Walking Out of a Relationship

By on September 26, 2009 in Happiness, Relationships

Question:

I wish to walk out of an intensely emotional relationship because I feel it is a bondage and restriction on my soul. But I feel deeply concerned about the happiness of the other person who loves me very much. How can I achieve both? How can I make him to accept this truth? Can I ask the universe to grant him every happiness and me my freedom? I really need both very badly.

Answer:
 
No one has the ability to make anyone else accept their version of the truth. Nor can you ensure your boyfriend’s  happiness either by staying  in relationship with him or walking out.  Everyone’s happiness and truth is a product of their own beliefs and choices. Everyone has the right and freedom to determine their own life. And that is the way it should be. There is no harm in asking  the universe to grant him every happiness and for you freedom, but the fact of the matter is he already has the opportunity to be happy whether you stay together or not, and you have the ability to be free, whether you walk out of the relationship or not.
What all of this boils down to is that this is not about controlling how your boyfriend feels. You can’t control that. This is about you. Your feelings of restriction arise from within you, not the relationship. The relationship only mirrors back to you your own feelings of bondage. Walking away from  the mirror doesn’t change anything inside of you.
 
If you feel you are ready to look at these issues inside you, then you can use this relationship as a golden opportunity for serious personal growth.
 
Love,
Deepak
 

 

 

 


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5 Responses to Walking Out of a Relationship

  1. HK September 25, 2009 at 8:04 pm #

    Love this answer. Your world is a mirror – it is simply a reflection of you. Change your energy vibration and the outside circumstances will automatically change, and the correct action (whether to stay or go) will become apparent.

    Dr. Kulkarni is a physician and has been an avid meditator for more than 10 years. She authors a website, http://www.leveragingthought.com , which focuses on metaphysics and quantum health.

  2. LisaMC September 26, 2009 at 12:01 pm #

    Thank you for this answer. Its really actually helping me through a relationship I am in as well. Its interesting to note that so many people move from one relationship to another looking for the happiness that can only be found inside them….that being said, if you find yourself in a relationship where you are unhappy all the time, its probably better to move on. Balance, negativity, positivity and healthy energy should all be considered….

  3. yogagirl0918 September 26, 2009 at 4:45 pm #

    Love this answer. Dr. Chopra u are so great… no wonder I have all your books!!!

  4. ardverk September 27, 2009 at 12:41 am #

    Of course, we need to answer the other partner's question at same time.

    Why is he not here?

    Two mirrors facing each other…….hmmm, quicksilver!

    No disrespect dear ones and thank you, Deepak…….one has to meet persons wherever they hang out

    ed

  5. positiveprincess July 19, 2011 at 12:49 pm #

    L.O.V.E.!!!!