Like yours, my mind immediately went to celebrities. I thought about all of the men and women in the media and pondered – are they sexy? Many are undoubtedly beautiful, stylish and trendy but in my eyes sexiness is different.
I regularly stopped, mouth gaping open at the sexy people I saw walking down the street in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic. These people and others in my real life are sexy because of a sparkle and the way they walked like they were listening to music – all the time! These are some other elements I came up with:
- Sexiness is a general body consciousness, an awareness and acceptance of yourself.
- Sexiness is about having confidence and knowing what you want and what you like.
- Sexiness is being playful in how you live and what you say; it is less about being serious, rigid and right and more about exploration, expanding, lightness and fun.
- Sexy people are great listeners; they have nothing to prove so they often are engaged, interested and captivated by other people and things.
- Sexy people smile and laugh a lot, drawing people in with their positive energy.
Sexiness has so little to do with sex, although if they have all of the above qualities, chances are… 
But sexiness is more about confidence! So…How to feel sexy and feel more confident?
- Know what you like and think!
- Love and accept your body!
- Do more of what you like and that which makes you happy!
- Lighten up, smile and laugh – a lot!
Enjoy & Embrace Your Life!
Kelly McIntyre M.Sc.
Life/Career Coach
Kelly@embraceyourlife.ca
Love these ideas!
Kelly,
Absolutely! Sexiness is much more than physicality. Confidence is the key. I can remember a former girlfreind who had some issues in this area, and how I showed her that her attitude and confidence was what I found particularly sexy, and related a few examples of celebrities who had the same qualities. She realized the truth in that, and she became much more confident…and even more sexy. To this day, even though we only have a platonic relationship now, she tells me that I was the reason she feels more confident and sexy. At the time, I wasn't sure if I had created a monster or not, but I know now that I have given her a great gift. She is so self-confident and yes, sexy, and she radiates confidence and happiness. I kinda feel good that I was able to help her over her delusions in this area.
Hi Robb,
Yes, it is about confidence.
Your story reminds me about how our words can impact another person. You are a good friend to celebrate and recognize your friend's strengths, she is obviously benefitting! Thanks for sharing.
Have a fantastic day!
Kelly
Great article Kelly!
Thank you,
Renay