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Two Essential Questions Before Saying “I do”

Wedding ringsBy: Sasha Stone

Recently I caused a minor Facebook frenzy with the following comment:

“It is my observation that marriage for my generation is irrelevant and represents the death of love. I have a few examples in my life that prove otherwise, which is beautiful and wonderful. What about you? What’s your experience?”

I will admit, I did this partially to provoke people. I knew it would strike a chord and married people would get defensive. I was curious to see what that defense would be, because honestly, I would rather my observation be inaccurate. No surprise, most responses had a lot to do with romantic notions of forever, family, and devotion. Those that said their marriage was thriving sited communication, honesty, and respect. This, though, was my favorite response of all:

“Marriage is not just a piece of paper. It is not a piece of paper to prove love. My husband proved that to me well before we got married — which is why we got married in the first place! However, it does open up a lot of options legally – think about health care decisions, financial combinations, term life decisions etc…”

Why my favorite? Because this is real. This has a purpose.

Since my divorce in 2009 I’ve kept a close eye on my views on marriage, observing any changes and fluctuations that might occur and why. In the midst of my divorce, I felt fairly certain I would never get married again. Not because I was bitter and jaded, and not because I didn’t want to have a family, but because marriage had lost its meaning to me.

I got married very young (age 25), and though in love, we hadn’t really spent any time discussing our motives for taking such a huge next step in our relationship. There was the practical consideration of me being able to stay in the U.S., and the idea of wanting to be together forever. Beyond that, we didn’t really look at the deeper currents of why, and consequently nor whether this move was truly in the greatest good for either of our lives.

Whether consciously or not, I think many people get married to hold on to that relationship and that person forever, no matter what, even if there are massive gaps in values, vision, and priorities. As though somehow, having that official certificate guarantees your idealized vision of love and that the person will be yours forever. Clearly, divorce rates indicate otherwise, but people still seem to think, for them it will be different.

What happens all too often though, for my generation at least, is the paper gets signed and the relationship takes a nosedive. I know that is not the case for everyone, but it is strikingly common. I could probably write a 1000 page essay on this topic, there’s so much to it. But I am going to stick my neck out and say the main reason this occurs is because despite our social evolution, we still cling and grasp onto the romance saturated view of marriage that is fed to us through fairytales, both classic and contemporary. Our starving mind (our hearts are usually wiser) latches on to that idea and laps it up voraciously. Then we get married, and our socially evolved self revolts, does not want to accept the illusion of this arrangement, and suddenly, desperately, wants out.

Last year, I had the honor of officiating a wedding for a beloved student and friend (yes, that’s right, minister Sash). I had to be very thoughtful about it because I didn’t want to be a fraud standing up there, guiding two people into an institution for which I hadn’t yet made peace. So I asked the couple tying the knot to answer two questions for me (an assignment they had to do separately, without consulting each other).

#1) Why are you getting married?

Seems straight forward enough, but many people answer this question with something basically along the lines of, “I love this person, I want to be with them forever, and I want to build a family and life with them.” That is awesome! I say go for it, but guess what, you don’t need to be married to do any of those things (at least not in the Western world). Love and commitment are beautiful and wonderful, but you can be married and completely not committed. You can also be fully devoted and not married.

Dig deeper. What are some REAL reasons for making this massive commitment? I find the answers that are deeply spiritual, deeply traditional, and/or deeply practical to be the most compelling. If you and your spouse-to-be have those reasons in common, then there is a much more substantial backing to walking down the aisle than simply the forever story. You have no idea what life is going to hurl your way, but if you have super strong convictions about why marriage is essential to the progress and evolution of your relationship and life together, then you have a firm foundation to stand on.

#2) Why are you marrying this person?

Ok, here is where you get to be romantic and gushy. Still though, I encourage you to dig deep. What makes this person so highly unique and dear to you that you are willing to make a lifelong commitment to them? Get it all down. Be extremely personal, reflective, and specific. Then, when you hit those rough spots in your relationship, come back to this document and remind yourself what a precious being you have the privilege of sharing your life with.

