it signifies and to ensure that it is wisely invested in with a meaningful approach always

Noble – Respectfully

A Mother is noble and brings about remarkable changes in the World at every instance by truly winning the admiration and hearts of People always- Whenever any reference is attributed to A Mother, it is expressed- accorded- extended with the very highest Pride- Honour and Nobility

Passion – Respectfully

A Mother evokes within her Children to instill within themselves a passion for appreciation of the very finest in life always and making themselves believe that they always have what it takes to accomplish meaningful objectives purposefully and responsibly

Peace – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children that the theory of peaceful co existence- non violence in all forms of thoughts- speeches and actions is among the very most vital and  essential ingredient of each an every aspect of life

Purposeful – Respectfully

A Mother purposefully and thoughtfully expresses her perspective with a meaningful approach regarding various aspects of life

Characteristics – Virtues – Respectfully

A Mother is always gifted with so many more wonderful and the very most finest virtues that a Mother is always ever enriching each and every aspect of life of the Family very most magnificently only as a Mother can

Time and Again- Truly Mothers are the greatest gift of God – Respectfully

When we perceive the attitude- the compassion- the love and care- the gracefulness of Mothers- we are  humbly appreciative- grateful- very most thankful and always Respectfully acknowledging the greatness of Mothers- Truly Mothers are the greatest gift of God

Teachings – Respectfully

A Mother always teaches her Children to appreciate what the Children have in life- to recognize the value of each and every aspect in life- to be appreciative- to be grateful- to be thankful and to meaningfully- purposefully and responsibly utilize each and every moment in life meticulously and very preciously

Awareness – Respectfully

A Mother teaches her Children that grandeur- the beauty of life cannot be touched or experienced with our vision alone- it is the perception with our truly awakened heart- intellect- mind and soul that we are able to perceive the wonderfulness of this Universe and its magnificence

Avenues – Respectfully

A Mother also teaches her Children to have hope- courage and a vision- that when one avenue of happiness is bereft with impediments- there are always another avenues of meaningful happiness that are there in life provided of course that we take the meaningful- purposeful and responsible initiatives intelligently and spontaneously- while ensuring that no permission is given to any avenues that might be deviating from ethical practices- practicing and observance of a conventional protocol of good and responsible conduct and character always

Tribute to our Mothers – Respectfully

As a token of appreciation for the immense and very most valuable efforts that our Mothers take for us- we should always seek to strive very most diligently- meaningfully- purposefully and responsibly to accomplish and excel in our respective endeavors- taking good care of our duties- our agendas- our assignments- our objectives- meaningfully- purposefully and responsibly always

Summarization – Respectfully

The above was a very brief admirable prelude since the greatness of a Mother could not be expressed in these few words alone

History – Mothers are Truly the Pride of our Lives – Respectfully

History is testament to the evidential factor that will always proudly express that Mothers are truly the Pride of our Lives always- and it is a great privilege to humbly acknowledge this with sincere appreciation- utmost thanks and gratefulness always the wonderfulness of Mothers in our Life

Keep Discovering Your True Nature Your True Self Love & Light God Bless, Vashi Ram Chandi

Purposefulness – Respectfully

The very best gift that we could give one another is to consistently accomplish our respective agendas faithfully and consciously practice non violence in all forms of thoughts, actions and expressions respectively- to ensure that we are able to let our light shine through and radiate the hallmarks of magnificence in living a purposeful life- a life of purpose that encompasses meaningful values based principles as its primordial agenda consistently- God Bless

Life of Purpose – Respectfully

Let us recognize that the purpose of life is to live a life of purpose- to live a life of meaningful values based principles and ideals that are each evoking our awareness to express ourselves truly- to recognize and experience our True Nature, our True Selves- God Bless

Goodwill – Respectfully

The art of life inspires us with the amazing foresight- and empowers us with the amazing strength and capabilities to accomplish the respective visions and dreams that belong to the goodwill of the Universe infinitely- God Bless

Awaken – Respectfully

Let us seek to awaken our inner wisdom – our higher consciousness- be more aware and conscious- let us seek to develop our intuition- Intuition is our inner guidance and compass of life- Intuition is the wisdom of the Soul- God Bless

True Nature – True Selves – Respectfully

The art of living inspires us to discover, recognize and experience our True Nature- our True Selves- God Bless

Higher Consciousness – Respectfully

Let us seek to awaken our inner wisdom – our higher consciousness- be more aware and conscious- God Bless

Intuition – Respectfully

Let us seek to develop our intuition- Intuition is our inner guidance and compass of life- Intuition is the wisdom of the Soul- God Bless

God Bless – Respectfully

May One and All be Blessed with a Vision of Good Health, Awareness, Happiness, Joy, Prosperity, Progress and Wisdom always- God Bless

Love,  Light and Wisdom,

God Bless,


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Bullying Today…Can We Handle the Truth?

 Could there be simple answers to a very complicated question? There is one. Will people listen…that’s up to you.

