This week on Intent, we want to hear your best advice and action tips on feeling sexy. Yes, you read us right! We seriously want to know what we can all do–personally, emotionally, spiritually–to feel like the sexy beautiful people we really are. 
Do we need to repeat more positive affirmations when we brush our teeth and look in the mirror? Is it a matter of giving ourselves a series of mini make-overs that won’t break our wallets? Should we vow to use only eco-conscious, green beauty products? Or the cheapest beauty solution of all: to just smile and laugh more? Whatever advice you have, we want to hear them all.
Why is it important to feel sexy? For starters, we should all take pride in the unique bodies and facial features that we have been given to take care of for the rest of our lives. That, and feeling sexy is so much more empowering, productive and fun than feeling unattractive. After all, what’s going to bring more positivity to yourself, your loved ones and the people you interact with: complete confidence in your sense of attractiveness, or constant neurotic hang-ups over your own perceived physical deficiencies?
Take note that we want to hear advice on feeling sexy, which is not strictly limited to looking sexy.
To give you some inspiration, here is a quick potpourri of ideas on feeling sexy:
* Treat yourself to a full body massage on a regular basis. Having relaxed back muscles will make it easier for you to smile, be kind to others and feel beautiful.
* Aim to think and act more like your role models of sexiness. Do you have a friend, hero, family member, mentor, celebrity, sports athlete, community leader who manifests the kind of sexiness you want to feel for yourself? My personal role models of sexiness have a combination of: confidence, compassion, wicked humor, brilliant creativity, and fearless non-conformity.
* Never underestimate the power of a minor beauty indulgence, whether it is: a weekend pedicure, a new haircut, or buying yourself a second-hand pair of gorgeous antique earrings.
* Also never underestimate the sexiness that comes from regular exercise and a healthy diet. It’s harder to feel sexy when your unfit body is struggling to digest an entire box of glazed donuts.
* Be a more giving and loving person. Pray more, smile more, volunteer more, help others more. There is no sexiness like spiritual abundance.
Join Intent’s mission this week to inspire others with ideas on how to fell sexy. Tag your blog posts "feeling sexy" and we will be featuring the best weekly content at the end of the week. If you simply want to share a quick idea or response in the comments below, we want to hear that as well. We can’t wait to read your contributions!
For me, the most important element in feeling sexy is being completely and fully in loving with myself, and having great fun wth that. It is never about anybody else– when I am being the most fulfilled, “full of myself,” happy version of ME, I exude healthy sexuality (or so I have been told)– but/and it is more just an Energy about me, a Presence, a way of Being– and not something I am doing towards another person. And this state has no agenda. It is just me being de-Light-fully ME!
Absoluteness,
We are sex, call your left hand female and your right hand male… now really touch and caress your left hand with your right or vice versa, Yin and Yang and all the rest of it.
Become sex within, it isn't anywhere else.
You must have had a really intense sexual dream at some point?… yet when you woke up you were alone, yeah thats because you are sex!
The entire body, mind and spirit is sex… you may think it needs "another" to really be sex but that is totally superficial. In fact if you seek sexual fulfillment in otherness as in a perfect partner or in some erotic fantasy then the piper will lead you a merry dance. Sexual fulfillment is inward, it begins with your own sexuality being total with god, with body, mind and spirit.
When two evolved people sleep together then there is one in that bed….
I could have sex with a woman right now and not even necessarily physically penetrate her and it would be like cosmic rhythmic energy. You can have sex by looking into someones eyes if you are evolved in those areas enough. Its like looking at the Rockies in Autumn and feeling awestruck to the point that you are paralyzed with bliss.
But you gotta be that way inside first before it works outwards, it just needs to be simply recognized its nothing unattainable.
Love xx
am your reflection as you are mine
S.E.X. = Synchronized Energy eXchange – now THAT's sexy!
Diana Daffner, CS, M.A.
Author, Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day
http://www.IntimacyRetreats.com
The best way to feel and be sexy is to have sex. For men over 30, their testicles only release testosterone during an erection. Since most men are pigs sexually and ejaculate in a few minutes they do not make a lot of testosterone. For that reason if you look at a medical text book it shows that a man’s testosterone level declines normally with every decade. This is normal for men who do not worship the Divine feminine.
A man who learns ejaculatory control and maintains an erection for an hour or more every day in tantric service to the goddess will not suffer that decline in testosterone level or sexual performance.
For women there is no better way to feel sexy and to feel beautiful than to orgasm every day. Orgasms are evolution’s pay back to women for the risk of dying in pregnancy and childbirth. The main human traits of menses and menopause are the defining characteristics of being human. They both serve to separate sex from making babies.