Of course, there are many more questions to ask oneself, but this is not intended to be a guide on finding the right partner (when I figure that out I’ll get back to you ;). My intention is simply to draw your attention to two basic questions whose answers are often taken for granted rather than sincerely discussed.

Yes, I do believe in Love. I believe in commitment, I believe in family, and I believe that humans are meant to live their lives in togetherness, not isolation. I want love, I want babies, and I want to experience the crazy journey of being with someone for a very long time. Would I get married again? Only if the reasons for it truly make sense, and that if I decide to take that step with someone, that we have been openly thoughtful about it and see eye-to-eye and heart-to-heart on the why.

Take action now:

  1. Share your reaction to this article in the comments below.
  2. Send this to someone preparing to embark on the marriage journey. It might offer them a little guidance before taking the plunge.

Originally published on Sasha’s blog 

photo by: State Farm

Elephant in the Room: How Do I Find the Right Man to Marry

Beneath the veil lies my darknessDear Cora,

I just celebrated my 27th birthday in April. I’m finally at a point in my life where I have a great job and can help support my mom and our family. (We’re Guyanese and staying close to family is very important). I’m really happy except for one thing – I want to get married. I want to start raising a family of my own, but I have the worst luck with men. My last serious relationship was years ago when I was still in college. I’ve dated a few guys since then but nothing has panned out. I’ve even had my mother try to arrange a marriage for me, but there was no spark and I couldn’t do it. When I do find a man I’m interested in long-term he doesn’t seem serious about dating. Sometimes I worry that I am too picky so I’ll give guys a shot who I don’t think I have chemistry with, but it’ll turn out my gut instinct is right and they aren’t the guy for me. I’m worried that if I don’t find a good guy to settle down with soon that I am never going to have the chance to start the family I want. What’s your advice?

Thanks,
Single gal

~

Dear Single Gal,

Oh, honey. The first thing we need to address is that 27 is way too young to start practicing your spinster routine! In my eyes you are a baby adult, only just beginning to get serious about long-term plans and taking complete responsibility for yourself. It sounds to me you are quite the capable young woman (key word: YOUNG) with a kind and compassionate heart. Guyanese or not – supporting your mother and family is a noble task and I tip my trunk to you, lady.

As for the husband, I think your trouble finding one comes from the fact you’re looking for one in the first place. We often feel compelled to find a life partner by a certain time in our lives so when women hit 25 and are still single they go into rabid husband-hunting mode. The problem with that is when you are only looking for a husband you stop being present. You look at every man that comes into your life through a lens of “Can I marry this person? Would he be a good dad? Would he remember to take out the trash? How serious is he about settling down?” and you forget to look at them as a whole person. If they don’t fit the mold you have prematurely set for the rest of your life then you move on without really taking stock of who you’re dealing with as a person and you don’t ask the much more important questions – Is he kind? Does he respect me? Does he make me laugh? Is this someone I can be best friends with and love for the rest of my days?

You won’t find that person with a checklist of “husband” attributes. You find that person by paying attention, being present, and allowing yourself the chance to get to know someone without the pressure of your entire future bearing down on the situation. Even if you don’t say it on a first date, most people can feel the wedding hungry vibes radiating off of you and it’s a clear signal to them to run. It’s the same thing with “the spark” you’re looking for. Is that a real thing? While the movie “He’s Just Not Into You” is pretty problematic with its message to women – one of my favorite parts is when Alex (Justin Long) explains to Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) that “the spark” is made up.

(Warning: Some language, NSFW)

I don’t really think it’s a man-made conspiracy as an excuse not to call a girl, but it speaks to our obsession with fairy tale scenarios. If you’re expecting the perfect guy to walk in and say the perfect things then whisk you away to your dream life – you’re going to be waiting for a really long time. Life isn’t that clean and simple, relationships definitely aren’t. They are complicated and messy and never perfect, which is what makes them enriching and powerful.

So my advice, Single Gal, is to stop looking. Relieve the pressure. Open your eyes and be present. I have a feeling when you let up on yourself – and the guys you meet – it’ll be much easier to see the guy who probably isn’t perfect, but who is perfect for you.

