One of the things I’ve come to appreciate is that whenever we tell our life story (and I don’t mean just blurting out a few details to a stranger about how we feel we’ve been mistreated) then we are forced to reassess important aspects of who we are.
This is best accomplished when we write things down. Why is that? Simply because when we write we usually manage to slow down our minds a little, enough to notice just exactly what it is we really are saying. When we talk the words all too often fly out of our mouths before we’re quite aware of what we’re doing. And often we can’t recall what we’ve said exactly. That’s not a problem when we write it down. We can return to those words and ask if we really mean it the way we’ve written it. Possibly there is another perspective available. Perhaps we were feeling caught up in the emotions and now, with a second look, we can say there’s more behind the words than we expected. Did I really feel that way? It would seem so – here are the words to prove it.
And that asks us to consider whether this was the only way we we could feel about this event. Perhaps there are other choices. We don’t necessarily have to be angry, or sad, or like a victim. What we felt then may not be a permanent state.
Asking such questions opens up possibilities for us to gain more wisdom about ourselves and how we react. It opens us up to ourselves.
And that is the essence of soul work.
Dear Allan,
I agree, reframing our perception about things (after we've given ourselves permission to acknowledge it and feel it, is very powerful. I think the reframes come naturally actually once we've fully processed it and not judged or criticised ourselves for how we felt, responded or even shock "reacted"
Great hey?! 
Noreen.