As a people, we’ve come a long way. We’ve cracked the human genome, crossed the seven seas, sent man to the moon and put Ryan Seacrest on TV. We’ve made technological and social advances (although the Seacrest thing is debatable). Well done us. But despite these advances, the relationship between men and women remains very much the same. We will always be slaves to our DNA. Women will always think their butts are too big and men will never ask for directions. 
So even though we’re now entrenched in the 21st century, men still possess needs that have been with them since the dawn of time. When it comes to relationship bliss, it’s food, sex and laundry.
Food:
Food has a deep psychological effect on us. What do people do to celebrate an occasion? They eat together. Even Jesus had a blowout meal with his buddies when he knew his time was up. We eat to live. Food makes us happy. Food means we have the energy to live another day. Food is also where we sink our sorrows. Hands up, who has kicked back a pint of ice cream over a bad breakup? And no one likes to eat alone. There’s a reason there are counters in restaurants and diners. It’s a place where the single folk can eat and not be lonely.
It doesn’t matter if a guy knows his way around the kitchen or not, he likes to have a meal cooked for him by a woman. Women are nurturers by nature. They look out for others. A guy’s nurturing tendencies go as far as "Walk it off, son." It’s very calming to a guy when a woman does something nice for him. Whatever is going wrong in the world, everything can be reset with an act of kindness from his woman — and making a meal for him can be just that act. It reminds him that someone out there is looking out for him. This shouldn’t be viewed as a submissive role. The meal maker holds a position of power. You can make him happy and for that he’ll be forever grateful.
Sex:
Besides humans, dolphins and some apes are the only other animals that have sex for pleasure — and the dolphin and monkey dating scene is so limited these days. Ignoring that whole procreation-for-the-sake-of-
Laundry:
That got your attention, didn’t it? This isn’t just laundry, but chores in general. Let’s face facts. There are some things that men will never master no matter the training they’re given. For whatever reason, most men aren’t great groomers or habitat cleaners. Ask a single guy how he keeps anything clean and I’m sure you as a female will be quite disturbed. Most guys are environmental health risks. Personally, I used to incorporate a floor-based system of laundry in which different heaps of things were classified as:
- Worn once, but can be worn again
- Gym only
- If that doesn’t go in washer now, it’s going to crack like a china plate.
Ladies, I’m sure you’ve bought underwear with the days of the week printed on them. If guys did the same, they’d be marked with the seasons instead.
Needless to say, guys need help in this department. Women have a tendency to want to change a guy, and this is where you can do this figuratively and literally, through a program of education and taking charge. And a guy isn’t going to complain about your involvement. He’s looking for help and he’s going to be grateful for it — and so is the environment.
I know we live in a time of equality, but equality in a relationship doesn’t mean dividing everything down the middle. No couple is made up of two people with equal skills. He has his strengths and you have yours. A great relationship is like a two-piece jigsaw. Together, you not only compliment each other but you make something better than the individual pieces. It’s a sharing experience. Where you fill one of his gaps, he fills one of yours. What does your man need to give you to make your life better? For him, it’s food, sex and laundry — well, to begin with anyway.
Copyright ©2009 Simon Oaks author of Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry: How to Get Him — and How to Keep Him
Woman doing laundry image by joshuahoffmanphoto via Flickr
I loved this post, especially the last paragraph. So true. We compliment each other all the time in all our relationships. Only such relationships fit well like two-piece jigsaw, rest all fall apart. I think for most of the HERS here it would be Security,love and respect to begin with. Great post.
I agree with Garima. Thank you again, Simon. Peace.
ahhahahahhahaah…..
Seems like you forgot Passion for something.
I think these 3 needs are universally appealing. I'd love for the laundry and chores to be done and I don't shy away from food or intimacy either!
Oh No Simon!
I don't want anyone fixing my food, looking for sex or doing my laundry. What in the world is wrong with me? Blessings,
Ed
Thanks. Hopefully, I brought a little joy and a smile to you today.
Nothing's wrong with you, Ed. You're just more evolved.
lol Thank you Ed. My sentiments exactly.
well I sure do hope that every guy doesn't look for girls based on these three reasons only..
I mean… no I don't agree that laundry and chores are a girl's birth right… sorry Simon, but my undergrad and grad life so far, I've seen guys who're better cooks and would cook for their girls.. they KNOW how to do house chores and don't depend on others..perhaps times have changed?
Men want everything but the basic needs are food, woman and music. Food can cause
Histamine Intolerance, music can bore but woman is a perfect thing for man.
Yes Simon,
I was amused and had to smile. Just could not resist an opportunity for the counter point which also made me smile.
Let us daily increase in: wisdom, love, gratitude, reverence, healing, peace, joy, happiness, laughter and prosperity.
Love and Blessings X 10,
Ed
Thanks for the compliment Kelly.
Let us daily increase in: wisdom, love, gratitude, reverence, healing, peace, joy, happiness, laughter and prosperity.
Love and Blessings X 10,
Ed
You are welcome Joanne. I just could not let the opportunity slide.
Let us daily increase in: wisdom, love, gratitude, reverence, healing, peace, joy, happiness, laughter and prosperity.
Love and Blessings X 10,
Ed
It is always a great pleasure to engage in passionate discussion. Food, sex and Laundry. Two out of the three subjects are always good for point /counter point.
Enjoy your joy
Men, you may not be good at doing the laundry, but that job is easier nowadays with the washing machine. Plus, Whirlpool Parts are easy to come by, so you won't have a problem when it's time to maintain your washers.
Hey Joanne,
Based on the comment following yours, we have to make it 3 out of 3. Someone is excited about Whirlpool parts. But then Tell A Vision has taught me that Maytags never need repair.
Let us daily increase in: wisdom, love, gratitude, reverence, healing, peace, joy, happiness, laughter and prosperity.
Love and Blessings X 10,
Ed
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