Best wishes,
Cora

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Mallika Chopra: Keeping Up With The Kardashians

By Mallika Chopra

I am fascinated by my own fascination with the Kardashians.

I’m late to the party, I know. My fascination only started yesterday.

It fascinated me that Kim Kardashian getting a divorce after 72 days was headline news on CNN.

Then, I fascinated myself that after reading the headline, I clicked on the article, read it, and then went to TMZ.com to read more salacious details.  Today, I read more articles on her divorce – they are everywhere.

I have never watched Kim’s show – Keeping Up With The Kardashians.  I didn’t watch her wedding special.  I have never met Kim, although I know she has visited my dad, Deepak Chopra, and she re-tweets him every once in a while.  (I think she included the footage in her show.  Gotham has it in his upcoming documentary.)

I once was once on a flight with her, and thought she was gorgeous.  I was dressed in jogging pants, as was she, but her jogging suit get-up was much more chic.  I was in a middle seat towards the back.  She was in First Class.  My hair was in a pony tail, she had lots of make up on.   I realized why when we got to baggage claim and there was a swarm of photographers.

Until last week, when my brother pointed out Kris Humphries at the Mall while we were having lunch, I had never heard his name and had no idea who he was.  Gotham referred to him as the basketball player who married Kim Kardashian.  I didn’t bother to look twice.

Yet somehow, I chose to read about her divorce – and even just read her personal blog on why she made the difficult decision! – as if she is someone I know well and care deeply about her fate.

I even have to admit I clicked on “Kardashian Divorce Details” before “Safe Water & a Toilet – Is That Too Much To Ask?” on Huffington Post, even though the latter article was written by Matt Damon.

Why, or why, do I find this woman’s love plight more interesting than the suffering and triumphs of so many others?

Many people talk to me about how we need to package content around wellbeing or causes to be more inspiring.  How we can move people by telling a story of triumph from Haiti that will move people to care and take action.

I really want to believe that media can be used for good.   I really do.  That’s what Intent is trying to do.  But, I have a feeling this post will probably get more reads and comments than many of my others!

Please do share your thoughts. Should I feel guilty and shallow about this fascination?!

The Pre-Wedding Ritual That Needs To Go Away: Engagement Photos

Do engagement photos need to go away? You know, the very glossy-looking pre-wedding photos that usually involve the newly engaged couple doing quirky and romantic things like staring lovingly into each other’s eyes or smooching in front of some bridge, tree or other local landmark? 

This blogger on The Gloss thinks so. Her breakdown for the generic engagement photo formula is pretty dead-on and hilarious: 

Engagement photos, in case you haven’t heard of them, are a photoshoot taken shortly after a couple gets engaged. They are usually designed to show off a) the ring and b) how happy the couple is. Here’s the usual formula for how they work: 

1. Get engaged. Yay!

2. For reason I have never been able to suss out, pay a bunch of money to get a ton of pictures of you taken.

3. Pose in front of several “nature” scenes, such as “the covered bridge,” “the man-made lake,” “the trellis with flowers all over it,” and/or “the very nicely polished boulders.”

4. Choose an assortment of these poses: “looking lovingly into each other’s eyes,” “holding hands with fingers criscrossed so you can be in love and show off her rock,” and “he hugs her from behind and rests his head on her shoulder.” Bonus points if you already have a pet or child together who you can bring in to use as an accessory.

5. Some people go full throttle and do pictures of them kissing, which no one (including your grandmother, who loves every picture of you ever taken because you’re her special sweet punkin) wants to see.

Continue reading on The Gloss

Not surprisingly at all, a blog dedicated to awkward engagement photos has already reared its unflattering head for all of us to cringingly enjoy. It makes for a great cautionary tale for engaged-to-be’s.

So engagement photos: an unnecessary and expensive ritual that needs to go away? Is it just another money-sucker wedding fetish that brainwashes young men and women into thinking that they absolutely have to do? Is it totally okay if wedding couples just start skipping the whole engagement photo process because you know, there’s going to be tons of pictures of the bride and the groom looking really happy together at the main event anyway? 

