Father
Pateras
El Padre
Pappa
Pere
- A man who raises or nurtures a child
- To acknowledge responsibility for
- To procreate (offspring) as the male parent
Happy Fathers Day to all the wonderful men who joyfully parent their children, others children and or complete strangers. We appreciate you and this most important role you play in our lives. Some of you are of our own blood, some of you are not, but you are still our fathers. You are needed in our life on so many levels. Essential to the balance of Ying Yang, our song of life.
I have been blessed with a wonderful step father. He is one of my best friends. He remarkably loved me from day one and never tried to play the “father” role. Ended up being the best Dad I could have ever charted in this life time. Never has he yelled, abused, cussed at me or breathed any negative energy in my direction through the 27 years of our relationship. Not even when I put coals in his gas grill, or almost totaled out my first car the day after my parents got it for me, colored my hair purple, or cut up his suits to make dancing outfits in high school. His stillness and kindness runs deep, his patience is strong, with loving eyes he calls my name when I am in need and offers his hand out to me. Now my son receives love and male role model ship from this beautiful man, he calls him Grand Daddy. My gentle giant, I call him my Poppy.
It is said that there are more children being raised by just women today in America then anywhere on the planet. There are men who stay with their families, raising or healthy co-raising their children. It is good we celebrate these men. Send blessings to them this time of year, remembering to respect and appreciate them. The generosity of the healthy male role model who takes his neighbors child to play ball or spends time on a craft project fills a void so large and is appreciated just as much.
Happy Fathers Day Friends and Paul Garrett, my Poppy, Grand Daddy.
With Love,
With Love,
Renay Matthews
Mystery Eyes…I thank you first of all for your courage and strength and very great character as a strong woman for raising Connor and welcome you into my Father's Day Club…
I was never fortunate to have a Dad myself as my Mom raised me and my sister all alone and was even fed to the wolves many times…But it made us very strong…As time rolled on I use to resent my Father and even God for what cards we had been dealt with…It was a uphill battle but we accepted it…As I went along in life, I got married and my wife quit a very good job for NY state and we had 3 paychecks coming in and every material thing you could imagine.
I was ready to give up on her but knew I made a commitment to continue with supporting it myself.
Then as luck had it she wanted a child..I was so happy and we did..Now life was no bowl of caviar as Now we still were making ends meet but i knew if I bugged out on her and my daughter I would never be able to face myself ever again..so the training I had from my earlier years was coming crystal clear….I did have a miserable complex and self pity ruled me as it was doing and they say misery loves company and it goes with the LOA when that happens.
I almost left as it was getting worst to bear living what I cannot have..Cannot have? what the F#%* are you talking about…well I turned it around and got back on solid ground again as I changed my attitude(+)..and it was me that was suffering and no one else…I weathered the storm and got all the benefits of unconditional loveas I know Now the truth behind it..you get more love and wisdom and manage your being alot better….
I really cannot say anything bad about men that do that for that would mean I am a judge and judge goes with ego as to how your universe is to be seen..All I can say is that most men that do not support their families have alot of suffering in their life and more will come as they run away further from their Truth which is their Spirit..some go all the way to the end and you see them lying there helpless like my father was..He died of AdemaCarcinoma and I felt bad for him but still held him in my arms as he was dying…Later found out he was my greatest hidden teacher as explained on Oprah in 2007 by Dr.Wayne Dyer….Life as a parent could be rough and it is terrible that men leave to pursue egoic patterns but they suffer worst later on as the mother becomes stronger and live a more fulfilling life later on if not Now…I pray that some day the suffering will end as everyone plays the "Wheel" and winds up on the bottom of it instead of the center of it(hub) where the Spirit..I am glad i toughed it out and Now it is unconditional forever as it is my Zen Principle and Dzogchen also..
I would never trade this great life for nothing as I kicked the Wheel off my cart forever..
I keep thinking positive thoughts for you and the rest of the women that have kids that they are raising themselves..My dental Hygenist that I was talking to today is a mother without a husband who has a daughter and I explained some info today that made her feel better about her life….She told me today that she never met a person like me ever but she listened..thsi was the first time I met her and glad I did
I do not have a magic wand but I do remember something my father told me before I went to basic training in 1972(Viet Nam police action)..even though he was never around he wanted to see his son go off to war with dignity..he said, "Thye can kill you but can never eat you?"
Meaning that your outer shell will be knocked around and jociled with but your Soul is eternal and they can never touch that …
I thank you for your post as to welcome you in my Father's Day Club and say Happy Father's Day to you as well Mystery Eyes….I thank my Dad for training me my life that I learned on my own and was able to forgive and let go…Only the best for you my Sweet Organic Sis(+)
Dom 777
Renay*Poppy*flowerGirl***what a beautiful tribute to a wonderful man…! what you say is so true Renay … and SoulZenBro…you too! As a quick aside, my father raised us nearly single handedly as my mother died v young. Life is truly what you make it … self pity and negativity are useless save to wake us up to gratitude for simple blessings. Anything is possible and gratitude for the blessings in life enrich beyond compare. I am so grateful for difficulties in retrospect when I see their radiance reflecting in my mirror while standing in the Now of my life with peace…and you all! *aloha* and !happy father`s day all! *cheers! ~*~ beachgirl ~*~
Dom, your words have brought tears in my space. They are tears of love. Your story is so close to mine and I am sure others in many ways. Your understanding is beyond words and I feel your heart. I understand the teachings I am living and I vow to do the best job possible. It is men like you and my "Poppy" who make up for what could be such loss in life.
I am proud to be included in your Fathers Day Club my dear brother.
With Love,
Me
XO
Yes my beachgirl dear friend, men are often playing two roles. My Poppy was also a single Dady before marrying my Mum. Men are so strong and capable I am glad we have this day to honor them who spread their wings and carry us along our young lives. I hear you, living in the Now brings peace to all.
With love dear friend,
Renay
XO
Renay and Dominic! You are great. Nothing to say more. My throat is choked.
Thank you Rouzanna, in love I find you!
X
Renay
dearest renay,
You are fabulous (any one will dote after a daughter like you).
Wish you love, peace and happiness.
Trisha
Thank you dear Trisha.
Have a super Sunday.
XO