This post is for those who feel they are behind their peers academically, socially, socioeconomically, or so on. I’ve got good news for you. This feeling of being behind means you still have a driving force to catch up to where you feel you should be. You are the main person who feels you are behind. Other people are not as focused on your relative position as they are on their own efforts.
See The Positive In Your Discontent
Understand that there are others that quit when in a similar position to where you are right now, and others that quit before they even got to where you are. This is not to take away from them, but to point out to you that it is a good idea to avoid thinking you are in a terrible position. At the same time, your discontent means that you see the light on the other side, and still have a mindset of improvement or achievement. This is something to be thankful for.
You Catch Up Very Soon
In categories or aspects where you feel behind, you will catch up sooner than you can imagine. I’ve never seen anyone who honestly felt behind remain that way for that long. Our mind uses that energy to propel us to catch up by keeping us on task, or making unfocused activities seem dull in comparison to the important goal you have in mind. When you feel behind, you cut off celebrations or fun meetings until you catch up, because it is tough to enjoy in the presence of others when you know you will go back to your state of discontent and they will go back to being up to par. These changes tend to happen naturally and quickly, and they are defensive responses that do provide some benefits in catching up. On the other hand, it is vital to not get too distanced from others, as that can affect your attitude or focus.
Your Attitude Won’t Let You Give Up
Speaking about completing one specific goal, what is the difference between a person who gives up on the goal and a rock at the beach? Both didn’t get to completion, although the rock didn’t have any intent, and is also an inanimate object. If you feel that you are behind, you are indirectly saying that you are willing to do what it takes to catch up to where you feel you should be. When faced with a feeling of disappointment or lack of achievement, you either A) give up or B) feel pressure for the work you need to put in, so feeling that pressure means you didn’t choose to give up. It means you have assembled your mental resources to tackle the goal.
Focus Only On Where You Feel You Should Be
Although your peers can have an effect on if you feel behind, the majority of your efforts should be to catch up to your own ideal or position of desire. Getting yourself caught up trying to match up to some one’s vision of where you should be would be like reading a book with no ending, since their vision could change at any time, and you wouldn’t be in control of it. When you’re sleeping, you’re the only one dreaming, and when you perform hundreds of activities and thinking thousands of thoughts during the day, they consist of YOU doing them, and not another person who is either trying to control your efforts, or who you unwittingly allow to control your efforts. You are the only person who has traveled through all your past experiences, and are the only person who will travel through all your future experiences.
When you look back from the future, you will view this current time and appreciate your successful mindset and positive energy for working with what you had.
- Original article at Timeless Information
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