I personally wouldn’t mind seeing a photo slideshow of unprofessional pictures taken on digital cameras by friends and family of the couple from different events and happenings. It just feels like a more genuine portrayal of a happy couple than a very forced embrace of two well-dressed people that so happens to occur in the middle of a very panoramic field of flowers during the magical pre-twilight hour of the day. Just sayin’.

Come to think of it, there are probably many overpriced rituals in the whole wedding process that can probably be downgraded to a more DIY and less expensive version or taken out completely all together. Are flower arrangements and napkins with specific color palettes really that necessary? Seriously, can brides not force their female friends to pay money for an expensive bridesmaid dress that isn’t flattering for them? And the whole obsession with The Perfect Expensive White Dress To Be Worn For One Day Only–a little ridiculous, yes? 

But then, engagement photos do make for some priceless memories. Especially if they look something like this: 

 

 

 

 

Marriage, Schmarriage: What’s The Point In Getting Married?

What’s the point in getting married?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years, and several of our girlfriends feel it is their duty to bug us about our future wedding date. Neither of us are very thrilled by this. We’re not in any rush to move in together, and we are certainly not in any rush to legally tie the knot.

Maybe it will happen one day, but then maybe not. As my boyfriend had wondered outloud on more than one occasion: how would a legal court document make our relationship any stronger? 

Don’t get me wrong: I do believe that for many couples, getting married carries a symbolic spiritual weight that is extremely important, and that shouldn’t be denied. Still, I am in full support of another alternative for partners: the idea that it is possible for long-term couples to be happily committed to each other for life–and it’s totally cool that they’re not married, and may never get married.

(Let’s not also forget that getting married is still not an option to gay couples, and that’s complete bullshit.) 

More and more long-term couples are making a conscious decision to not get married. One of the more famous examples that come to mind is actor Johnny Depp, who has two children with his long-term partner Vanessa Paradis, but is still not married after nearly 12 years of being committed to each other.

Interestingly enough, a recent article on CNN reveals testimonies from 15 women of varying ages who are in long-term relationships and are not in any rush to tie the knot with their respective partners. Some have already been divorced and are wary about rushing into another marriage. Others are afraid that getting officially wedded will make the relationship stagnant. Still, others, like this woman from Seattle, simply do not see the point: 

"I just don’t see the point in paying money and having a wedding to prove how much we love each other. We have been together for seven years and have three amazing children together. We have four cats, a dog, an aquarium, a nice little house, are financially stable, and most of all we are incredibly happy with things just the way they are."

Another woman shares an interesting example of how calling off the engagement with her long-term boyfriend actually made their relationship even stronger: 

"This is a question I am asked often, specifically by my female friends and family members. To be perfectly honest, I do not have an exact answer. I just have a bad feeling that marriage isn’t something Keith and I should do. I can’t really explain it, but the feeling is there, and it gets stronger and stronger every time someone asks me why I do not want to get married. In the end, I will continue to go with my gut and just stay the way we are now."

So what are the advantages of not getting married to your long-term romantic partner? Here are some reasons: 

1. You don’t have to deal with the financial stress and burden of planning a wedding. No trying to appease both families. No guest list drama. Plus, think of all the money saved from not having to deal with: the dress, the rings, the venue-planning, the invitations, and so on.

2. There is no societal pressure to stick it out if a relationship has become unhealthy, stagnant, and is probably better off ending. In a marriage, you are expected to be with your partner forever "’Til Death Do Us Apart." Geez, no pressure there. On the other hand, simply being in a long-term relationship without the marriage works for many people because they don’t have to deal with that psychological back-lash of being obligated to stick with the same person for the rest of their lives.

3. You will never have to deal with divorce, ever. Just imagine your ugliest, most painful break-up, but with the extra time-consuming, expensive and tedious work of dealing with legal stuff with your ex.

4. No last-name drama. Enough said.

While marriage is an important institution for many people, I would also like to see the option of not getting married become more socially acceptable for couples. Maybe there will be less unhappy marriages. Maybe there will be a loosening of the stereotypical husband and wife roles that box in so many people once they get married. Maybe there will be more constructive dialogue, a more fluid definition of what long-term love can look like.