During a continuous integrated orgasm that involves stimulation of the nipple, clitoris, goddess spot and cervix a woman has a spiritual experience that rivals the deepest spiritual master’s meditations. The Goddess or Schechinah comes to the woman to share the orgasm and bliss.
After finishing my first book Everywoman a Goddess: Everyman a Hero in Her Service, I have moved on to my next book Sexual Secrets of Tantric Kabbalah: Making Love. The introduction has been posted in my July newsletter at my website and the next two Chapters titled Trust and Schechinah’s Orgasm will be in the august newsletter.
love and light,
Stuart
http://stuartmarkberlin.com
resrchmd@aol.com
When you surrender your beliefs then you float to the surface
I am your reflection as you are mine
Sperm retention as the man says, in men is very very very very very very Important!
Thats stuff creates life and is Life! hang on to it, scientists are trying every day to create life and yet every day us guys flush the stuff down the toilet!
If I ejaculate it takes about four days before I begin to feel a glow again, It is a major energy Zap!
I am your reflection as you are mine
this topic is soooo timely. i'm still focusing on my intent to get my mojo back and then this comes along…brilliant! but i guess i don't have much to contribute since i seem to be lacking that sexy feeling right now.
some of what's been said has been helpful, although the whole homo factor keeps me from getting all i can out of discussions that center around hetero sex / gender roles only. maybe some other queers will speak up about being sexy in the margins…and the disabled peoples, and the phat folks…i wanna hear from them!
yumi (and intent team), you all are very awesome for making this the topic for the week. i'm not sure about anyone else, but i need to bring my sexy back…now. thanks for the help, i'm looking forward to more.
To begin to feel sexy is to be conscious of our bodies and to except our uniqueness. Some helpful tips to feeling sexy for the day or everyday:
Each morning when you wake, say to yourself
My way of feeling sexy is this: I have a "magic mirror" and when I get dressed every morning I "see" my sexy, voluptuous self no matter what! In my mind's eye I am sexy, I think positively about myself and my body, and I thank my body with love for the babies it has carried and birthed.
Pregnant or not, young or old, I always see myself the same regardless of weight. My charisma comes from within and my energy exudes sensuality.
Other ways: I take occasional foam baths with candles and incense (my darling hubby watches the kids).
I don't spend a fortune on cremes and cosmetics but I do buy quality sunblock and moisturiser because I feel I am worth it.
I like to stay active and I feel sexy when I look good.
Lastly, when I take care in my appearance and get lots of hugs and kisses from hubby, I feel sexy!
Oh my, lots of talk of SEX, when speaking to SEXINESS……hmmmmmmmm
YES, sex is sexy, however, TRUE "SEXINESS" is NOT an ACT, it is a state of BEingness.
FEELing Sexy, is BEing Sexy.
BEing Sexy does NOT mean ya hafta strip down to YOUr birthday suit and engage in sexual ACTivities, though I do NOT in ANY way put down so DOing :O)
BEing Sexy is a state of MIND, it is a FEELing of LOVE for one SELF, an admiration, respect and honour towards one's SELF and the AWEsomeness that is the "I" in "ME".
BEing Sexy DOes not come in any specific size, shape, colour, age or ACT, it comes from WITHIN.
From a very young age, I was allways called "sexy" and trust me when I say, I was NOT having sexual relations at 10 years of age.
Defining one as "sexy" is saying that this individual is "stimulating", "attractive", heightening our awareness within them, in a positive and exciting manner, which by the way, does NOT have to be SEXUAL.
Very young children can BE sexy – not BEcause one is sexually aroused, but BEcause they are pleasurably stimulated in mind, in emotion, in BEingness – as is the state of BEing sexy.
For ANY one seeking to FEEL Sexy, there is no amount of dressing up, strutting YOUr stuff or engaging within sexual ACTivities that will bring about this FEELing, if it is not something that YOU can conjure without all the bells and whistles.
The reason the sexy clothes, the confident stature and step, the physical exercise and healthy eating, the sexual activities assist in "bringing to the surface" the experience of BEing sexy is BEcause one is FEELing such regarding SELF allready- at some level within their BEingness.
This is where YOU need to focus YOUr attention – on LOVing SELF.
Then………..embodying this LOVE for SELF, 'loud and proud', BEcomes not something one has to run after, do special things to 'bring about' for it IS whom YOU ARE, ALLways :O)
Of course, we ALL LOVE to play and there is nothing more fun than when we get to play with one another – so go out there, and take YOUr SELF LOVing SELF out and strut YOUr SELF in YOUr sexy gear and massaged, manicured, made up, worked out, nutritional healthy bodies and spread YOUr wings for ALL to see the BEauty that is LOVing "ME" :O)
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I find myself giggling that, with the exception of Diana (who teaches Tantric Sex and so has a vested interest), all the women who commented on this article related to "feeling sexy" as a "state of Beingness" within themselves or with themselves in relationship to the world– whereas the men seemed to relate it more to the sexual act. I LOVE sex and have had tons of it, very satisfyingly– but what I adore most is my ability and capacity to experience myself as a sexual being whether or not a man is present "in the room." My sexuality, and my sense of being sexual, is MINE– and I have worked really hard to get to that. . . as have most women in our society. . . and as are women in many other cultures. I hear that same experience in most of these other women's sharings.
