When it comes to happy love relationships, it
About Darlene Mininni
Dr. Darlene Mininni is the author of The Emotional Toolkit, a contributor to Dr. Drew’s TV show Lifechangers and host of The Emotional Toolkit series on XM radio. She is the creator of UCLA’s happiness course LifeSkills, a class so popular applications jumped from 30 to 700 in 18 months. She was also the founder and artistic director of UCLA’s Kaleidoscope Self-Help Theatre. Dr. Mininni is a sought-after speaker and her advice has been featured on CNN, PBS, FOX, NPR, SELF, COSMO, Marie Claire, Woman’s Day, Ladies Home Journal, WebMD and Prevention. Using a mix of psychology, neuroscience and behavior change strategy, Dr. Mininni consults with organizations, corporations and individuals looking to bolster their success and well-being. For more information, go to Emotionaltoolkit.com or follow her at Facebook.com/DrDarlene MininniSubscribe
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Darlene,
Thank you for sharing your wisdom
A meaningful post indeed with “calmness” as the key
God Bless
Vashi
http://thesoulspeaks.wordpress.com/
Interesting perspective. Our hearts can race in the midst of disagreement. That is, if you're so invested in being right. I wonder if it is in everyone's best interest to cultivate a level of openness and non-attachment to one's partner's ideals, opinions…even his or her very being as a more permanent way of averting the knee-jerk reaction. That way one is a peaceful sea that can absorb even the perturbations of one's partner…and still love him or her…and sleep undisturbed.
It's easy to talk about calming oneself, but I think such an ability must be cultivated. How? Perfect practice. Lots of approaches to doing so can be found throughout the Internet. My preference: constantly increasing my ability to realize that this life experience and its dramas are transient, that my ego is part of this experience, and connecting with that "me" that is beneath my ego.