Plus, in the grand scheme of things, love is love whether you have a legal court document or not.

Weddings, New Wealth and Accountability

By the end of this weekend, I will have conducted 5 weddings in the past month, each of them quite different and distinctive.  From Menorca, to London to France and the final one all in French, they have been a great joy for me to officiate. Each couple has shown emotional maturity, the solid foundation for a happy, healthy and wealthy marriage.

So what is emotional maturity?  It is to know and love yourself well enough to recognize your emotional strengths and weaknesses, such that you own and are accountable for them. You are not dependent upon another person outside of you for your happiness and well-being,. You can stand up in the loving you have for yourself and another person, such that you can give from overflow, not from need. Nor do you take responsibility for someone else’s happiness, although you can contribute towards it.  In relationship with those closest to you, you have the courage and confidence to communicate what is true for you with loving and respect for the other person.

It is no small thing to commit to love one other person for a lifetime. At the outset it is wise to recognize each other’s vulnerabilities and weakness such that when life throws up its challenges, you are prepared to meet them as accountable people.  That is to say: not throwing blame and shame, nor dwelling in guilt and resentment, all of which are draining and will make a difficult situation worse.

When a couple exchanges vows, they not only declare their love, but they also allow for the times when their love will be stretched; when they may need to be flexible, forgiving and tolerant; times when they can grow and be enriched by their greater loving.

Loving enriched with humour, patience, understanding, forgiveness and appreciation can turn a time of potential crisis into one of new wealth:  the wealth of experience and learning. As each one of the partnership owns their feelings and accepts their emotions, they stand forward taking their strength and awareness into the partnership.

Wealth is on the increase. I do not mean simply in financial and economic terms. I do mean in human terms. More than ever before, there are paths of understanding available to us about enjoying a truly wealthy life, even without the symbols of wealth we thought we needed to have in order to experience it.

What do I mean by that?  Advertising sells its products by offering a glimpse of the experience we can enjoy by having them.  What if you do not have to have anything (apart from life’s basic essentials) to enjoy a wealthy life? What if you can choose to experience the wealth of the present moment and all of the riches it has to offer you?

How can you do that?

You can take time, even in a busy day, to enjoy and appreciate the moment and what it has for you.  The family and friends that love you;  the joy of hot and cold running water;  your health, sense of humour, your ability to get around; the books you love to read or the music you love to hear, to name but a few.

What if you can become accountable for your difficult feelings, and more than that, even enjoy them? Those feelings when observed, accepted and embraced will enrich your experience of living. You can be peaceful and at one with them. You do not have to avoid them with distractions such as watching tv, shopping, over-eating, spending endless hours on the internet.

My recent experience has been to be with feelings of sadness and loss, while I keep going with my daily chores.  Amazingly, although I have done nothing about the feelings, they have changed. What is more, I have grown more energized, felt liberated and optimistic once again.  This is not rocket science. No retail therapy or anti-depressants; just being, breathing and observing, while getting on with life.

In a healthy and happy marriage, each partner can be accountable for how they feel (no blaming, shaming, guilt or resentment) and communicate openly such that the doors of greater understanding are opened and new vitality is released.

New vitality, yes and new wealth. When two or more are gathered together in the name of love, fresh inspiration, courage, innovation and resource is liberated – for creating a happiness, success and peace of mind.

The cost for new wealth is not a financial one.  It is one of accountability and the willingness to be true to who you are, giving the best of yourself whenever possible, and forgiving yourself with kindness and compassion when you are less than your best. This is nowhere better demonstrated than in a healthy and happy marriage.

Popping The Big Question On Camera: 6 Wedding Proposals On YouTube To Melt Your Heart

According to an informal study by one psychologist named David Rose, about 90 percent of women who are proposed to immediately feel the need to cover their mouth with their hands. Here is what the NPR article has to say on this common phenomenon of women covering their mouth with their hands after the big question is popped:

Now you not might think that’s such a profound observation. But the more YouTube proposals Rose watched, the more intrigued he became. Rose calls the reaction "shielding."