Bullying…why are we so shocked that kids are doing this today, isn’t it really an emotional problem of the child being bullied? The principal of one of the schools where a young person recently committed suicide would like you to think so. 

Anderson Cooper is doing special reports, Oprah spent days specifically looking into this issue, Good Morning America and many of the talk shows are drilling into the why’s and the how’s of can it be stopped.

Let’s start with the first question – why?  One answer could be – remember what we’ve all been taught – that your children do what you DO, not what you tell them. They do what they See.

Turn on the news and the radio, what do you see and hear? It’s not only the cable stations, even in our hallowed halls of Congress – there is name-calling and people who don’t treat each other with respect. Daily barrages of insults have now become common fare.

This bullying is so widespread we don’t know how to take issue with it – and it’s on TV for the world… and our kids to see.

Let’s take it up a notch and turn on the television shows or listen to the radio programs where they are now ‘reporting’ every move a celebrity or a momentarily recognized individual makes – by mocking them.

Bullying has been around forever but is it growing? Are these the consequences of a behavior that is so prevalent as to be thought acceptable, being shown to us with the most disastrous results?  And we wonder why it’s happening??? 

A young girl was brought to me a year ago whose mother was concerned with her behavior in school.  Katie was very angry, and it was showing up in her grades, in her reticence to befriend others and in her sullen attitude that was affecting everything in her life.  Katie had good reason to be mad, her Dad had recently died from cancer, leaving her without her best friend and she didn’t feel the world had given her a fair shake.

I taught her a method of connecting to the source of her power, where she could access better answers, Stillness.  When she opened her eyes after the brief session, the first thing she said, was, “Oh… I know how I can use this.”

Katie told me that often kids laughed at things that weren’t nice, and she didn’t want to join them, but it was hard.  She said that she knew now, that she could begin to breathe into the Stillness and it would help her not to join in the laughter.

I didn’t realize at the time that she was speaking about the bullying that was happening at her school.  I gave her a Stillness Session™ CD so she could continue to practice reaching that core of strength and love that exists at her core and wished her well.

Six months later I got a call from her mom, there had been an incident at Katie’s school of bullying and Katie had not only befriended the student being bullied, she also stood by her side, declaring it had to stop. SEE VIDEO to hear what happened in Katie’s own words

This time, everyone listened.  The boy was suspended and the school called a special meeting with all the parents to discuss this issue.  Katie’s mom told me that the parents of the bully were also shocked, they were not at all aware that their son could or would perpetrate such an atrocity.  There were as concerned as all the other parents.

What does this tell us; maybe it’s not the fault of the parent who isn’t raising their child with the best values…  Maybe the blame lies more in a society that accepts behavior which such a pronounced lack of integrity – which is so prevalent on our television screens and airwaves.

Someone is watching those programs that defile another human beings behavior or the ratings would plummet and they would go off the air.  Someone is voting for the people who mock their peers in Congress, or they wouldn’t represent your state.  We need to take responsibility for what we see, and let them know it’s not OK, we don’t’ want our kids to model this kind of behavior.  If we wouldn’t allow it at home, why do we support it elsewhere?

When we connect to the core essence of our true nature, we find it impossible to defame another; we discover greater compassion and a silent strength that we have to stand up for those who haven’t learned to do it for themselves.

Katie tells me that she searches out the kids who are being bullied or are quietly hiding their pain of not fitting in now, and she tries to help them discover their own strengths and value.  She does the practice of Stillness, and going within, several times a week, even at school just though breathing through the tough situations until she feels reconnected to her own guidance and knowing.  

Yes, it’s simple and yes it worked for one person who then made a big difference in the lives of many. Can it work for others? Why don’t we let the kids tell us, teach them this simple method, and let them teach us how truly simple it is – to value and respect each other.  


Strictly Spiritual!

This post is meant for astute followers of any spiritual discipline or teacher. They can be devotees, volunteers and teachers or all and any combinations of the three. Many things have been said and done before, but this probably is the most important, not for anyone else but for your own. Many times while on spiritual path, we tend to deviate from the ideal, from the real towards ego and illusion. I am sure it happens with all the teachers and even with great saints. I have seen a few examples of this kind where people do not practice what they preach. We feel this separation from the other so much that our definitions on the same topic change while dealing with other people. We do not feel the pain, sadness or happiness of the other in the same way that we feel our own, so there is a discrimination that mind always makes. This leads us to go bizzare from time to time. This post is strictly spiritual in the sense, that for people who feel they are strictly spiritual and great followers of some guru, must always remember that their actions reflect on their Guru’s credibility. If they do not keep themselves in check from time to time, ultimately, for no reason, their revered Guru will lose credibility. While behaving with others: disciples, devotees, volunteers, own family members and neighbours, think before you act and think what your Guru would have done in the present situation and then act. This will save you from mistakes and keep you on path.

The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

-Oriah Mountain Dreamer

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