Good post by Roni Lipstein – ' BEing Sexy is a state of MIND, it is a FEELing of LOVE for one SELF, an admiration, respect and honour towards one's SELF and the AWEsomeness that is the "I" in "ME".
BEing Sexy DOes not come in any specific size, shape, colour, age or ACT, it comes from WITHIN.'
I am feeling real sorry for all those sex therapists and publishers of sex manuals and stuffs.
Lovely post Yumi!!
"PEACE"
http://www.psychicchristina.com
Oh! I have a story to share from a wonderful book–Aphrodite's Daughters. It's on page 12, and describes an ancient Indian Creation Myth.
I think this is such a wonderful reminder of the deeper beauty of sexiness, and a wonderfully empowering story around desire.
And because I can't help but put in a little plug, if you're single and looking for your Shiva or Shakti, you might find him or her at http://soulmates.gaia.com
Wonderful post Stuart.
Thank you.
Catherine
Have a perfect day!
Simon, that is absolutely beautiful and so very true. And just between the two of us, I used to wonder why I felt the way I did when I would just caress my left hand with my right. The first time it happened as a fluke I suppose and the sensation surprised me. Since then I started discovering my skin and muscles, all for my delight.
I truly love the sensuality of touch.
Thank you.
Have a perfect day!
Going to bed naked at night does it for me. It's the most sublime feeling. The sheets are smooth and soft and silky against my skin. I revel in that feeling as soon as I hit the sheets. Love it!
Eating a banana is a wondrous experience too or sucking a ripe, juicy mango. Images, images…
Have a perfect day!
I always admire myself in the mirror, tell myself how great I look before going out, even if it's just to the supermarket. And when I'm feeling grouchy, I pay extra attention to what I wear to go out because I refuse to dress the way I feel.
Scents are essential to my well-being. And just the way my home must have a pleasant smell at all times, my body must carry a scent that speaks. When I smell good, I feel good and look great. For instance, I love the way my vulva smells, clean and me or is that TMI. It makes me feel very sexy and so, I never wear underwear at home except during my period.
I find baths boring but I'll happily stay in the shower for 30 minutes or so every other day doing my feet, a body scrub, a body mask, my hair and face and a delicious pampering with my rose cream concoction afterwards.
By the time I leave the bathroom, I know without looking in the mirror that I'm looking fabulous because my skin is smooth and pampered, I smell divine and that makes me feel sexy. Then I take my divine myself off for a long walk along the lake. And I'm not some skinny minny either, I weigh 75 kilos.
Wearing pretty, matching underwear makes me feel sexy too because it's feminine. Only low cut strings though because I like to feel my clothes swishing against my backside. And it doesn't matter what I put on, I am already feeling very gooood.
When I'm working out at the gym or at home and sweating to the blasting music, man I feel so damn sexy, it is in-cre-di-ble! Then a sauna or a steam and massage to pamper my temple a bit more. By the time I leave 2 hours later, I am feeling on top of the world and that high lasts all day. I KNOW nobody is as gorgeous as me!
Here's something I do in the mornings to centre myself for the day. I call it a body affirmation. Do it before you get out of bed in the morning or after you empty your bladder.
Sit at the edge of the bed and start firmly massaging your body from the soles of your feet and continue upwards over calves, legs, thighs, hips, belly, butt, sides, arms, breasts, shoulders, upper back, neck, throat, face and the top of your head. Do this for 5 rounds at least.
While massaging, you could say "I am" or "My body is my temple" or "I love you" or "I bless my wonderful body today which performs all its functions magnificently well" or whatever words of appreciation you want to use. And for those body parts that you don't like, give them some extra, loving attention.
This was suggested to me by a well-known lady who channels. And I find that when I do it, it creates a palpable change somewhere in how I continue my day.
Here's a little anecdote about sexy: I was passing by an art gallery a while back and saw a large black and white photo of a very fat woman. She was seated and leaning over and you could only see her rolls of fat, her feet, part of her breasts and her back, and her stunningly beautiful, smiling face. You could see she was happy right then. She exuded sexiness. I stopped and stared then walked on. I couldn't get it out of my mind, so a few hours later I returned to the art gallery determined to buy it. Guess what? Somebody already had. The heck with stereotypes!
Catherine
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