The key point in this message is that even complete strangers can offer us opportunities to look more closely at the shadow sides of ourselves that we want to keep hidden. A Course in Miracles teaches, “The hidden can terrify not for what it is, but for its hiddenness.” The issue isn’t what we’re hiding, it’s that we’re unwilling to expose it to the light and deal with it. The miracle moments when we become the witness of our ego’s shadow are the moments when we can surrender. Let people be a mirror that reflects back to you and shows you what you need to address in yourself.
Our most negative encounters can sometimes offer us great spiritual guidance. For instance, I once had a blow-out fight with a woman at a car rental counter. She felt the need to flaunt her power and go out of her way to make things difficult for me. My reac
tion was no better than her outburst. I felt the need to respond with my own power play by threatening to call her manager and make a complaint. And I did just that.
Hours after stating my claim to her corporate office and regional manager, I felt no better. I thought that complaining about how poorly I was treated would help me get over the experience. Instead, it made me feel worse. I sat with this and explored what the lesson was for me. In stillness, I heard my inner voice recite one of Yogi Bhajan’s five sutras for the Aquarian age: “Recognize the other person is you.” I was floored by my inner guide—the message was so clear and resonant.
I went on to explore what it was about this angry customer service rep that reflected me. I came to realize that her behavior was merely mirroring a disowned part of my own shadow. In silent contemplation I was able to accept that deep down there was a part of me that wanted to control the situation and the outcome. This was the same quality the customer-service representative had. Her deep-rooted need to be in control came head-to-head with my need to be in control.
The Power of Compassion
The moment I realized that her pain and suffering was mine as well was the instant that compassion set in. I felt a deep sense of love and connection to this woman who I was fighting with just hours before. I felt compassion for her sadness, her powerlessness, and her need to be in control. I then turned the compassion toward myself. I honored the dark places within me that still felt the same need to control, exercise power, and release unfelt pain.
Another of Yogi Bhajan’s five sutras for the Aquarian age is, “Understand through compassion or you will misunderstand the times.” This sutra echoed through my mind as I healed my false perception of the woman at the car rental kiosk. In the midst of compassion, I was able to reconnect with what is real, what connects us and why we’re here: to love and be loved. When we choose to dissolve all boundaries with love, then we truly begin living.
The next time someone riles you up, witness your reaction, and remember that the qualities you don’t like in them are a disowned part of your shadow. Be still and allow your inner guide to teach you what you need to release. Be willing to recognize that the other person is you, understand through compassion, and allow people to be your greatest teachers.
Oneness, compassion, and love are what we need to connect and serve the world. We’re living in a time when separation and attack have destroyed cultures and communities, and ended countless lives. No matter where you are in the world, you’re feeling the effect of separation. We all have a role to play in healing the energy of the world so that we can balance out the negativity that has taken over. It’s our responsibility to heal our false perceptions of others and lead from a place of compassion and grace.
If you feel called to shift your own energy and raise the consciousness of the planet, I welcome you to join Deepak Chopra and me on July 10, 2015 for the second annual Global Meditation. This live event will gather hundreds of thousands of people from all around the world to share in one intention: compassion. It’s our time as love-minded individuals to commit more fully to strengthening interconnectedness, community, and love.
Join the Global Meditation for Compassion
Mark your calendar for July 11, 2015 12pm E.S.T.– The Chopra Center’s Second Annual Global Meditation will broadcast around the globe. Tune in from anywhere in the world to participate in the largest meditation gathering in history. Hundreds of thousands of people from nearly every country in the world will join together in meditation to spread compassion. Will you join us?