"Everyone knows the face is an emotional radiator – it’s a communication system that tells others what you’re thinking," he says.

At this moment of peak emotion, Rose thinks the emotions are just too intense, too naked to reveal completely.

"It’s as though the woman is thinking, ‘Oh, my god, this is going deep into my soul, what am I showing here?’" he says. "When I see the very few who don’t do it, I wonder, what does this mean? Are they unusually non-emotional? Does it mean they don’t care about this guy? I don’t know."

The article also included one marriage proposal captured on YouTube following one couple’s traveling adventure in Spain. The big question isn’t popped until after the 4 minute mark–and even if the man in question takes one of the woman’s hands away from her mouth, her other hand instinctively goes up to cover her face.

 

(I will admit that I was only half-watching the video up to the climactic moment–and when the Big Moment finally came, I IMMEDIATELY teared up.) 

Thanks to YouTube, living vicariously through another couple’s moment of extreme joy is now no longer limited to sappy movies and TV dramas. You can peek into the lives of real, non-fictional people whose climactic moment of engagement happened to get captured on someone’s video recorder or flip cam.

With so much bad news in the world, sometimes we just need to take a moment to feel joy for two complete strangers madly in love with each other who are ready to begin their new life journey together. Here are a handful of YouTube marriage proposal videos that will melt away your inner cynic and reveal what an inner romantic softie we all really are.

 

 Damn, talk about commitment to some elaborate pre-planning! One artist  faked an elaborate art opening with a fake artist and a fake artist statement where a sculptural installation in a gallery spelled out the words "Will you marry me" to his very unsuspecting girlfriend. 

 

A short and sweet video capturing a marriage proposal on the skating rink. Unbelievably touching.

 

Live proposal on the weather channel! Best part: the weather screen behind the couple turns into a big fat heart.

 

The Best Marriage Proposal Ever

This video unfortunately does not allow embedding. But it is worth checking out, if not to marvel over all the woodwork this guy goes through just to stage an elaborate contraption in the middle of the woods.

 

How can you possibly turn down a guy who performs an elaborate choreographed dance with his friends in public just to propose to you?

 

Okay, so not everyone out there is a die-hard romantic–and maybe you are currently extremely bitter about relationships. If happy sappy love is only going to make you feel like crap, then maybe this marriage proposal FAIL during a basketball game will make you laugh just a little bit…

 Poor girl covers her mouth with her hands, but for entirely different reasons.

Divorce Ceremonies On The Rise In Japan: In Addition to Wedding Ceremonies, Do We Need Divorce Ceremonies, Too?

It only takes a court paper to officialize a marriage, but for most people, that is not enough. Many newlyweds feel the desire to ceremonially establish the beginning of a new relationship through a wedding, where family and friends are invited to witness the beginning of their lifelong commitment to each other.

Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. What if we had divorce ceremonies for divorcing couples? 

Check out a recent Reuters article detailing the rising popularity of divorce ceremonies for couples in Japan who are calling it quits.

Started a year ago by former salesman Hiroki Terai, divorcing couples can pay about $600 to hold an elaborate ceremony in a "divorce mansion" located in Tokyo, where the separating husband and wife can smash their respective wedding rings with a gavel in front of family and friends. Testimonials from participants reveal the catharsis that comes from this ceremonial separation: 

"When we smashed the ring together, I felt like "oh, this is the end of it, really" and my heart and soul felt renewed. Now I feel I can have a new life and start all over again," said Mr. Fujii.

His wife of eight years also expressed her relief.

"The moment I saw the smashed ring, I said to myself, "Yes! That feels so good,"" Mrs. Fujii said.

According to the article, Terai plans on marketing the divorce ceremony in South Korea next month. It may be a matter of time before the rest of Asia catches onto the divorce ceremony trend.

Is it possible for America to catch onto the divorce ceremony trend? Is there an untapped market potential for divorce ceremonial dresses, magazines, caterers and planners just waiting to explode? 

It wouldn’t be surprising, actually.

I am at the age when many of my post-college friends are just starting to get engaged or married, and I would hate to see any of them already call it splits. Still, it is fun to imagine what a divorce ceremony would look like if it suddenly became a fixture of American culture. Here are some possible scenarios: 

– What would a divorcing bride wear? It should be something that is the opposite of an expensive, all-white bridal dress you only wear once. Perhaps a sassy, sexy nightlife outfit celebrating the beginning of your single life? 

– What would a divorce gift registry look like? Botox shots? Free counseling sessions? Membership to a gym? Chipping money for a down payment to a swank new bachelor pad? 

– Ceremony first, bachelor / bachelorette party afterwards. After you smash your wedding ring to pieces, your best man or maid-of-honor is responsible for planning an epic post-ceremony celebration in Vegas with all of your sympathetic dude friends or gal pals.

– And for some good karma… guests of the divorcing ceremony should be encouraged to donate their money to organizations advocating gay marriages. Gay people should be allowed to marry and divorce, too.

 

The World’s First Nonprofit Wedding Wish Granting Organization

 

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As the World’s first nonprofit wedding wish granting organization, Wish Upon a Wedding provides weddings at destinations across the United States for individuals facing life-threatening illness.  It is a chance for couples to enjoy a very special day, without any thoughts of existing health issues, while surrounded by their closest family and friends.

 

 

Best Of The Week: Wedding Tips For Wedding Season

As far as life milestones go, few things are as epic as a wedding. Why else would a girl spend lots of money on a fancy white dress that is seriously only worn once? 

Are wedding invitations piling up in your mail box from long-lost friends? Or are you a soon-to-be blushing bride freaking out over gift registries and table centerpieces? In celebration of the beautiful weather that is wedding season, our Intent Voices weigh in with their best wedding tips.

A Friend’s Wedding: How To Get Fit Quick! By Alicia Amie

No hush-hush or tap-dancing around the subject.   Point blank it is most typically a big deal!  A wedding is an event, much like a Gala or even New Years Eve, and you always want to look great!

Private Time: Now and Forever By Diana Daffner

Recalling my wedding, 25 years ago this July, I am grateful for a very special bit of advice that I received and followed through on. I am delighted to have this opportunity to pass it on to others.

They Don’t Call It Holy Matrimony For Nothing: 6 Ideas To Celebrate The Significance Of Your Newfound Union By Philip Goldberg

A wedding is not just an excuse to have a party or something you do to placate your families. Whatever your spiritual or religious orientation, approach the moment with reverence.

How To Win Over Your Future Mother-In-Law By Debbie Mandel

However, in reality you can dramatically improve the situation simply by changing the premise underlying the relationship – two women in love with the same man.

Truly, The Best Post-Wedding Advice By Debbie Mandel

Marriage is not about forever after. It is day to day. To reap the benefits of an intimate relationship, there needs to be a safe haven in your home where truth can be expressed without reprisal.

Wedding Bliss: Tips For Sowing Harmony When Opposing Forces Unite By Debra Moffitt-Leslie

While the bride and groom will have plenty to attend to on wedding day and during the events leading up to it, families and participants conscious of creating a sacred space for the coming union will make special efforts to keep a helpful frame of mind and consider the couple’s happiness above all.

When "I Do" Means "I Want" – The New Rules Of Registry By DivineCaroline

We don’t really need a gravy boat and salad spinner, and nowadays there are more options than ever for wedding registries, so couples can ask for the things they really want. But gift-giving is a touchy subject, and these new registries come with plenty of new rules. 

8 Questions To Help You Choose Your Wedding Vows By Anne Naylor

Vows are part declaration of love, but also the understanding of how you will share support with each other when life throws you its difficulties. It is the challenging times that invite the awakening to more of your love, a deepening of your commitment to each other.

5 Alternative Ideas For Your Next Engagement and Wedding By Yumi Sakugawa

Not too crazy about having a super-expensive chunk of carbon on your wedding finger? Get a simple titanium ring or go eco-friendly with a ring made of wood.

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